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nofilterjustmo: Hey, welcome to No Filter Just Mo. I'm Monique. I'm just around here Bringing most sense. to the no sense okay so today's conversation is about Me not being intentional. when it comes to dating.
nofilterjustmo: Men shooting their number to women. And... Um... I don't think that that's intentional.
nofilterjustmo: Okay, I don't think that's intentional. So I want to get into. and Why I don't think that's intentional.
nofilterjustmo: And I'm gonna be elaborating on this more. All right. um my actual um podcast. We have... me um live.
nofilterjustmo: And that's going to be launching in January. 2027. No filter. Just mow is the YouTube page.
nofilterjustmo: And that's where you can be a guest. Or... You can. um Shoot me a DM. Topics. anything like that. Send me some mail.
nofilterjustmo: Whatever it is, I'm here to... talk, listen and just be here for you. So... Some people... Say nothing's wrong with it But...
nofilterjustmo: This is my question. Is that really showing genuine interest?
nofilterjustmo: Or... Is it like just like putting a ball in somebody else's court when you're giving your number to that woman? You're putting the ball in her court.
nofilterjustmo: And it's like... You're taking a... Excuse me. You're taking a... 50 50 chance you're taking a
nofilterjustmo: You know, you're taking a risk that that woman that you thought was so beautiful that you, you know, said, hey, gorgeous, hey, beautiful, you know, finessed her with all the words.
nofilterjustmo: ah Then you decide to give your number to her.
nofilterjustmo: Why not take her number? That way you're in. Control. And you have the ball in your court.
nofilterjustmo: Let's talk about it. Is that showing genuine interest? Or is it simply... Putting the responsibility. On the woman.
nofilterjustmo: for her to make the next move And remember, you don't have to agree with me. Just don't lie to yourself. Okay. So this most things We gon' make...
nofilterjustmo: Some sense? of this nonsense, okay? Most sense with the nonsense. So um
nofilterjustmo: I think that... Amen. needs to Moving his masculine energy. That's what I've been talking about. The masculine energy.
nofilterjustmo: Do you think giving? Hurt your number versus asking for it. You know Which one?
nofilterjustmo: And so.
nofilterjustmo: This is my first time doing this, so I'm just trying to see. How this works. but um Go count.
nofilterjustmo: Do you think giving her number... Giving you her number or asking for it. You know. I think, like I said. Who should actually take the initiative?
nofilterjustmo: From history, it says that the man... I thought he was the the matriarch of the family. I thought he was... The head. I thought he was the head, okay?
nofilterjustmo: didn't I didn't think that changed. But if that has changed, then, um you know. I say I'm wrong. But I thought the man was the head, meaning that he...
nofilterjustmo: Was the, the... The hunter, the provider, the protector. Amen. They have became emasculated. um Yeah.
nofilterjustmo: I'm going to say it. They have became... Emasculated. So we need to... Get our man to be back masculine. That's the problem And then vice versa. Because we haven't had masculine men.
nofilterjustmo: And. You know Retrospect. The woman? has to become the role of the man.
nofilterjustmo: You see how that goes? And so yeah. So yeah, we have a dilemma here. How are we going to fix that?
nofilterjustmo: When it comes to intentional dating, which I'm going to be diving deeper into that, and that's what I'm going to be having guests on. What does intentional dating actually look like? for me intentional dating Looks like...
nofilterjustmo: Um...
nofilterjustmo: Putting the effort in. Um... And you don't have to see someone every day. That's what I always try to tell people. But if you text me and...
nofilterjustmo: you know, throughout the day, or you tell me something about your day or something, or you're reaching out to me to ask how my day is throughout the day. That's...
nofilterjustmo: Let's me know that You had me on your mind. especially in the beginning because you're trying to Show that you really are genuinely interested in this woman and it's not just for sexual pleasures Or it's not just for your lustful ways. That you really see something in that woman other than...
nofilterjustmo: what's between her legs, okay? And so...
nofilterjustmo: I feel like being intentional and really like you cannot get to know someone without communication. You cannot get to know someone without communication. This all texting back and forth is cool, but baby, I'd like to be on. Video so what I do I do virtual.
nofilterjustmo: Dates If I can't, you know, when I first meet someone You know, we're meeting a lot of guys on these ah you know websites. on the social medias. So the pictures...
nofilterjustmo: Don't. Do nothing for me. It never has. So I've always been a person that said, let me get on video with you. I need to get on video with you. And so I'll do a speed date.
nofilterjustmo: Really fast. And you can feel somebody's energy like that. And you can feel their vibe and everything like that and see if y 'all even going to mesh before you even decide that you want to be in this person's presence and their, you know, in your energy.
nofilterjustmo: So I always do that. But those um like that's something that can be intentional once y 'all start really getting to know each other. Y 'all may go on a date. you know Plan a date.
nofilterjustmo: You know, I have lots of guys that you know, I'll talk to and we never have a date. We talk. and chit chat for a couple weeks, do the whole texting back and forth thing here and there.
