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EP 2: What The SHEnanigans?
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SHEnanigans Podcast
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Introduction and Show Premise
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You are listening to your auntie's favorite DJ, DJ Treaty Tree.
00:00:29
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What is going on? And welcome back to what the pod. My name is DJ Tracy trees and you are an episode to wow. Welcome back. Welcome back for those who are new to the to what the pod, what the pod is a podcast that I created that is basically a recommender of all podcasts. I'll think things podcast. I put an open call on the Internet and say, hey, come to my podcast and tell people why they should listen to your podcast. I talked to the people for like 15 minutes and then this they show up to the
Guest Introduction and Podcast Overview
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show. It's awesome.
00:00:59
Speaker
This episode, I'm breaking that rule, even though I just started it, I can do what I want. So I'm breaking it, and these are my homies. So please help me welcome to the show Tyra, Aisha, and Jenny, the ladies of the She Nantigans podcast. Woo-hoo. Hey. I got to add some sound effects in there or something. But the weekend.
00:01:23
Speaker
And what's funny is the intro music actually has air horns at the end. I just edit it into the episode. So when you listen to it back, we gonna have the air horns going. It's gonna be lit. But thank y'all for joining me. What's happening on y'all ends? Hey. Thanks for having us. Yes, thank you. Yes, yes. Introduce yourselves real quick. Let them know who you are one by one and as a unit. Sure. I'm Tyra. I'm Aisha. And I'm Jenny. It's Jenny.
00:01:49
Speaker
A.K.A. Demi, A.K.A. Papa, A.K.A. Papa. Kobo, Kobo. I got a whole bunch of names. And I invited y'all to What The Pod because I've been listening to the shenanigans podcast for a minute and y'all are always hilarious. Y'all always over the board with topics. So tell the people a little bit about what your podcast and what they can expect to hear when they listen in. Yeah.
00:02:16
Speaker
So I knew she was going to look at me. I felt it. I felt like, all right. So we are the Strength of She LLC. We started in 2015. We are a women's empowerment company. And we decided that we should just start talking about the things that we write about. And so we started our podcast in 2017. And we have a couple of segments. We drop every other Thursday on SoundCloud and the Apple Podcast app.
00:02:43
Speaker
But we start off with like an icebreaker. So I asked him one silly random question. Nothing to do with whatever we're talking about. But you know, just to get our juices flowing. And then we usually have a hot topic. It depends on like a current event that's going on or what type of campaign that we're doing at the time. And then we break into segments and we all have a segment. Be well, be
00:03:04
Speaker
love and be you. And so it's wellness, it's about love, relationships, how to love yourself, and then how to be the best you that you can be. And then Jenny wraps it up with a little, you know, she-spiration. She gives us a bomb-ass quote, and we be like this. Yes. So yeah, that's our podcast.
00:03:22
Speaker
Awesome, awesome. And you always need a bomb-ass quote to finish it out so you can put something on Instagram. You know the caption and all that already. That's good.
Icebreaker and Podcast Evolution
00:03:31
Speaker
All right, you said you start off with some kind of icebreaker. So bring that to me. Like, let's do an impromptu icebreaker right now. Oh, OK. I got you. I'm the doctor. You ready? Whatever y'all ready is. This is y'all show pretty much right now. I invited you, but let's do it. If a killer approached you and they asked you to do a dance, or you'll be killed,
00:03:53
Speaker
What day is she doing? Ooh. I'm probably going to go with the electric slide. Only because in moments as life or death, you really need to take it back to your roots and do something you really can do good. Because I can't mess up at that point. So I ain't going to try to throw a TikTok in there. And I'm like, oh, I missed the step. You can't do that. No.
00:04:15
Speaker
That is a classic. That is, that is, you have to go back to those moments and nobody ever gets mad, especially when you slap your foot real hard. It's like you hitting the electric side. That is exactly what I'm on. I want to hear your answers. Y'all come and look what you got with dance.
00:04:32
Speaker
Um, I'm going to make it now. Like that's, that's, that's, that's you. Tyra like banks like Tyra. Now you're a dance fever. I used to dance fever. I dance. I dance in the privacy of my home.
