Why Your Mom Triggers You (Even When She's a Good Person)

"Your mom can be one of the people that you love the most in the world and that you feel the most connected to, and also one of the people that hurt you the most... I always used to be in this place where I'm like, 'Why does everyone love my mom so fucking much?' She drives me insane."

This week I'm getting personal about the mother wound, not the framework, but my actual relationship with my own mom. Your mother can be someone you love deeply, someone everyone adores, someone who did everything she could for you, and still be the person who wounded you most. Both are true at the same time. And when the wounding is subtle, when your mom was "a good mom," it's actually so much harder to see, because part of you keeps insisting it must not be that.

I share the boundary I had to set when I first started my business, the moment my mom finally didn't take my work personally, and the quieter pattern underneath it all: learning as a kid that support wasn't safe, that I had to handle everything alone. Have you ever wondered why your mom triggers you when she's genuinely a good person?, or Why you can't seem to receive support even when it's right there? 

I'm sure this episode will help you see things more clearly.

TODAY'S HIGHLIGHTS

• Holding two truths at once: loving your mom and acknowledging she hurt you
• Why a "good mom" wound is harder to see than obvious neglect or abuse
• "Don't make it about you" - Setting boundaries with my mom early in my business
• The validating moment my mom stopped taking the work personally
• "It always comes back to your mom" - recreating her, or the feeling of her, in your relationships and business
• Why crying about a fight isn't emotional processing... and what is
• Feeling an emotion through the lens of where it started
• Riding the emotional wave to completion without suppressing or spinning
• Learning that support felt unsafe and how hyper-independence becomes a cap
• How unconscious coping mechanisms quietly drive your results

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