nofilterjustmo: But some guys just like to string you along. Just to have you to... say good morning or something like that. I really don't understand it. Yeah.
nofilterjustmo: And then some people just want to just have you in their roster. You know, because you're a baddie. Or because you, you know, may have like... The same way Wolf... Women.
nofilterjustmo: Women do the same thing. Men may have like um assets that they may need handymen. You definitely want to keep a handyman on on hand. So men do the same thing. Oh, she may have some hookup on this or she might...
nofilterjustmo: you know cook good this or she, anything. You don't know what their motives and reasons is why they keep stringing you along. And so you have to be intentional. Communication is everything when it comes to building that strong, deep connection. And that's what I like. I like strong, deep connections. And the only way you can have them is by talking and Really, like... Opening up your heart.
nofilterjustmo: And just being. vulnerable and being real and raw. But I know it's hard to do that in this day and age because so many people. They will prey on your... You know? vulnerability And they will also... You know.
nofilterjustmo: Use your blueprint. When you tell them what you're looking for in a man or what you're looking for in a woman, and they will... Morph their... sales or morph themselves into that.
nofilterjustmo: Ah. and so that type of Person. Okay, so We want to keep some of our cars close to us in this day and age, but...
nofilterjustmo: Definitely. I would say. Look for the red flags always. When you're you know talking and getting to know somebody. And so... um Yeah.
nofilterjustmo: I think when it comes to being intentional. You're dating with a purpose. Because you're not just out here just dating because Sally. Or, you know, Keisha.
nofilterjustmo: Had a big butt. Because a big butt. is not going to get you to where you got to go in life. A lot of times... You'll see the most successful people.
nofilterjustmo: They always are couples because... One is better than... Two is better than one. Two heads are better than one. You know? One person can always lift the other up.
nofilterjustmo: so You know Keisha may not be the smartest person, but she got the biggest butt in the room So... Y 'all men sometimes, y 'all don't get it. And vice versa for the women, because I'm in these dating... um you know so Groups and...
nofilterjustmo: They just wet this dude. It was so... funny. He had like his white socks were showing and everything. And he was cute though. He had a black and brown in his hand, looked at Dusty like he have no, you know.
nofilterjustmo: Nothing. And she was like... Is this your man? Is anybody dating him? Because it's one of them type of sites like this. So funny, but like, is this your man? um Or like... spirit some spew the tea some it's like all these different groups on facebook and so um People was like... Girl, don't nobody want him. He could be asking you for...
nofilterjustmo: Money. Next week or whatever because of the... you know the way he looked but you know he was attractive but at the end of the day i mean maybe she was gonna build him up some women in love to build a man up Um.
nofilterjustmo: Me, not so much. I want them already built. You know? Already established. Already have his things together. That's what... I would like. Now, in my younger day, yeah.
nofilterjustmo: You will settle for those things, but when you are... And, you know, 40s and up. You start realizing. um You need to...
nofilterjustmo: Look for... More things in a... Uh, mate. than just the physicals. So that's why I always do The virtual dates and everything like that because... um
nofilterjustmo: I'm shallow. I'm a big look. I say what I am. I'm no no filter. It is what it is. The pictures does nothing for me. So I could be missing out on everybody. So some pictures is like... They be suspecting me or i like I don't like the way they dress or something like that.
nofilterjustmo: But... I was still, um you know, I was still.
nofilterjustmo: Swipe or whatever and then get on the video. Um, what's doing? Sometimes it was pleasantly so surprising. But again, they were not intentional. um even Like. I have some guys and like on the dating sites or whatever.
nofilterjustmo: They've never asked for my number, but every morning I get good morning, blah, blah, blah, this and that. And I'm like, is it because you have a wife? You know, I'm trying to figure out like. What is preventing you?
nofilterjustmo: From... getting me off of the app. You know? We have good conversation. to just that day But sometimes it doesn't progress anywhere.
nofilterjustmo: And then if it does, a lot of times the guys they shoot their number. Like I had one guy and I went all in my room of what I always do. And that's what I get. The guy?
nofilterjustmo: He shot me his number. And I said, let me stop doing that. Because every time a guy shoot me his number, I'll be like, dang. you You're not a stand -up guy. You're not the guy I'm looking for because the guy I'm looking for, he's going to have the balls enough to ask for my number.
nofilterjustmo: Want some? And so.
nofilterjustmo: I give, I call them. I was like, you know, I text them or whatever. And I was like, you know, we videoed and is that he he was just talking. not video we were texting and he was always talking about sexual things the whole time while we were texting what's your fantasy wife because that's what he called me when he first saw me he was like wife he was you know and i think he was a little bit younger but Still, you know, I'm like, dang. like The 37, 38s.
nofilterjustmo: you know because sometimes i might want a little young you know i i go young or older but You know, I really am getting bored, so I think I may i may be trying to dabble in, like...