00:05:02
Speaker
Um, you know, I'm probably. Wow. In a moment of life or death. And you know what? You are committed. That thing is going to be saying, you can't kill me. That thing is going to save me. You got to be committed to that thing. You better save yourself with that thing.
00:05:35
Speaker
Oh, man. What would I do? I'm gonna do something that's really old. You know how, like, when y'all were a kid and they were like, do that little dance, you do. I was a Tissy Row.
00:05:52
Speaker
OK. So you immediately go to like, untie mode. Like, if you don't understand in there, and it's like, do that dance. Just do that. Do that little dance. Please don't kill me. That is hilarious. That is hilarious. And you know what? Who comes up with these kinds of questions? Like, are y'all making these up off the top of your head? Sorry. It's me.
00:06:21
Speaker
You should just tune in for the Tyra questions then because that's a wild dog. I would never think to ask nobody that question. It'd be stuff like that. I don't know. And we will go off the rails.
00:06:32
Speaker
One episode, we went off the rails so bad on the icebreaker, we was like, there wasn't a hot topic. We ain't even making an episode yet. Yeah, it was like 20 minutes in this icebreaker. Yeah. That's lit. Sometimes you got to stay in the icebreaker moment, too, and just let it flow organically. That's why I like this show. I'm like, let me just talk to these people. I don't know what they got going on. We're just going to see what's happening on the day we record, you know? Right.
00:06:56
Speaker
It's like, all right, cool. So how long have you guys had the podcast? Like, straight up. 2017. I think that's when we started. That's my final answer. That's your final answer? I think that's for a million dollars. Yeah. I think that's it. I feel like it was. That sounds right. Yeah. 2017. So y'all been in it for a minute now. So y'all pretty much have like a whole year.
00:07:24
Speaker
Yes. Yes, but. But, you know, when you're taking breaks and intermission, you know, life happens. Life happens. We go on quarantines and stuff. We went through some host changes. OK. And then we went through just some restructuring. Like Tyra says, a brand, like we really kind of looked at she, especially before we hit five years, and was like, OK, what do we love? What do we not love? What do we want to keep? And kind of tried to pare things down a bit more.
00:07:54
Speaker
And so that's where be loved, be well, and be you came from. That's awesome. Now, what is it like creatively as women to occupy that space together and to collaborate? How is that for y'all? I think it's pretty easy. Well, because the hot topic, we kind of just throw out different ideas. Again, it depends on what is going on.
00:08:20
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And then we all individually have a segment that we bring and we don't really collab on that. We just organically like mesh. We just know like, I don't know, just our personalities are different, but it works. And our guesses are different and we accept that we all come
00:08:44
Speaker
from different perspectives. And that's what we love and enjoy about talking to each other about all the different things that we talk about because we learn from one another through that. And then we learn about each other more through that too. So it makes us tighter and closer. Yeah. So when you say different perspectives, give the people a little taste of what each person brings and that background that they bring. Oh, let's see. I can go on and on about that. I mean, especially I'll say like from
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love. Like I'm divorced. I was married five years. Like I'm a mom. I have to figure out like, how do I navigate my singleness after a divorce and, you know, and then them being single and dating, but from a different state.
Dating Dynamics and Misinterpretations
00:09:33
Speaker
Yeah. From a different thing of life. Yeah. And whereas I'm like, I know what I want and I know what I don't want because I've kind of had this life already. Um, so I can just be more,
00:09:45
Speaker
I don't know. Direct. Direct. I was going to say raw, but you know, I don't be, you know, because some people's experiences, like you said, I know what I want and I know what I don't want. That's very, you know, declarative right there. It's like, I ain't just signing up for nothing. I'm not going to date around somebody who I know I won't have a long term commitment with. Right. And some of us may want to date to be married and some of us just date for fun. And it changed. Like, of course, as the years changes, what we want changes. So it's nice to see that.
00:10:16
Speaker
you know, see how our, you know, the things that the over time, how they change, change. So let's talk about dating. Y'all bought that up. I did it. Um, so I'm not in a date in life and I constantly love to talk about the date in life because I was so trash at dating.
