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Recognize Your Role
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Eph. 5:21-33
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Societal vs. Biblical Marriage
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Apples and oranges is how I want to start today.
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You've heard this s saying, this old saying, when we try to compare two things that are really unable to be compared because there are so few similarities. We say it's like comparing apples and and oranges, right? it's It's what, if I could use this comparison, if we try to compare biblical marriage and societal marriage.
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It's like comparing apples and oranges. um They're so far apart that you might not even recognize they're the same in some aspects.
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Kind of like an apple and an orange are both fruit and they're both brown. There are some similarities, of that's pretty much where it ends. The same can be said for biblical marriage and societal marriage.
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Society's very definition of marriage if they can land on one, is ever changing. Society will say that the standards for marriage are ever changing.
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Society can't even agree which gender should get married.
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Or if you're in Utah, how many people can get married?
Biblical Guidebook for Marriage Roles
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We laugh because we know what biblical marriage is and that's why we chuckle to ourselves and think how absurd that type of marriage is. It's almost as if they're playing with marriage just however they want to play with it.
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They set up their own rules.
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They kind of just try to do marriage as they best can. Friends, that's completely different than biblical marriage.
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See, we have a playbook. It's it's right here. It tells us exactly what the structure of marriage looks like. It tells us exactly who the participants in marriage are, and it tells us what those roles of marriage are.
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I'm thankful that we have a guide book. We simply have to sit and read it. And so my first comment or question is how often, married couples, are you sitting down together and looking at the instruction manual?
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Because it it will tell us exactly how we should live biblically. And I loved our our song today, our reading today from Michael said, this word harmonious.
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How do we live in a harmonious way if you're a married couple? This is what we're looking at today, Ephesians chapter 5. your Your outline that you got in your your handout when you came today should say recognize or recognizing your role.
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The first thing you can do is circle the word recognize, if you will, and just put an arrow outside of that and put the word respond next to that because it's is this will be the two-part application that we'll get to at the end. It's it's not good enough husbands.
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It's not good enough wives to simply recognize biblically what is required of you. It requires a response from you and I today. How do we recognize and how do we respond in marriage to these God-given roles? This is what we're looking at, Ephesians chapter 5.
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Turn with me here.
Christian Lifestyle and Submission
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You'll know as we've looked through each one of these chapters over the last few weeks that The Apostle Paul has been contrasting the lifestyle of the unbeliever with the believer.
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And we saw how the Christian walk should look so radically different than it does from the unbeliever. and And he said if you're saved, if you're born again, you should look different, you should talk different, you should act different.
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In verse 18 of chapter 5, which we looked at a couple weeks ago, said we should be filled with the Spirit and we should do these three things. And these are the three things that we closed at. We should be singing praise or encouragement to one another.
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We should be giving thanks. we we We phrased that a couple weeks ago, an attitude of gratitude. And the third is actually the beginning today's message, verse 21. I want to read just 21 by itself. Please, fellas, let's leave verse 21 off the screen for just a second.
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Verse 21 is the third of these three things that Paul is conveying. He's saying, if you are a Christ follower, if you are saved, you are filled with the Spirit, you are to sing praises of encouragement, you are to give thanks, and verse 21 says, you are to submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
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Verse 21 says, and further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Why is it important that I spend ah couple of minutes here just on verse 21? Verse 21 says, Well, it argument if if i can and it's It's a feeble argument at that, but I'll hear this argument from people.
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Well, in a marriage, both husband and wife are to submit to one another because that's what it says right here in verse 21. Matter of fact, your Bible may have heading over verse 21.
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Mine does. It says, Spirit-guided relationships, husbands and wives. But friends, verse 21 is really outside of the marriage contract.
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This is the third of the things believers are to do amongst each other. So if you're a believer, you're supposed to sing praises, you're supposed to give thanks, and you're supposed to submit to one another, meaning submit to one another believer in Christ.
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You'll see this word submit several times as we go through the sermon here today. It's this Greek word, hupotasso. If you've been in any of our Bible classes that I've taught, you know this word is a military term.
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This means to get under in an order. This means there's somebody on top like a general, then there's somebody underneath him, then there's somebody underneath that person. It is a hierarchy. That's what this word submit means.
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Paul's saying if you're in Christ, if you're a new person, if you're filled with the Spirit, you are to be aligned under Christ. And that life submitted to Christ means that we then can go and submit to one another, meaning your fellow believers.