nofilterjustmo: The younger pooled a little bit. I ain't saying 25s, but like... in the early 30s. the middle 30s or something like that. I'm i'm just getting bored. um And so.
nofilterjustmo: But he was so disrespectful. Um, asking me what my fantasies was and all this stuff. And I'm like, well, how many kids you got? I'm trying to like get to know him because I, again, I'm dating with intention. So I don't have time to be wasting my time. So I didn't ever capture that information when I was talking to him on.
nofilterjustmo: Da. You know, dating sites. So I was like, how many kids you got? Blah, blah, blah. Run it down. What kind of job you got? Run it down. You know what I'm saying? And so... He ran it he never ran it down Oh, no, I think he, no, he ran some a little bit down.
nofilterjustmo: And then he was like, oh, he have custody. Or his 12 -year -old liberal helmet. For me, I was like, oh, that's nice and cute for you. um But um yeah, I ain't.
nofilterjustmo: Really, you know. It is what it is. That ain't what I'm trying to really you know do. Bye! I said it was open. At the moment, because I was like, let me stop being closed minded. That might be what I need to fulfill, you know.
nofilterjustmo: my life. Give me some excitement in it and things like that. So... The next thing I know... Hee! Um...
nofilterjustmo: He says something. About. some other sexual stuff. So I just was like, you're not answering any of my questions. So, you know, blah, blah, blah. So I had deleted him on my phone. So the next morning.
nofilterjustmo: I get a ah penis pic. You know. Well, it was the video but because I used the Google I don't give my real number to no one. Like... Couple people have my real number, but I try to protect my real number. I'm like, I've had this same Google number for since I've been in Georgia eight years.
nofilterjustmo: The same Google number. And so... um I didn't get this. I didn't click on the video, but I seen the, you know. Early in the morning, he's talking about something. good morning and laugh out loud and I blocked and delete him. So again, to say all that.
nofilterjustmo: Stick to your... guns. If you said you don't want to do something, you looking for what you're looking for, stick to it. Because the one time that I didn't stick with it and I said, I'm going to give him a chance, call him.
nofilterjustmo: Do you see what happened? And I'm like, okay, so absolutely not. You know. Absolutely not. It's ridiculous.
nofilterjustmo: You know. Most sense. To the nonsense man. It's like It's ridiculous, you know? And so, you know.
nofilterjustmo: Be intentional in your dating. That's all I say. Move intentionally. If you know you do not want any more children. Why would you date someone? with that want children, like I have a ah homeboy.
nofilterjustmo: And I had to tell him he was 40, you know, he 44. His girl, 31. I'm like, dog. Like... He's like, I don't want no more kids, but...
nofilterjustmo: You know, she gon' want keys. I'm like, of course she is. But the girl, you know what I'm saying, the thing with it was, she moved in on him. You know? She moved in on him. And it was funny, I swear.
nofilterjustmo: You know she moved in on you. cause You know, he ain't had no girlfriend. We've been friends six years. He ain't had no girlfriend. Because he liked me, but I liked him as a friend. you know Sometimes, you know, it's just not there. The spark not there. And it's okay. That's my friend.
nofilterjustmo: you know and so um She moved in on him, though. Like, she moved into his house because he was, well he's like, he has all his stuff together. Like, he's really a really good man when I'm talking about good man as far as, like, having his own.
nofilterjustmo: have his own, um you know. trucking business with his big rig and everything. But like in Georgia, a lot of guys, they have like a lot of assets and stuff because of the trucking. So you definitely can find...
nofilterjustmo: Um. Man, they got some stability here in um Georgia. But he had his house. He had his son, his son. you know was 13 when I met him his son is 20 years old now you know firefighter the son and you know he had the one son so he perfect you know I'm saying she she moved in and I was like if I was like that type of woman I could have been that one You know, I could have been that one, but I'm i'm not that one. You know what I'm saying?
nofilterjustmo: I'm not going to force anything just because somebody has assets and this and that. I'm really looking for genuine. love and connection. And that's what we should be, you know, looking for, for real. But some people have other motives. And that's why their lives are empty. Because from the beginning...
nofilterjustmo: They didn't have the right motive for why they went with that person or why they're with that person. And so, yeah. But I'm going to go ahead and end this now because it's one. 21 a .m in the morning i just had something to say and so um
nofilterjustmo: You know remember don't agree with me Just don't. Lie to yourself. This is Monique. with Most sense.
nofilterjustmo: To the nonsense. I will talk to y 'all later. I love you all so much. Make sure that y 'all subscribe to my YouTube channel. No filter, just Mo. My Instagram. No filter, just Mo.
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nofilterjustmo: Um... With the guests and everything. I'm lining up the guests and everything now. for January's rollout, which will be... Be my dog until I'm ready.
nofilterjustmo: Meanie. Be my friend until I'm ready, which will elaborate on that and I may have. so um people that are experiencing that. Right now. So I will. Talk to y 'all later Smooches!