00:10:33
Speaker
It's like I kind of looked up and this lady fell into my life and then like I'm dating her now and even sometimes in the marriage I'll be like dang I need to really step my date game up I'm dating you know what I mean you know not that romantic I'd be just trying to go to bars and you know watch games and do things that's just like
00:10:50
Speaker
She don't really want to do all the time. So tell me what the dating life is like right now. Like, what are some pros, some cons, some things that you're doing? Well, please watch this on YouTube. You know,
00:11:11
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From my perspective, I think that it just seems like it's so hard to do something that should be simple. Like it's just so hard to like date people. I think from being a woman, I feel like the different men that I've dated, it's like they think that, okay, well, if you do want something casual or you just want to have a good time, they think that you're trying to trick them and then they overthink. And then it just like you're,
00:11:36
Speaker
always in this phase of, okay, yeah, we're kind of talking, but it's going nowhere. So it's like, what's the point? Yeah. Yeah. I fall into the, are you tricking me? A lot. And I'm like, don't say, like, I really just want what I came to you for. And like, I'm gonna go back home. And like, we could talk next week, or we cannot. And you know, and I'm fine with that. But for me, it takes a lot of explaining.
00:12:03
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or a lot of, you know, time to kind of go by before they really get like, Oh no, she for real. Like this really ain't, this really ain't a trap. Right. And do you think this is a new thing? Do you think that y'all are just a different kind of woman, like a Renaissance woman? Okay. Okay. And this, and the, the kind of men that you would normally date just aren't there with you on that same agreement. Yeah. Or they just haven't come across women who, you know, can be like, Hey, like, I just want sex too.
00:12:33
Speaker
And that's cool because I have needs and I'm going to fulfill my needs and I'm going to take my back, my butt back to my residence and like, and I'm straight, you know, they, they haven't had to encounter that a lot, you know, or like we had an episode where we talked about, you are not surprised. Like you aren't surprised. Like I'm not going after you for you, not necessarily like that's not why I'm here. And so it can kind of.
00:12:58
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then for some guys egos and make them a bit confused. And so trying to navigate that has been interesting too.
00:13:05
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Yeah. Yeah. And what, what age range are these men in too? Like, do you think some of this is more of just like they having, they're not old enough to do that or is it coming from a place of egotism on they end where they like, what, how are you going? How dare you do this to me? I mean, if, if, if, you know, you ain't got credit 30, 31, 32, I'm afraid to know how far I'm supposed to go up.
00:13:29
Speaker
But you know, I dated, I had a guy that was 40. He was the same way. And so I don't think it has age limit. You think it's personality based. It's just like these kinds of... And is it geography? Have you like found different...
00:13:45
Speaker
The only reason I say that is because we just moved to LA. And when I tell you people here are on a different timeline, it's like I live on a different planet. Not even kidding. People here live authentically. They're the truth. You'll see somebody walking down the street, and they'll be pop-locking at the light, just waiting on it to hit. And you'll be like, this could be Beyonce's dancer. They could be practicing. Everybody just keep walking. But in Indiana, when I would do stuff like that, or me and India, we go out, and we always joke and say we act like Bobby and Whitney cuz of them.
00:14:15
Speaker
That's how we act out in public all the time. And people will look at us like, are they celebrities? Are they what are they doing? Or like if there's a camera and it's just always so much shock where here they're shooting movies and TV. So people don't care. You live your authentic truth. So, you know, dating here might be different because you can be more eccentric than, you know, places that I've been. So that's why I asked about the geography.
00:14:37
Speaker
I mean, I like a little long distance. I can do it like I am. I am prolonged distance. So, but it's- How far? How far distance Tyra? I don't think I got up. I don't think I got up. You're saying like you live in Africa. Like I need to get to you, but they know I will hop on a plane in a minute. You will hop on a plane. So anywhere in the United States. I literally will.
00:15:08
Speaker
But yeah. And also I'm going to period in my life where I will move. Like, where you at? And I'm into this. I will. You will move for a relationship right now. That's. Yeah. I am at that point. Why not? Why not? What would I lose? OK. OK.
00:15:27
Speaker
And that's the vibes I'm getting from y'all. It's like everything that y'all say is like, listen, I got it. You can have it. But if you don't have it, that's cool too. It's like real conditional. And if we can come to an agreement that we both would benefit from, I'm straight.
