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Speaker: Do you know what it's like when you wanna go cry But you can't let out all the feelings inside So you lay in your bed under blankets and hide And you let people know that you're feeling just fine And your pillow gets stained with the tears that you cried And you're praying nobody comes in and that's why And the redness is already taking your rise I wish you could hide it but there's no disguise in it Cry, let it all out
Speaker: if i had to be completely honest with myself i'm tired i'm tired it's not a physical tired it's it's a very you know it's in the soul it's like i'm fucking tired i'm tired of going through this shit i'm tired of tired of everything not working out i'm just like i fucking tried and it's a i can't not lie and say it's not a it's not like you don't want to live kind of thing it's more of a
Speaker: If God were sitting across from me right now, there would be a part of me that would just want to go up to him and say, listen, I'm done. I'm done. I'm not. I can't do this anymore. I'm just, I'm fucking physically and mentally spent and I'm done. And.
Speaker: It's a, it's a silent battle too. Um, and it's a, it's a battle kind of hide from the world and from the people we love and the people we want to love or want to love us because who wants a broken person? You know, it's like if they knew, like if the people in your life knew how broken we were, like,
Speaker: Would they stay? And then that raises the question of like, how do I fix this? Can you fix this? I don't know. I can't hide myself I don't expect you to understand I just hope I can't explain
Speaker: What it's like to be a man It's a lonely room And they don't care about what you know It's not about how you feel But what you provide inside that home
Speaker: Being a man is what you make it You can't always live up to expectations you try to Please everybody while you struggle so you fake it And end up out of balance compromising situations as a good man
Speaker: everything he could man you might find yourself feeling all alone inside a house you built that you don't recognize as home and that's what my daddy told me and i'll tell my son the same now that i'm older i relate and i actually feel his pain he never cried he might have lied but he did not complain and he said son one day you have to do the same i'll get emotional when i stop and think and i look around
Speaker: Beyond the county lines of my small town I think about all the men out there who feel like I do now Who are screaming on the inside but won't ever
Speaker: Keep fighting, as a man our sun is our horizon And our fathers actions play a role and we end up like em So they can't let us see them hurt, cause we'll embody what they do And start a generational curse, no wonder most men are so depressed All the things that they can't express They go to war, get thrown on the shelf, they go back to war
Speaker: mental health then grab that bottle and ask for help try to pull themselves out of hell then fall back down and then realize that they don't have to do it themselves it's the circle of life as a man you provide they don't know what you were till the day that you die and that's when they start crying then move on to a man you confide in
Speaker: It's not about how we feel about what we mean. It's not about how we feel about what we mean. It's not about how we feel about what we mean. It's not about how we feel about what we mean. It's not about how we feel about what we mean. It's not about how we feel about what we mean. It's not about how we feel about what we mean. It's not about how we feel about what we mean. It's not about how we feel about what we mean.
Speaker: Hopefully everybody had a good weekend and Monday didn't kick your ass too bad. Oh, it's been a Monday. The weekend didn't kick your ass too bad. Actually it wasn't a bad Monday to be honest with you. Nice little day of rest and lounging and being lazy. I had some appointments first thing this morning, but outside of that, it was kind of lounged around and ate today.
Speaker: but uh, welcome to men caring for men. We got uh, Jared Vichy in the building as always. My guy Connor with the heart ER hanging out. Barely barely, but he's here. Something's hanging out. Easy little buddy. Keep that for Wednesday and Saturday nights. If you guys don't be, I'm Glick. If you're not already, go ahead and check out the social medias, Facebook, Instagram, X and Twitter.
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Speaker: Damn mark fucking coming out at the at Connor like that What's going on mark? Real quick shout out to the chatters box. We see you guys in there already Benji's in the building. What's going on binge? Hopefully is all going well brother marks in the building. Hopefully you had a good day. Good weekend my friend I'll be home soon. So we'll be able to play Call of Duty Glock
Speaker: Dude, why am I having such a hard time trying to repost this? Because I'm reposting them. Jeff's in the building with the liquid IP. I see that. You know what, Mark? You're just a slut and nobody fucking asked you. Representing the U of M over here in PA. All these goofy ass Nittany Lions and Cougars and
Speaker: Bunch of fake colleges and fake football teams that they have in PA like this good works. Oh, wait. Yeah. Fuck you, Brian from Florida. Oh, anyways. Welcome to men caring for men. Got to get all the promotional stuff and the, and all that fun stuff out of the way before we roll into the show. Sorry. Sorry, Jeff. I know you're listening and we're 10 minutes in and we're just not going to get to the show.
Speaker: As I got yelled at Saturday night, he's like, Jesus, these intros are getting longer and longer. That's a good thing though, at the end of the day. But you guys know how we do the show. Jarvis, how was your weekend, man? How's everything going over there in your world? And give us an update on where you are with your radio stuff, if you don't mind. Oh, fuck.
Speaker: No, it's fine. No, I just been putting out a lot of applications here in Minnesota. I heart radio is everywhere. Yeah, I heard right. So it's like and then on I heart radio. Yeah and
Speaker: So I just been, you know, doing the applications online. And like Alyssa said, she's like, you know, maybe we should get some flash drives and send your demo out on a flash drive to some of these radio stations and see if anyone picks it up. And it's like old school and drop some stuff in the mail, huh?
Speaker: Yeah, and so I was just like I'm like damn, you know if I could only get her to you know Be that way on a podcast, you know, that'd be fun But no, she was on Saturday night show I was I was actually very very proud of her You know how she's coming out of her shell and then of course, you know dealing with K mag that night so Dealing with all of us, but she's a trooper she hangs in there. Oh, yeah, definitely
Speaker: You know until Brian, you know Mexican Brian decide to you know plan a whole Vegas trip around us eating a bunch of fucking food and then a bunch of flavors from the M &M's factory or whatever they fucking call it Food PTSD
Speaker: Oh my God, dude. I woke up in like fucking sweat Sunday morning at like 10 o 'clock. Cause I didn't get to bed and tell about two, three o 'clock. Cause I, you just come off that euphoric high, you know, once you're done doing the show. It's, it's, you know, and that's any show where you, when I get done doing the show, I've got like that burst of energy still from doing any of the shows. And it's like done another six hours.
Speaker: But, you know, your head says that, but in reality, it's like six hours. Let's do another six hours, two minutes in for an hour and a half about his trip and behind the scenes backstage. I still got a kick out of that. Glick's just like, well, you know, if we go to that that restaurant where if I don't finish my meal, they spank me, he's like, what if I just don't want to finish my meal and get the spank and
Speaker: Can I still get the spanking and not finish my meal and finish my meal? That's pretty much what Glick was saying. He's like, do I need to eat? Can I just go up to some hot waitress there at the restaurant and be like, hey, spank me. Well, at the end of the day, like I told Brian, I said, there's no way in hell that I could eat three, a three pound steak in an hour or whatever. So I might as well just walk in there and just be like, I'm going to go there. I might as well just go get my ass beat. And
Speaker: Because there's no way. I mean, because Nikki doesn't do it enough anymore. Yeah, today we went out and got movies. We're like we went to dinner with with a friend of Nikki's and was like, well, let's go get a light lunch. And we went to this Chinese buffet and that you can go in there and you can get to go to go cartons and they they charge you by the pound. You know, Jesus Christ.
Speaker: It's only $5 .99. It's only $5 .99 for a pound. However, mine was a little bit lighter than yours. I gained 35 pounds that night. Yeah. So, you know, like neither one of us had a light lunch at all. So we go get Mexican for dinner. And I'm like, I mean, I'm still full. I ate all mine.
Speaker: but uh I was like I'm I'm still full because we just ate three hours ago. So it was like uh I guess I'll I guess I'll get uh a taco and a burrito and I and I only ate my taco because really just ate some chips. I was so fucking full. I'll eat your taco baby.
Speaker: Well, you're a fat ass Jeff and we all know you're you're one big mother fucking heart attack so the one video that Mexican Brian showed us this guy had like 10 fucking I I don't even know probably a pound of beef burgers a burger. Yeah
Speaker: And like he had to eat it all in 22 minutes or else he'd get spanked. And I was just like, I'll eat one of those burgers and save the rest for later. I'll finish my meal and you can spank me anyway. If my wife goes in there and puts on a uniform, can she do it? Connor's just going to be like, hey, I ate my meal. Can you spank me? Wait, before you start.
Speaker: Yeah. Connor's like, I'm not here for the wheel. I'm just here for the spankers. But other than your PTSD, how's everything else going? How you doing, man? It's pretty good. Just been trying to figure out the whole radio gig and
Speaker: It'll take time. It'll take time. Well, I wouldn't say we got all the snow they promised us, but it's like, come on, it's fucking spring. Like, let's get on with this shit. You live in Minnesota. Yeah, I get it. Our fucking state's like, Oh, it's spring. No, eight more inches of snow, motherfucker. It's hard to feel bad for you when you live in South Canada. I can't
Speaker: I can't sit here and pretend that... I forgot to change my thing. Hold on one second. Well, yesterday it was like 30 degrees or something here and then today it was 70. Yeah, temperatures are supposed to drop tomorrow here. There we go. We're back.
Speaker: Yeah. Like I said, you know, the, the, the radio thing, you know, it's not gonna, you know, it's not gonna happen overnight, especially, you know, you're coming into essentially, you know, even though you're doing, you've done podcasts and stuff like that, you're coming in essentially with no experience. So, you know, it's just a matter of finding that right place. It's gonna give you the opportunity and take a chance on you and see where it goes at the end of the day. So, you know, don't get discouraged because it's not happening right now. It's gonna, you know, you gotta stay persistent with it and stay with it.
Speaker: No, like I said, you know, I just I had made plans with my mom and them are on hold because we don't know when it when it's going to start. But, you know, hey, there's a lot of fucking radio stations in Cleveland that need hosts. I was just like it. There is one that said main host. I'm like.
Speaker: Why would they ever like if that station in Cleveland, everyone reached out to me and was like, hey, we got a radio show that you can host. I'll be like, have you listened to the other one I host? Like my podcast is it ain't good, but it's not bad. Well, to be honest with you, Cleveland's not much different than Minnesota. No. Just better fucking sports teams. And the Lake Stitch fire. Yeah, Lake Stitch on fire.
Speaker: The rivers are rainbow colored from all the waste and sludge that they dump into them. Uh, they had a, they had a moth man, eventually, uh, once upon a time. No, that was down in Southern Ohio. That was down in Mount Pleasant, based technically West Virginia, but yeah. Also, also in Ohio, cause it was right there at the border towns, Mount Pleasant. Well, because they thought that one of your, uh, they, they literally thought that one of the factories was going to blow up or something.
Speaker: And then it turned out to be the bridge, the Silverton Bridge or whatever it was called. Yeah, it's a bridge from West Virginia. It's about 2 a .m. So, Connor, long time no see, buddy. You were AWOL Saturday night. Yeah. I'm glad the troops were able to find you and
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Speaker: We didn't know what to do. We didn't know we didn't know how to do breaks or ad reads or I didn't even know how to start the show. There was no comic relief. There was no I release. It was fucking through me out to actually do one of the the sponsor reads. And I'm like, I don't have the fucking script in front of me. He's like, just make something up. I'm like, do you want to keep those sponsors? Exactly. See, and he does that shit. He's like, oh, I know you don't have an ad read, but you're doing ad read that I didn't give you. So present caster.
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Speaker: No, I was out of my element that night anyway. So so if you're like, hey, Jarvis ad read, then I'll be like, OK, I can do that. However, Connor, you did you did miss Naked Brian and the Naked what? Naked Brian in the jacuzzi. Oh, Florida, Florida. Brian was in the jacuzzi. I hope your kids call me.
Speaker: Good night. Hey, you know what? You're the one that said, oh, I got to be a dad. And it's my son's birthday. Hey, is somebody going to close the door? Or are we going to leave it open all night? Or what's the plan here? Leaving it open all night. You got to heat that one. Close the door! Oh my god. Turn your little behind a round and go close the door. I couldn't find the goddamn button. Usually it's Jeff that I've got to.
Speaker: So we know how Connor stays at one. Yeah, poor Connor. All right, you can go play in your... We here at Nonsensical Nonsense would like to dismiss Connor for a little bit. Excuse us while we have technical... You little son of a... I need a swearing button.
Speaker: One of us needs one of those sound boards that like anytime Connor Glick or Jeff goes off on a rant, just hit the fucking beat button. Yeah. But so as I was saying, how was your, how was your weekend house? How's everything going over there in your, in your neck of the woods? Yeah. So the week last week was kind of, uh, it was mediocre, but.
Speaker: The weekend was interesting. Friday was a whole lot of me cleaning the house and doing enough dishes to kill a family. And, and then Saturday rolled around and one by one, our house went from having five people in it, like usual to having 17. So, you know, I loved that. Um, but we had a good time. Carson turned seven on Friday and, um,
Speaker: Happy birthday Carson. Let's go Carson. Yep. Yep. He got, he got lots of really cool presents, including Mark and Ohio state Jersey. Mark that had his last name on the back. Mark cooler than anything you got when you were seven Mark.
Speaker: Sorry, I don't know. We had a really good time. I definitely overdid it. We tried to chill out on Sunday
Speaker: the the the
Speaker: No, not out here. We live in Indiana, where Ohio State's considered a good team. They don't have a team in Indiana. Yeah, they do. There's nothing that matters. They do, but... Like I said, no one that matters. So we had a really good time this weekend and
Speaker: I overdid it, so I'm a little worse for wear today with my back, but I got doctor's appointments this week and we'll check in again on next Monday. Tell you how that goes. But yeah, it's been really good. We've been hanging out. We've been having a good time and kids keep getting older and I can't stop it. The only way to stop it's illegal, which is ridiculous. Unfortunately that
Speaker: or fortunately, I guess, however you want to look at it and think about it. It's doing it and they grow up fast. It's okay. You can make all the excuses you want, Mark. He's a poor Michigan boy. I'm looking at it. I got one turn in 19 next month. Uh, then in May, I got one turn at 15 and my youngest one turns 11 in July. So I mean, it's, it's wild. I can.
Speaker: It doesn't feel like it was yesterday. Carson has been here for a while, but it's crazy to see. He's a big kid, but it's crazy to see how much he's grown because he was the smallest of the bunch. He came out at like six pounds, seven ounces, and that is significantly smaller than I was. So we were like, oh, he's just going to be a little kid.
Speaker: Dude, he hit like four years old and started shooting up. The kid's 75 pounds and he's, he's almost five foot tall. He's going to be taller than my wife by the end of the, this year. So it's, it's crazy to watch him grow. And of course my wife had her little cry moment. I can't believe he's growing up. That's what they do. That's why we had him. Yeah. Yeah. They don't, they don't stay babies forever.
Speaker: My son's starting to, I think all three of my kids are taller than their mom at this point, but he's starting to catch up with the girls. And it's like, oh, it's not gonna be much longer. He's gonna be close to being one of the tallest ones in the house if he keeps it right up that he's going. He's gonna be the new champ. Shit.
Speaker: They'll always be the champ junior. Are you really pooping right now? He'll ever be as good as his old man. You know, living my shadow for the rest of his life. No, they do grow fast. I mean, it's I can't even believe it's been almost 19 years with my oldest one. It still feels like
Speaker: You know, sometimes it still feels like yesterday, we were just bringing her, bringing her home from the hospital, all four pounds over because she was like two months early. So she only weighed like four pounds when she was born. Um, and now she's a giant pain in my fucking head. I can't wait one day to have kid, uh, get it. Cause you're the thing. Yeah.
Speaker: Trust me. Small was never a word that they used to describe me. I think I was close to like 10 pounds, maybe 11 pounds when I was born. And I was damn near six foot tall or at six foot tall at 12 years old. At my son's age, I was almost six foot tall. See what they don't want to tell us though is when Glick came out, he had a mini championship belt.
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Speaker: I wasn't stroking as you go. I just said you came out of the womb. Steve strokes Glick on a daily basis. Oh, OK, whatever. You should you should see our group chat. Oh, I barely even am in the group chat, Connor. None of us are hardly here. Like one day I've seen the group chat pop up and I'm like, oh, yeah, this is this might be fun. No one ever fucking uses it. I use the Monday.
Speaker: you know, I could try to discuss ideas with you guys. And then I got to put the link in there for you. And they like today I asked you, Hey, you guys got anything you want to talk about or any topics? Hmm. That's a, that's a big, that's a big negative. There goes trader. You're on your own. I've been thinking about it all week and I was just like, dude, I don't know what the fuck we're talking about this week. I have no idea what to talk about on Monday. No, no, no. I think, I think for the most part, it's just a good weekend.
Speaker: You know, we, well, we did the show Saturday night. Oh yeah. Chris, how was your week? It was my, actually my week was, my week was really good. I finally got news last week that I will have a job come Tuesday when I go back to, to my, to my, uh, building, I guess you could say. Uh, so that's something that I've been, and I talked about it, I think Wednesday night, Thursday night.
Speaker: Thursday night, yeah. That's something that's really been stressing me the hell out. So that was good to find out. And then Friday when I got home from work, I think I've maybe been home 20 minutes or so, the lady from HR at the new company texted me and asked if I had a few minutes for a phone call. And I was like, yeah, I just walked in the door. So we went over the onboarding stuff and I had to fill out some
Speaker: some stuff online and - You're gonna have to quit your podcast. Yeah, I know. No, no, no, no. That was basically like the onboarding. They had to send me the accepted or the job offer, the offer letter that kind of mapped everything out, you know, how much I'm gonna make, vacation time, benefits and other perks and stuff. So I had to get all that filled out Friday.
Speaker: Um, but yeah, I mean, that was, that was, uh, you know, and then being able to kind of look towards the, look towards the future with where I'm at and the building I'm in and start making it my building and setting up my, make my office the way I want it set up, setting up my, my shop, the way I want it set up, you know, getting everything, you know, that I want to have done done that I just wasn't going to start when I'm up in the air and I'm sitting there in limbo going.
