Welcome back! Today we're chatting about early signs you're dating the right person, whether it's okay to date multiple people in early dating, what to do when work is getting in the way of dating, one night stands turning into relationships, and more. We wrap up with a listener question about finding out her fiance was dating someone else early on in their relationship.

Episode intro ends at 12 minutes in.

Read my latest Substack: Random Signs You're Dating The Right Person [https://open.substack.com/pub/mostlydating/p/signs-youre-dating-the-right-person?r=iwom&utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=post%20viewer]

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://open.substack.com/pub/mostlydating/p/how-to-learn-values-early-dating?utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=post%20viewer]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/mostlydating/]. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! 

To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSexZefbAzZQVWs_QMjJQ72ZLUJHxZtr2ivRHCFSBa6vcc7L0Q/viewform] or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com. 

Can A One Night Stand Turn Into Something Serious?

Welcome back! Today's episode kicks off with an update on my recent move, and then around 10 minutes in we get into results from last week's poll about micro-cheating. Next, we hear an update on a question from last week and then answer new listener questions about someone ending things with you before you even go on a date, how to manage running into an ex, how long to wait until you invite someone into your living space, and age gap relationships.

Read my most recent Substacks: 

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How To Find Out Fast If Your Values Are Aligned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://open.substack.com/pub/mostlydating/p/how-to-learn-values-early-dating?utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=post%20viewer]

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How to Meet People IRL & Make Yourself More Approachable⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://open.substack.com/pub/mostlydating/p/how-to-meet-people-in-real-life?utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=post%20viewer]

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://open.substack.com/pub/mostlydating/p/how-to-learn-values-early-dating?utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=post%20viewer]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/mostlydating/]. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! 

To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSexZefbAzZQVWs_QMjJQ72ZLUJHxZtr2ivRHCFSBa6vcc7L0Q/viewform] or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com. 

What It Really Means When You Keep Running Into Your Ex

Welcome back! Today we're diving into the results from my recent Instagram poll about common reasons people end a relationship or stop going on dates with someone. Next, we answer listener questions about how to stop yourself from "future tripping" and why planning your future with someone too soon can actually have a negative impact on the relationship, how soon is too soon to sext, whether you should end things if you don't feel "in love" after three months, and more.

Read my most recent Substacks: 

⁠⁠⁠⁠How To Find Out Fast If Your Values Are Aligned⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://open.substack.com/pub/mostlydating/p/how-to-learn-values-early-dating?utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=post%20viewer]

⁠⁠⁠⁠How to Meet People IRL & Make Yourself More Approachable⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://open.substack.com/pub/mostlydating/p/how-to-meet-people-in-real-life?utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=post%20viewer]

⁠⁠⁠⁠As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://open.substack.com/pub/mostlydating/p/how-to-learn-values-early-dating?utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=post%20viewer]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/mostlydating/]. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! 

To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSexZefbAzZQVWs_QMjJQ72ZLUJHxZtr2ivRHCFSBa6vcc7L0Q/viewform] or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com. 

Why You Need To Be With Someone With A Growth Mindset

Welcome back! Today we're answering listener questions about a boyfriend who makes weird comments about a listener's spending habits, another boyfriend who refuses to use words of affirmation, a long-distance pen pal situation, dating after divorce, and what to do when your partner speaks for you in social settings.

Read my most recent Substacks: 

⁠⁠⁠How To Find Out Fast If Your Values Are Aligned⁠⁠⁠ [https://open.substack.com/pub/mostlydating/p/how-to-learn-values-early-dating?utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=post%20viewer]

⁠⁠⁠How to Meet People IRL & Make Yourself More Approachable⁠⁠⁠ [https://open.substack.com/pub/mostlydating/p/how-to-meet-people-in-real-life?utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=post%20viewer]

⁠⁠⁠As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://open.substack.com/pub/mostlydating/p/how-to-learn-values-early-dating?utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=post%20viewer]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/mostlydating/]. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! 

To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSexZefbAzZQVWs_QMjJQ72ZLUJHxZtr2ivRHCFSBa6vcc7L0Q/viewform] or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com. 