00:15:42
Speaker
I'm straight. I move forward. And that is one common thing that we do have together, regardless of our perspective of what we're looking for at the end of the day, I think it helps that we will always, one, have each other's back and we'll always uplift each other like, you have everything that you need already. So don't ever forget that. And that's why I think this works.
00:16:09
Speaker
That is so refreshing and empowering. And you don't hear this a lot from straight women in relationships, to be honest, because it's just a tough space. People joke about lesbians moving in super quick. Me and my wife, we got married 18 months. It was it. I told her I love a second phone conversation. I was like, let me girl die. You'll say it back one day. That's how I was.
00:16:30
Speaker
We're just more open and willing to be more vulnerable. And I think it's because of that sisterhood and trust. And it's good that y'all found that same vulnerability inside of friendships to fuel your outside relationships like that is. So dope. And I think that people just should listen for that because I know I've been in places where I haven't had my friends around. So listening to y'all podcasts is like, what is they up to?
00:16:55
Speaker
Yes, yes. All right, so keeping it rolling, keeping it rolling. How have y'all balanced the podcast life with your professional life? Go ahead.
00:17:08
Speaker
I was just going to say, I think that it's going to be a forever, like, not necessarily challenge, but something that we're working towards to kind of get better at managing it all. I think that we do well at managing it, but I think that, you know, over the years we've honed in on what we wanted things to look like and kind of just figured out, okay, with just the three of us, what works best. So we communicate a lot. You know, we,
00:17:32
Speaker
have different calendars and things so we just make sure that we are all on the same page through staying in communication. And we're very gracious with each other. Aisha and the Sun, so we try to you know navigate that and all of us, I work three days a week and they work more than that so I have a little bit more time and then we just try to fill in the gaps. Sometimes we have to
00:17:57
Speaker
see, you know, okay, do we need to record two episodes? Can we just do one? Can we do a mini episode? Like, so yeah, we just are really graciously each other and are very delicate in understanding of each other, like what we all have going on. And help each other accountable. Like, you know, we all kind of, one of the other changes were
00:18:23
Speaker
that we kind of divided and conquered the business. And so Tyra took over the podcast, which I was like, praise the Lord. But you know, it's not always just on her though. Like Jenny can easily say, hey, y'all know we record next week. Or y'all got y'all segments ready or y'all need some more time. But we're real with each other, but we're also real with our listeners. And so that was really important, especially because we used to come out every week.
00:18:53
Speaker
And it was just too much for us. And we had to say, okay, how can we stay consistent and keep coming back and not feel like we're letting people down that look for us? And so that's why we switched to every other week. And it's just worked. And so I think as long as we continue to
00:19:11
Speaker
have that same grace with each other, but also be very open with our listeners about what's going on in our lives. They did it. We did it. It won't show up and we do it. So yeah. Yes. That, and that just goes to Sean. The reason I asked that question is because there are a lot of people listening to this podcast who
00:19:27
Speaker
constantly want to start a podcast. They've been telling everybody in their family, Oh yeah, I got a line. I'm gonna start my podcast. And they actually don't do it because of life reasons. So if y'all can figure it out with three individual people with three lives and you know, a son, a work schedule, you know, they can link up with other people and get their story out there too, because all stories matter. And that's what I think is cool about podcasts. Like everybody can just get on here and talk their shit like,
00:19:52
Speaker
But I think it also has a lot to do with just like, well, I mean, what matters to you the most, you know? And I think that one reason why we've kind of kept she going is because like we really care about it and we're invested in it and we want to help other
Pandemic Reflections and Personal Growth
00:20:07
Speaker
people. And then also I know for me, I feel like just being part of she and, you know, writing blogs and doing podcasts, like it's very empowering for myself to be a part of it. So I think it really just comes down to
00:20:18
Speaker
like what matters the most to you, and then you make time for that. Yeah. Did y'all take a break during quarantine? Yeah, we did. When did y'all come back from that? Oh, like July. Yeah, sometime this summer. Like July, like March, July.
