Welcome back! Today we're joined by Lara Mahler, NYC-based wedding planner and founder of The Privilege Is Mine.

Lara shares her journey from dance teacher to wedding planner and then we dive into common wedding planning stressors and how to stay calm during the process. Laura offers tips on setting boundaries with family, deciding on wedding priorities, and incorporating personal touches. We also chat about current wedding trends, bridesmaid dilemmas, and the significance of a shared vision between partners. 

Find Lara on Instagram @tpimweddings [https://www.instagram.com/tpimweddings] or head to the website [https://theprivilegeisminenyc.com] to learn more about working with Lara and her team.

As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/mostlydating/]. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! 

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How To Plan A Wedding With Less Stress (Actually)

Welcome back! In today’s solo episode, Carleigh vents about her recent eyebrow disaster, shares about one of the best instant-results facials she recently had in NYC, and a first date suggestion she’s rethinking. 

We then dive into listener questions about:

 * How to tell if someone is genuine on early dates
 * What to do when you’re constantly messaging but there’s no date planned
 * How should you feel 14 months into a relationship?
 * Signs a relationship isn’t right even if nothing is “wrong”
 * Is a relationship doomed if it’s been 7 years and he hasn’t proposed?

& more!

Links from today's episode:

 * ⁠Flirtations podcast⁠ [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/111-exclusivity-and-defining-the-relationship-in/id1749620291?i=1000714110747⁠]
 * ⁠Sisters in Sobriety podcast⁠ [⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-ditch-dating-drama-with-carleigh-ferrante/id1715840514?i=1000714165422⁠]
 * ⁠1-800-Bridesmaid podcast⁠ [⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/1-800-bridesmaid/id1809988497?i=1000713402331⁠]
 * ⁠Hydrafacial⁠ [https://www.hydrafacial.com⁠]

As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/mostlydating/] and ⁠@mostlydatingpodcast⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/mostlydatingpodcast/] and on TikTok ⁠@mostlydating⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@mostlydating]. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! 

To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSexZefbAzZQVWs_QMjJQ72ZLUJHxZtr2ivRHCFSBa6vcc7L0Q/viewform] or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com.

Should I Give My Boyfriend An Ultimatum After 7 Years?

Welcome back! In today's solo episode, we're chatting about what to do when someone who ghosted you comes back, how to end a situationship once and for all, feeling like "too much," navigating wedding party invitations from distant friends, and more. 

As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/mostlydating/] and @mostlydatingpodcast [https://www.instagram.com/mostlydatingpodcast/] and on TikTok @mostlydating [https://www.tiktok.com/@mostlydating]. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! 

Links I mentioned:

FORM workouts & meditations [https://digital.joinform.co/the-form-method-1/videos/medi-for-clarity]

To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSexZefbAzZQVWs_QMjJQ72ZLUJHxZtr2ivRHCFSBa6vcc7L0Q/viewform] or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com.

Can You Say No To Being Someone's Bridesmaid?

Welcome back! Today we're joined by returning guest, Amy Nobile Messing, a holistic dating coach with a shocking success rate.

Amy shares her journey from a successful career in PR and writing to becoming a holistic dating coach after her own life-changing experiences with divorce and dating in New York City.

We delve into Amy's unique approach that combines practical dating advice with intuitive guidance and energy work. Amy discusses the importance of knowing your core values, emotional readiness, and the transformative power of meditation and self-awareness in dating.

Tune in for insights on navigating the dating world, embracing vulnerability, and ultimately finding love and fulfillment.

Find Amy on Instagram @love.amy.nyc [https://www.instagram.com/love.amy.nyc/] or head to her website loveamy.co [https://loveamy.co] to learn more about working with her.

As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/mostlydating/]. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! 

To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSexZefbAzZQVWs_QMjJQ72ZLUJHxZtr2ivRHCFSBa6vcc7L0Q/viewform] or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com.

Navigating Divorce & Learning To Date With Intention, with Amy Nobile Messing

Welcome back! Today we're joined by sexologist, relationship scientist, and head of relationship research at Arya [https://www.instagram.com/arya.fyi/], Nicholas Velotta [https://www.instagram.com/mind_on_love/].

what we talk about:

 * why (and how) every couple should use Arya⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/arya.fyi/]
 * the 4 sexual personas and how to learn which one you are
 * misaligned sex drives in relationships
 * the problem with the 5 love languages
 * the orgasm gap

 * how to feel more sexy and confident
 * why we crave the early days of a relationship
 * why long term relationships can start to feel boring (and how to fix it)

& more

Find Nicholas on Instagram @mind_on_love [https://www.instagram.com/mind_on_love/] and sign up for Arya [https://www.instagram.com/arya.fyi/] to learn your sexual persona and start improving your sex life.

As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/mostlydating/]. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! 

To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSexZefbAzZQVWs_QMjJQ72ZLUJHxZtr2ivRHCFSBa6vcc7L0Q/viewform] or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com.

