[00:00:00] Hello, everybody. I felt like talking to you today. So here I am.

I've been having a really hard time getting back to this podcast. I miss it. And I want to come back. But there are so many things blocking me. So. I thought maybe that's what I should talk about. And we're going to get a little bit meta on the podcast [00:01:00] today and talk about the podcast itself. If you've been following me for a while. Thank you for still being here.

It's been a few years since we started this thing and there have been lots of ups and downs and lots of breaks. And if you're still here, you're my favorite.

I want to go back to the roots of why I started this thing in the first place. And then talk about why it's been so hard to keep going, because I think the things I'm facing. Are things we all face as creators as humans. As livers of life. I started this podcast for fun. It was a challenge. I don't think I would have done it without a little nudge from a Facebook group to start a podcast. I did it as a way to face my fears and just talk about the things I care about.

It was for me, it was for fun. I didn't really expect it to grow or be [00:02:00] anything then. Just for fun. Um, And. I want to listen to the way I started this podcast because I haven't listened to it in a while. And I think it's going to be a good reminder. So the audio quality is probably not going to be great because I'm just playing this from my phone. Um, I can't find the original recording, but hopefully you'll be able to understand this.

I was raised in a very perfectionistic religion by two perfectionistic parents.

And as a result of this, I've always taken the business of life. Very seriously. Probably definitely too seriously. The problem with perfectionism is that it doesn't let you be present in your all life or true to yourself. It's all about living up to the expectations of others. Perfectionism is an analyzer, a comparer. It doesn't let you sit within an experience because you're always observing it. So this podcast. Is about. [00:03:00] Letting go of that. Letting go of the perfectionism letting go of the hustle, the guilt, the never enoughness it's about showing up messy. It's about authenticity.

It's about finding magic in the present moment. As about connecting with those you love while also holding space for yourself. It's about living wholeheartedly. And loving yourself in your imperfection. So. It's a quote. My favorite cartoon teacher, Mrs. Frizzle, Ms. Frizzle, not sure which one it is.

I'm going to look it up. After I finished recording this. But she says, get ready to take chances. Make mistakes and get messy. It's time to be your bad self.

Yeah, well, It turns out that's exactly what I'm still struggling with. I, I need to let go of perfectionism still, because that's what has gotten in the way of this podcast. And I think that's probably the life lesson I'm going to keep returning to over and over again. I do, I am doing this podcast because I need to say the things that I need to [00:04:00] hear. And today, once again, I need to hear. It's okay to just be it's okay.

To be messy. It's okay. To make mistakes. Um, Okay. And I'm going to continue to be messy and make mistakes for the rest of my life. So having this expectation of. Perfectionism. It's not doing me. It's not doing me favors. Um, With this podcast. I started out messy as you heard. It was great. And as it started growing. I started to feel this pressure to show up a certain way. To get video recordings of myself, to manage an email list, to maintain a website, to monetize the podcast and the pressure of all of that.

Along with just the stuff that was happening in my regular life became really. Really overwhelming. And the podcast stopped feeling fun because the pressure, there was so much pressure to do it. The right way. I let it fall by the wayside [00:05:00] and, um, and I've really missed i

Perfectionism is the Enemy of Creativity |Episode 50

Navigating Grief and Healing: Unveiling the Rest in Peace, Rise in Power Retreat

In this episode, Kimber reconnects with drama therapist Anna Beck, one of her favorite guests, to discuss their upcoming 'Rest in Peace, Rise in Power' retreat. They dive deep into the theme of grief, an often-avoided but ever-present emotion, especially relevant with their October retreat's spooky death theme. From exploring the different stages of grief—denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance—to sharing personal stories and strategies for coping, this episode offers valuable insights for anyone experiencing grief. Anna and Kimber emphasize the importance of community and acceptance in the healing process, promising that the retreat will be a fun, creative, and deeply supportive environment for all participants.

The RIP (Rest in Peace/Rise in Power) Retreat will be held October 10-13, 2024, in Hildale, UT. For more details on how to attend, please reach out to Kimber on Instagram (@thatkimbergirl [https://www.instagram.com/thatkimbergirl/]).

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

01:38 Exploring Grief and Its Importance

02:32 Navigating Daily Grief

08:44 Stages of Grief: Denial

09:21 Personal Experiences with Denial

17:04 Stages of Grief: Anger

25:34 Expressing and Managing Anger

28:49 Understanding Bargaining in Grief

30:45 The Role of Anxiety in Bargaining

33:37 Shame and Self-Punishment in Bargaining

36:14 Exploring Depression in Grief

42:27 The Journey Towards Acceptance

49:41 The Importance of Community in Grief

58:30 Retreat Details and Final Thoughts



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Good Grief: The Stages of Grief as a Pathway to Presence | Drama Therapist Anna Beck | Episode 49

In this episode of the Just Be Your Bad Self podcast, Kimber Dutton explores the profound impact of religious upbringing on the often overlooked connection between spirituality and the physical body. Drawing inspiration from the book "Wild Mercy," Kimber delves into the historical tendency of religions to emphasize transcending the body, highlighting the significance of embracing the messy imperfections of life, as expressed in the quote "God lives among the pots and pans." Kimber candidly shares her own mystical experiences and evolving spiritual beliefs, asserting that God is intricately interwoven with both the tangible and intangible aspects of existence. The episode takes a personal turn as Kimber reflects on her journey of reconnecting with her body, addressing the challenges of overcoming societal conditioning and viewing her body as a friend rather than a burden. A surprise guest comes on to share her thoughts (Kimber’s 7 year old daughter : ), then the conversation concludes with Kimber sharing exciting news about her backyard studio and encouraging community input for potential in-person or online interactions. Tune in to the Just Be Your Bad Self podcast for more insightful conversations on embracing imperfection and leading an authentic life.