Speaker: I'm not going to do all this work for somebody else to come in here and have it at the end of the day. So now I get to go back. I'll go back Tuesday and I get to start all my little side projects. And wait, you go back Tuesday? Yeah, I took initially Friday and Monday. Oh, that's right. That's right. That's right. So I mean, Sunday is Easter and I'm off all this week. So, you know, I needed to take today off and then I was taken Friday and Monday off anyways. Uh,
Speaker: because the kids are on spring break this week and Nikki and I wanted to try to do something with them. Um, so my property manager, she was like, you got the time and technically we're still here until the 31st. Go ahead and put the time in for the week. And, you know, even though I don't, I'm off the first, it's still the time was put in before.
Speaker: Contract was up. So they're going to honor that day on the first as well. That's good. Are they are they keeping it paid? Yeah. Oh, yeah. So that my old company will my our current company, which will be my old company come next Monday. That's cool. So what you're saying is while I'm home all week this week by myself with the kids, I can call you anytime. Well, I mean, probably going to be pretty busy this week.
Speaker: Uh, I've been in PA for the last four days, so I've missed a lot of, uh, Call of Duty time and saving the world. The world's in shambles right now because there's zombies running around everywhere. The goddamn Russians are invading. I don't know what's going on, but I'm not there to stop it. So all hell's breaking loose. Call of Duty condition.
Speaker: But now I mean this weekend it was it was a good weekend State
Speaker: Kind of chill. Loki. We finished the season of American Horror Story here at the hotel. I've moved into the Jacuzzi. Nicki's moved into the Jacuzzi. I guess I'm leaving her here tomorrow morning when I leave and she just comes with the room, I guess. I don't know. Nice. Nice. What was that movie where they had the guy on the couch? She's the chick in the Jacuzzi. Is that something with that hotel where you just could leave your wife there if you want?
Speaker: yeah i guess no what's the name of it i think it was half baked oh i don't know where they had like the guy that the roommate that just laid on the couch oh yeah half baked what's the name of the hotel um shitty hotel in pittsburgh i don't go to shitsberg unless i have to
Speaker: I'll have to I'll have to send it to you. We gotta keep it on the DL. We don't want to get out. Otherwise, you know, we'll have to take our significant others back once we drop them off. It's **** bullshit. Yeah, fair enough. Hey, honey, who's down for a trip to PA? Yeah, I'm going to go to PA. Give him a bit of that. Fermatics PA. Hey, Alyssa, let's go to PA. Sorry, have you ever been to West Middlesex PA?
Speaker: Next Monday after we come back from PA, all of a sudden you just see Alyssa in my spot. Yeah, Steven didn't come back from PA. I thought they were only supposed to leave wives there. Yeah, yeah. I was about to say, who do you think's the bitch in the relationship? Oh, we knew that. Just like the show.
Speaker: My my dad for wanting the wedding gifts. He is like, well, you know, I could have did this and he showed me what he wanted to originally get us for the wedding gift on Amazon. I'm like you want to get us an Indiana Jones official bullwhip dad you asshole and he's like what? I listen to you and checked. That would have been a really cool cool. I could see a list that just unwrapping it and being like, ooh, the gift that keeps on giving. Come here hun.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And they're trying, the venue that they're trying to do it at, because they live in Switzerland, the venue they're trying to do it at is like 12 ,000 euros for 90 people to stay for a week. I was like, oh, okay, cool. And then, so Nikki and I are looking at like airfare and places we can go visit and things like this. We're trying to figure out how much money we got to save up. So I texted my brother, it was like, so,
Speaker: Your wedding gift is going to be a toaster, but not like a good one. Like one of those old seventies white, plain white toasters. Doesn't really work. Right. One that's probably been used in a few, uh, toaster baths. Yeah. That's what they said right around, right around 14 ,000 us. Uh, I was going to say, uh, we had, we had that conversation Saturday night about baths and toasters.
Speaker: That's great. I'm like, hey, you want to talk on the pot? Yes, we do. And we discussed that because part of our merchandising, I hadn't had a chance to tell you that we're making we want to make nonsense go nonsense toaster bombs. I forgot all about that shit. Yeah, they make balls on Amazon. Yeah, I've seen them on the one company that I order from.
Speaker: Yeah, I was going to to to make myself a little nonsensical nonsense t -shirt here here soon because I still haven't got my goddamn nonsensical nonsense hat, Chris, that I've been promised since literally this like 10th episode. Yeah, I can send you the one that I wear every day if you want, if it'll make you feel better. Don't even sign it. Is it OK if I use it to help myself not? Whatever you whatever you do is totally up to you.
Speaker: And again, to quote Tony Stark in the first Iron Man, I've seen you do worse. I wasn't laughing at my own joke. I was laughing at, I assumed that was Nikki who yelled. It's just some hooker that we found. He's been tied up over by the closet all weekend. Is her name Nikki too? Oh, no. Oh, no, Chris. Well, ladies and gentlemen, he'll never be there.
Speaker: He's going to be left at a hotel out in PA. Oh, that's great. I didn't say that I got, I said that we got. Just some booker. Technically Tuesday or Thursday, but close enough, right? So Nikki, how much do I owe you for using that website now?
Speaker: A million dollars. Fuck that. I wouldn't even, yeah, my merchandise ain't gonna make that. Did you use your pictures on Chris's OnlyFans and now you have to pay for using his likeness? No. Me and Chris have been talking about my own merchandise shop, but I want to have like all of us, if people are like, Hey, Steven, I got a cool idea for a shirt. Then, you know, and then it'd be their shirt. So then they'd get most of the.
Speaker: or they'd get all the profits from it. Well, I've got a cool idea for a shirt for Chris, but. So he's a Sasquatch can make a shirt. Well, it was it was going to have a Sasquatch and a rocket that may or may not be read on it. The sad thing is I can see. Does this have anything? Does this have anything to do with men caring for men? Yes, yes, yes, it does.
Speaker: This is the this is the calm before the storm. Listen, you got to understand we are we are nonsensical nonsense first. And that's how we care for each other. We're like sprees. It's a kick in the mouth. We we we get that we get the banter and the silliness out of the way here at the beginning of the show before we before we dive into the to the deep conversation and issues at hand.
Speaker: You said that there's a restaurant right down the road called Combine Brothers and what is it? And on the side, they got a big neon sign on the side of the building. Well, right. Oh, part of their sign is like a red chili pepper. And I said, why do they have a red rocket? Yeah.
Speaker: But no, so yeah, no, anyway, yeah, it's, it's been a nice, uh, we actually decided to extend our stay, uh, another night. So we were going to go home tonight, but, uh, let's just stay an extra night. You know, I'm off work and I just have to, I have to, I have to, if he doesn't start her new job till the first, I gotta, I gotta be home tomorrow before five. Cause I gotta take, uh, you know, pre pre -employment drug stream.
Speaker: So that's for you. Oh, that sucks. Do they, are they one of the companies that does like random drug tests or Oh, I don't know. I'm not worried about it. I don't do drugs. So I know you don't do drugs, but I'm curious. There's a lot of it. I have no idea, but every, every company I've ever worked for, every job I've ever had, they've done a pre -employment drug street. Yeah. Well, I know that actually I shouldn't shout out.
Speaker: that. Nevermind. Forget I said it. I definitely smoke some grass, but most of the people that I spend time with out here can't because they they either work factory jobs that'll do that do random drugs, screens, or
Speaker: Or I guess just a lot of jobs now do it because they don't want the people that they're working, that they have working for, uh, smoke in marijuana, even though it's recreational in a lot of States. Yeah. So, man, that's, that's been a catch 22 for, for the last couple of years, you know, especially with, with it being medicinal and stuff like that. Like are you going to fire somebody as long as they're not under the influence at work, if they have a medical card or, you know, it is recreational. That's the same thing as if I go home and have.
Speaker: you know, three or four beers after work and then come to work the next day. I mean, yes, is it going to be in my system? Yeah. But I'm not going to be under the influence. But that's, that's the thing is like working on these factory jobs. You can't, you can't determine how recent, excuse me. You can't determine how recently somebody has smoked or if they're under the influence when they get into like a four click lift accident at work, you know, they could have smoked a week and a week ago, it's still in their system.
Speaker: They had nothing to do with the accident. Well, now you're getting fired because you were I while you were driving. Yeah. And it is, as I said, it's, it's been kind of a catch 22 for the last couple of years with businesses and companies, you know, as far as how to enforce it, what you can and what they, you know, cause a lot of states it is recreational, but it's been medicinal for a lot longer than it has been recreationally. Um,
Speaker: But there's tests out there to tell if you're under the influence at the time or whatever. It's just, it sucks because if you need it for health issues or whatever, or if you just come home and get high and it stays in your system so much longer than alcohol or whatever, and you go out on a Friday night with your friends and get high and then all of a sudden
Speaker: Tuesday at work, they're like, hey, we're doing random drug screening. And you didn't do anything wrong because it's legal or you have a medical card or whatever. At the end of the day, it's all legal. So that's, I think it's one of those things that, you know, when they started doing this dance with, with marijuana and whatnot, and with the medicinal or with the recreational, they knew that this was going to come. This was going to happen.
Speaker: that they were going to have to eventually address the quote, unquote, elephant in the room where you can't tell me what I can't do when I'm not here. Right. Knowledge is they're going to start testing people for alcohol, and they're going to start firing people on the spot because they have alcohol in their system. And they're 100 % sober. But that's the best thing about working here at Nonsense called Nonsense. We don't have to worry about that because we got one of the greatest bosses in the world.
Speaker: We don't need to work. We don't need to worry about income though. Yeah. Yeah. We just don't get paid. Is it salary? Yes. Your salary is zero dollars. Glick's over there counting all the money we're making for him and he's going to tell about the money spongebob me boy. If we were, if we were making like oodles and gobs of money and you paid people hourly to be on this show, we'd go broke.
Speaker: First thing I do is label all of you guys guests of the show and then I don't have to pay you at all. Hey Glick, can I have some of that money that I've worked so hard to help you make? Here's two cents. That's like 80 % of our profit. Look, we're not as cool as the guys are very talking shit. We're not making 16 cents.
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Speaker: impossible. She's impossible. Oh, fucking poor Connor. He could literally tell his wife, Hey, I'm doing a show tonight. And she's like, okay. And then halfway through the show, he does tell her, as he said, she's needy. Oh, do our women put up with us?
Speaker: Well, you have yours chained to a radiator, so she has no choice. Oh, motherfucker, please. Not quite sure why Nikki sticks her house. I feel like for a Saturday show, we should have our wives or girlfriends be on there. Nikki's kicked me out of my seat twice now, so. Alyssa's just put on the spot. Yeah.
Speaker: Well, one time it was the show wasn't live. The other time it was live. And I had to bring it back up for, as she called it, a nonsensical nonsense after dark. I remember that one. She's like the fuck out of the seat, jackass. My show now. So the struggle is real. The struggle is real. Yeah, I know. I was just looking at the we've already killed almost the first hour just with the mind, this banter.
Speaker: so i feel like take a little early break and then come back and and and get into the uh the topic of conversation tonight um so it's gonna be like connor's gonna be like connor's last colonoscopy they he just said you know make sure you lube i forgot you can still hear me
Speaker: But it's like Connor's last colonoscopy. They just lubed that glove up and went all the way to the elbow. Mm -hmm. Love you, Connor. Those are me, Connor's, at the point now where they don't use lube. He just bends over. So an ad read. What are we going to talk about before we go to commercial flick?
Speaker: if you will. That's a good question. We'll take a little early break for a change. Let Connor wrap up his phone call, hopefully. And then we'll dive into it. I wanted to, as I was kind of left out, I lost my train of thought.
Speaker: We're checking out on this one. We don't, we can talk about whatever. I have nothing. I have nothing for you at all. Um, I found something and it's, uh, top issues men face today. And there's actually 12 of them, but I'm going to kind of skip around because a few of them don't make any fucking sense at all. Like just, just in general. Uh, but we're gonna take a real quick break.
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Speaker: Do you have the time to listen to me whine about nothing and everything all at once? I am one of those melodramatic fools neurotic to the bone no doubt
Speaker: She said it's like you're the sex that's bringing me
Speaker: I'm clacking myself a crease Sometimes when my place tricks on me It all keeps adding up I think I'm clacking up Am I just paranoid? Or am I just stoned?
Speaker: Yeah, buddy. Little basket cakes. That doesn't describe this show and the people on this show. Sorry. No, you're fine. We literally just came back. Welcome back to Men Camp for Men. We have some goofy banter. You know, that's good for you. That's good for you. A little friendly, huh? Yep. As Nikki said, good for your soul. It's good for your mind and good for your body. You have some friendly banter, joke around, laugh.
Speaker: and all that stuff. So that's what we did. Now we're going to get into the nuts and bolts, if you will. The twig and berries. Welcome back to Men Care for Men. We got Jared Vichy in the house, as always. Hey, yo, hey, yo. Hey, yo, hey, yo. Got your racist, Jarvis. I wasn't the one that fucking said it. Quit talking shit about me, boys.
Speaker: You just heard him pipe back up. Connor's here hanging out with us. Fuck off the hard ER at the end of the day. I try to be nice. If you guys know me, I'm click. I'll save you the you guys know I'm the champ. But. This is meant for capital of my God, Ken marrying for Ken.
Speaker: Yeah. Men kissing me. I mean, wait, what? Shut the fuck up. One time on my podcast, I got it wrong. Fuck off. Men kissing men.
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Speaker: Yes, this has been caring for men. And I just told you that our social media is all at nonsensical nonsense. Well, there's a reason for that because Monday nights has been caring for men. It's men's mental health show, Tuesday nights, uh, once a month or every other week or something. I don't know. Jeff does, uh, dollars and cents. It's a business show with him and, uh, him, Sam and Vera. Wednesday nights is nonsensical nonsense, unhinged, unfiltered, unapologetic monkeys, fucking a football show.
Speaker: Let's just call spade a spade Thursday nights we take off because we let other people podcast on Thursday night like talking shit. Uh, those guys do their show Thursdays at eight, right? Eight Eastern. If you're around, if you're up, you can check out late night parents with Ted Hicks and his band of idiots. I mean misfits. And
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Speaker: And then don't forget Sunday. On Sundays Jarvis usually drops a new episode of the Jarvis podcast, which you just stopped on this week. Yeah, Mad Max, yeah. So yeah, it's really well on YouTube right now. Huh? The original Mel Gibson Mad Max. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm gonna the next Sunday is going to be the Road Warrior or.
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Speaker: Somewhere in that area so if you guys are up and Wednesdays Wednesday afternoons for us in here in the state ladies drops her show on 365 radio .co and that's Hill's mixtape, so Lots and lots and lots of options out there for you guys as far as podcast and shows and stuff like that and most of them know us and Some of them will even acknowledge us
Speaker: Some of them refuse to because they're terrified. We're going to take their spotlight, Joe Rogan. I mean, you know, Joe Rogan knows what's up. I don't have to. He goes. However, Helen. Oh, Deborah. I didn't even have to say it. Thank you, Chris. I've got you, buddy. I love how everybody on the show is adopting Brian's. You're obnoxious.
Speaker: Uh, yeah, I've been doing it for the last couple of weeks now. Last few, several weeks. Hey, Randy. Yeah. I want to go ahead and get into the, uh, the meat and potatoes, if you will, of, of, of the topic of conversation. I thought you were living in there. I thought you were living in there. Oh, I don't know.
Speaker: Gotta rehydrate, Glick. Yeah, apparently. Look, I'm Cindy Lou Who. I wanted to chitchat with you guys today. Basically, you know, some of the issues men have today are faced today.
Speaker: Well, like it's the top 12 I'm gonna skip a couple of them because again They just don't make a lot of damn sense at all in any way shape or form Like I don't want to bounce around and chit chat with each one of our chat about each one of them with you guys First and foremost the number one thing on this list is
Speaker: is unrealistic and stereotypical portrayals of men and media in the culture.
Speaker: And it says here, you know, tired of seeing dumb and deadbeat dads, sick of every man on TV being a sex obsessed womanizer. So are men. So the men are often seen as incompetent, misogynistic, brutish slobs who only think about sex beer and sports and have a few other redeeming qualities on TV. Say for instance, back in the day, like Al Bundy or, or, or other shows like that.
Speaker: uh, you know, even late, you know, as a like modern family, I don't know if you guys ever watched that, but the, the, um, the main, uh, the main character, um, I can't think of his name, uh, you know, he's kinda portrayed as a bumbling, oh, you know, type of deal. However, on the other end of the spectrum, uh, is the superhero. Uh,
Speaker: The man who is financially successful in perfect shape, rich, handsome, brilliant, and athletic. The gold standard is almost impossible.
Speaker: to to reach and and and it goes on to say here in this in this article, the two extremes are but two of the false choice manhoods. Society constantly asked men to choose between being sensitive minis or hyper aggressive bullies, financial providers for their families or absent followers. Man of the house or pussy wound. So, you know, it's like it's a double edged sword. Yeah.
Speaker: as far as, as far as, you know, the media or culture portrays us. And it's something that I'm often, you know, because I know like, you know, women will say, you know, there's such, such high duty standards or whatever, because on social media. So this podcast is, is one huge stereotype. Pretty much. But,
Speaker: But either way, I mean, once once a complete polar opposite just being super negative or there's just the for the average person, it's just completely unattainable. I'm not going to fucking ever look like Henry Koval as Superman. Not at my age now, not unless I start shooting up.
Speaker: roids and everything else I think what at least for I mean we'll say the the superhero you know the the male protagonist that you often see is yes it's it's I agree it's obviously unattainable it's something that no average joe is just going to be
Speaker: But I think that what it does do that I know this isn't necessarily maybe the route that we wanted to talk about, but is is it provides us with a standard of something to look up to and to push towards and to be more like I know that I mean, when you're when I was a kid, I mean, I always.
Speaker: I love Batman, right? Because Batman is this rich, multi billionaire who goes out and fights crime and he does the right thing as best he can. He tries not to kill people, fucking whatever. But like it's not that we're ever going to attain being that philanthropist that goes out and kicks the shit out of bad guys, but it is for yourself. Be it is.