I Think My Boyfriend Is Judging My Spending Habits

Welcome back! Today we're throwing it back to one of our most popular episodes and topics: defining the relationship 101

what we talk about:

 * ⁠Things to do before defining the relationship⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/p/C2Kv2VwrgTa/]
 * ⁠Things you should know before defining the relationship⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/p/C3xtKDir47c/]
 * ⁠Signs it's time to define the relationship⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/p/C3YSB2RJd5o/]
 * How to DTR⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/p/C40kjrzrZp-/]
 * How to get comfortable talking about sex with your partner

& more! Plus, we end with a few listener questions

Other posts, episodes, & products referenced:

 * ⁠Episode with Emily Morse (@sexwithemily)⁠ [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mostly-balanced/id1511213974?i=1000586100360]

Read my most recent Substacks: 

⁠⁠How To Find Out Fast If Your Values Are Aligned⁠⁠ [https://open.substack.com/pub/mostlydating/p/how-to-learn-values-early-dating?utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=post%20viewer]

⁠⁠How to Meet People IRL & Make Yourself More Approachable⁠⁠ [https://open.substack.com/pub/mostlydating/p/how-to-meet-people-in-real-life?utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=post%20viewer]

⁠⁠As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://open.substack.com/pub/mostlydating/p/how-to-learn-values-early-dating?utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=post%20viewer]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/mostlydating/]. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! 

To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSexZefbAzZQVWs_QMjJQ72ZLUJHxZtr2ivRHCFSBa6vcc7L0Q/viewform] or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com. 

Your Complete Guide To Defining The Relationship (throwback ep)

Welcome back! Today we're answering rapid fire questions about the spark vs. a slow burn, how to move forward after your first argument in a new relationship, dynamics for relationships where the woman earns more than the man, conversations to have at the start of a long distance relationship, and what to do when you're dating multiple people and can't decide between them.

Read my most recent Substacks: 

⁠How To Find Out Fast If Your Values Are Aligned⁠ [https://open.substack.com/pub/mostlydating/p/how-to-learn-values-early-dating?utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=post%20viewer]

⁠How to Meet People IRL & Make Yourself More Approachable⁠ [https://open.substack.com/pub/mostlydating/p/how-to-meet-people-in-real-life?utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=post%20viewer]

⁠As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://open.substack.com/pub/mostlydating/p/how-to-learn-values-early-dating?utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=post%20viewer]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/mostlydating/]. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! 

To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSexZefbAzZQVWs_QMjJQ72ZLUJHxZtr2ivRHCFSBa6vcc7L0Q/viewform] or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com. 

This Conversation Will Save Your Long Distance Relationship

Welcome back! Today Carleigh's answering four listener questions:

a six-month dating situation where a man repeatedly changes plans last-minute

a woman bothered by her boyfriend praising her as “low maintenance"

a new girlfriend who edits herself and avoids disagreement

a three-month dater whose partner inserts himself into her plans

Read my most recent Substacks: 

How To Find Out Fast If Your Values Are Aligned [https://open.substack.com/pub/mostlydating/p/how-to-learn-values-early-dating?utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=post%20viewer]

How to Meet People IRL & Make Yourself More Approachable [https://open.substack.com/pub/mostlydating/p/how-to-meet-people-in-real-life?utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=post%20viewer]

As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://open.substack.com/pub/mostlydating/p/how-to-learn-values-early-dating?utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=post%20viewer]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/mostlydating/]. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! 

To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSexZefbAzZQVWs_QMjJQ72ZLUJHxZtr2ivRHCFSBa6vcc7L0Q/viewform] or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com. 

Is It A Red Flag If He Always Slightly Changes Our Plans Last Minute?

Welcome back! Today we're diving deep into how to have better conversations on dates. We chat about the difference between asking questions and starting conversations, with 5 tangible tips for how to have conversations that will strengthen your connection and improve your chances of having another date.