Is Your Relationship Starting To Feel Boring? Here's Why (with Nicholas Velotta)

Welcome back! Today we're joined by Carrie Berk, author and creator, to discuss her latest book, Mindfire: Diary of an Anxious Twentysomething [https://www.amazon.com/Mindfire-Anxious-Twentysomething-Carrie-Berk/dp/B0DPVGCKKH?ref_=nav_youraccount_switchacct].

If you're a Gen-Z or Millennial and you've ever struggled with anxiety, OCD, or another mental health obstacle, this one is for you.

Find Carrie on Instagram @carrieberkk [https://www.instagram.com/carrieberkk/?hl=en] and TikTok @carrieberkk [https://www.tiktok.com/@carrieberkk?lang=en]and check out her first book, My Real-Life Rom Com [https://www.amazon.com/My-Real-Life-Rom-Com-Confidence-Relationship-ebook/dp/B0CB72F6K5/].

As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/mostlydating/]. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! 

To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSexZefbAzZQVWs_QMjJQ72ZLUJHxZtr2ivRHCFSBa6vcc7L0Q/viewform] or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com.

A Roadmap For The Anxious Generation with Carrie Berk

Welcome back! Today we're joined by Monica Danus [https://www.instagram.com/the.monicadanus/?hl=en], who is opening up about her whirlwind experience on Love Is Blind Season 8 (+ the aftermath that's unfolded since it aired).

what we talk about:

 * Monica's state of mind with dating before going on the show
 * Her experience in the pods (including her other connections we didn't see on-screen)
 * Red flags she sees more clearly in hindsight + how it felt watching the show back
 * Opening up about past trauma in a new relationship (TW: nonconsensual sex)

 * Finding out about Joey's relationship with Sarah
 * The tea on Monica's current relationship status

& more!

As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/mostlydating/]. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! 

To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSexZefbAzZQVWs_QMjJQ72ZLUJHxZtr2ivRHCFSBa6vcc7L0Q/viewform] or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com.

Dating Burnout & Red Flags You Only See In Hindsight with Monica Danus of Love Is Blind

Welcome back! In today's episode, Carleigh is back with the new segments. We're chatting about conversations to have before getting engaged, advice for bringing up difficult conversations, dating hard truths, & more.

As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/mostlydating/]. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! 

To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSexZefbAzZQVWs_QMjJQ72ZLUJHxZtr2ivRHCFSBa6vcc7L0Q/viewform] or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com.

Stop Waiting For A Relationship For Your Life To Start

Welcome back! Today we're doing things a little differently. In this solo episode, Carleigh introduces six new segments:

 * "what should I say?" where a listener asks what to say to their partner, friend, family member, coworker, etc. in a certain situation.
 * "keep going or call it?" where a listener describes their scenario and ask whether they should stay in a relationship/go on another date/continue a friendship/etc.
 * "expanders" dating/relationship success stories to help be each other's expanders
 * "a letter to my younger self" where a listener writes the advice they'd tell their younger self about dating/life
 * "friendship files" specific to friendship dilemmas/conflicts
 * "not proud of it" anonymous confessionals of the things we do that we wish we didn't

As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/mostlydating/]. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! 

To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSexZefbAzZQVWs_QMjJQ72ZLUJHxZtr2ivRHCFSBa6vcc7L0Q/viewform] or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com.

Ready to Level Up Your Dating Game? It’s time to make dating exciting again with First Round’s On Me! Discover real, meaningful connections that go beyond the small talk. 

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Grab a FREE month of FROM’s premium Terracotta subscription⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://from.onelink.me/LQvW/mostlydating] with the code MOSTLYDATING.

Is Comparison Killing Your Friendships?

Welcome back! Today's episode is all about *boundaries*: how to set boundaries in early dating, what boundaries you should set for a relationship that lasts, signs you need to set better boundaries, and what to do when someone isn't respecting your boundaries.

We also chat about green flags in an argument with your significant other and we answer a wide range of listener questions about dating and relationships.

As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/mostlydating/]. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! 

To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSexZefbAzZQVWs_QMjJQ72ZLUJHxZtr2ivRHCFSBa6vcc7L0Q/viewform].

Ready to Level Up Your Dating Game? It’s time to make dating exciting again with First Round’s On Me! Discover real, meaningful connections that go beyond the small talk. 

⁠⁠⁠⁠Grab a FREE month of FROM’s premium Terracotta subscription⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://from.onelink.me/LQvW/mostlydating] with the code MOSTLYDATING.

The Best Boundaries To Set On Early Dates + How To Do It

Mia and Carleigh met in their early 20s and bonded over their relationships, dating horror stories, and passion for wellness. Years later, Mostly Balanced was born as a space to hold conversations about approachable wellness, dating, and relationships. Join Mia, Carleigh, and their guests for new episodes every Monday. Find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mostlybalanced/support

Carleigh Ferrante

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