An extra long, extra hot and extra horny episode with two former guests; comedian James Tom and writer/producer Sydney Baloue all about their lives as gay trans men -- and how it compares to their former lives living as lesbian women. We talk about losing different virginities, taking virginities, and SO many spots to go if you are looking to hook up as a gay trans man. Syd and James both share very similar experiences but are so different at the same time. It is a conversation about trans joy and sexual pleasure vs. all the crap that is going on politically and socially right now. Happy PRIDE!

Gay spaces mentioned in the episode: Transferno, The Boiler, Fire Island, Lab, Defiance

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16 Transferno, Fire Island, and Everywhere In Between (James Tom + Sydney Baloue) 

Hilarious internationally touring comedian and host of the We're Having Gay Sex [https://werehavinggaysex.com/] podcast Ashley Gavin is back! And this time she is telling us about her open relationship; how she got into it, the rules her and her girlfriend have, and some hot hot hookups that she has had. She helps to educate Remy about different types of lesbians-- from a list that Remy found on a Reddit thread, advises our listeners on how to hit on women, and finally Remy and Ashley discuss difficult relationships leading to even more difficult breakups, and the passion and pain of sex with exes. 

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15 We're Having A LOT of Gay Sex (Ashley Gavin)

We are talking about the link between scents and attraction with fragrance expert, perfume lover/advisor, matchmaker, and host of Perfume Room [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/perfume-room/id1565584690], Emma Vernon. We discuss the science between smell and arousal and all different types of fragrances. Emma talks about how to get a signature scent, the importance of scent with regard to memories, and the evolution of fragrance throughout the 70s, 80s, 90s etc. and how those changes reflects on what was going on culturally during each decade. 

This episode is dedicated to our grandmothers-- forever doused in fragrance 

Perfumes Mentioned in the Episode:

Iso E Super- Escentric

Shalimar

Daisy - Marc Jacobs

Mademoiselle - Chanel

Lolita

Georgio 

Van Cleef First

Chanel No 5

Dior Poison

CK1

Estee Lauder Pleasures

Santal 33 - Le Labo 

Glossier - You 

Baccarat Rouge

Ralph Lauren Polo Blue

Sicilian Leather - Memo 

Chanel Bleu

Serge Lutens - Miel de Bois

Keiko Mecheri - Oliban 

 

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14 The Smell of Desire (Emma Vernon)

Comedian, ex-model and author of the new book, "You Wanna Be on Top? [https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/750064/you-wanna-be-on-top-by-sarah-hartshorne/]" Sarah Hartshorne comes on the pod to talk her time on America's Next Top Model; the good, the bad, and the very pretty despite being called ugly. She tells us all about what happened behind the scenes, openly queer models, making friends + having crushes on each other and her body image from before the show to now. We also discuss threesomes, tax law for certain types of queer marriage, Sarah's miscarriage early in life as well as her pregnancy with her daughter and the orgasms that were unlocked after giving birth!

TW: ED & Miscarriage

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13 You Wanna Be on Top? ( Sarah Hartshorne)

Do you have endometriosis or wonder what it is? Learn all about it with comedian and friend of the pod, Ashley Ray. She tells us about living with and suffering through undiagnosed endo in her teens and early 20s and how she finally found out what was going on with her body. We discuss her endometrial cysts, how much blood is actually produced in a "normal" period, how endo held her back socially and sexually and how she went about fixing it!

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12 F*ck Endometriosis (Ashley Ray)

In the new FX/ Hulu show Dying for Sex, Jenny Slate plays Nikki, a woman whose best friend Molly (Michelle Williams) is diagnosed with terminal cancer and decides to turn her diagnosis into an opportunity to go on sexual adventures and fulfill all of her desires before the end of her life. The show is based on a podcast of the same name by the real life Molly and Nikki and today we have the pleasure of talking to Executive Producer of Dying for Sex, and Molly's best friend Nikki Boyer. We discuss the kinks that Molly explored before the end of her life; foot fetishes, ball kicking, tickling etc. and the life lessons that everyone can learn from Molly's outlook. Finally we chat about Nikki's sex life and her personal sexual achievements and hurdles. 

TW: Death, Cancer, Miscarriage, Childhood SA

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11 Dying For Sex (Nikki Boyer)

Picture this: it is the early 2000s. The OC is on, the Hills is on and Perez Hilton is forcing Johnny Wujek out of the closet by calling him gay on a blog.  Fast forward to LA 2024 as Remy chats with Johnny (Emmy award winning costume designer/ stylist to pop idols including Katy Perry, Ariana Grande, Mariah Carey, and Nicki Minaj) about how he actually feels about being publicly "called out," the benefits of it and the fallout, and what his love life has been like since. We also discuss exciting firsts, tough breakups, and how to sext like no one is watching. 

TW: DV mentioned

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10 Outed in LA (Johnny Wujek)

Comedian and actor (Sex and the City + The Other Two) Bill Dawes sits down with Remy to tell her about one of the most pivotal days of his life: when a woman told him he was bad in bed. Come on a journey with us as Bill shakes that devastating blow and learns how to get good at sex. We discuss lectures, kundalini yoga, tantra, techniques for eating out a vulva and more. We also discuss cheating, past relationships and how in many ways, if you used to be shitty it doesn't mean you can't get better. 

TW: sexual assault and violence towards the end of the podcast

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9 Bad in Bed (Bill Dawes)

Comedian, Comedy Central Roast icon, and recent Golden Globe host Nikki Glaser and Andrew Collin; comedian, podcaster, and friend of the pod, joined Remy for a live podcast recording YEARS ago-- and we are finally releasing the audio! It is a hilarious episode about how orgasms are ruining our lives, Nikki losing her orgasm and getting it back, the perils of dry fingering, the joys of dry hand jobs, and many many book recommendations from Nikki that she swears will change your life. We also take questions from the audience and give out sex toys! You will simply love this blast from the past. 

Book Rec*mmendations from Nikki:

-The Easy Way to Stop Drinking (Allen Carr)

-The Easy Way to Stop Smoking (Allen Carr)

-Healing Back Pain (Dr. Sarno)

-Getting To I Do: The Secret To Doing Relationships Right! (Dr. Patricia Allen)

-Cupid's Poison Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships (Marnia Robinson)

&  Waking Up (a meditation app)

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8 Finger Blast From The Past (Nikki Glaser + Andrew Collin)

We're talking sex in media with Jourdain Searles; comedian and film/TV critic. Discussing all different types of sex scenes from Babygirl to Severence. We are also chatting about Jourdain's Twitter thread of sex advice [https://x.com/judysquirrels/status/1884056061419872533?s=46] that she did earlier this year and how it relates to the "IUD Debate" that took over Twitter for two days. 

TW Assault / Abortion Laws

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7 I Want To Be The Babygirl (Jourdain Searles)

Comedian Remy Kassimir had NEVER had an orgasm, so she started this podcast to figure it out. Spoiler alert: SHE DID IT! And now in its fourth season How C*m has helped 400+ "Cumpanions" have their first O's, we've had hundreds of expert guests (scientists/porn/Fran Drescher + beyond) tell Remy their first time c*mming stories, all with huge laughs along the way. C*m join us!