We close with a few listener questions on saying I love you, what to do when you feel like no one will ever love you as much as your ex, and how to get someone to ask you more questions.Read my most recent Substacks: 

⁠⁠Signs You're Ready To Date Again After A Breakup⁠⁠ [https://open.substack.com/pub/mostlydating/p/signs-youre-ready-to-date-after-breakup?utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=post%20viewer]

⁠⁠Exactly What I Did To Manifest My Dream Relationship At 33⁠⁠ [https://open.substack.com/pub/mostlydating/p/exactly-what-i-did-to-manifest-my?r=iwom&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web]

⁠⁠Conversations Every Couple Should Have In The First Year Of Dating⁠⁠ [https://open.substack.com/pub/mostlydating/p/conversations-every-couple-should?utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=web]

As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/mostlydating/]. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! 

To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSexZefbAzZQVWs_QMjJQ72ZLUJHxZtr2ivRHCFSBa6vcc7L0Q/viewform] or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com. 

Learn more about my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Mostly Dating Blueprint⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://carleighferrante.podia.com/the-mostly-dating-blueprint]. 

The Number One Skill That Will Help You Get A Second Date

Welcome back! Today we're joined by Colette Jane Fehr,  a licensed couple's therapist, nationally recognized relationship expert, and author of the #1 Amazon bestseller ⁠The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love⁠ [https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/763866/the-cost-of-quiet-by-colette-jane-fehr-lmft-lmhc/].

We chat about:

 * How Colette "quiet quit" her marriage
 * Dating after divorce
 * Dating as a single parent
 * Conversations that could save your relationship
 * Why having no conflict is actually a red flag
 * How to bring up things that bother you in a relationship
 * Tools for healthier communication

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Find Colette on Instagram ⁠@colettejanefehr⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/colettejanefehr/], order her book ⁠here⁠ [https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book], or check out her Substack, ⁠Secrets from a Therapist⁠ [https://colettejanefehr.substack.com/?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQMMjU2MjgxMDQwNTU4AAGnmxdGCo29Yidje3hDi7wU7SrluXbti2l9p4Og6EWcM1zizxapuT3hF-o7ik8_aem_bpPZFiNuTNNISxDO6bAXlA].

Read my most recent Substacks: 

⁠⁠⁠Signs You're Ready To Date Again After A Breakup⁠⁠⁠ [https://open.substack.com/pub/mostlydating/p/signs-youre-ready-to-date-after-breakup?utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=post%20viewer]

⁠⁠⁠Exactly What I Did To Manifest My Dream Relationship At 33⁠⁠⁠ [https://open.substack.com/pub/mostlydating/p/exactly-what-i-did-to-manifest-my?r=iwom&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web]

⁠⁠⁠Conversations Every Couple Should Have In The First Year Of Dating⁠⁠⁠ [https://open.substack.com/pub/mostlydating/p/conversations-every-couple-should?utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=web]

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Are You Quiet Quitting Your Relationship? With Couple's Therapist Colette Jane Fehr

Welcome back! Today we hear a much-awaited update from a listener who is dating her ex-friend’s brother and hasn’t told the sister yet. Next, we hear from another listener who is dating a guy who doesn’t want to be exclusive until he gets back from a solo trip he’s been planning, and a woman who matched with a guy on Bumble who I’m pretty sure was married.

Read my most recent Substacks: 

⁠Signs You're Ready To Date Again After A Breakup⁠ [https://open.substack.com/pub/mostlydating/p/signs-youre-ready-to-date-after-breakup?utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=post%20viewer]

⁠Exactly What I Did To Manifest My Dream Relationship At 33⁠ [https://open.substack.com/pub/mostlydating/p/exactly-what-i-did-to-manifest-my?r=iwom&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web]

⁠Conversations Every Couple Should Have In The First Year Of Dating⁠ [https://open.substack.com/pub/mostlydating/p/conversations-every-couple-should?utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=web]

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He Wants To Take A Solo Trip Before Defining The Relationship

Mia and Carleigh met in their early 20s and bonded over their relationships, dating horror stories, and passion for wellness. Years later, Mostly Balanced was born as a space to hold conversations about approachable wellness, dating, and relationships. Join Mia, Carleigh, and their guests for new episodes every Monday. Find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mostlybalanced/support