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This idea of dual submission, right? First to Christ and then to one another. Often you'll see this as cross. I've given this example before, right? We have this vertical relationship with Christ first.
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Then we have this horizontal relationship with one another, all submitted under Christ. This sets up the entire argument for husbands and
Divine Marriage Model and Hierarchy
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wives. And he goes through, and now he says, here is the divine model that you and I are to follow. Here is the instruction manual, if you will,
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I wish my Bible had pictures because it would probably make this section a little bit easier. By the way, if you're offended by the word submit, ladies, let me tell you that's just within since the 1960s.
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Before the 1960s, before feminism took root in this country, this was never questioned. This was never questioned the church. It just wasn't. This was a natural understanding of how a how mar harmonious marriage operates.
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It's one out of structure, out of hierarchy, out of submission. Let's read verse 22 and following. he says, Now, for wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord.
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For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. As the church submits to Christ, so wives should submit to your husbands in everything.
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Verse 25. For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God's word.
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He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or a wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies.
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For a man who loves his wife actually loves it shows love for himself. No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church.
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And we are members of his body. As the scriptures say, a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife. And the two are united into one. This is the great mystery.
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but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. So again, I say, verse 33, brothers and sisters, by the way, verse 33 is for the men. He's giving you a summary, just in case you forgot it.
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Verse 33, I say to you again, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and and and a wife must respect her husband. The divine model is such that there is a head.
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There has to be somebody who is over the family. There's somebody who's over the church. This use of the word head is only used here in um chapter 1, verse 22, and chapter 4, verse
Christ's Headship and Husbands' Roles
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15. Only place this word is used.
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The Apostle Paul uses this in any of his writings. And he's saying you are to be aligned under the head who is Christ. Why? Well, because Christ is the head over the church.
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It is the divine order. It is the divine model. It is the divine structure. It is God's way of lining everything up. And it says here in verse 24, it says Christ is the one whom the church submits to.
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And Christ is the one who then nourishes and cherishes or cares for the church. His authority, his leadership is used to benefit the church.
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This is the divine model.
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And he's going to use this divine model, fellas, to say this is how you're going function. In just a second, he's going to tell us this is what's happening. He says Christ's headship is so closely associated with him being the savior of the body.
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He's saying Christ here in all his salvific work, what he did on the cross, he did for the church. It's this sacrificial love, right? We've heard this before if you've been here at any amount of time.
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How does Christ love the church? Well, he does so sacrificially. It means that he gives of himself.
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What's interesting to me, and I just put a note again this morning to myself as I reread this. It says Christ is over the church, not the church is over Christ. If we heard that, we would think, oh, that's heresy today.
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Surely, surely the church is not over Christ. Amen? He's the head. The church is under him.
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Ladies, put a pin in that. We'll get back to that. Christ is the one who loves and cares for the church, verse 29 says. His authority, his leadership over the church is used for the benefit, for the protection, for the love.
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Those who are under that hierarchy are shielded from and protected by the head. Fellas, put a pin in that.
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We'll get back to that. You'll notice it says Christ is the head. That means he has the authority over the church. But it doesn't say he's authoritarian over the church.
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There's a difference.
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What kind of love does Christ have for the church? It's a sacrificial love. It's a giving love. It's a it's a love that raises the needs of others over and above himself. Paul's very carefully painting this picture of the divine model of what it looks like to have a husband who's fulfilling the role in being head of the family.
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And he's also painting the picture of wives and where she fits in into that same divine model. Do want to have a happy house? A happy home? What do we say?
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Happy wife, happy Life or something like that. I don't even know. You know why? Because it's so unbiblical. It's catchy.
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But it's unbiblical. Ladies, there's a reason why he has this model. There's a reason why Christ is over the church. There's a reason why the husband is the head and he is over the wife.
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What's that reason? Well, we're going to see in just a second. I alluded to this, by the way, on Wednesday, if you happen to sit in my in my Bible study on Wednesday.
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He goes on here in verse 26 and 27. He gives the purpose of Christ's death. He says, one for the one for the church that he might sanctify her. Why did Christ die in the cross so that we might be saved? But it says here, his goal is to sanctify the church. That means to make her holy, to make her set apart.