00:20:34
Speaker
Yes, it was like about March and then we probably came back when it was like safe to be around each other because I'm a health care professional and so I was trying to be very delicate because at that time we didn't know a lot that was going on and so I asked their comfortability level you know this is what I do. I don't really know sometimes if I'm around people with COVID or I have patients with COVID but you know I don't want to
00:21:00
Speaker
infect anyone if I even have it. And they were honest about how they felt. Aisha was very protective of
00:21:08
Speaker
her son and herself. So I was like, that's fine. We don't have to meet and we'll do it when it's safe to do so. Yeah. Yeah. That's lit. So I bet the reason I asked the quarantine question is when y'all came back, how different people were you like, like what has, what during quarantine have you changed the most individually? I want three different ones on me because I know y'all got something.
00:21:32
Speaker
And I can start since I asked the question just during quarantine. So I actually got COVID twice through gigs because I'm a DJ, you know, I'm at bars, I'm on microphones. I got it last in October and then I actually gave it to India. So India didn't get it the first time.
00:21:51
Speaker
But the second time she got it and it kind of made me think like, what the hell? Like, am I going to keep going out and gigging and putting her health at risk now, my health? And luckily, you know, we had a good reaction to it, but we was out for a month. So at that point, I just canceled all my gigs and we sold everything in our house and moved across the country to change the lane. That's just what it was. I was a wedding DJ for 10 years and that business was closed.
00:22:17
Speaker
It was it's going to come back. You know, it sounds sad, but it's it really freed me in different ways because now I got to professionally work in the podcast and arena for a day job, as well as, you know, now have time to record my content and not have to feel like I got to go pack up my equipment, hop in my truck, be in Illinois, Indiana and Florida.
00:22:37
Speaker
You know what I mean? I'm doing everything in the apartment right now. We've changed our living situation completely to where I don't have to worry about cutting the grass, cleaning the garage, none of that stuff no more. So I got so much more time. And that's really the benefit that I came. I just felt more free to express myself differently in my creative format. I can still DJ and be an internet DJ, but now I have that podcast in part.
00:22:58
Speaker
to really round myself out. And that's what I really wanted to do. I would sit and think at night and want to do that in Indiana, but I just felt like if I could start over, I would do it different. And I started over and I did it completely different. That's what's up. I think quarantine made me even more fearless because like I said, you know me, I've always been a very free spirited person, but I'm also a cancer.
00:23:24
Speaker
So we are very much like in our shell, you know, I love my home and everything. Like recently I'm like, forget it all. Like let's pick this up. Let's just go. I don't even know where I'm going. I don't even know what I'm doing. Maybe I don't want to leave. Maybe I don't know. So I think it made me more fearless and even more adventurous than what I really already was. But now I actually have more of the balls to do the thing. Yes. Fearless.
00:23:54
Speaker
What you got, Ayesha? Oh, Jenny, you got it? You know? So I feel like for me, so before, they have this laughing thing where, oh, Jenny, you don't do anything. You didn't go anywhere. You didn't do a couple things. So the thing is, I feel like when COVID happened, even though, I swear, at the beginning of the year, that's something that I wanted to do. I wanted to travel more. And I wanted to get out and experience things. But then COVID happened. So I feel like, what's up?
00:24:22
Speaker
I feel like the fact that that opportunity was taken away from me, I feel like now I feel just more motivated to just get out and do things. Like when an opportunity presents itself, like I want to be out and I don't want, I don't ever want to feel like that opportunity is taken away from me or I didn't
00:24:39
Speaker
you know, enjoy that time for whatever reason. So just not allowing myself to be held back by myself. Yes, especially around traveling because the world still kind of is closed and it's well in some places, you know, Texas. If you go to Texas right now, girl, go wow, wow, wow. Everything open. Everything open. Faces and all. No man. Yeah. No man.
00:25:07
Speaker
You couldn't pay me, you couldn't pay me enough to do that right now. Just the anxiety, don't you know what I mean? Don't you feel like when your face be out there, I seen some on Facebook. You go out for 10 seconds without a mask and it's panic because you don't want people to think you're a Republican. I actually believe in science, I'm sorry.
00:25:28
Speaker
I'm like, I just left my mask at home. I had that moment yesterday. I ran out, and I came, got in the car. I was like, all of my masks are in the house? And I had to put Tristan's mask on, because it was the only mask I had in the car. I'm like, I know they like, why this chick got this one? Hey, I'm covered. I'm covered, yes, always covered, OK? I'm covered, that's right.