Speaker: It is something to strive to be more like and doing the right thing and showing them that that's what you should be trying to be more alike. I would say that it's, yes, it's unattainable, but it's something to move towards and something to be more alike. I can't think of the goddamn word I'm trying to say, but I'm high, so I can't really change that. Nice. We have a strict zero tolerance on drugs here.
Speaker: Well, sorry, guys, it's been it's been hot. Connor's going to be dealt with after the show by the champ. It's all the standard 50 states agree with. Well, I guess for some women, that was sexy because he was rich and good looking in another any other place who would be an episode of cops. Yeah. Yeah. No shit. Like when that book became huge again, like.
Speaker: The one chick I was dating at the time, she's like, you ever hear of Fifty Shades of Grey? I'm like, oh, the book, they can't shut the fuck up about. Yeah, but it goes on to say with with this with this, like first, this first, like, you know, standard or whatever you want to call it. And they repeat this a lot in this article. And this article is actually really good. And it is. And so the man box begins. It's basically the man box is the way in which being being a man
Speaker: uh, as told to us by media or the culture or, you know, whatever the case may be, uh, you know, being a man is acceptable by our culture, um, our narrow and limiting. So you, you, you can, you're, you're labeled either this type of person, man, or you're this type, you know, you, there's, there's really no in between, you know,
Speaker: And it says, it says, you know, where the portrayals of the many men who are complex, kind, communicative, and nurturing, the men who are able to be both warriors and poets as needed, able to love deeply and for long -term with multiple, or multiple, multiple, multi -dimensions, Jesus words are, dimensional abilities, about a whole host of things. So, you know,
Speaker: When you have that perfect combination, that's kind of not really pushed or promoted, so to say, is what they're saying in this article. You're either gonna be that big dumb oaf or the Bruce Wayne, so to say. Right, yeah, and that's 100 % true. What you're saying, not the portrayal that we get, there's no middle ground. They don't highlight what the,
Speaker: the terminology that I like to use. They don't highlight the everyday Joe. They don't highlight the dads who work their ass off and don't get the credit they deserve and don't do anything super special, but they're busting their behind. And they, like you said, they're either the comic relief and the way that they're the comic relief is by making them look like idiots.
Speaker: And that's a big problem that I've personally always had with, with the way media portrays men. There, there was a thing, God, I don't know how many years ago about, uh, some dude out with his, with his wife and his wife's like, I'll order the food because you can never figure it out. It's like, why, why is the man always the husband in particular? It's usually the husband or the boyfriend always portrayed as this fucking idiot who can't figure it out.
Speaker: Yeah, you can't think for, you know, it's either, and then if you, and then on the flip side of the coin, when you do try to, and I'm not saying this happens all the time, but we're talking about the media and the culture, but when you do try to be assertive and be in control, then you're deemed sexist, misogynist, you know,
Speaker: you know, this, that, or the other thing. It's like, well, what do you, what do you, what do you want here? You get on me because I'm a big dumb O and then you get on me when I'm the way you say you want it to be. And I agree. Hallmark, Hallmark movies and books, men are the facet of everything. It's all strong men who are poets who know the right thing to say and over the top, apologies.
Speaker: Yeah. I mean, look at where we've come from, from like you guys were saying about, uh, married with children, but even look back in like the seventies when you had shows like little house on the prairie and Charles Ingalls, you know, he was the typical dad back in the seventies where, you know, he was wise and all that. And then all of a sudden now to where modern family or
Speaker: uh, Malcolm in the middle, you know, the dad was portrayed as kind of an idiot or a square, you know, it's granted not all dads are fun and all that, but at the same time, it's, it's so stupid seeing what they're trying to portray a male role is nowadays. Yeah. I know that. And I used to run, run into this with my wife. I'm sorry. I didn't mean to click on that, but no, you're good. Um,
Speaker: I know that for me, it used to be an issue that I discussed with my wife every now and then, but she's gotten way better about doing it. I don't know if it's been just a social norm or something that picked up, but there's this thing with parents and the mother saying, oh, I've got four kids that I take care of when they've got three and they include their husband as a child. And I always fucking hated that. I was like, listen, I'm not your fucking child.
Speaker: I'm I I provide for this fucking household. I clean I I do a lot of stuff for this family I'm not you don't have to babysit So don't go around telling other people that and there was and I hear it all the time even still now Is this oh, I've got a babysit my man because without me he's he's nothing and everyone loves to say or every not trying to
Speaker: say this in a negative way, but all the women loved, you know, I'm I'm a strong, independent woman. And then they talk to their man like they're a fucking baby, like they're a kid, like they can't take care of themselves. And that's just not true. And I always just that shit. But, you know, you you you can't you can't turn around and say I'm a strongly independent man because, well, you're sexist. Yeah, exactly. You you treat women poorly. No, I'm self made. Well, I love Tim the tool man.
Speaker: Yeah, but Tim The Toolman did a lot of that shit on his own where he was looked at as an idiot. And that's the other thing, like Mandy just said, you know, you get on social media, and I've said this a million times, social media is the goddamn downfall of our society at the end of the day.
Speaker: Yeah. And I say that as a guy that, you know, I use it a lot, especially for the podcast at the end of the day. Right. But, uh, you know, you, you, you see, and there's the whatever podcast and, and, uh, I know a lot of people don't care for it. A lot of people love the show. A lot of people don't like it, but you know, they make valid points on it. And to what maybe you said, you know, yeah, women still want guys who are going to open doors and stuff like that and pay the bill or, or, you know, whatever the case may be show where you and whatnot.
Speaker: But you also have these same women that are going all over TikTok and saying, I can do it myself. I can open my own doors. I can pay for my own bills. But then then you want to go on on your TikTok to be like, oh, I went out on a date last night and the guy didn't open the door. And the guy made me pay my, you know, made me split the bill and everything. That was because he seen your social media, you goofy ass. Yep. You know, you you want to pop your chest out, pound your chest. Well, amen, shy. Amen. You provide the dozens of phenomenal movie.
Speaker: Yeah, it is. Unfortunately, and again, this article says a lot, the man box. We're put in this box as men, and it's how we're viewed by society. And I understand that this is probably going to rub some people the wrong way this episode, and that's fine. It's meant to rub people the wrong way. And if it does rub you the wrong way, I dare say you might be part of the problem.
Speaker: You know, it moves on to the next point. The next point here is relationships, relationships of all kinds. When people think of men in relationships, the first thing that often comes to mind and I'm not, you know, and I'm not saying that every woman is like this or every person on the planet is like this article, but they're not saying that. It's just, it's the cold, hard truth.
Speaker: Yeah, I'm not gonna highlight that comment Mandy, but I agree with you. Yes, exactly. Yeah, definitely. When people think of men in relationships, the first thing that often comes to mind is sexual relationships. But the truth is men are just as interested in and committed to a host of other kinds of relationships, much like male friendships. Fathers and their sons and daughters, sons and their fathers,
Speaker: and mothers, familial relationships of all kinds. Long -term committed relationships between loving partners, platonic friendships, work relationships, online relationships. This show, this quote unquote network, the nonsensical network is the definition of online friendships because whether you pick any one of the shows, we're all from different areas. I'm in Ohio, Jarvis is in Minnesota, Connor's in Indiana,
Speaker: Jeff's in Cancun, talking shit's down in Florida. Leggy's out in Scotland, sorry, Leggy. Scotland. You know, Brian's out in Texas, and we all have a friendship, and it's a form of a relationship, and it's an online relationship. You know, outside of Jeff and I and Connor and I, I haven't met anybody in real life. You know, Connor and I used to work together once upon a time,
Speaker: And Jeff and I have known each other since we were fucking 15. But meeting new people, friendships between gay and straight men that go beyond stereotypes, you know, yes, it is fine for a straight man to have gay friends. I have lots. I have two of them that kind of kidnapped me away from Nikki. I've got lots of straight friends.
Speaker: you know to piggyback off that with the whole friendships with other men or other women at the end of the day that's the thing that usually gets me when they put that in a thing about well you have to be friends with gay people or something you're telling me man it's just like at the end of the day we really don't care if they're gay straight or whatever you know to us
Speaker: their people. Yeah, we we joke about it on the on the podcast. We've done it many times or at least I know Doc and I talked about it. But guys have this weird thing that we'll do is it's it's the it's the gay chicken game. And I couldn't even
Speaker: I couldn't even start to explain why, why it happens or why we, why we say stupid things like that. Hang on, buddy. Why we say stupid stuff like that and do stupid stuff like we do. But there, there's, there's a point where you find out they really are. And the thing is that's happened to with me for a couple of my friends and we just don't give them rats rear end. Yeah. It's, it goes beyond just what you're,
Speaker: Opinions are in your sexuality and whatever it we're more complex than then your stupid little shows depict us Whether no matter what you know social media Says or or anything like that to kind of piggyback what you just said Connor, you know Social media is gonna and this is across the board of social media. They're going to stereotype everybody So, you know, it's not just minutes. It's it's it's it's everybody and that's what social media does or
Speaker: or television or whatever, you know, we all end up at the end of the day, kind of in our own box in a way, you know, if we go based off of stereotypes and social media and everything else like that. But, you know, it goes on to continue about relationships. It said men love their children with whole hearts and soul and make conscious decisions to love differently than their own parents, which I can say that for me personally, I made myself a promise before.
Speaker: I was, I was still a teenager. And I said, if I ever become a dad, if I ever become a parent, I'm never going to do the things that my parents did. I will never put, make my kids feel the way that, that I felt or be in the situations that I was in growing up, that my parents, that were my parents' fault at the end of the day. Hey, Jake. That's what I was saying. That's a hundred percent true, Jake. But what social media highlights, all of the worst features of every person.
Speaker: And men get the poop end of the stick a lot of the time. Not that the women movement is bad, but the way that it portrays men as evil and just in it for the
Speaker: intimate moments sorry my kids here uh just being in it for the intimate moments and not really doing the right thing is is just completely wrong and i think that it highlights the the small portion of men that are that way and it makes the rest of men kind of look like a -holes yeah yeah but um well that's like one thing i didn't like about two and a half men
Speaker: is yeah, you had you had Charlie, who was the daughter, the fucking asshole. And then you had Alan, who was made to look like a bitch. Yeah. And it was just like really like I give it to I'm not a dad yet. Me and my wife are trying. But at the same time, like I give it to the like, there's so many people I've told Connor and I told Glick, like,
Speaker: They are like the people that I want to thank for being such gold role models for their kids because it's like, that's one thing that I never had growing up with my father leaving and abandoned me at such a young age. I never really had that. Like, yeah, my brother's dad took me in and all that, but at the same time, it wasn't like the same for me. And.
Speaker: Like I've told Connor and I've told, uh, Glick and I've told a few other people on the podcast, like in private that, you know, I just hope I can be that dad where my kids one day say, you know, Hey, you know, I saw my dad cry or I saw my dad, you know, be open with us about certain things that are going to be happening to us in life. You know, having mental health issues is okay. It's not that it's going to define us for the rest of the day. And I think.
Speaker: with the way my dad was born back in the fifties, you couldn't show a lot of that emotion. And so it made you look like you were in fear. There's a, I think it was Glicker Connor one time had shown us a clip from Modern Family, where Ed O 'Neill's character had pretty much said, you know, hey, he was supposed to be the tough guy and that he loved his father, but yet he wasn't supposed to cry at his own funeral.
Speaker: Yeah, I will say that one of the shows that and he's been very his personal life on the side definitely doesn't do him any credit for the show, but the the show that I think highlights how how the normal everyday dad really is and some of the more redeeming qualities of men was the Cosby Show.
Speaker: He was known as America's father for a reason because it really highlighted how to be a good dad. You know, we won't talk about the fact that he was a serial, you know, my kids are around. So I was trying not to say, but we also, we can't say the hard R words. So we say great. It's great. Yeah. It'll bump us into a no, no category. Yeah. It was a show that.
Speaker: You know, he was able to be funny. He did. He was the oath. Sometimes he was the, Oh, let's woo hoo guys. Sometimes. And then he was a dad and he went to work and he showed his kids how to live. And again, you know, forget his personal life. That was, in my opinion, one of the shows that far and away depicted the way that most, most men and most fathers should and do act and kind of excluded that small portion that always gets highlighted in today's media.
Speaker: And there were a lot of great TV dads, Bob Saget and Full House. Yeah. You have the Waltons. The dad from Family Matters. Carl. Yeah, Carl. Carl. You know, Uncle Phil from Fresh Prince. Oh, he's a good one. Oh, that's him. Tim Allen. And to bring up Tim Allen again. Yep. You know, and you know,
Speaker: And he played a dad in multiple shows John Ritter and a simple rules Yeah with he did that that I love that show, you know, there was a there's Alan thick you know you know, there's a lot of great TV dads in history, but you know and really I Think I said Robin think I met Alan thick
Speaker: I don't know his name. I don't know his name, all I know is he fits. The singer that's saying blurred lines, he's a great father, you know? Yeah, a lot of great TV dads out there. I mean, even even even guys that didn't necessarily play good guys, you know, Tony Soprano, not necessarily a good guy, but man, you fuck with one of his kids. You know, it was and he tried to teach his kids.
Speaker: You know how to be as honest and good as you possibly could when you're in a mob family. But as far as the relationship goes, it kind of closes out. My bad. Wrong thing. But all those relationships for men are part of the psyche of today's men, our man, and all our relationships that should be celebrated by our social society and our culture.
Speaker: because after all a loving relationship with any other human being is a sign of strength. The fact that you can that you can a build a relationship a good solid committed relationship with your partner or a solid foundation in a relationship with your kids or or in your friendship group you know
Speaker: No matter how dysfunctional your friendship group may be. And yes, I'm talking to you assholes here, the nonsensical network and all of our friends. I don't know what you're talking about. We are very dysfunctional, but at the end of the day, I think we all have, we all have one thing in common and we all have love for each other. And we're, you know, always there for each other, no matter what.
Speaker: So a sign of a good relationship, no matter what it is, ultimately is a good sign of strength. And it's showing that there's more to the male brain than what society or social media wants to depict. Well, yeah. It was so interesting to see the
Speaker: dad roll in like the Waltons or Little House or even Gunsmoke. I think it was Gunsmoke with the cart, right? Um, you know, they always tried to teach their kids, you know, how to be a good person, but at the same time, well, in Gunsmoke being a Western, you know, they, they always had to have the, you know, town bad guy trying fuck with them.
Speaker: Exactly. You always got to have back it. Rescue Me was another good show. Mm hmm. Couple more here, but I. Yeah, I read some of that list and I was just like, what the fuck is this person on? Well, I was open. Bonanza, thank you.
Speaker: Connor kind of stepped away, but this next one, I think Connor might have a lot to say on it. I know, I mean, I know I do as well. No, I lost it. There it is. Excuse me. Excuse me. The disposability of men and boys. Men have historically been the first to war, the first into a burning building and the last to exit a sinking ship.
Speaker: Men are seen as the champions of the economic progress and the ones who are there to put into place the infrastructure that drives our transportation and communication systems. But there are hidden costs. Every year, thousands of men die in the coal mines, railroads, sewers, satellite towers, and other dangerous workplaces that are too often taken for granted. Did you just step on a dragon?
Speaker: Maybe Which I agree with 100 % I mean this is this is this has been going on for years, you know and and I hate to say it but I agree there should be a quality and everything like that, but You don't get to pick and choose where things are equal. It's either equal across the board Or it's not equal at all at the end of the day. You don't get to you don't get to
Speaker: It's isn't an all -you -can -eat buffet where you just go and pick and choose what you do and don't want you don't get all the benefits Without fucking taking the risk, you know at the end of the day, you know I don't I don't get to go sign up for a 5k and And and at the start of it jump in a golf cart and drive a golf cart to the finish line and get the fucking trophy So
Speaker: What since you know, I'm sorry if I'm on a second shit I was taking ship a the quality remember Yeah, I'm getting on that boat with you Hey, this big fuckers sink and I ain't staying on it There's plenty of room for both of us. Yeah move over Rose yeah, you know and for so long with the with the draft and I was gonna that's why I wanted Connor to be here because I know I
Speaker: There's not a draft right now or anything like that. But if there is a draft, I don't know. I don't believe, from my understanding, women have to, you know, like when I turned 18, I had to sign up for the draft. Same here. I don't believe women have to sign up for the draft. I could be wrong. I was going to ask Carter because he's most recent in the military. He might have a little bit more knowledge on that than I do, but my 18th birthday, one of the first things I had to do was go sign up for the draft. Uh, just in case there was ever a draft, I win.
Speaker: You want equality, but you only want equality when it benefits you. Yeah. Well, I mean, that's what anyone nowadays. Well, yeah, that's, that's 100 % across the board. But, but yeah, I mean, if you look at it and, and, and, and, and don't get me wrong. I mean, if I was working in a coal mine and there was a woman down there, it's just like, if I was looking next to me at the guy beside me, as long as he was capable of doing the job, then let's go.
Speaker: Same thing with a woman. If you're capable of doing the job, then let's rock and roll. You know, if we're in the military together and you're capable of doing what I'm doing, let's fucking rock and roll. However, I mean, you know, God love her, but I don't think if if I get shot down, Nikki's picking my big ass up and carrying me out to jungle any time. She's finishing the job, let's be honest. Yeah, let's be honest.
Speaker: Hey, what happens in the jungle stays in the jungle. Exactly. Uh, so, okay. So again, again, they can choose guys. Don't get the, don't as men, we don't get the choice. We, it's something that we have to do on our 18th birthday. Yep. Sign up for the draft. Um, exactly. And I, and I have, I have friends of mine that, that work in the, in the construction business that work and in the oil business shy. And some of them.
Speaker: They put them into shape. A friend of mine from high school, we've been friends, Jesus Christ in seventh grade. She used to be a prison guard in a man's prison. And I felt bad for the prisoners that were in there if they would have crossed her. Did she walk tall in that prison? She walked tall. No, she just handled her up. But yeah, it's that thing.