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to present to himself this glorious, holy, sanctified church that she might be blameless. I love that word.
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I put a note to myself, do other people see my wife as blameless by the way I treat her?
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That's beautiful picture I put, husbands. of your responsibility, of your role, of what that looks like in the family. That you might love her in such a way that you would protect her, that you would guard her, that you would shelter her, so that she might remain holy and blameless and pure from that which would defile her.
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What defiles her? Well, the world defiles her. See, just as soon as we think, ladies, that that all the burden is on you because nobody likes to submit, I get it.
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I get it. I've heard all the arguments before. Your husband doesn't get off easy either because he has a whole lot of responsibility as the head. And all the husbands are shaking their head. Yes, get to that part.
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I put just as an illustration this picture of the actual umbrella. We've seen this before if you've ever ever ever did Awanas with your kids. It's this picture of the big umbrella and Christ is that umbrella and we're all under that protection.
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ah Friends, that's the same model, to divine model it is in your family. Your husband is that umbrella. He is the protector guarding you from that which would defile you so that, ladies, you might remain blameless and holy and pure.
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And I like verse 24. Look with me, verse 24. He says, as the church submits to Christ, right? This is the same picture. Wives, you are too to submit to your husbands.
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Don't miss the last part. In todo. In everything. What does that mean? To submit in everything?
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That means everything. Everything.
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It's a picture, if you will, of full submission. It's not partial submission. It's not, I'm going to submit to my husband when it's easy. Or when I think he deserves it. Or if he deserves it.
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Or if he's here in church. That's a tough pill for some ladies to swallow. And I get it. And I understand He says here you are to submit fully in everything that you do. It's this picture that the church likewise is to submit fully to Christ in everything because that is the model.
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And I just put down why do we do that ladies?
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Because that's what God's word says.
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Period. It's not up for debate. Why is it not up for debate? Well, last Wednesday we talked about the authority of God's Word. If you simply think this is a great book and it's an instruction manual like you get with your refrigerator, you won't treat it as such. But this is the actual Word of God.
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This is His revelation to us right here on how to live a harmonious life in marriage. Now, I can't make you obey. I can't make you follow that.
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But it is that instruction which he gives us. That's why we joyfully submit. This word in the Greek, to submit, hupotasso, is a military term. But it's not like I'm the general and I'm forcing those guys to get underneath me.
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No, it's a voluntary picture. i I, you know, as as a subordinate, I love working under a great general, you know, in the military. Man, that guy knows what he's doing.
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He's looking out for my best interest. He's protecting me. He's not just rushing me into battle without a plan. He's got a plan. Fellas, do you have a plan?
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Does that plan involve your wives? It should. He gives us this model for you and I as husbands and wives to follow. ah Single people, this doesn't get you off the hook either.
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As I'm looking around to some of you. This is the ideal model that you too are looking for when you find a spouse. You want to find somebody that follows this model.
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He says, ladies, submit voluntarily under your husband. It doesn't say, mind you, Wives, willingly give up everything and anything for your husband blindly.
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That's not what the Bible says here, by the way.
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It doesn't say place yourself under an abusive husband. It doesn't say that either.
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Don't submit to your husband just because you think he's a great guy and he deserves submitting to. doesn't say that either. There's two sides of this coin, and I'm trying to make a point. I hope I'm getting there.
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It's not a permissiveness to stay in an abusive relationship. That's not what Paul is saying here. He's saying there's a divine model that God has laid out. Somebody is the head and somebody is underneath. And there's a reason for that structure and it creates harmony within the marriage.
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And he's saying, ladies, if you'll simply place yourself under his authority, as you place yourself under Christ's authority, your husband will lead you and protect you and care for you and love you
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just as Christ loves the church.
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That's the ideal model.
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And I just put, the godlier your husband is, the easier it is to submit to him, by the way. The more he proves himself over and over and over of having a plan, relying on God's word, making the tough decisions when it comes down to it, it's easier to get in step with somebody like that. Amen, ladies?
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Amen.
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and let's talk about the other side here real quick.
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No, I want to pause. Sorry, ladies, you're not off the hook just yet. i often get this question, and so I just want to address it. It's just a very quick tangent, and we have plenty of time.
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I have a question. I put a question to myself. Make sure you ask this. And I put this because i put a little two stars next to it. I know this is me my way of asking you this question. Why do some ladies really struggle with submission in marriage?