00:25:52
Speaker
Oh, I was trying to think about how I wanted to put this. This really is two things. And look, y'all ain't going to give me Saki today because they don't like being a Saki. Gangster. Thug it out. But one piece was I lost quite a few loved ones last year and people that were very significant in my life. My mother-in-law, my grandmother, my grandmother's brother.
00:26:21
Speaker
all hit home, all in the fall. And so, and they were all people that I stayed away from, purposefully, you know, due to COVID. And then, you know, I had guilt because I'm like, you were probably going to die anyway. And I could have just come and seen you and had those divides with you. And so it did make me cherish my people more and make me want to reach out more because I'm not
00:26:50
Speaker
a reacher and I try because I've been busy and but you know not to use that as not to use it as an excuse like you know you have to make time for your people because you just never know young people old people you just never know that was one piece but the other people weren't just really like we're still remote we're still at home next next week will be the year since we've been home and um
00:27:19
Speaker
It brought a lot of health issues for me, like being at home, being working nonstop on a computer, like for 12, 13, 14, 15 hours some days. And so my anxiety was through the room. My depression had came back, my migraines had came back, and it just really made me look at things, those two things put together, made me look at my life more. I'm already very reflective anyway, but it made me look at my life even more and be like,
00:27:49
Speaker
Okay, what do I really, really want? And what do I really not want? Because whatever I want, I'm going after that. And I don't care who says what about it, but like, I'm going to be very prescriptive in what I want and what I need from people, from things, from places, from work, from whatever, and not accept anything less. Because we've seen how much life can change over the past year.
00:28:15
Speaker
And my wellness, my health, my happiness are most important. And so that just elevated that for me even more. I mean, that hit home on so many different levels. I mean, your people, you forget about your people. And I'm one of those busy ones. Like I got my mom on a two to seven business day call back plan. You know what I mean? But you really need to make time. And that's why like right before we jumped on, my niece was calling me, but I'm like, I'm going to call you right back. You know, just.
00:28:40
Speaker
because time and space does get there. Man, man, y'all are dropping gyms. Just all the feels. But you know what? You miss this kind of talk. I mean, I had to hang around. There are some girls here that we hang out around, but for the most part it's guys. So you miss this kind of just conversation and dialogue and feel good. Like y'all make me want to just wash my hair, deep condition, you know, lighter incense, you know.
00:29:08
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All those things, which I got to do, because my hair is very nappy. So since we've got on self-care, what's one self-care thing, item, or activity that you do now, straight out the gate, has to be your number one mandatory? Nap. Take a nap. Just nap. All right. That's it. Is that every day, or is that a? You know, I've been taking vitamins, and it's been keeping me from napping. I don't like that. But I will take a nap. I will sleep at work.
00:29:39
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Oh, every day. I hope your job is not listening at all. They have nap rooms. Oh, you work in health care. Yeah. Yeah. Take your nap, sis, just because I come to the hospital. I go to the sanctuary of healing. I go meditate in there. Meditations turn to a nap. I come back on time. That's what matters.
00:30:03
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Girl, meditation turned into a nap. I could literally get a t-shirt that says that, because every time I meditate, I wake up like, what the fuck? How long I been asleep? That means you was doing it right. Doing it right. Oh, man. All right, Aisha. I'm going to say working out. Don't look at me like that. I didn't, because you're right. That is your thing. That is my thing. That is her thing. That's my thing. Yeah, going to Doma.
00:30:32
Speaker
you know, going to hip hop cardio when I'm being honey, going to this trainer, they be kicking my butt now. So you got a trainer. I was going to ask you what you're doing to work out. I did just get a trainer because, you know, sis had those that needed to be escalating. Yeah.
00:30:51
Speaker
And so I'm trying to be thick and swim in the way with my birthday. I feel it. OK, how long you got on your birthday? Next month. Look. OK. You know, I could do a lot of damage in five, six weeks. Yeah. I like the way that you think. I'm like, because usually people are like, my birthday's in the fall. And you're like, all right, cool. They're going to go the whole year. You're like, no, I applied the pressure 30 days. 30 days.