Speaker: We are, as men, we are so easily, you know, just tossed away at the end of the day, unfortunately. And it's called space, space, you know, first one, you know, first to go in war, you know, we have the dangerous jobs. We, we were, you know, like I said, with the sinking ship analogy within children first. And then if we have lifeboats, you know, you know,
Speaker: Maybe you can, maybe you're, maybe you can survive. I'm on the Titanic and I'm sitting there looking at Jack going, Hey, I feel you, bro. I guess we're both dying. There's plenty of room for you on that door. I see that you shouldn't snatch your ass in and said it quality. It's all equal, right? Cameron should have kept his mouth shut about that movie and big ups to the women who are in male dominant jobs.
Speaker: and doing a good job and proving themselves, you know, because I hate to break it to you, but I've been in construction pretty much most of my life and every new job I walk onto or new job, job site I walked onto, I still have to prove myself to the guys that have been there. So it's not like you're any different because, you know, um, you still got to prove yourself. You got to prove your work. Um,
Speaker: And it goes on, it says, from the invisibility of boys who are being, here's a kick in the nuts for you. And I know this from a few other things that I've looked up and read about the situation. When we hear about sex trafficking, when we hear about keep your daughter safe, keep your daughter safe, keep your daughter, nobody ever reports to tell you how many boys are being sex trafficked these days.
Speaker: how our boys are in just as much danger and just as much risk of being trafficked. Trafficked. And we have to make sure our sons are mindful of situations and their surroundings and stuff like that. But as I said, from the invisibility of boys who are being sex trafficked to men who are being exploited as cheap manual labor,
Speaker: there is something in our collective consciousness that treats men and boys as disposable. So again, like I said, it's just, it's like, where is the outrage and where is the, the, uh, hooten and holler and the, and the, and the parades and stuff like that. And, and, and, and the outcry for something that happens to women, but also happens to men or girls and boys.
Speaker: Even the world of sports and entertainment, this is true. Showcase someone as a hero, but when they get kissed, catastrophically injured, there's always someone next in line. Brett Farr, or say for instance, Brett Farr, using a football analogy, Brett Farr got a little older, wasn't quite up to Brett Farr.
Speaker: He still had a couple extra good years left in India, and he proved that. Oh, nine, baby. And they just crossed him to the side for Aaron Rodgers. You know, Aaron Rodgers starts to slip a little bit and kind of cream bay. You really are some assholes, by the way, you know, and then they, they go, well, we're going to start talking with Aaron Rodgers and trying to make him our puppet and Aaron Rodgers is not going to happen. So they.
Speaker: brush them away and here comes in Jordan Love. So it's like, it's one of the things that what we think is progress often comes with an enormous price tag for men and boys. A clear example of this in the ship breaking yards of, should it call them cruise ships, ocean liners and freighters get pulled up on a beach and the most impoverished men and boys in the surrounding community
Speaker: break them down with mallets and bats. This is where ships go to die. And men and boys do too. So I mean, you're literally just here's a fucking mallet and effect. We're just manual ship. Like I got to go guys. Sorry. I got to handle some stuff. All good. All right, Connor. Um, I mean, look at what's going on now.
Speaker: with the big, whole Nickelodeon thing. You know, they were talking so much about Amanda Bynes and a lot of women, but, uh, Josh Drake belt, Drake belt. Thank you. He comes out and pretty much says, you know, he was always sent to this abuser of his. And now he's finally being able to tell a story for so long. He was known as John Doe because of, you know, look, look what, look what.
Speaker: Look what they've done to Corey Feldman. Hollywood has made Corey Feldman look like a fucking crazy lunatic. And he has been talking about what happened to him and Corey. Corey Haynes. You know, what happened to him and Corey in the 80s and so many other males. I mean, Terry Crews came out and spoke about what happened to him. And it literally was a headline for like like 30 seconds. Yeah.
Speaker: And then it went away and I was actually just going to touch on that. It says men and boys are also invisible victims of rape and sexual assault. Uh, there is no clear language, few outlet for them to talk about it and, and often society driven reluctance for them to come forward. Well, not only. I understand that, you know, victims of essay or, or, or great when it comes to women, you know, a lot of them,
Speaker: won't come forward because they're embarrassed or they're ashamed or they're scared. And we live in a society today that is proof in the fucking pudding. In America, it used to be innocent until proven guilty.
Speaker: Now you're guilty and still proven innocent. And then you're still guilty. You're still proven guilty. Um, there's so many faith accusations out there. And then on top of it, you know, not only are men not coming out about it because it gets swept under the rug. It doesn't get talked about. Uh, nothing gets done about it, but then on top of it, you have women coming out making fake or false accusations.
Speaker: and not being held accountable for. How many times is, has it happened recently where there's been false accusations and stuff like that? And this guy has been dragged through the mud for the last three years and the woman or the women who did it just walk away like nothing happened. Well, exactly.
Speaker: I mean, even when it doesn't come down to sexual assault, you know, men getting abused. I mean, I'm, I'm, I'm one of those statistics rather. I like to say it or not. You know, I'm a statistic of my mom was abusive to me and my brother and you try and go for help. But, you know, like we said on the trauma show, the system is broken. The system is not created equal for everyone. I'll, I'll fight anyone on that fucking mountain top.
Speaker: Any day of the goddamn week and 100 % is I mean, um You know and that's the other thing Even not only the not only the great with the sexual assault But you also don't see a lot of men coming out and admitting to being victims of domestic violence Yeah, I had it happen to me. I was I was in a group chat a few years back and and are not a group chat but a conversation and
Speaker: And it was, it was, it was the topic of DV. And, you know, I said, you know, I kind of went through it myself and, uh, I was like, it was not that big a deal. You know, for me, it's not that big a deal mentally and physically. I was with a woman or a couple of different women that like to put, put hands on, on me. And I, you know, being me, I, you know, I never did anything back, but I had several women in there and go, Oh yeah. Like, look at you. Like, who's gonna, who's gonna.
Speaker: Who's going to hit you? Well, really, because I'm going to tell you what, right now, I'd be willing to bet that you same ladies that are saying this are the ones that are hitting your men or mentally fought them, which is a sign of domestic violence. Yeah, I was about to say it's most time it's not. Also, I'm not going to completely, you know, because it's a lot easier for me to walk away from that situation than it is for women. I understand that. Trust me. You know, I've seen it a lot in my life.
Speaker: Uh, you know, it's, it's, it's a lot easier for a man to walk away from the situation in some aspects, you know, physically and my bigger and stronger, and I can pack up and leave and, you know, but then you got to deal with the potential of stocking and, and, and everything else. But, um, at the end of the day, it's like, it's, it's almost, it's almost a mockery. If you come out as a man and say, yeah, I was in a, in an abusive relationship. Well, that sounds like your fault. Why didn't you fight back?
Speaker: Because the cops in the same situation, you know, you know what happens if Nikki Punches me in the face and I smack her and I smack her I go to jail and she doesn't The cops say you should have called black so you guys can show up and leave Or take me to jail because I'm the man and I'm quote unquote the aggressor even though I was the one that was attacked Yeah, my fucking time. Oh, no, it's my time and energy
Speaker: Well, and that's the thing, you know, at the same token, like you were saying, you know, everyone out there wants to say, Oh, well, you know, like you said, you know, they look at Glick size and it's like, well, you could easily walked away. The mind fuck is the worst part of all that shit. It's the mind fuck. Because like he said, she can put hands on us, but we put hands on them. Most of the time we're hauled off to fucking jail or we're told, Hey, you know, I can take your kids away from you. Yeah.
Speaker: And that's why I always was afraid to be a dad. Granted, I always want to be a dad, but at the same time, I'm glad that I've actually found the woman that's not going to be using, hopefully using that mind fuck on me because the worst thing you can ever do to a man, you can stab him, you can cut him up, you can say what you want, but you take that man's kids away from him for doing nothing wrong and you will find a broken man. I mean, I seen it.
Speaker: Well, and not that I don't need anybody to come and give me a fucking cookie or a trophy or an atta boy or a high five or anything else, but I, you know, I fought for my, I didn't, I didn't like fight like some guys did, but I didn't give up on my kids. I, you know, and I'm fortunate that my ex -wife and I, we don't necessarily, we don't hate each other. There's no fighting between us and whatnot.
Speaker: So I'm in the situation that I'm in, which I'm thankful for. And I, you know, my kids have been with me for almost two years now, but I wasn't going to let anybody ever say to me, you could have been, you know, you could have done this, you could have done that. You could have whatever, because I walked away from everything. I had a great job, great money, you know, living in a beautiful location and an amazing house to make and started all over again, because I didn't want to, I didn't want to be away from my kids.
Speaker: And the ultimate reward at the end of the day was, oh, they're with me. Uh, you know, all the time, I guess it's a reward. Like one, but I guess it is. They live with me. Um, you know, and, and I didn't ever have to worry about their mom going, I'll take them from you because look, I'm not that dad that you're going to just be like, you know, try to play games with me.
Speaker: And she knows that and so I'm grateful for that not having that situation But I have seen I have friends who who have given given up everything and spent every dollar they have to fight for their kids Just to get fucked by the system Just to get royally fucked by the system because the mom just because she could was like, yeah now Now I'm gonna make things I'm not gonna make your life a living now
Speaker: And in all honesty, I have a very good friend of mine. His baby mama wasn't nothing but a, a wound donor at the end of the day, worthless fucking pile of shit. And it costs him thousands and thousands of dollars to get custody of his, of his daughter, a friend of mine from high school. Um, he came up his military career and everything to fight.
Speaker: And it almost put him, it almost put him in the fucking poor house. Now he's got custody of his daughter. He owns his own company. He's doing pretty good. But that was a fight that he was going to take. And we don't do it because we want credit. Like I don't, I don't need anything. I just look, you want to be there for your kid. You know, my kids are the, are the, are the most important things in my life. So, you know, the money I can make again, I'll also have again, you know, I'll be back down South some someday, you know, like I'm not, I got,
Speaker: I got like eight years left on my, on my Ohio prison. And Nicki and I have already talked about it. You know, once, once my youngest one has graduated and he's figured out what he's doing and he's good. We're, we're, we're going, we're going to go back down south. Yeah. We'll figure out what we're going to do once we get there at the end of the day, but it's just, you know, men as creatures, we, we are.
Speaker: could so easily be tossed out with yesterday's news and forgotten about and and and it's you know a lot of people don't believe that we can go through the struggles and have the and have the same things that happen to women you know happen to us and at the same time we're getting one side screaming in our ear wanting equality but you only want equality when it benefits you and then the other side screaming in our ear how terrible and worthless and
Speaker: you were monsters, you know what I mean? Oh, yeah, I mean, my mom tried for so long to paint my brother's dad, my adoptive dad as a bad guy. You know, well, he drinks, he smokes. But I mean, he had the thing of the coin was my dad has quit drinking
Speaker: Three times quit smoking three times in his life. Thank god the last time and I wanted to talk more about it last thursday But so many others had such great powerful stories. That was kind of like it can wait, you know and Thank god. I still have my dad and like I told my dad i'm like, you know that bullshit My mom was trying to spend I never believed it Because it's like the guy was trying his absolute fucking best to just provide for our family and my mom was going out there
Speaker: just fucking bad mouthing them while they were still married and shit. And just, yeah, it, it was a shit show. And like, I told my dad, I'm like, I understand why he fucking was an alcoholic for so long, but at the same time, like I told him, I'm like, you know, you're still a great dad. Yeah. Greatest dad I could have ever had. That's the thing, you know, as kids, you know, as kids, we don't know anybody.
Speaker: And or our dad because I know dad's in her out there that that will fucking straight up and and I try very hard not to Say anything bad or negative in front of my kids, you know about my ex -wife and you know, even when she pisses me I try real hard, you know, and I'm sure and I know she does the same but it happens I Feel like she might talk a little bit more shit about me then and then I do but that's okay in the past I don't know about now, but oh It's okay because again
Speaker: You know, I had two parents who hated each other and used my broaster, sorry. Sorry, Nick, if you're still out there in the world. Well, I know he's still out there in the world. He was in here earlier. My broaster, he used to be my sister. Now he's my broaster. You know, they used us as pawns in their stupid little fucking game to one up each other or get back at each other or to hurt each other.
Speaker: you know, and I know like pops won't admit to it. And if mom was still around, she wouldn't fucking admit to it, but it is what it is because at the end of the day, as kids, eventually we grow up and we can look back on it and go, you know, mom said some crazy shit or dad said some crazy shit. And now that I'm looking back on it, I realized that the actual problem wasn't just dad or wasn't just mom.
Speaker: It was both of them or vice versa, you know, like, you know, it could just be a dad or it could just be a mom. But as they grow older and they, and they, they start to have a mind of their own and start to think for themselves and especially once they become adults and they're out in the real world and they can look back on things, then the truth is going to come out at the end of the day. And, and, and yeah, those first 18, 19, 20,
Speaker: 25 years, 30, until they figure it out, they won't be held for that other parent. Once they figure it out and they go, oh, you know what? Dad said some crazy shit about mom or mom said some crazy shit about dad. And now that I'm looking back on it, it was all fucking bullshit. You know, like even myself, you know, I go, not everything mom said about dad was true, but not everything dad said about mom was true.
Speaker: But they definitely they definitely had their faults and they definitely did one hell of a job You know fucking my my broster and I up and even my older sister, you know, she went through the same thing and it was just like Wow, you know with my dad and and her mom so it's like, you know It's one of those things you
Speaker: you eventually grow up and, and, and, and as they say, you know, what's done in the dark comes, comes out in the light. So, you know, eventually once we, we hit a certain age and we grow up and, and whatnot, we can, we can see things for ourselves and make those decisions. It's funny. We're talking about parenting because the next topic on here is parenting stay at home dads and maternity leave. And, and it basically says while times are changing in stereotypes along with them, there are many places where moms are still seen as the default parent.
Speaker: the one who is more natural at the act of parenting and caring for children. Uh, I need to break it to you. There's a lot of moms out there today. Ain't worth a shit when it comes to the nurturing or the parenting or, or being a mom and given the simplest of basic needs, not to mention, you know, going farther into the parenting when it comes to financial support and, and, and, and, and everything like that.
Speaker: But dads are clearly present in the lives of their children, but stay -at -home dads are still all too often seen as slackers or losers when nothing could be further from the truth. So we praise and we uplift in society. We praise and we uplift and
Speaker: And we want to fucking throw ticker tape parades when a woman says she's a stay -at -home mom But when a dad says he's a stay -at -home dad at the end of the day, he's like really why aren't you working? Why don't you get a job? You know, what's wrong with you? He's just sitting at home playing video games all day or Carter's to stay at home dad right now. Not by choice. No You know, unfortunately, he has no choice in the matter but that don't mean that he should be thought of any less of a man or or or
Speaker: told anything differently because all those things that you're praising stay at home moms about, guess what? He's doing that shit. He's, he's making his homework for studies, making sure their clothes are clean and making sure they're clean, making sure they're fed, cleaning the house, doing the house chores and on top of doing the quote unquote honey do list that men are supposed to do. Taking the garbage out, fixing light bulbs, fixing clothes, you know,
Speaker: maintenance around the house. Oh, she wants a she shed in the backyard. Who's got to build it? She's not going to build it. That's how my honey deal is. Well, she said, what the fuck is a goddamn she shed? She wants daisies and cow friends. Sorry, sunflowers and cow friends going on here. But I just took these goddamn kids and then everything in the house. Now I got to go build a fucking she shed.
Speaker: When I first heard that word, I literally looked at my mother and said, what the fuck did you ask me to build you? And she's like a she shed. And I'm like, what? I'm like, it's a fucking shed. There's no gender fucking about it. You know, it's just fucking shed for whenever. Okay. Um, yeah, no, there's ninjas, everything. Yeah, no, exactly. So I mean, and it goes on and it says, uh, they are there for their children.
Speaker: because they want to be a part of their children's lives. And yet men are not supported in learning about the roles of becoming their father in the same way women are. I thought about becoming... Well, no. Because I think we're mostly considered the disciplinarian. And I do that in air quotes because, I mean, women are seen as that now too. Well, not only that, but you also have to look back on old stereotypes. Yeah. And that's where it comes down to.
Speaker: Uh, men are providers. So it is our job to go out and work. And this goes back to like fifties and sixties. You know what I mean? We leave it to beaver type shit on television. Yeah. The mom stayed home and the dad went out and worked and mom took care of the home and the kids and dad worked and made the money and, and, and, and provided the roof over the head, the groceries, the,
Speaker: the, you know, you know, the essential quote unquote, um, in times are changing because, you know, and, and it's great that women are out there and, and, and, and the, and the job force, and they're given the, um, opportunities to make more money to be the breadwinner, you know, um, you know, there's no shame, you know, there's no shame. We're like, you know, fuck.
Speaker: And I know my kids are almost grown, so it'd be super easy, but hey, I let Nikki fuck around and make way more money than I do. And I have the opportunity to stay at home and guess who the fuck is staying at home and cooking and cleaning and building her a seashed and cooking and cleaning and I'll be a goddamn rock star. And I'll still have time to play call of duty and do podcasting and shit. Like I'll be a fucking rock star shit.
Speaker: I mean, I'll be fucking Gordon Ramsey in the goddamn kitchen and Martha Stewart in the rest of the house.
Speaker: Me and my wife had even had this discussion about like when we have kids and like I told her before we even got serious, I'm like at the end of the day, I really didn't give a shit how much money she made. She could make more money than me. Doesn't mean she's better than me, but if I made more money in her, the stereotype of it all is like, Oh, she ain't doing enough. And I always told her, I'm like, Alyssa, you're doing more than half the people in the world do nowadays.
Speaker: And so like, I always told the list, I'm like, if you make more money than me, I'm proud of you because she's went and had more schooling than I did. I mean, fuck everyone, you know, Bragg or talks asked me about my radio stuff. It's like, that's a six month course. My wife has now been to college twice.
Speaker: Once she did it because she thought she was getting the job she wanted. And now she's doing it again because she is getting the job she wants. And I, she wants to start her own business. And I told her many times when there was other people that were telling her, Oh, you know, having your own company, you know, you're a woman, yada, yada. I was the one that was always telling her like, Hey, follow your dream.
Speaker: You know, if you want your own company and you want to be your own boss, I always looked at that as such a positive. I mean, CEO, dollar general. Now, my, my, my mother -in -law may not like me saying this, but my mother -in -law anytime Alyssa's like, yeah, you know, I'm doing this and I'm trying to make my own company. Her mother -in -law is not about it.
