You may have been given the idea that trying to make a birth plan or wanting to have things your way when you have a new baby is a bad thing. But trying to let go of control can create more stress if making a plan and executing it is how you get things done. In this episode, we discuss whether it's best to just let birth happen.   Get the show notes at https://www.musingsofblackdoula.com/episodes/is-being-controlling-in-pregnancy-a-bad-thing   In the DMV? Hire your own postpartum doula from DC Metro Maternity [http://www.dcmetromaternity.com/].   And anywhere in the US, sign up for our online course for Black women giving birth in the hospital here- https://dcmetromaternity.com/online-pregnancy-birth-postpartum-class-for-black-women/   Subscribe to Musings of a Black Doula on Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/musings-of-a-black-doula/id1641625910], Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/08YnE0ChFtjgbfa6DteJJh?si=AVQkbeY8QM6FjLufG0oryw] or Stitcher [https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/musings-of-a-black-doula]!

04| Is Being "Controlling" in Pregnancy a Bad Thing?

Musings of a Black Doula provides a view into the life of a 30something Black woman who makes her living serving families during birth and postpartum. I’ve built a doula business helping families of color have empowered births at a time when pregnant Black mothers are confronted with terrifying statistics everywhere they turn. And I’ve done it with the belief that there is still so much hope and joy in having a baby. Tune in to learn more about what it’s like. What should Black families really expect when giving birth in the hospital? How do I find a doctor, midwife, doula or lactation consultant I can trust? Is wanting an epidural enough of a birth plan? What should I actually expect postpartum? Is postpartum depression common for Black women? How can I get through pregnancy, birth and raising a newborn without completely losing myself? Is it possible to have a birth that’s not traumatic as a Black woman? How can I advocate for myself in labor? Is breastfeeding really that hard? How do I practice self care as a new mom? What is it really like to be a doula? This podcast is for you if you’re looking for - information about birth and parenting tailored to Black mothers & families of color - what OBGYNs, midwives, doulas and other birthworkers really think about birth and postpartum - an honest but hopeful perspective on reproductive and maternal health in the US - opinions formed over nearly a decade of experience being surrounded by pregnancy, birth and babies - Lessons learned while running a Black owned business - What it’s like to be a Black doula.