Welcome back! Today we're kicking off with an update on my meditation challenge, and I open up about a recent experience that had me momentarily questioning my "the right thing won't pass you by" advice.

Next, we get into listener questions from a woman dating a man who is fresh into a marriage separation, a listener who feels like she's asking her boyfriend for the same things over and over with no results, a woman who's boyfriend ignores her when they're around friends, and more.

Join my Substack with a free trial [https://mostlydating.substack.com/abaf1a6c] for access to more in-depth advice, tips, and personal essays on all things dating and relationships.

As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/mostlydating/]. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! 

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Learn more about my ⁠⁠Mostly Dating Blueprint⁠⁠ [https://carleighferrante.podia.com/the-mostly-dating-blueprint].

The Top Driver Of New Relationships In 2026

Welcome back! Today we're kicking things off talking about early signs a new relationship has potential (read the full Substack here [https://substack.com/home/post/p-184561375]). Next, we get into listener questions about trusting your intuition, texting happy birthday to people you used to date (or want to date), the desire to solo travel while in a relationship, what to do when your partner isn't money-minded, and more.

As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/mostlydating/]. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! 

To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSexZefbAzZQVWs_QMjJQ72ZLUJHxZtr2ivRHCFSBa6vcc7L0Q/viewform] or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com. 

Learn more about my ⁠Mostly Dating Blueprint⁠ [https://carleighferrante.podia.com/the-mostly-dating-blueprint].

Early Signs A New Relationship Has Potential

Welcome back! Today we're kicking off by talking about how to pinpoint what's missing from your relationship (or career, life, etc.) when you're not feeling fully happy. Next, we talk about dates to go on before defining the relationship, and then wrap up with listener questions.

We hear from a listener who doesn't feel like she's able to open up on early dates, a woman who's new boyfriend is conflict-avoidant, a couple that feels more like friends than romantic partners, and a woman who can't decide between two men she is dating.

As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/mostlydating/]. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! 

Read the Substack post I mentioned ⁠⁠here⁠⁠ [https://substack.com/home/post/p-182810302].

To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSexZefbAzZQVWs_QMjJQ72ZLUJHxZtr2ivRHCFSBa6vcc7L0Q/viewform] or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com. 

Learn more about my Mostly Dating Blueprint [https://carleighferrante.podia.com/the-mostly-dating-blueprint].

Help, I'm Dating Two Guys & I Don't Know Which I Want A Relationship With

Welcome back! Today we're opening with a brief catch-up and update on my New Year's resolutions. Next, we dive into 5 listener questions:

 * A divorced listener who is new to dating and doesn't know how to define the relationship
 * A 29-year-old male listener whose girlfriend takes +24 hours to respond to texts
 * A single woman in her late 30s who is dating someone new and doesn't know if it's a red flag that she doesn't miss him when they're not together
 * A 51-year-old female listener who's boyfriend keeps mentioning his ex
 * - A woman who doesn't know what to learn from a past relationship that she ended when nothing was really "wrong"

As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/mostlydating/]. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! 

Read the Substack post I mentioned ⁠here⁠ [https://substack.com/home/post/p-182810302].

To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSexZefbAzZQVWs_QMjJQ72ZLUJHxZtr2ivRHCFSBa6vcc7L0Q/viewform] or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com. 

Can A Relationship Work If You Have Different Communication Styles?

Welcome back! Today's episode is twofold. First we're diving into tangible tips for how to get more of the things you want in 2026, with some blunt advice about what might be holding you back. Next, we talk about dating trends in 2025 and what I expect to see more of in 2026.

Read the Substack post I mentioned here [https://substack.com/home/post/p-182810302].

As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/mostlydating/]. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! 

To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSexZefbAzZQVWs_QMjJQ72ZLUJHxZtr2ivRHCFSBa6vcc7L0Q/viewform] or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com. 

Tangible Tips For How To Date Smarter In 2026

Welcome back! Today we’re going deep into the results of my recent poll about the most important qualities to look for in a partner/relationship. 

I dive into some of the most common themes and then unpack one that came up a lot: emotional availability. We go into how to spot whether someone is emotionally available, questions to ask, and conversations to have.

Here's my post on questions to ask to see if someone is emotionally available [https://www.instagram.com/reel/DLz9OnhsNhb/].

Here's my Substack article on the end of ambiguous dating. [https://open.substack.com/pub/mostlycarleigh/p/the-end-of-ambiguous-dating?r=iwom&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true]

As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/mostlydating/]. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! 

To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSexZefbAzZQVWs_QMjJQ72ZLUJHxZtr2ivRHCFSBa6vcc7L0Q/viewform] or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com. 

What does it actually mean to be emotionally available?

Welcome back! Today we're talking all about moving in with your partner: things you should know, conversations to have, and tips to make the experience as smooth as possible.

We wrap things up with a few rapid fire listener questions about how to ask for someone's last name on a dating app, what to know before defining the relationship, and how to be ok with the person you're dating seeing other people before you're exclusive.

As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/mostlydating/]. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! 

To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSexZefbAzZQVWs_QMjJQ72ZLUJHxZtr2ivRHCFSBa6vcc7L0Q/viewform] or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com.

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Things You Should Know Before Moving In Together

Welcome back! Today we're opening by chatting about Thanksgiving and the holidays, and then getting into conversations every couple should have in the first year of dating.

The second half of the episode is all listener questions: what to do when you're dating someone new and they're not introducing you to any of their friends, what to do when you have a weird feeling about your friend's new boyfriend, a coworker who won't stop complaining to you about his wife, and a listener who is afraid to bring up defining the relationship.

As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/mostlydating/]. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! 

To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSexZefbAzZQVWs_QMjJQ72ZLUJHxZtr2ivRHCFSBa6vcc7L0Q/viewform] or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com.

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Conversations every couple should have in the first year of dating

Welcome back! Today's episode is a bit of a different format than our typical listener write-ins. Instead, I'm taking you through an "about me" with a brief background on how/why I started this podcast, my career path, and my dating history.

I'll walk you through the lessons I learned from my past relationships and the actual changes I made to improve my dating life and meet someone who checks all my boxes.

Hope you guys enjoy it! Next week we'll be back with listener questions.

As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/mostlydating/]. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! 

To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSexZefbAzZQVWs_QMjJQ72ZLUJHxZtr2ivRHCFSBa6vcc7L0Q/viewform] or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com.

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Why Your Standards Matter More Than Your "Type"

Welcome back! Today's listener questions cover a wide range: a friend going out on a date with someone you have a crush on, a guy whose apartment is way too messy, a guy who is being very secretive about his phone, a groundhog's day dating experience, and how to get to know someone better without just asking questions. We wrap up with a question from a male listener whose girlfriend won't talk about her past.

As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/mostlydating/]. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! 

To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSexZefbAzZQVWs_QMjJQ72ZLUJHxZtr2ivRHCFSBa6vcc7L0Q/viewform] or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com.

Are Crushes Off Limits For Friends?

Mia and Carleigh met in their early 20s and bonded over their relationships, dating horror stories, and passion for wellness. Years later, Mostly Balanced was born as a space to hold conversations about approachable wellness, dating, and relationships. Join Mia, Carleigh, and their guests for new episodes every Monday. Find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mostlybalanced/support

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