Speaker: her mother -in -law or my mother -in -law I should say not not my mom but her mom is like well you know you need to be doing this because you know Steven doesn't do this and it always comes back on to me sad but you know I'm like I've told Alyssa so many times because she's come home and she's like you know I'm a manager at Dollar General but yet
Speaker: She doesn't like that role because, you know, there's so many people that are there that are like, Oh, I can do your job better than you can. And it's like, Alyssa one time said, took out her keys and said, here you go. Do you do my job? And the person's like, well, no, because then I'd get you fired and all that. And it's like, no, because you're a pussy and you couldn't do a better job than my wife can. And at the end of the day, it's, it's a learning experience for her.
Speaker: She's learning how to run a company, run it, or not necessarily run a company, but, you know, run a business to a certain degree, which is good for her if she wants to own her own business one day. You know, yeah, roles are changing. Well, Bob Dylan said it best.
Speaker: he said it best with his song, the times they are a change and, you know, and people, people look at change so negatively sometimes like me, my mother -in -law, when we first, I first started dating her daughter, she asked me, well, what are you doing? I'm like, well, I'm a podcaster, you know, content creator. And she didn't say it to my face, but she told my wife behind my back a couple of times, like, he ain't gonna make any money doing that.
Speaker: And it's like, huh, jokes on you. Look at most of the YouTubers, Twitch people, TikTok, they're making more money than half these people that have a five and dime job or nine to five job. Yeah, no, exactly. And I mean, that's, like I said, you know, times are changing, roles are changing. Uh, it's, it's, it's, it's reversing around. And I wish when my kids were younger, I would have had the opportunity to
Speaker: to be a stay at home dad because I missed out on a lot because I was working 78 and 70, 80 hours a week. I missed out on a lot when they were younger, but I was there for the important things. I made sure I was always around for the important things and stuff like that. But, you know, those are just randomly on a Tuesday going to the beach just because, you know, I missed out on that stuff. I would love to have had that opportunity, but I didn't, you know,
Speaker: Now I try to make up for it now. I made the decision when I moved back to Ohio that I wasn't gonna put my job first. You guys had me for eight hours a day and if I'm off on the weekends, I'm off on the weekends. When I'm not here, I'm not here and I'm not thinking about work. And I've got to be around more and do more things with the kids and still plan on, it's like.
Speaker: I totally forgot to tell you. You have to leave work early on Friday. Uh -oh. I forgot to tell you. What Friday? Next Friday, the fifth. What? It's Austin's pinning ceremony. Oh, yeah. That would've... That's my fault. That's my fault. That's also her fault. I don't know why she's not talking. Maybe she just thinks that... I don't know. Totally. I forgot. Yeah, that's also her fault. She should've told me. Yeah, okay. I need to tell them. Yeah, oh, absolutely. She got six tickets.
Speaker: But no, like I 100 % agree with you on that Glick. You know, um, if not, she said she would give them to granny. I know my wife hates some of the requirements of her job where she's, she's never really had to, since she took on this role as manager, she's yet to have a weekend where she's off, but now because she was able to build her own crew.
Speaker: and get hire her own people into her crew and all that now, hopefully this weekend will be the first weekend. Like I told my wife, you know, I'm very proud of her. I'm happy that, you know, she gets this opportunity to be a manager, but at the same time, like I haven't seen my wife in days and people are like, well, she comes home. It's like, yeah, but then she goes to sleep right away. Yeah. And it's like,
Speaker: I told her I'll never be that person because there's going to be so many things I'm going to miss. Like my dad, my dad love him to death. You know, he, he busted his ass for so many years, but for my very first day at kindergarten for the orientation, he was the one to bring me there. And like people were like, well, why didn't your mom? And I'm like, well, because my mom didn't want to do it. So then my dad had to take off work.
Speaker: bring me there. And it's like, my mom always wondered why I had such a better relationship with my dad. It's like, well, because my dad did things I wanted to do. Like he was there when I played sports. He was there when I fucked up my knee. He had to make the terrible decision of does Steven keep the leg or does he, you know, do we saw that motherfucker off? I'm so glad he didn't listen to one of the doctors because one of the doctors did tell him
Speaker: We got to cut that leg off. And another doctor came up and said, wait, wait, wait, wait, we're going to get you a second opinion. Well, I'm on the fucking. I'm on a fucking bad fucking out of it because thank God for a thing called, you know, getting knocked out by your mind where your mind's like, yeah, you don't need to deal with this right now. Right. One, the only time my brain's ever bailed me out of a situation. I want to finish this up.
Speaker: finishes real quick subject before we go to break here, but it goes on to say that. It doesn't make a whole lot of sense to me, but they threw this in there. It says it starts early. Boys don't play with dolls. And then it goes all the way to the workplace. Men, even men with money and status and privilege, often cannot take paternity leave. Without it being questioned, men also find it enormous difficulties when it comes to
Speaker: Divorce and custody. So fortunately, again, things are changing times changing. You know, there is paternity leave for fathers, um, not maternity leave, but paternity leave with a P, um, for fathers. However, it's still not enough. And again, ladies, big ups to you. You're the one squeezing watermelons, not your who house.
Speaker: Unless you, unless you fucking get a C -section and not that that's any easier, but you know, they get what, six, eight weeks, 10 weeks dependent upon the company. For men, for paternity leave, we're lucky we get one. I know when my oldest daughter was born, I got two weeks. However, you know, I worked for the state, a little bit different. When my son was born, because I was still with the same company when my second daughter was born,
Speaker: Um, sorry, but when I, when my son was born, I wasn't offered anything. I had to use my vacation time. I was only able to take like two or three days off. And then even when I came back to work, I still had my full load of my, you know, my, my route that I had to do. I couldn't, they wouldn't allow me to maneuver it around.
Speaker: a couple weeks or have other people help lighten my load by picking up some of my services so that I could be home earlier to help out around the house. Unfortunately, my ex -mother -in -law, my ex -mother -in -law's wife, not necessarily so much my ex -mother -in -law, but they came down and stayed for
Speaker: a while and helped. And then my parents had come down shortly after my son was born as well. So they were able to help my wife with the girls and stuff like that when I wasn't able to be there. But that is starting to change a little bit. They are starting to, but however, again, when you do put that time in, you do get looked at a little bit differently, not only by your bosses, but by your fellow coworkers.
Speaker: And again, they said when it comes to divorce and custody, when I was in South Carolina, I learned the hard way. As a father, I had next to no fucking rights, none. She could have said and done whatever she wanted, and I didn't have a fucking leg to stand on. Because I found out real quick and in a hurry, I have no rights.
Speaker: Essentially, I have next to no rights no matter what I say what I want my opinion on anything. None of that fucking matter So, you know go through a divorce and go through those custody hearings, yeah, unfortunately We got the short end of the stick no matter where you live Where you're at? There's my personal experience You know even back home in Ohio Thing, you know, it's it's it's a tough road
Speaker: for men who want to be involved in their kids' life and want to be there and want to have the custody and don't want to miss out on things. As we said earlier, as you said Jarvis, if a woman don't want it to happen, it ain't going to fucking happen at the end of the day. That's not true because I don't want you to be a shithead all the time. Yeah, I don't want you to be a shithead all the time. So we're in the same canoe here.
Speaker: We're both rolling in opposite directions, so we're just going in a circle. But to kind of close this last little part out here, the role of active engaged followers should be coveted. I agree. Just like it should be for a mom. That is not going to happen if men are only seen as financial providers who are incapable of nurturing.
Speaker: And unfortunately, that's kind of the role that women are put into the more nurturing role and men are put into the financial provider roles. So until we start having open minds, well, look, men and women can play both. And a lot of times you can play both roles at the same time. You know, a woman is just as capable and anybody who grew up with a single mom, you know, or a single dad for that instance. I mean, my kids are.
Speaker: Not technically single. I'm choosing my words very carefully here. I said not technically single, but you know, my kids are growing up with a single, you know, with a single dad. No, I'm not technically single. Nikki and I are together and we are engaged. And I swear most days my kids like her more than they like me, but
Speaker: Unless it's, unless it's my son, he likes me as long as I'm playing video games and he's kicking my ass. Oh shit. But no, we have to understand that both men and women can both be nurturing and can both be providers for the family. And at the end of the day, Hey, if you, if you, if you're a stay at home husband, fuck the haters you're
Speaker: And and and don't let anybody discredit you because if the rules were reversed, oh my god, she's she's a gold star fucking mom Because she sit and let me be honest. There's a whole mess of you stay at home moms. I don't do fucking shit except watch fucking reality television and and and drink your goofy ass coffees and stuff your face I dated a few
Speaker: I'm not talking about you. I feel personally attacked by that statement. You're not a stay -at -home mom. The other statements might be true but you're not a stay -at -home mom. That's like the other side of the coin with like dating a single parent sometimes. You know I dated a few single moms and
Speaker: Some of the boyfriends, baby daddies were very nice and others were just fucking there to make your life a living hell and to get you out of the way so that they had something to fuck. As a single parent, and I'm speaking in general, parent, man or woman, the dating and I've been there. The dating world is scary because
Speaker: First and foremost, it's not just you. It's your kid. And I've dated single moms. Nikki's a single mom, technically. Her boys are also grown. She did a great job with her boys. She's got two great sons, except for the youngest one, that if he doesn't stop using my card to buy his video games in DoorDash, we're going to have a real problem. Gosh, Nikki.
Speaker: I didn't do it. No, she's got two. She's got two great. Just use daddy Glick's card. Here you go. Yeah, pretty much. Love you, Nikki. We share. Adore Dash, so all of our cards are on and then also. Last year for his birthday, because he's a gamer like we are.
Speaker: I'll call him. I said, I got you. I got you for the ultimate for the year. I got you on the ultimate game pass. And I told Nick you this year for his birthday because his birthday just passed a couple of weeks ago. I said, you know what? I said, I'm going to keep it going from here on out. That'll be like his, his, I'll just pay for it as long as he will. Yeah. And that's, you know, something that I can do for him because I know he's a gamer and he enjoys gaming and it's one less thing he has to worry about.
Speaker: And I know he's for it. So, so my cards on his Xbox, he didn't mean to, but I don't mean I'm not going to give him shit for it. I yelled at him last night. I yelled at him last night. Quit buying your Fortnite bucks, you little shit. No, last night I was, was $31 in goddamn tacos. But, but it is, it is a single parent when you're dating. It's, it's, it's, it's, it's very scary and it's hard because.
Speaker: you don't know where things are going to go. And it's tough to tell your kids, you know, oh, and I'm seeing someone and then it comes down to, you know, things are getting a little, you know, serious, you know, serious. Do I want to introduce my kids? And then you have to run the risk of you introduce your kids to a single mom, introducing her kids to a new man or, and I know Nikki, I mean, we, there was other issues, but even Nikki was,
Speaker: a little bit hesitant at first and her boys are grown. I ran a once on vacation in Italy for the next five years, but the other one, they had a house together that they shared and she was a little bit hesitant for him and I to meet. And I was the same way with my kids. It was like - Yeah, because I didn't know if you were gonna ghost me again. Well, you know what? Still potential. Damn.
Speaker: No, no, no, no, no, no. Damn. But my two previous relationships before I met Nikki, not, you know, not only did I get burned, but my kids got burned. And in all honesty, that hurt worse than the breakup at the end of the day, because, you know, because I was engaged and my kids have gotten close and. You know, when, when it all went to shit and it was all on her part, you know, it hurt that hurt more.
Speaker: because my kids were hurt than the actual breakup. The breakup was like, yeah, well, in all honesty, I should have seen this coming a mile away. Let's be honest. You know, but it hurt more because my kids were attached, you know? And then, and I was hesitant with Nikki because it was like, I can't put my kids through this again. So that makes it very hard for single parents, single mom or single dads.
Speaker: Date not only that but then you also you're running the risk of introducing your kids to a complete stranger And you don't know what they're gonna do to your kids you turn your head for a second, and you don't know what's gonna Well exactly and like I Like I said earlier. I'm I'm not a parent. Yeah, we're working on it, but like I have I know That's all it's been but uh
Speaker: When I got out of high school, I had fallen in love with this girl, gorgeous girl. And she, she told me straight out. She's like, you know, I have this guy who's the baby daddy and he's kind of an asshole. He's going to try and do some shit to break us up. I should have probably took that hint, but when I met the, when I met her child, she was the cutest little girl in the world. And the first thing she said to me was like, Hey, you know,
Speaker: You going to be my new dad? Cause her, the, her father wasn't in the picture. He was one of those guys that says, well, I'm the dad and all that shit. And he, I was told that, you know, he's very abusive to the little girl. And to me, that's a big no -no. Well, Ben with this kid. And one day she came home and said, Hey, you know, um, my dad's, or she came home.
Speaker: And the girl that was her mother, I asked, well, what happened? Why isn't she coming up and, you know, happy, giving me a hug and all that? Well, you know, she didn't want to tell you, and I'm not going to tell you what happened, but something happened. And I was like, no, no, that ain't going to work with me. So I, I, I took her out for ice cream and I'm like, you can tell, you know, because I've gotten to the point where I was considered dad. And I'm like, you can tell your dad what happened.
Speaker: And the little girl just said, well, my daddy hits me and abuses me. And I said, Oh, really? And I didn't know where the guy lived, but I, I, I wasn't very happy. And I said, well, can you show me where dad, your father lives? Yeah. And so I got out and I seen him in the garage and I politely told him, I said, not so many words. I said, if I ever catch you hitting my daughter again, I will break you. Well,
Speaker: The great part about it was, and not to cut Glick off, but the great part about it was he now knew how to get me out of the pitcher. And so he decided that he was going to hit his kid again while I was in the garage at the time. And, um, let's just say that motherfucker didn't walk for a couple of months, but he told his baby mama,
Speaker: that he didn't do any of these things and let her hook line and sinker. I came home one day from work and had the ring in the pocket, was ready to ask her to marry me. And I was told I'm not welcome there anymore. And the worst part about it was that the little girl came up to me and said, well, what are we going to do tomorrow? And I had to tell her like, well, you know, we'll have to look into that.
Speaker: And of course the girl after she broke up with me went back to the piece of shit. They lost the kid. I ran into her parents one day and the parents are like, you know, you can say hi to her. And I seen the little girl that I was helping raise running around, you know, she was probably all of 10 at that point. And I said, you know what? I would love to, but I said, you know what? It hurts too much.
Speaker: the the the
Speaker: Her son was already calling me dad. No, it wasn't later. It wasn't until later on down the road that I was like number 47 in the last few years of dads that came into this poor kid's life. But, you know, I was around the, at that point in time, the longest. So that was the other thing. Not only am I dealing with my kids being crushed and dealing with a breakup.
Speaker: And then he still texted me and he was like, are you still going to be my dad? And it was like, how do I have this conversation? You know what I mean? Like, it was just like, look, dude, I tried to talk to him, you know, as best as I could and kid talking, mom and I are not not together anymore. She has a new man. I was like, but, you know, if you ever need anything, I'll always be around.
Speaker: Yeah, I went the exact opposite because once I was out of the picture, it was just like they had told her that I was a drug addict, that I was never going to make them my family. And when I ran into her grandma that one time and I recently got back in touch with the grandma and the grandma said, well, do you want to talk with her?
Speaker: I can give her your number. And I was just like, she's a teenager now. And it's just like, I just said, well, did. I was like, well, what am I supposed to say? Yeah, right. And the grandma's like, well, Steven, you know, we've always told her that you weren't that guy. You were a very well behaved man and that our daughter had kind of kicked you out because you had
Speaker: defended your little girl. I had a picture in my wallet of this little girl showing to coworkers saying, yeah, this is my daughter. They knew the story about it. And they're just like, man,
Speaker: How can you deal with the way this guy treats her sometimes? And I'm like, trust me. And then finally when I snapped, and I was such an idiot, I drove all the way home after I had done what I did to the guy, just punching my steering wheel while she's watching me do this and just call myself a stupid motherfucker because I knew as soon as I got back, the walking papers.
Speaker: Yeah, no, exactly. I mean, that's, that's kind of the, like I said, I mean, I don't, I imagine Nikki went through the same thing when, when the boys were younger with, you know, the struggles of, of, of dating and, and, and introducing the boys or whatever. It's just, it's, it, it, it, there's no easy way around it at the end of the day. I mean, you're taking a huge risk, a huge risk. And it's one of those, it's one of those catch -22s when it comes to,
Speaker: single parents dating, God, this would be a great full on show. Um, you know, it's, it's, it's one of those risks that it's either a huge reward at the end of the day, or it's a huge fucking fail. There's no in between. There's, there's, there's no, uh, well,
Speaker: on the, well, I mean, depending upon the, depending upon the person that you are, you know, my ex fiance, it's like, well, you get to meet daddy number 75. Oh, my mom was the same way with us kids. But, you know, but ultimately you're, you're taking a huge risk and it's either going to be a huge fail or a huge reward. You know, I, I believe, and I truly feel like my current situation,
Speaker: As far as the kids are, you know, as far as the kids go, it's the, the risk paid off, you know, it's a huge reward. I don't foresee Nikki going anywhere until I'm forced to move to Cancun, but that's because as she was told earlier today, this is a choose your own adventure book. You know, I think that, you know, it,
Speaker: you know, for the kids, you know, it's a huge reward. And it was a situation that she didn't even have to remotely even think about being in because, A, she already did the mom thing. Her boys are grown. She's ready to live her life and do the things that she wants to do now that her boys are grown and they're doing their own thing. And then at the same time, it was like she never had daughters to deal with. Now she's,
Speaker: Now she's got two daughters, two bonus daughters, and a third bonus son. For me, I don't know what I'm doing because her boys are grown. So this is territory for me that is unknown. You don't necessarily need a dad. You guys are grown, and you're doing your own thing.
Speaker: Hey, I'm a part of your life now. Yeah. You know, so it's like I have, you know, neither one of us, we're both kind of in, you know, uncharted territory. You know what I mean? It was like, I'm cool guy. You want to get a beer? You guys are old enough to drink, right? Don't tell your mom. Here you go.