00:31:16
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It's changing whatever. Drink the water, do the workouts, have the sex, it all inclusive. Wow, sex is a part of your fitness? I was including, I was gonna say that first, but I figured I could just, that's a part of my workout regimen.
00:31:32
Speaker
It is. We do talk about it a lot. We do. It's one of our favorite things. We say we water our plants. Water your plants. Water your plants. Yes, water your plants. I'm gonna tell y'all what it is for me. Whether you're watering your own plants or someone else is watering your plants. But water your plants. Water your plants. Because masturbation matters and you need to know that. Yeah. You gotta kind of do it.
00:31:58
Speaker
Yeah. Me and, oh, I tell India, cause I wear Fitbit all the time and I'm like religiously weird. I'm like, I'm logging. This is calisthenics. Got to hit the Fitbit. Yeah. Yeah. Yes. Yes. All right. Cool. So we got shows. Jenny, what you got? So I would probably say, what are you saying? I'm like, okay. I say that. So I would probably say,
00:32:28
Speaker
and working out. How do I go say writing stuff down? Writing stuff down. Writing stuff down. Writing stuff down. Just in general. Everywhere. Everywhere. I do. OK, so I've always been really jealous. How good is your penmanship, one? And two, how do you keep all of these written documents in order? That's the key. That's the major key. So I mean, I feel like I have pretty good handwriting.
00:32:57
Speaker
So I have calendars and I use sticky notes. Calendars with an S. Calendars with an S. That's what I was like. She has them in multiple rooms. Plural. Only one room. So I have a calendar that, well, yeah, I only have one calendar. So I have a calendar that I have in my room.
00:33:16
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um and that's more because here's the thing so I tell myself I want to prioritize me so that calendar is really for me to you know you know making sure that I'm doing like different things each day and stuff like that and then I have my planner for work um and then I have like a workout calendar so it's like I have different calendars for
00:33:39
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You carry around all these in your bag and your purse like this. Your purse heavy and it's like you gotta clutch it like that. It's a big bag. I know but that is so awesome that you're like yeah I have a calendar for this because I do that too just digitally. I'm always just so like enthused with people who are still like
00:33:59
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writing stuff for me. We all have pen and paper planners. I have a pen and paper planner, too. I think that that's one thing that we got from kids. Like when we were kids in high school and stuff, like you had a planner, you had a plan for your life. So we still have those kinds of things. But some people don't. And that shocks me, too. But Jenny, with the multiple calendars in the different rooms for the media. I have issues with losing things electronically. So I think that that's one thing. I fear having everything in,
00:34:29
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one place and all just lost in a cloud and I just can't get it back. That's trauma. That's trauma. You're speaking from a traumatic place. I used to work at the AT&T store and people like you would come in there all the time like, excuse me, I need to change my phone. Back up. Where's the cloud? Where does the cloud live? My stuff. Yeah. I need to hook you up one time, Jenny. If I hook you up one time, you'll be sad. Yo, tree. I gotta make you laugh.
00:34:56
Speaker
It wasn't even McLeod for Jimmy. Jimmy has some on the floppy disk. No, it was a flash drive. It was a flash drive. It was a flash drive. It was a flash drive. How long ago was this, Johnny? It was a floppy disk. It was a flash drive. It was like two years ago. It was like a couple years ago. It was like two or three years ago. She had all of her C things, and she went to go like,
00:35:22
Speaker
Now we know what happened. We organized something, and it was all gone. And I was like, Jenny, it's not on your computer. We were waiting for the future. Yeah. And then I were like, it's gone. Everything. Jenny, I'm going to ask you one question. Before you take your flash drive out of your computer, do you eject it?
00:35:41
Speaker
At that time, I don't think I was. She wasn't. That's OK. Now I do. So you killed it. It sounds like you killed your documentary. I probably did. I probably did. I taught her how. Because when she came, they said it was not formatted. And I said, oh. Oh, yeah. You definitely. Oh, yeah. But you know what? It happened to me. And I'm a DJ. I had like, I think, 77,000 songs at the beginning of quarantine. And they all wiped. And I was going to pay like a stack to get them all back. And then I thought, how stupid.