If you are interested in working with Kimber (Online, in-person, in a group, or 1-1), please fill out an interest form using this link: https://form.jotform.com/233345911073149



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You Belong Wherever You Are | Episode 48

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The Stories We Tell | Episode 47

This is the voiceover of a Substack article I wrote on November 7 2023. The sound is weird for about the first 30 seconds and then it gets better, I promise.

If you'd like to see the pictures or hear the songs I refer to in this episode, go ahead and visit the substack post using the link! I'd love to hear from you--what spoke to you about this episode? Anything you'd like to hear in the future?



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I Want to Grow up To Be a Cow

I'm back! In this episode, I share and incredible (and raw) session with my life coach Melanie Hill, where we talk about the Internal Family Systems Method and use it to make some life changing breakthroughs regarding my inner child and how to become more open hearted. 

Find Kimber on instagram @thatkimbergirl [https://www.instagram.com/thatkimbergirl/]and Melanie on Instagram @melaniehillcoaching [https://www.instagram.com/melaniehillcoaching/]





Internal Family Systems: A Path to Freeing the Self

I'm back! In this episode, I share and incredible (and raw) session with my life coach Melanie Hill, where we talk about the Internal Family Systems Method and use it to make some life changing breakthroughs regarding my inner child and how to become more open hearted. 

Find Kimber on instagram @thatkimbergirl [https://www.instagram.com/thatkimbergirl/]and Melanie on Instagram @melaniehillcoaching [https://www.instagram.com/melaniehillcoaching/]







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In this episode, I had a deeply insightful conversation with Melanie Hill, a human design coach for life and business. We dove into the world of human design and how it can be a powerful tool for self-discovery, self-acceptance, and embracing our inherent value. We also explored the importance of facing our shadow selves and the emotions that arise, such as guilt and shame. Through human design, we learn to integrate our shadows and cultivate self-compassion, building a community of self-love and understanding. Join us on this transformative journey toward self-exploration and growth, and remember, you can totally do this!

Find Kimber on instagram @thatkimbergirl [https://www.instagram.com/thatkimbergirl/]and Melanie on Instagram @melaniehillcoaching [https://www.instagram.com/melaniehillcoaching/]

Chapters:



(0:00:00) - Human Design and Self-Acceptance

(0:15:08) - Owning Your Inherent Value

(0:18:46) - Embracing Our Shadow Selves

(0:27:40) - Healing and Embracing Shadow Selves

(0:38:11) - Exploring Self-Compassion Through Human Design

(0:46:48) - Building Self-Love Community

(0:53:49) - You Can Totally Do This



Human Design As A Permission Slip To Love Yourself | Episode 45

In this episode, I had a deeply insightful conversation with Melanie Hill, a human design coach for life and business. We dove into the world of human design and how it can be a powerful tool for self-discovery, self-acceptance, and embracing our inherent value. We also explored the importance of facing our shadow selves and the emotions that arise, such as guilt and shame. Through human design, we learn to integrate our shadows and cultivate self-compassion, building a community of self-love and understanding. Join us on this transformative journey toward self-exploration and growth, and remember, you can totally do this!

Find Kimber on instagram @thatkimbergirl [https://www.instagram.com/thatkimbergirl/]and Melanie on Instagram @melaniehillcoaching [https://www.instagram.com/melaniehillcoaching/]

Chapters:



(0:00:00) - Human Design and Self-Acceptance

(0:15:08) - Owning Your Inherent Value

(0:18:46) - Embracing Our Shadow Selves

(0:27:40) - Healing and Embracing Shadow Selves

(0:38:11) - Exploring Self-Compassion Through Human Design

(0:46:48) - Building Self-Love Community

(0:53:49) - You Can Totally Do This





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In this episode of the Just Be Your Bad Self podcast, host Kimber Dutton shares her personal journey towards finding a feeling of enoughness. Despite her message of self-worth and acceptance, Dutton has been struggling to embody these qualities in her own life. She seeks to move away from the constant chasing of happiness and prove that she is enough as she is. Dutton encourages listeners to also embrace a sense of enoughness in their own lives and not fall into the trap of constantly chasing something that is already within reach.

[00:01:18] The Year of Enough.

 [00:05:00] Acknowledging your inner critic.

 [00:11:16] The Never Pleased. 

[00:13:39] Inner Critic and Self-Acceptance.

 [00:19:38] Masking in Neurodiverse People. 

[00:22:25] The Mask We Wear.

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This episode was recorded back in January and somehow missed getting published--I was probably busy ignoring the Never Pleased.  

Also, I'm doing a pay-what-you-can come sit in your own enoughness retreat in Hildale, UT from April 21-23 2023. If this is calling to you, reach out to me on instagram [https://www.instagram.com/thatkimbergirl/] and let's make it happen! 

Kimber and The Never Pleased | Episode 44

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Join Kimber (a post-Mormon stay-at-home-mom and recovering people-pleaser) as
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