Speaker: is some fruity lemonade drink, but no, like there's many, we're just both very happy and excited for Christopher because he's finally getting his big boy taste buds and he's no longer ordering off the kid's menu at 23. Like, like I said, and I know there's going to be people out there like, well, Steven, you know, these, uh,
Speaker: little girl's grandparents are reaching out to you. It's like, what are you going to say though? Yeah. What do you, what do you do now? Yeah. All this time has passed. What's done is done. I mean, you know, it would be like, you know, um, uh, you know, uh, 10 years down the road, uh, my, uh, you know, my ex fiance's son reaches out to me like,
Speaker: What do you want me to be like, what am I supposed to do, dude? Like, you're you're a grown man now. Like, why are you even like, I don't know where to take this or, you know. You know, or my ex girlfriend, her when we were dating her, her son was 14. Like, all of a sudden, I blew 10 years down the road. He's like, yo, what up, man? I'm like, bro, you're like 34 now. What's going on? Yeah.
Speaker: Like I didn't know you was six months or five months or whatever but you know like You know, we're I don't know if Vicki ever did it any other single dads or anything like that Yeah, so yeah, she never did any what I'm gonna buckle so yeah, it's like I
Speaker: I don't think you did the wrong thing. I don't think you're doing the wrong thing. It's just I couldn't do anything. I was pushed out because I stood up for a girl that I known her for four years of her life when that piece of shit wouldn't even fucking pay for his own kid. I went out and I got diapers when her mom was crying because the piece of shit was saying that, oh, I'll take you to court and make sure that you and Stephen can't have her.
Speaker: and all that shit, I was there. And then at the same time, like I told my wife about this, I said, now it's like, I can be back in her life, but at the same time, what are you supposed to say when she asks you, where'd you go? You told me you're going to see me that next day and you never showed up. I had my bags packed for a big trip that you, we had planned to do it. Cause I was going to take her to some amusement park with, and people
Speaker: I had permission to do this, you know, as being part of a parenting agreement that we had. And then when it doesn't happen, it's like, but granted, I'm still considered daddy. So, I mean, at that point, you know, she hasn't seen me in so many years, I'm still considered the dad. Yeah, exactly. I mean, that's the unfortunate and down side.
Speaker: So to say at the end of the day, um, but one day, who knows? Maybe I will. But at the same time, like her grandparents took on that role because her mother was she, uh, I dodged a bullet on that one, but I loved your mother. I was ready to make that commitment to her. But at the same time, me being the guy who I was, I should have known that that happiness was going to be yanked away from me.
Speaker: because at the end of the day, I looked at her as my little girl. And when her real father is putting hands on my little girl, you find out that when that little girl is crying to me saying, hey, daddy, my real dad is doing this to me. Why is he doing that? And me being the old school guy, you don't fuck with the kids like that. I mean, you don't.
Speaker: So when I did what I did at the end of the day Yeah, her mother didn't like that. I did it, but it's like hey at least I have the balls to do something Yeah, no exactly and that's one thing that's a mainstay in the world or well certainly in the world But in society and culture is that you know kids are no no kids are off -limits You know you don't you don't fuck around and You don't want to play the game of fuck around and find out when it comes to kids
Speaker: Well, and here's the thing. The first day I met that cocksucker because she waited to meet, make me meet the guy, which I understood. He shook my hand when she wasn't near us and he says, I'll make sure you're out of the picture. He's like, I don't know how I'll do it, but I'll make sure you're out of the picture. And I told him, I said, try your fucking best. And kissed him on the lips and told him accidents happen every day. No.
Speaker: I was trying to be a better person at the time because, but yet again, stupid me. It's called emasculating and putting fear in somebody's. Oh, I just, I told them, I said, take your best shot. And I should have never. Oh, he did. He made it count.
Speaker: No, I had to use his little girl to do it, but I had to use my daughter. I should be able to say that to do it. I mean, that's that's that's the that's the unfortunate downside, man. And that goes back to what we were talking about earlier with the disposability of men. And you stepped up and you stepped in and and and you know,
Speaker: Uh, you know, a lot of, a lot of men and women out there, uh, we'll, we'll step up and, you know, the phrase step parent, step mom, step dad, it kind of comes across a little backhanded. Yeah. You know, uh, but you know, Ma or, you know, I like the phrase bonus mom, bonus dad, bonus kids. I like that. I like that saying because there's no negativeness to it.
Speaker: you know, at the end of the day, you're like, you know, I started dating a man or I started dating a woman and, and, and, or the bonus was, you know, my family grew, you know, I went from having three kids to five kids. Nicky went from having two kids to five kids. It's a bonus. It's a perk sign on bonus. Well, like with my dad, especially if their kids are cool. Yeah.
Speaker: She's got both of her boys are pretty cool. And I mean, my kids are my kids. So obviously they're like with my dad, like with my dad, with my brother's dad.
Speaker: with Brian, who is my brother's dad and who I consider my dad. Once I was told who my real father was, I had to ask Brian, I was like, what am I supposed to call you? And he's like, I'm your fucking dad. You call me dad. He's like, I, Ernie did not do a single damn thing for you. I am your dad. And that's the way little Rebecca looked at me and her grandparents, thank God, have kept that in her memory that, Hey, Steven,
Speaker: Before we took you in and adopted you, Steven was your dad and he still could be your dad, but that's both your choices. That's, you know, that's, that's down the road. I mean, that's, you know, that's a decision you guys make together and the opportunity is there and you do what's best for, for, for both of you. Um, you know, at the end of the day, um, my,
Speaker: Stepmom, I've never called her mom. Um, she's always been Joe, no disrespect, but in, you know, it's just what I call her now. I never met him. So that's not like I could, the, the, the, the woman put me through hell and back. Uh, we've had a lot of our, our own issues. And in my opinion, um, she.
Speaker: When I was younger, I'm older. I can look back at certain things, not everything, because unfortunately there's a lot more bad than good. She never earned the title of mom, in my opinion. I'm not calling some woman who comes into my life just because she comes into my life and my dad marries her mom. But that's me.
Speaker: Maybe some, maybe some kids out there don't want to, you know, don't want to call mom's new boyfriend or dad's new girlfriend mom right away or anything like that. But that's just because they might be, you know, say for instance, mom or dad goes from relationship to relationship to relationship to relationship. You know what I mean? They don't last very long. They're not around very long. You know, whatever the case may be.
Speaker: And they're not, and they've been burnt so many times. And again, this is that thing where you gotta put your kids first, man. And it doesn't matter how old they are or, or anything like that. You, you, you still gotta, you still gotta think about them when you make decisions because the decisions you make, especially when they're younger, when they are kids, you know, the decisions you make back on them, but they affect them. So, you know,
Speaker: Um, for me, like I said, I've never called her mom just because I, at the end of the day, mom or dad's a title you, you, you earn in my, you earn your, it's not just given. I mean, yeah, she's done some good things for me. She's helped me. She's helped me out from time to time, but at the end of the day, almost every time she's done good things or helped me out, it's coming to cost. Yeah. So it's not like, you know, where like my kids could come to me and be like, dad, I need
Speaker: I need $500 to get my car fixed. And I'm like, all right, well, I don't have $500, but I'm going to, I'm going to figure out how to get $500. And I'm going to get you the $500 to get your car fixed. Yeah. But you don't owe me anything in return. It is what it is. Like you got to have your car obviously, you know, unfortunately we live in a world where in order to get to work or get to school or whatever, you have to have some, some form of transportation, uh, you know, or Hey dad, you know,
Speaker: my relationship just went sideways and I found an apartment, but you know, I need $1 ,500 down. I have, I have seven thousand. Take the extra to get you, get you some, you know, a microwave or gross, you know, your first batch of groceries or larger detergent or whatever you need, you know, the essential get you essentials, get you,
Speaker: toilet paper so you can wipe your stanky ass or, you know, whatever you need some towels here, an extra couple hundred. And it's not expecting anything in return. It's at the end of the day, that's my job. I got to make sure you're good, but I'll figure out how to get the money. I mean,
Speaker: my brother's dad has been a godsend for me and my wife i mean he it's never and even when i was a kid it was never that he gave us money but like when me and my wife were um we had run behind because a fucking deer decided they wanted to meet my fucking fender it happens and me i had never hit
Speaker: I've never had that happen before so I immediately just fucking I mean I punched that steering wheel I hit that car kicked a couple of times but luckily insurance didn't ask about that one but uh you know as soon as I see my wife I was like you want to know what my dumbass did and I told her and she's like Steven it happens but me I was beating myself up because it's just like
Speaker: Yeah, but where are we going to get this money? And it's just like, she's like, we'll find a way. And I was like, well, if my stupid ass didn't do this, we wouldn't need to. And, and my dad's like, I had told, talked to with my dad. And he's just like, he, he reached out and he's like, grabbed his checkbook. He's like, how much you need. And my dad's going to hate me if he listens to this podcast for telling that story. Cause my dad never want, wants that. He doesn't want the.
Speaker: uh he wants to know the acknowledgement the praise yeah he doesn't want that he doesn't want the praise that's what you do for your kids man like i i've never like have have my parents helped me out yes twice yep three times three times i've gotten money from my parents maybe four going four five five maybe five six six at most three times from from from from my from my dad and yeah and and and
Speaker: and Joe. Uh, maybe many times I've gotten money from him, but every time I've paid it back and then some, and I got text messages, phone calls, whatever. Hey, hey, it's the 10 that check in the mail. However, I have sisters, nothing against my sisters, especially my baby sister, lover to death.
Speaker: She's from my stepmom's previous marriage. I have three and a half sisters. Jesus Christ. So my broster and I are from my mom and dad's marriage. My older sister's from my dad's first marriage. And then I have two sisters that are from my stepmom's previous marriage.
Speaker: Love them both to death. My baby sister, first and foremost, those are my sisters. Nobody's going to tell me anything differently. Those are my sisters. You know, our parents have been together for over 30 years. I've known my baby sister. She was like, I don't even think she was quite a year old, but they have given them thousands and thousands and thousands upon dollars, not to mention everything else and never once asked for a dime back.
Speaker: But when it comes to me, the, even though I'm looked at as the black sheep of the family, I'm the most reliable. I've always been nothing more than a phone call away. I'm always kind of shit on. And it's just like, you let me two grand and I paid you like five grand back. What sense does that make? Yeah. You know, and I didn't even ask for the two grand. I was getting a car when I, when my wife first left me.
Speaker: I was getting a new car, first brand new car I ever bought. And all I needed was just them to cosign. And they took it upon themselves because I was in South Carolina, they were here. So they were able to do everything electronically. And they took it upon themselves to say, Hey, we want to put two grand down for a down payment. And it wasn't, and I told them it wasn't until after they'd already done, I didn't ask you to do that. I had the money. I was good. Like.
Speaker: but now I'm stuck paying it back. And literally every month on a certain date, I got a phone call and a text message is to check in the mail. You put two grand on your fucking, uh, on your, on your, on your credit card. I wound up paying back like four or five grand. Like they don't make no sense. Like I understand interest at the other thing, but when you're more than paying four times the amount of what you're supposed to everyone,
Speaker: Yeah. Like it doesn't quite add the math ain't math. And at the end of the day, but I paid it. And you know what? I didn't ask for it. Thank you. But you didn't really give me a gift. You got your money. When I came to Ohio and I first moved into my first apartment, I was a little tight on money, um, and whatnot. And, and I did ask them for a long, they gave me extra.
Speaker: And again, I'm more than paid back what was owed. And then they were going to leave state. And I think I would like five or $600. And I were like, you know what? Don't worry about that. And I was like, well, that's awful white of you. Yeah. You know, I got him, you know, I paid on this shit for almost four years. Thank you.
Speaker: Well, that's like my mother -in -law pulled that shit with us where it was like, we never asked for any money for our wedding. But here's the thing, like,
Speaker: her I told my wife this because my wife has found out the better side of the family to ask for money for if we ever need it my side because they're not going to hold it against you they're going to be like yeah don't worry don't
Speaker: You don't have to pay us back, you know, or, you know, if, if anything, just know you're our family, treat us well. And well, then we were down like a thousand short. And I mean, honestly, if my wife would have waited a couple of more days, I would have had it. And so, and she's like, well, Steven, you know, my mom wants to help us out. No strings attached. And I'm like, I looked at my wife. I'm like, do we know the same woman you're talking about?
Speaker: And so then I was like, I mean, if there's no strings attached, fine, whatever, you know, I'm not going to fucking be that asshole. And, and I knew as soon as her mother wanted to weasel in her ideas, I knew what was going to be said. Well, I gave you this money and you know, you guys chose to accept it. I'm like, you didn't give me shit.
Speaker: I said, and if you want that money back, I'll cut the check right now and you can have your fucking money back. So I don't have to hear about it. But like I told my wife, I'm like, you know what? Once I get that $3 ,000, once I make that back, I'm going to write your mom a check and I'm going to give it to her. And I'm going to say now I don't need to hear about it for the rest of my life. And you may say, no, you're not going to take it. I'm going to be like, the check is in your name. You can rip it up, do whatever you want. But my end of it's done. Yeah, I'm out.
Speaker: Well, that's the thing. I'm the type of person, I'm very - I'm not liberal with people's money I take. Well, I'm very hesitant to ask for help. Actually, I'm not hesitant. Let's be honest. I won't ask for help. I will. Same. Same. Because in the past, every time I've asked for help, there's always been conditions or -
Speaker: attached. Thank you. And it's like, I don't want that. I don't want that from anybody. I'll figure out a way. I'll make it happen one way or another. I'll make it happen. I'll find the money. I'll get the money. Don't fucking worry about it. Even when people are like, oh, let's help. Well,
Speaker: Yeah, it turns into let's help. And then it's like, when they're in a pinch, Hey, remember this money I gave you? It's like, but you said, let's help. You know, like, and I have no problem. If somebody lowers me money, I'll make sure they get every penny back. Yep. Yeah. I'll make sure they get it all back. Know their sands or butts about it. Not even, but you know, if you lend me money, you've already been put into my priority. You're right up there with my, with, with, with my bills.
Speaker: you know, you know, it's like a loan. So, it's a bill. It's a month. I already know. I don't need to hear from you. You don't need to call me. You don't need to text me. You don't need to show up at my **** house because you know that I got paid at midnight and you know that I leave my house at seven in the morning and you're there at six forty -five. Like, the **** is wrong with you. First and foremost, A, you
Speaker: Degenerate gambler like you're not gonna what's gonna happen is you're gonna piss me off and I'm gonna tell you just suck my dick and eat my asshole and You're not gonna get your fucking money back at the end of the day because now you know Now you play the stupid ass game that didn't need to be played. Oh I agree 100 % and like And if you bring it up down the road if I see you and you bring it up down the road I'm gonna blatantly ask and why didn't you get your money back? I don't have it because I have it
Speaker: But why didn't you go back because you wanted to play a fucking bullshit game and treat me like, like I was some fucking degenerate and you were afraid that you weren't going to get your money back. No. So you don't fuck around with me like that. I'm not about that life. And that's not who I am. You know, if, if, if, uh, if a debt is out there, I'm going to take care of it. It doesn't matter who it, who or what it's with, you know, but that's why I don't, I don't like to ask people for help. You know, I've been burned too many times. Exactly.
Speaker: And I even told my wife, I was like, you know, and I didn't blame my wife for it. I was like, I, I know who to blame for it. But at the end of the day, it's like, yeah, it was shoved in my face. Like I needed the money. Like I was going to fucking be poor if we didn't get the money. And it's just like I said, no one ever asked you for that money, Kathy. You should totally remind your wife of it and give her the old what for, if you know what I mean? Like,
Speaker: I know I the way I handle that I shouldn't have because as soon as Alyssa got home I I I let both barrels go that night because I was so stressed out with this whole fucking wedding thing.
Speaker: because it's like, I'm being forced or told that, Hey, you're going to have this 65 year old man. That's fucking my other daughter come to your wedding. And if your parents don't like it, tough shit. And it's like, nah, you don't fucking do that shit with me. I don't give a fuck if I have one of his kids in my fucking wedding.
Speaker: You don't fucking give me the fucking nth degree that I'm gonna have this piece of shit at my fucking wedding. I'll fucking take goddamn fucking shoeless Joe in the fucking Holy Cornfield over that cocksucker any day. And the thing is, her family don't even like the guy, but because I decided to fucking say it's not gonna happen, I'm the motherfucking bad guy. Congratulations, Jarvis, you got big gear over there laughing.
Speaker: And thank God for my wife being who she is because I mean she gets home from work and then she's got me fucking saying You know what fix this shit or ain't gonna be a motherfucking wedding. Oh, yeah, that's one of the one of the joys about being a man and You know doing the things that we do is unfortunately we
Speaker: And again, I've said it before, I've said it multiple times on this show. We are pressure cookers. As human beings, men or women, but it happens more for men with pressure cookers. And we let stuff build up, build up, build up, build up, build up, build up. And then it explodes. And unfortunately, when that pressure cooker explodes,
Speaker: or us being the pressure cooker, like you said, you had both barrels loaded when Alyssa came home, you weren't mad at her. Unfortunately, when that pressure cooker finally reaches this breaking point and we explode, we generally take it out on somebody who A, doesn't deserve it, or B, has nothing to do with the issue. And thank God for Mark.
Speaker: You'll use a motherfucker than yeah, cuz Huh? Because you know nine times out of ten I want to see if that cleanest thing works for me. Oh, um, yeah, nine times out of ten I Don't always feel like I know I have Nicky and trust me. I know I can talk to Nicky about anything but sometimes I just I
Speaker: feel like I can't, you know, so. Well, because it was like a double edged sword with, it's my wife's mother. And like I had, I've tried for seven years to kind of make, to be civil with this woman where now it's to the point, I even told my wife in one of my vows, I made sure it was one of my vows. I said, for everyone that has a feud with me, since we've known each other, it's on them now.