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Because
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it feels unnatural. So if you're taking notes, ladies, and you really struggle with submission in your marriage, let me encourage you by saying, I just simply want you to flip back to Genesis chapter 3 the very beginning and of your Bible real quick with me.
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Genesis 3. This will all make sense, I promise. Genesis 3 is the fall, right? Everything was great. Everybody was following the divine order before chapter 3.
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The garden was harmonious. Man and woman walking alongside with God. Verse 3, the serpent, the apple, you know the you know the drill.
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Verse 16, He comes down and says, this is the consequence now of that sin. And he says to the woman, I will sharply i will sharpen your pain in childbirth or pregnancy.
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That's the first thing. And you will give pain and during birth. that That's all one thing. Second, look what it says. Your translation may read different. This is a New Living Translation. And you will desire to control your husband, but he will rule over you.
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So the natural outcome of sin in the garden was this, unnatural desire for women to rule over their husbands. It's taking that divine order and flipping it upside down.
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See, that's what Satan did. He said, surely God didn't say if you eat that apple, you'll die. No, friends, that's exactly what God said. But see, Satan twisted it. And man fell in the garden.
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Part of that repercussion is, women, are to have bad childbirth. And let me just tell you, after getting my appendix out, I know about one-tenth of what you guys probably experienced.
Dominance, Sin, and Decision-Making in Marriage
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Horrific pain is one.
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But the other part is, you'll have this unnatural desire to want to rule your husband. But it says, he will rule over you. Do you see the conflict? right, flip back with me. Back to chapter 5, Ephesians chapter 5.
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This is why, particularly, it's hard for some wives to submit to their husbands.
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However, if you want to have a harmonious marriage,
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ladies, as you must submit. You must place yourself under the authority of your husband because that's a God-given role he was given as the head. It's not because he's deserving of that role. It's because God has given him that role as head.
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So wives, your responsibility, the way you respond to this call, is one of submission. Now also put practically what does this look like? Well, if you've been married any length of time, you know most of the time you're making decisions together.
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Yes? Husbands and wives, you're making decisions together most of the time. The only time really where this comes into play, i think, is
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Spiritual matters, matters of the heart, where y'all can't come to an agreement together, this is where submission comes into play. Ladies, you have to defer to your husband and let him lead and take that headship role and make those decisions.
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My last pastor said, ladies, you have God's permission to duck as God throws the can at your husband and hits him in the head.
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Why are you thinking that way? It's a sense protection, right? Ladies, is you are protected under your husband, but you have to get underneath that umbrella. And all the ladies are like, can we just get on to what it says about the men?
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Well, husbands, you don't get off that easy. what Look what verse 25 says here. 25 says, for husbands, this means that you're to love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. How does Christ love the church?
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We said sacrificially. What's another word for sacrifice I put in here? Giving up that thing which you love.
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I want to pause. Not just for dramatics, but I want to find my place in my notes.
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This one's a tough one for some of you to hear today, fellas. But just like I didn't spare the the wives, I'm not going to spare you either. Because you have to know what God's word says about your role in that relationship.
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Yes, you are giving you have been God-given this headship role, this position, this authority that comes with that, but you must exercise that in such a way that it says you are to love your wives sacrificially.
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That means that you are to place her above yourself. That means Christ comes first as you submit to him, but the very next thing in your priority list, fellas, is your wife.
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It's not yourself. It's not your hobby. It's not your friends.
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It's not golf.
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And all the booze.
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Why is that the case? Well, he tells us right here, he says, because now you two are one. You're united. It's this great mystery, it says here. This thing that was once hidden but is now revealed.
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It's It's this this representation, this relationship between Christ and the church. Fellas, your your role is so massively important in the relationship.
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I can't stress it enough. You have to put her first. She has to come first. Her needs have to come first.
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And when you do this well,
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you can shelter her.
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You can make sure she's pure and holy and blameless. That's your job, husbands. Woo!
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Boy, what a responsibility that is. Ladies, just like it's hard to align yourself under your husbands, it's equally hard for him to... With God's help, manage that relationship.
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Because He wants you to be blameless and holy.
Summary of Marital Roles
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Paul sums it up here for those who really need him to sum it up. Verse 33, says, Each man must love his wife as he loves himself. Not somebody else's wife.
