In this gripping and heartfelt episode of The Surviving Siblings® Podcast, host Maya Roffler welcomes Brennan to share the devastating and unexpected loss of her younger brother, Jackson, during a freak storm in 2019. What begins as a reflection on their sibling relationship through childhood, divorce, and young adulthood turns into a powerful story of trauma, survival, family dynamics, and what it means to rebuild, both physically and emotionally.
Brennan takes us back to life growing up in the Mississippi Delta, the evolution of her bond with Jackson, and the unique pain of being the only surviving sibling. When a storm tore through her hometown, uprooting trees and altering the course of her family’s life in an instant, Brennan was thrust into a nightmarish journey of grief, resilience, and reconstruction, literally and emotionally.
The episode dives deep into themes of sudden loss, natural disaster trauma, complicated family dynamics, anticipatory grief, and healing through change. Brennan shares how she supported both of her divorced parents in uniquely different ways, helped rebuild the family home, and eventually made a life-changing move across the country that helped her begin healing.
In This Episode:
(0:00:00) – Meet Brennan and Her Brother Jackson Maya welcomes Brennan, who shares stories of growing up six years apart from her brother Jackson and how their sibling dynamic changed over time.
(0:03:00) – Childhood, Divorce, and Reconnection
Brennan reflects on how her parents’ divorce affected her relationship with Jackson and how their bond began to strengthen as they got older.
(0:05:00) – The Day Everything Changed Brennan recounts the tragic storm that took Jackson’s life, the chilling phone call from her father, and the frantic drive through fallen trees and flooded roads to reach her family home.
(0:07:00) – A Father’s Desperation and a Devastating Scene She shares the harrowing details of her arrival: her father soaked and shivering, first responders delayed, and the realization that her brother was already gone.
(0:09:00) – A Freak Storm with No Warning Brennan explains the storm conditions and how a misreported tornado warning led to five massive oak trees being uprooted one of which landed directly on the home’s front door.
(0:11:00) – Shock, Rescue, and Reality Setting In She describes the painful wait, her father's rescue attempts, and the surrealism of those first few hours of grief.
(0:13:00) – Storm Preparedness, Tornado Drills, and Coping with Chaos Maya and Brennan reflect on growing up with tornado drills and how this tragedy added a new, personal layer to those experiences.
(0:23:00) – Planning a Funeral Through Grief Brennan takes the lead on planning Jackson’s service, navigating her parents' conflicting wishes, and honoring her brother with a celebration at his childhood church.
(0:26:00) – A Standing Room Only Memorial The funeral draws a massive crowd every seat filled, and hundreds standing. Brennan reflects on how that overwhelming support was both shocking and comforting.
(0:29:00) – Back to Work and Back to the Build Just days later, Brennan returns to work and begins helping her father rebuild the house, an emotional and physical labor of love that spans over two years.
(0:33:00) – Grieving Through a Pandemic She shares how grief collided with COVID-19, slowing down the rebuild and affecting her mental health, her parents’ well-being, and their support systems.
(0:35:00) – A Fresh Start in Las Vegas Brennan talks about the pivotal phone call from her mom asking her to move across the country. Without hesitation, she says yes.
(0:44:00) – Helping Her Mom Through Grief She reflects on moving in