Speaker: Yeah, I'm done with it. I'm washing my hands and I should have looked over to see what her mother's look on her face was But at the time I was just like, you know what? This is my this is our victory lap This is for all the people that said, you know, hey you two shouldn't be together because XYZ DB GF fucking D and at the end of the day like Alyssa said in her vow. She's like I found my one and That's all I need to hear. Yeah
Speaker: Like it was I was I I had that whole week last week of planning was just fucking like I couldn't even stand up for a two minutes without having to fucking feel like I'm gonna pass out with the stress. Huh? You have anger issues. I do.
Speaker: I was like a Roman candle pouring rage. I'm going off like a hurricane. Even during your vows, you still took a shot at people. Oh, it wasn't as bad as what I wanted to, though. And my dad, my dad, he kind of he kind of pulled me out of sight and he's like, you know, you shouldn't have said that. And I'm like, I know, dad, but you know what? I've been poked and prodded. I've been stabbed and all that shit. And I said,
Speaker: I never once sent Alyssa home crying, never once put a finger on her. And yet I'm still the bad guy. Cause some of 60 year old piece of shit that decided to knock up their other daughter. It's on me for that shit. And my dad's like, no, I agree with you. He's like, but you know what? You could have handled it a little bit better. And I was just like, I wanted to fucking, I, I wanted to yell at my dad, but at the end of the day, it's like, my dad's right.
Speaker: No, you know, he was like that motherfucker with all his advice and me being the stubborn son, bitch, I was like, yeah, but and I'm like, I'm like, dad, I love you. And he's like, I'm proud of you, Steven. I'm one of the most stubborn, hard -headed sons of bitches you'll ever come across. Oh, yeah. What? I'm not myself. Sorry. Oh, I thought you were my mother.
Speaker: No, sure it is. What the fuck? In other news, shocking. I feel like Nikki and my wife would be such good friends. And like most of the time when they're at the bar, they're talking about how much stubborn we are and how lucky we are as men. It's like, you're fucking lucky too, fuckers. And I was talking today and, um, uh,
Speaker: I had somebody ask me a question. Do you feel, it was multiple questions and it was, do you feel like, I'm in borderline counseling right now, but do you feel like you need alcohol to have confidence or to be social around people or to,
Speaker: fit in in an environment. And my response was, I am who I am, whether I'm drunk or sober. And I was telling Nikki what, you know. I am a champ, rather you like it or not, Mr. Fucking man with your little fucking doodle pad. I was telling Nikki and I was telling her my response and she said, ain't that the goddamn truth? Fucking, she's like fucking facts on facts.
Speaker: That's why I love doing this show. Like we can be so fucking real. And like, like I told you and to the viewers out there, if you would have known me before I started doing this show, like when Glick asked me, it was a huge honor. But at the same time, it's like, I literally had to ask my wife. I was like, should I do this? And she's like, well, what is Glick asking for the rules? And I'm like, really nothing. Just be myself. And she's like, you're a fucking idiot if you don't.
Speaker: And this is coming from my wife. I asked Nikki's permission and your wife's permission to have you on the show. Yeah. You probably shouldn't do that. And I said, you know what, I know what I'm doing. Oh, whatever. My wife, my wife was begging me to do the show and I was just like, but I already have like the Twitch channel and I have my own podcast and she's like,
Speaker: It's one day a week, you fucking cry, baby. And I'm just like, damn, okay. You give me shit. This motherfucker is Twitch, his own show. Plus, he's on this show every time we're live.
Speaker: Yeah, but here's the thing with my show, Dalton, which shy is Dalton's wife. I went to my mom's wedding going like, you know what, I'm going to take a break from my own show for a little bit. Cause I needed to. And it's just like Dalton, I love the motherfucker to death, but that motherfucker's like, Hey, would you like to do a Twitch thing with me? And I'm just like, I'm just sitting there and he's like, well, you don't have to answer me right away. And I'm just like.
Speaker: And I'm like, I gotta go talk to my wife for a second, come back and I'm like, yeah, I'll do it. Like, I know I won't say Nikki's not a fan of the show. She's not a fan of the investment that I'm putting into it. Yeah. And it is an investment to make this show work. It's an investment into the shows.
Speaker: And it's like, all right, you know, I need to be more mindful Mondays and Wednesdays, you know, because we were, we were getting a little bit out of control and we were going stupid long on Mondays and Wednesdays as well as Saturday. So it's like, kind of like tonight. Well, we literally just hit three hours, but I was talking about, we were doing like five, six hours on, on Wednesdays and stuff like that.
Speaker: And I was like, let me, let me rain the show in. Obviously, if we're having a conversation, you know, I'm not going to just pull a Jeff and go, Oh, show's over and hit the end button. You know, we'll start working our way to an end point like right now. I could, I don't even think Nikki knows I'm here at this point. She's, she's in the jacuzzi.
Speaker: She's in this giant jacuzzi. She's living the jacuzzi life. She's like, I don't give a fuck what you do as long as you leave me alone in this fucking jacuzzi. She's like, I got my Kindle, I got beer and I've got a jacuzzi. I don't care what you're doing. You could have a fucking giant orgy in here and I'm just going to be happy and content. She should be like, you could have a huge gay orgy and I'm just going to be chilling in the jacuzzi.
Speaker: Remember kids, if you want to have that rock star lifestyle, just act like Glick. Get your, get your fiancee at Jacuzzi tub. Facts on facts is what she just said for those of you who didn't hear her. But like that's the thing with the podcast and all that, like people don't realize that this is our escape. This is like our chance to talk as people.
Speaker: And I come on here and it's not like Monday nights especially. It's not like I don't do this around Nikki. It's not like Nikki can't hear the show. Literally 15 feet away from me right now. But I do come on here and I do talk about the things that are bothering me, the things that are wearing on me as much as I can. There's certain things that I won't talk about.
Speaker: And it has nothing to do with the fact that I'm holding anything back or I'm letting anything build up. I just, I'm not going to talk about certain things because they're my problems and my issues, but I don't want people to look at the surrounding circumstance or the surrounding environment or the people in the environment and judge them a certain type of way. Because at the end of the day, ultimately I'm the one who put myself in the situation that I was in. Oh, definitely.
Speaker: you know, there are certain things that I'm not going to talk about because I'm, I don't want to, I don't want somebody else who to, to feel bad or feel like they're being attacked or, or anything like that, because I'm talking about a situation, talking about something or whatever. But for the most part, I'm pretty open, goddamn book. And, and, and, and, you know, whether people are listening or not, or whether they don't like it or whatever, this is fucking therapy.
Speaker: I can't go to, I can't go to a therapist because when I go to a therapist, all they want to do is, is push drugs. You know, if I wanted to fucking, yeah, if I wanted a goddamn drug dealer, I'd be a fucking meth act. You know what I mean? Like this is therapy. This is where I can come in and I can talk and I can say whatever I want to say.
Speaker: And you can do the same thing Jarvis and Connor can do the same thing and any of our guests can do the same thing. Nobody's fucking judging. Oh, I mean, hopefully, hopefully, ultimately the goal is to raise awareness and create a change and to fix shit that's going on with our men today.
Speaker: or we're losing too many of our men and our boys because there's no safe place. There's no safe environment. There's no real legitimate safe place or safe environment where we can talk about the things that are going on and the things that are driving us. And I gotta say this, I'm not even mad at it. As far as like the podcast platforms, this is our highest rated show. This show is absolutely embarrassing.
Speaker: Nonsense will nonsense. Well, because I, I, I think it's one of those things like we even talked about, you know, when we're not live, you, me, Connor, Brian, is that it's such a subject that hits so close to home. And, and that's why I've always been so proud and, and I try and bring my A game. I know like when Glick had first asked me to be on the show.
Speaker: It's like, click new already. I'm an all or nothing type of guy. If, if the thing is about trauma, I'm going to open that can of worms. I may not like what's going to happen after that can of worms, but you know, I will open that. And with the stuff that I've talked about with my wife and all that, my wife knows that I won't cross a certain line because
Speaker: To me, they're like Glick said, you know, there's stuff that you can talk about. And then there's the stuff that you don't want other people to hear. And at the end of the day, I'm pretty much like an open book, but to hear that this is doing as well as it is. And I've had a few people that, you know, I've sent the link out to, to watch the show or I've talked about the show and they're like, Hey, could you send me the link so I can listen to it?
Speaker: but get nothing but great feedback, you know, saying, Hey, you know, not many people do this. And it's just, it makes me happy that people are, you know, and it's not just we're men caring for men. Yes. But at the same time, like we will, we want women to come on and talk. Granted, you have to go through Glick cause you know, I don't have the power yet. As like to say to me on Saturday, let me know. I mean,
Speaker: I'm not opposed to female guests on here as long as they wanna have an actual conversation, not just get butt hurt because we're, let's call a spade a spade. There's some women out there that are gonna get fucking butt hurt and feel some sort of way because we are speaking the truth and we are putting them out there that these are the struggles. This is real life for men and this is the world that,
Speaker: That's been going on for not sugarcoated, you know, we're not sugarcoating this shit for centuries for millenniums, you know, this has been going on with men and and and there's women out there that get butt hurt and feel some sort of way because we're talking about it. And like you said, we're not sugarcoating. It is what it is, whether you believe it or not. Yeah.
Speaker: It is what it is. And when you get mad and you get frustrated and you don't want to listen and you and thankfully this hasn't happened yet. But if you do drop comments that are that are hateful or what this Saturday, I think I hate to break it to you. Hey, you're validating our point and be part of the problem or other men that may be out there that want to do the same. You're part of the problem at the end of the day. You're part of the fucking problem that we're trying to combat.
Speaker: And, and, and, and, and, and, and Connor's in his twenties, Jarvis is in his thirties. I'm in my forties. I've said that multiple times. You got three men of different ages all in here having the conversation. And I would love to get some older men in here in their fifties or sixties or whatever, and have the conversation with them because they're not going to like the things that we're saying. I guarantee they're not going to like the things that they're saying, but if they would take a time out, if they would shut their fucking mouth,
Speaker: and turn their goddamn ears on and listen, then they would go, you know what? 100 % right. And that's the problem. A lot of people don't know how to shut your fucking mouth off and turn your fucking ears off. Or they believe everything they read or hear, you know, in the society that we live in today, too many people feel like their opinion is important. What they need to do, like I said, shut your mouth off and turn your fucking ears on and listen to somebody.
Speaker: for 30 seconds. You know, I've had to learn that lesson. I'm like, look, sometimes I gotta shut the fuck up. I like to talk. Y 'all know that. Me and you both, like, it's so weird going from a host of your own show to a co -host, but like I told the list, I'm like, you know, if tomorrow I was told, Hey, you know, maybe you shouldn't do your own show anymore. Or that voice went off in my head where it's like, Hey, don't do your show anymore.
Speaker: focus all your energy on Mondays or men caring for men in a heartbeat because it's like, I don't have to run the show. I can just sit here and be a dumb ass like I mostly am. And then let Connor fucking roll with his shit. And that's what makes it perfect. I'm the third man. You know, Hey, I'm okay being the C -squad announcer as Glick once told me it once upon a time. I think you're, I think you're just as much the second chair. I, you know, I wouldn't, I would never say you're
Speaker: The third man or the third chair, I think you're just as much a second chairs. Connor is. I'm like what? Or as Nikki said, you're the redheaded stepchild. You know what? You know what, Nikki, I don't want to hear it. Don't make me come over to Pennsylvania, the armpit of the fucking nation and be like, hey, look at the fucking Steelers suck my balls just because you were good once upon a time. Hey, hey, hey.
Speaker: You're a Vikings fan. Calm down. All right. I'm with you. You're a Cleveland fan. I'm team Steelers on this one. All right, buddy. You're a Vikings fan. You can't say shit. Yeah, I know.
Speaker: No, I, I, uh, Terry Bradshaw is one of the funniest fucking Steelers quarterbacks in the world. And Ed O 'Neill was once a part of time, a Steelers football player. Ed O 'Neill is actually born and raised just 10 minutes from here in Youngstown, Ohio. Really? Youngstown was on the border of, uh, PA. So like we went to, um, Oh yeah, everybody in PA knows.
Speaker: And they know, I don't know, like I'd love to meet him. I'd love to have him on the show. We went to, uh, we went to the, uh, uh, Quaker state and loop. And then the one here, the one, the one that we went to is what? 64. When was it? When did they put the Quaker state in there? 64, 74 or something like that. It was like the original Quaker state and loop 74. And, uh, they've got, and I was looking around in there because.
Speaker: It's been there since 74 in the same building. Which was the start of the Steelers dynasty. They've got a ton of pictures of Ed O 'Neill. And they've got him like he was a teenager and he was like with his friends and shit like that. It was just like Youngstown's own, you know, he might've been born in Ohio boy, but we claim him in PA too type shit. Like they love that man. Um, yeah, we were, we went in there for dinner. Uh,
Speaker: Saturday when we got here. And one of the waitresses she she come around the corner and I was in all my I had a brown hoodie on her brown side on and she was like, Oh, shit. Oh, shit. There's a brown.
Speaker: You know what the sad thing about it is is like there's a part of me where I don't want to be famous because Lindstrom my hometown's gonna be like home of the Jervishi projects own Steven Jarvis and I'm gonna be driving by that fucking door And I'm gonna be like this and and then there's gonna be like those people that are gonna be like, oh, yeah I knew Jarvis I knew when I seen him when he was a little grasshopper I knew he was gonna do great things and it's just like bitch motherfucker. You never said one word to me
Speaker: my my ego alone would love to have a sign in my hometown that said the home of Glick because I'll take you to Lindstrom and we'll show you why I wouldn't if that wouldn't just burn so many motherfuckers asses like you know and like my quote unquote hometown and then my
Speaker: family. So like my entire family is from the same town, which is where my kids go to school at and stuff like that. Yeah. You know, that's kind of like my second, I guess it's more like my first home because that's my entire family was from there. All my uncle's, my grandma still lives in the same house. My dad was raised in and stuff like that.
Speaker: Um, I would also like a sign there just because there's a lot of sons of bitches there that it would just burn their ass just to have to come into every time they, no matter from which direction home of Glick, you know, because my kids went to school with their, like the people I grew up with, they're going to school with their kids and they're like, Oh, so -and -so said that.
Speaker: Their their mom or their dad said they know you and i'm like, you know, everybody fucking knows me in that goddamn town Yeah, that's that's lindstrom for my family is that's where all most of my family jarvis side came from in peterson's side and it's just like And I was like, I hate to break it to you, but those same kids as parents who know me. Yeah parents know my parents and they also know me
Speaker: I guess I wouldn't know how to handle it going to my hometown and all of a sudden seeing that little thing on there saying home of uh Stephen Jarvis who does men caring for men and like if I told my wife I'm gonna make the sign and it's gonna go hey oh it's song yeah yeah all right it's doing a podcast here like I told my wife
Speaker: And it'll be a law in your town. Anytime somebody reads that sign, that's exactly how they have to read it. The worst thing about that is going to be like, but he's French Canadian. Where'd they get the Italian part? And it's just like, don't question it. Just don't question it. It's Gervais. Well, because Gervais, or however you want to say it, it's French Canadian at the end of the day.
Speaker: Like my wife Alyssa's like, you know when you get when you when when our Merch and all that starts going up. She's like, you know what? If Glick doesn't do a jerry Vichy shirt
Speaker: You're missing out. She's like, I think that would sell just as much as the champ. Well, Jeremy, she because nobody knows. Yeah. We just made up a name. And that's the great thing. Like, oh my God, I told my dad one day, I'm like, he's like, so this men caring for men, what's that about? I'm like, dad, I can't even describe it. You have to watch it. It's the podcast that you can't put into words. And trust me, if you don't think I won't get up, you don't think I'll make that shirt with some guy going,
Speaker: like this dude you do it tell me about it i will i'll be the first motherfucker to buy that shirt nonsensical nonsense on the front and on the back it'll just be a guy with his hands up going it's hey oh it's a jameshi dude i'll give my likeness for that shirt i don't give a shit just so i can go up to my dad and be like hey dad look i got my face on his shirt i got my face on his shirt wear it
Speaker: It's on the asshole side of it, but you know, Glick means well. I feel like a lot of people say that about me. He means well. He sounds like an asshole. Yeah, well, he is, but he means well. I told my wife, I was like, you know, I may do a Twitch, I may do my own show, but I said the show that means the most to me is this one.
Speaker: I love, I love the show. This is, this is something that I've wanted to do for a long time. And I got to be a hundred percent honest. I'll be 100 % honest. It's for selfish reasons. I wanted to do it for me. Obviously I want to, I want to, I want, you know, I want it to be what it's going to be. You know, I want it to be a, you know, a voice for men's mental health. I want it to be a voice for men. Um,
Speaker: But at the end of the day, it's also a voice for you. But in all honesty, I wanted to do it for me. Unfortunately for me, my outlet and my venting was through rage and then violence.
Speaker: I'm getting old. I'm 22. I'm not a young spring chicken anymore. Okay. Yeah, and I'm 21. I'm 22. I'm 21. I'm 22. I'm 22. You're 42. I'm 22 and I took a leak of faith, you know, dating an older woman, a much older woman. Your daughter is 80.
Speaker: You can't be 22. I adopted her. Hey, hey, Nicky. Okay. Schmantics aside, he's 22. I'm 21. I'm dating a cougar or no, I'm married to a cougar and there's nothing wrong with that. Can I make her a saber two tiger? Ooh, saber two tigers are so much cooler than cougars. You're a bad ass.
Speaker: saber -tooth tiger over here. I could see the shirt now that you're going to make, especially for Nikki, and you're going to put on there my saber -tooth tiger. All right, I'll be honest, I'm sooner than two years old.
Speaker: I am 42 years old. Unfortunately, you know, I've made it very clear. I've got five good fights left in me. I cannot continue to let rage and violence be my outlet. But I also have in my brain and my head and DNA and my blood, whatever you want, I call it that. And also I've been proven right more times.
Speaker: I've been proven wrong. Perhaps I don't have people that I can talk to. I don't have people that I can reach out to or whatever. So yeah, this show, this show, and I want to say, yeah, it was, it was, it was kind of selfish. I did it because it's crazy to think this way, but I forget a lot of times that we're on the internet. Like we're out there for everybody to watch and hear what we do.