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His own wife.
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Ladies, If you're unmarried, you're not submitting under some other man. That's not what Paul's telling you.
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In the marriage context, where you have a husband and a wife, the husband is head, and he loves his wife sacrificially, and in turn it says she places herself under him.
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ah like I like the New Living Translation, and respects him.
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What do most women want? In a marriage, they want to feel loved, protected, guarded, shielded. What do most men want?
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Respect. Period. Fellas, argue with me if you want. You want respect in your marriage.
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What does this mean for you and I today? how do we How do we not just recognize what that role is, but what does that look like in your marriage? Well, let's start with, ah yeah, thanks. Equal in value, distinct in role.
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This is what we'll also talk about this upcoming Wednesday if you're in in my class when we talk about the the Trinity. It is this picture that each husband and wife, we made in the image of God.
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There is inherent dignity inherent value there, but each one of us are built differently.
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We're built differently so that, ladies, you're not trying to be the head. And, fellas, you're not supposed to be submitted underneath your wife.
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And I put some of you, both of you, struggling this from time to time. Sometimes men, it's tiresome. I get it. Being the head. Being responsible.
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And sometimes you just want to forego that responsibility and let your wives do all the work. That's not what the Bible calls you to do. You are to stand with that umbrella and cover over her.
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Ladies, the same goes for you. Quite often some of you want to run your husband. You want to be the one who wears the pants.
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And I tell people that's it's unbiblical to want that. She can set the pants out for you, but you have to put them on.
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Everybody who's chuckling has been married a long time right there.
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The first thing we need to do is recognize. For some of you, that's the first step this morning. You have to recognize what God's word is telling you. That there are distinct roles for a husband and a wife. Apologies. I knew I put a tissue under here for a reason.
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I didn't know what it was for, but now I do.
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Some of you need to recognize, fellows, that you are the head, and that means stepping into that role. It's a wake-up call for some of you. Ladies, it's also a wake-up call for some of you who've been trying to run it all.
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You might take a really tough conversation this week with your husband and your wife. Hey, I heard what the pastor said about roles. Do you realize we're not quite biblically aligned with what God's word is? What does that look like? How can we make changes?
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By the way, we should be filtering all of our life decisions, not just our politics, through the Bible. All decisions are filtered through the lens of ah Scripture.
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So as much and as great as it is to hear me say, fellas, you need to step up. And ladies, for were as great as it is for you to hear me up here say it is time to submit, I can't do that for you until you get in your house and you start talking amongst yourself.
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And you realize that God's word has authority over your lives and you must obey his word so then you get together and have that difficult conversation this week. For some of you, that's the first step to recognize.
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For most of you, I would venture you fall into the second group, and it's respond. So if the Holy Spirit is prompting you today and you think, wow, this is what biblical marriage looks like, this is what the divine model is, but this is not what my marriage looks like.
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What do I do? Well, for husbands, for some of you, this is time to put away whatever's hindering you from putting your wife first. I don't know what that is, but you do.
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Perhaps the Holy Spirit is revealing to you now you're spending too much time, fill in the blank, watching movies, playing games, hanging out with your friends, drinking beer, going to bars,
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playing sports.
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Something is taking too much time and your wife is not in that first slot. She's not first priority. For you, husbands, I'm telling you this week, you need to figure that out.
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And you need to put those things away. You need to put those things aside. And you need to start treating your wife as she deserves to be treated. Ladies, for some of you, this simply means submitting.
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This means recognizing that role and and submitting. and And I put here to myself, this doesn't have to be a big ordeal.
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Ladies, you can do this very craftily in your marriage. Very small decisions.
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Small things that you say, wow you know what, that sounds like a that's all like a really tough decision. I'm glad you're the one making it. That's how you would say to your husband. That's a polite and friendly way of letting your husband know this is a decision you really should be making for us, for our family.
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And it kind of gives your husband a little nudge, a loving nudge. I'm tired of doing the heavy lifting, you might tell your husband. I'm exhausted from doing the heavy lifting.
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Would you help me out?
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And then lastly, I just put mutual respect and honor is vital in all marriages. Women need to feel they're cherished and loved and men need to feel they're respected.
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end this way.
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Husbands, your call today is to love your wives. Would you do that? Please.
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Wives, your call this morning is to submit to your husbands. Would you do that? Please.