Speaker: But it's something that I wanted to do for a long time And I just had to wait for the right guys to come along to do the show with and and those right guys were you and Connor Yeah as crazy as that sounds But but you and Connor were those guys that it was like all right This is this is this is this is the this is the crew. This is the crew that needs to do this show And then it does it
Speaker: It helps a lot, you know, um, because I can come on here and we do share, we do share, uh, real life stories and, and, and we share what's going on in our world and, and where we're at and what's going on and, and stuff like that. So, you know, what started out for some selfish reasons has become so much more, uh, at the end of the day.
Speaker: the last couple of months during this show has become so much more than just me having a room or a platform to express what's going on in my head or express, and now it's become, because it's real, it's real. Now it's become, we're a voice. We are,
Speaker: using our platform for good and showing other men that, hey, or even if the women are, you know, even when women watch, maybe they're telling their husbands or their boyfriends or their brothers or their dads or whatever. Hey, you guys should check the show out. And then they get to see us fuck around and laugh and joke and still bust each other's balls. But at the same time, they also get to see the real conversation, the real talk. And we're not doing it because
Speaker: You know, because the three of us got hemmed up on some fucking crazy ass charges because we're so goddamn popular that we were out in public and acting a goddamn fool. And then our scapegoat is, oh, I have mental problems. No, you, you just, you're not man enough to fucking take responsibility for your own actions at the end of the day. And you are part of the problem as to why the stigma is there on men's mental health and why
Speaker: you know, the reality of the world that men live in is not a bigger focal point. Well, that's why men are not coming out and talking about being domestically abused or sexually assaulted or raped or, or, or, or the struggles that they're going through, you know, as a dad or anything like that, because you're doing it for attention and you're doing it for clicks and likes. And that's not cool.
Speaker: Especially because I've had this conversation with somebody I told him because he uses Mental illness as a crutch and there's nothing fucking wrong There's nothing fucking wrong with him But he uses a crutch and a way to get people to fucking feel sorry for him and I told him I said, bro You couldn't walk fucking ten feet in my goddamn shoes Fuck a mile and I'm not saying like like my problems are more more of an issue than anybody else's but at the end of the day if you're faking it you're faking it and
Speaker: And I thought I told him, I said, bro, you couldn't walk 10 feet in my shoes. I guarantee it. You wouldn't last five minutes in my world with everything that's gone on in the past and, and everything like that. You wouldn't last you. You couldn't survive it. Oh, you don't know my show. I'm like, dude, I know you're fine. I know everything about you. Yeah. Yeah. And all you want. And when you, and, and, and, and this is, and I just had the conversation with him not too long ago.
Speaker: He went from the mental aspect to now he's a Jesus freak. I said, you get that handle burned out on the attention you were getting by claiming mental illness and depression and dah, dah, dah, dah, dah, handle burnout. And now all of a sudden you're a Jesus freak. And I said, that candle is going to burn out too. And then you're going to move on to something else at the end of the day, just to get those attention, get those likes, get those comments on social media.
Speaker: And at the end of the day, that does more harm than good period for anybody, you know, special people who are going through it. Well, exactly. I mean, mental health isn't a joke, but people, some people out there make it a joke. And when you talk about men's mental health, there's going to be people out there that don't want to hear it.
Speaker: or they'll tell you they want to hear it. And then when you start talking it, they say, well, yeah, it gets too real for them. And they say, no, no, this is what not. No, this ain't true. This is what isn't what I read. And that's why I'm so proud of this show. Like, yeah, I may have my own shows, but at the end of the day, this show gives me the most, but it's something that I easily, I could have been passed over for someone else. Like, I mean, hell.
Speaker: There was many other co -hosts out there that are probably better than me, probably more prepared than me. It's still possible. I know. It wouldn't be the first time I got fired from it. You're not going anywhere. You're not going anywhere. No, I know. Unless you decide to do it, unless you decide to leave on your own, you're not going anywhere. I hate to break it to you. You're stuck. You know, it ain't the first time I got fired from doing a podcast thing for some reason or another. We're going to, we're going to, we're going to, we're going to replace you with a puppet with a puppet named Jaravicii.
Speaker: I should have never fucking brought that up. There's another story I'll never bring up. Nikki said I could be like Jeff Dunham. The Glick Dunham. The champ. Dude, oh, we could make a puppet and it could be the champ. You can have your own mini Glick. I can have my I want a real mini Glick. No. Yes. But I could. No.
Speaker: I'll make a deal with you. Hey, it's not midget. It's little people. It's little person. Whatever. Come on. I'll make a deal with you. Oh God. If I can have a mini click to sit on my lap and buy him many beers and he has a mini beard and he has a mini championship belt, you can have too many cows.
Speaker: No. Her hamster wheels are turning right now. How many cows for like 10 years? I mean, that's not necessarily true. And we could be on a place where you get out many cows next year. Many cows. Fuck the cows get goats.
Speaker: No, I wasn't. She wants many furry cows, but. What they have many. She wants many Scottish. You know, the cows have a long hair. Yeah, that's many versions of Scottish Highlands. Like my wife, she's already picking out like what our fucking future is going to be like. She's like, I want this goat and these goats are so cute as babies, but it's just like she wants a fainting goat. What was that? I want a fainting goat and I want to name it Boo.
Speaker: She wants a painting that she names Boo. Have you ever seen that movie? What was that? Was that the Matt Damon movie? We bought a zoo. Yes. I've never seen that one, but I seen the movie with George Clooney, the men who stare at goats. Yeah. Well, the Matt Damon, we bought a zoo. That's my future. Yeah. That's my future. If I ever hit the lottery.
Speaker: Yeah, because when I hit the lottery and I just so you know, when men caring for men takes off and it makes us millionaires, we're not spending it on any of our significant others. Oh, no, I, I told her, which is fine. When I hit the lottery and I hit the lottery and I buy anywhere from 500 to a thousand acres, you know, each one of the kids get 10 acres. Her mom and dad get a couple acres and everybody gets to build a house.
Speaker: You know, we want to, I want to build a house for her mom and dad. That's going to make town. Yeah. It makes sense for them. You know, everything they need is on the first floor and whatnot. And then the kids can have a house up to 2 ,500 square foot. He's going to get a house too. And it's going to have a barn and a fenced in.
Speaker: area where she can have her. We just found that. Why do I have to have my own house? Well, because I don't want I don't want farm animals in the big house in the main house. Yeah, this is this is Yellowstone. Everyone else gets their house and then there's the main house. Yeah, you can't put you can't put on Nikki. You know this. No, but I. I buy you a she house. I don't want my own apps.
Speaker: It's just for you and your farm animals. No. You get to live in the main house. No. Obviously. No. Your farm animals. I always have a farm animal. You know what? You know what? Fine. She made her farm animals into the main house. Guess who's going to have his own house? No! I'm kidding, everyone. If this show ever does make us good money, yeah, of course I'm going to spend money on my wife. My wife deserves it. I'm taking care of Nikki. I'm taking care of her parents. I'm taking care of all five kids.
Speaker: All I want is a state of an art, state of the art studio with a real life producer. All fucking Glick wants is his own fucking little town that he can name Glick. Welcome to Glick world. Welcome to the champ's town. Oh, I'm the 28 time champ. I'll bring goddamn John Candy back from the dead, just so you can stand out for it and said, the champ out front should attend. Told you we're closed.
Speaker: Loved him in that movie move south first and it's oh No No, I That's that's that's all I want. I want to stay to the art studio with a real fucking producer That does also so that I can so that I can feel what it's like to be you guys Just sit down in my chair and turn a camera on
Speaker: You never asked me once. Granted, I do need to learn how to do social media a bit, a lot better than what I do. Cause like people know how to do clips. I don't know how to do that shit. Yeah. I want to, I want to, I want a producer that does clear, like I'll hire four fucking producers.
Speaker: And that's their job. Like make sure everything's working. And then he's going to get a fluffer just for because he can upload audio, upload videos, make clips. I'll have, I'll have a staff for social media. Like you five people, this is your job. Social media make us look better than we make ourselves look.
Speaker: make Jervishi actually presentable. Make these clowns presentable. You don't have to do much for me. You already know I'm perfect. No, I mean, no, that's, yeah, that's, that's, that's, and I've told Mickey that a million times that we were, we ever hit the lottery. That's the first thing I do is just buy a fuck ton of land. And then I tell the kids, look, you guys got 10 acres and you have a, and you can have a house up to 2 ,500 square foot.
Speaker: And I'll pay for it. And then we'll give her parents a couple acres, you know, uh, you know, so that they can, you know, mama can have her flower beds and all that stuff. And, and, and, and, you know, and it'll all be one floor. So everything they need is right there. They don't have to worry about stairs or anything. It will be perfect for them. And, and then we'll buy the big house and apparently she's going to
Speaker: Have a she shed where she takes one animal at a time in. I don't know that's going to be. And then Glick is going to change his name to Glick Dutton. I'm going to be the new rip who is also very, very tender. Like I, I, I told my wife, she's like, Steven, you remind me so much like rip until you go fucking nuclear and then, then you're on your own playing field.
Speaker: It's like, thanks. Trust me, every time I see Jarvan, I've never watched Yellowstone, but every time I see Rip say, I don't have the energy for you today, I'm like, I feel that. Same here. Like when, like when Rip's wife goes like,
Speaker: First of all, fuck you. I love you. I'll see you at home, but fuck you. It's like I looked at my wife and I'm just like, that is my wife to a tee. Yeah, that's definitely me. Like I told my wife, I'm like, you are Beth Dutton. I'm like, she, my wife doesn't drink as much as she does or fool around as much as she does. But I'm like, you are fucking Beth Dutton to a tee. And she's like, I don't know if that's a compliment. And I'm like, Alyssa, just take it as it is. It's a compliment.
Speaker: I just hate that Kevin Costner is the one that's going to fucking kill that show. It's like, oh my God, dude.
Speaker: You don't know how much left of your star power you have. Why don't you just make this show? Like this show, if made right, could last as long as fucking bananas or gun smoke. And now they got all these different spin -offs, which I'm waiting for 1923 or 1912, whatever that one's going to be about. 1923. 1923. Thank you, Nikki. Four aces or four sixes. Four sixes.
Speaker: Oh, yeah, the the 66 is or whatever they call themselves, which is actually a real ranch down in Texas, I guess. Yes. Yeah. I would love to go see all that shit. Like, I told the list, I'm like, we're going on vacations once I start making bank. Yeah. Um,
Speaker: Then once once we have kids, oh fuck. Imagine that many Jarvis, many Jaravicis running around. OK, they're they're they're not going to be Marlon Brando Glick. Maybe.
Speaker: Give him a podcast, he can't refuse. Hollywood, whoever does the story on this show when it hits like major news and all that, just hire someone that looks like Marlon Brando and be like, get, make sure that Glick and Gerevichi, give them an offer they can't refuse. Make them an offer they can't refuse.
Speaker: And make sure Jeremy, she does stuff with his hands and says, hey, oh, hey, oh, oh my God, that's pretty good that I can actually do a little bit of a Marlon Brando. Although my Brando sounds like he's got to take a massive shit. Well, let's be honest. Brando sounded like he had to take a massive shit every time he. And anything he ever had, I remember it was Superman. I was like.
Speaker: Is he still the godfather? He's not. Don't worry wife, he will not be alone. Because in this fortress of solitude, he will know that he is loved. I need to get me a new webcam.
Speaker: Right. No, we were talking about it. Yes. I lost my thought. I'm going to go ahead and get ready and wrap this bad boy up. OK. Mama's reading and eating Chinese.
Speaker: Actually to be honest with you I could go for some Chinese food right now All she wanted was penis butter chicken penis butter chicken I Can only imagine the poor person that's trying to ring up that order like what the fuck she won't Don't worry chef. I got this one Don't don't worry, that's my one racist joke everyone calm down I
Speaker: I'm not, I'm not Jeff. No, I love Jeff. Um, no, I do. I do want to get ready and wrap this up. We're getting a little, uh, getting a little else here. Um, but we don't, if we, we want to end the show before we do say something, that's going to get a cancel. We're getting a little off the rails, going a little left to center from the conversation tonight. However, um, you know, before, before we take off, I do want
Speaker: First and foremost Jarvis, you know the deal get your quote ready find your quote whatever you need to do I know the theme for this show Although I know that we won't be able because they'll fucking be like no copyrights crazy train I'd be a good one and I could actually actually I Mean I can't find it now, but that's not a here No, I can't Find it for later on down the road. Um
Speaker: That'd be cool. I think I actually, let me, let me get through this and I'll explain what my, my, my thought plan is or my training of thought, whatever. Anyways, uh, we do appreciate you guys listening. We do appreciate you guys hanging out. And I understand there's going to be a lot of people, you know what? Fuck it. I'm not sure. There are going to be a lot of women who aren't going to like what we had to say today, but it is what it is. And it's cold, hard truth. And it's, and it's the facts. Uh, you know, unfortunately this is why we live in.
Speaker: It's a society we live in and social media and social media grows. Uh, and it gets harder every day. And, uh, and a lot of you are gonna be like, Oh yeah, it's so tough being a man. Put yourself on our shoes. Walk them all on our shoes. I dare you. Try being Jerry Vichy all the time. Okay. That's a struggle in itself. Fuck off. Honestly,
Speaker: We mean no harm by it. It's not meant to be vindictive. It's not meant to be anything like that. It's just, it is what it is. It's to educate. It is the cold, hard truth. And for those of you who are not willing to listen, and those of you who are not willing to hear it, sadly, you're part of the problem. And with today's culture and today's social media, it's not getting any better. And it's going to take guys like us
Speaker: who's not afraid to take the heat and stick around in the kitchen, so to say, when it gets really hot and continue to do what we do. And I won't apologize for it. Just know that I'm not trying to be a dick, but it's the truth. But we do appreciate you guys listening. We appreciate you guys hanging out. Don't know if Jeff's doing his show tomorrow night, but be on the lookout. Jeff might be doing his show tomorrow night.
Speaker: We'll be back for nonsense going on since Wednesday. Night may not have said nonsense going on since Connor should hopefully be in the building. Jeff will be here and you know, I would like to say Jarvis. You know this is night off, but yeah, he'll more likely be here with us too. Yeah, I always get the C squad announcing always got gets the call up or as Bob Euchre says, it just goes a little bit outside. Well, a little outside there. Oh man.
Speaker: You know, I'm like, I'm going to give Jarvis the night off. I'm not going to eat. Let him be in the comments. Let him be in the chatters. And Connor's like, Jarvis, get your ass up here. Yeah, I know. I love doing it. Like it's a whole different thing on Wednesdays and Saturdays. Like it's our days to where the band aids are ripped off and we can have fun. That's the way I look at it. You just have fun. But, um, if you're not already going to check out social media, Facebook, Instagram,
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Speaker: Don't you laugh at him. Did she? Did you tell her that one night when I was like Zen caster so easy? Sasquatch slash wiki slash click and use it. Yeah, don't encourage his bullshit. Hey, real real nose real real nose real. I agree. Cheers to that. Alright. I got my quote whenever I want it so so.
Speaker: I'm keeping the DAX to be a man as an intro. Yeah. And I think it's an outro solve for right now. The wolf pack. I might have to pull some strings and maybe flex a little muscle.
Speaker: I'm gonna try to get somebody to cover both of these songs, but I think I'm gonna keep Shine Down Save Me as our outro song. I wouldn't mind that. I love that song. And it is all about mental health. It's about addiction. It's about going through the struggle. And I think it's a good, you know, To Be a Man by Dax, great intro and Shine Down Save Me, great outro. Yeah. But I'm also gonna
Speaker: I'm also going to call in a favor, if you will, to a very good friend of mine and see if he would mind doing covers of each song. So I stopped getting smacked in my butt. I wouldn't mind Reba cover Reba McIntyre survivor. Yeah, that's a good song that this women caring for women. Well, I mean, hey, you could switch the you could switch it around a bit. Well, it's that's actually a really good song. So I do appreciate y 'all listening.
Speaker: We're going to get the outro music hang tight for the song to be over. And we're going to come back. Jarvis has got his, got his quote. I got a couple of quotes for you as always. The words of the Jetta Vichy. Hey, I'm trying to do some words of wisdom over here.
Speaker: Shut up. I'm not with you. Listen to what I'm saying. The sad thing is that's probably the one thing this show is going to be known more for is the Jeremy. She, hey, oh, hey, oh, hey, oh. Italians are going to kick my ass at some point. Same. They already put a hit out on us. Yeah, but here's a little shined out with save me.
Speaker: and I've got a spoon I live in a hallway with no doors and no
Speaker: And what went wrong Couldn't handle forgiveness
Speaker: If you care from a blast
Speaker: will shine down with save me to wrap the show up. Appreciate y 'all listening. And Jarvis, what would you like to leave the folks with before we wrap up tonight? I would like to leave them with this. Mental health is not a destination, but a process. It's about how you drive, not where you're going. Amen to that. I wish I could say the person's name that said that, but no, I'm not. Just take credit for it. Yeah.
Speaker: Ask yourself, what would the champ do? W W G D. What would you do? No, no, no. What would Glick do? That's going to be like a meme now. But that being said, ladies and gentlemen, there are men who struggle for a day and they are good. There are men who struggle for a year and they are better.
Speaker: There are men who struggle many years. And they are better still. But there are those who struggle all their lives, and these are indispensable. That is by Bertolt. Bretch. What? Damn. Yeah. I thought Confucius said that. Yeah. And because I like to hear myself talk, and I always have a fuck ton of quotes for you guys.
Speaker: Most women want a man that's already established. And this goes with what we were talking about tonight with the struggles of men and everything like that. Most women want a man who's already established. A strong woman will be a part of his struggle. Survive it, succeed together, and build an empire.
Speaker: We're in the podcasting area. And last but not least, but this is going to fall into my repertoire and I'm going to say it every fucking show because this is awesome. A successful man is a man who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks that others throw at him. Keep building nastles.
Speaker: We will see you guys next Monday night for men caring for men. 7 PM is right here on Facebook, YouTube, and Twitch. Looking forward to seeing y 'all then. Jarvis, much love to your brother. Let's hit this button. Let's go. Let's send this home.