00:36:09
Speaker
I just revealed it. And that's where I'm at. Oh my goodness. Yeah. But it's happened like two or three times over the past 10 years. Like it's going to happen. But I use it as an opportunity to just restructure. Yeah. I mean, I've got remixes in there. I got stuff that I did live that I ain't never like I would just play it because I recorded it while I was like, yeah.
00:36:28
Speaker
It broke my heart. I cried. I cried. I cried, but I still save everything in the cloud and on drives because, girl, that handwriting, my hand, I don't know. It's like this the pen I write with, first of all. So you know it's fine print. It's just this. So then after like two sentences, I get locked. It's like carpal tunnel.
00:36:53
Speaker
And then I drop the pen, and it's like this. And then I just go back to typing. I can type really fast. Yes, I do. I can type fast. I feel like the right thing. That's how I remember them, when I write it down. I've been through multiple times. And with manifesting, they say you're supposed to write it down. So that's your manifestation journals. Yes. You can plug. Shamelessly plug. Drop it in the comments. Yes. You should tell us about your manifestation journal, since we own that now.
Manifestation and Identity Campaign
00:37:25
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Oh, yes. Go get it for the people who are watching on video. Same as plug for you to stop listening to this on podcast version and go to either YouTube or Twitch or backstage on my Patreon page. You know, you get all the uncut things, even though I'm not doing a whole lot of editing. It's basically just you giving me $5 a month. It's cool. You can do that.
00:37:47
Speaker
So, beginning of the year, I dropped my second journal, Reflections and Manifestations Journal. And so I wanted to create a journal where people can get in a good practice of reflecting, but also manifesting and doing it regularly. So it's a monthly guided journal, and I take them through how to reflect and how to manifest every single month of the year.
00:38:13
Speaker
to get to their goals or to get to their whole year, so 2021 manifestations, but taking them in a chunk at a time. Because looking at that progress over month, month after month, can kind of help people keep going, see their progress, understand what they've done, and can just drive them to keep going forward.
00:38:35
Speaker
Yes. My journal. Look in the comments, y'all, for this manifestation journal. And let me tell you how I could have benefited from this straight up. You still can't. I still can't. I know. And I never look back. I'm so hard on myself. Hold on, y'all. My computer about the back. All right. All right.
00:39:01
Speaker
Okay. Um, so for me, we started that 75 hard challenge, like the second week of January or something. So I'm really hard on myself because, um, I don't look at the, I don't reflect. I don't, I just, I worry about the right here right now. And if I wrote it down as a goal for the day and it didn't get done, there are,
00:39:23
Speaker
Not consequences, but I am a very disciplined person. I get what I need to get done every single day, period. There's not a person, place, or thing that's stopping me from hitting my goals. But during the 75 Hard Challenge, you do these things every single day. And they tell you to take a picture every day. But you don't put them side by side. You don't think to put them side by side. So I recently just put them side by side. And I'm like, I'm sitting here talking about my thighs. They're so damn fat. But they not.
00:39:49
Speaker
If you look at the first couple of pictures and then look at the one that's here, you wouldn't even talk to yourself like that. And you would give yourself some grace because you see that you've been showing up every single day and here is proof of that. And I feel like if I wrote it down somewhere or had my measurements rolled down or something, I'd just been casually doing it. And now that I'm at day almost 60, I'm like, it's getting tough. It was good for me to look back and see that and make me want to actually finish it. And I quit.
00:40:19
Speaker
Because even if you don't accomplish what you set out to do that day or that week or whatever, you accomplish something. It still contributes to the overall goal, to your overall path and your journey. So it may not have looked like what you wanted it to look like, but you're still going to get where you're going at the end of the day. So that's also a part of that reflection is giving yourself grace within that and being acknowledging
00:40:48
Speaker
Yeah, yeah, that's major. I'm telling you, it would have helped me these last like 20 days to not be so like, man, you know, I'm grumpy, especially when I work out. I mean, I don't necessarily like to work out, but I need to look good when I go out. That's just what it is. I'll eat whatever I need to eat, do whatever workout I need to work out, because when I put on those clothes, they better. Yeah, you know, so.
00:41:13
Speaker
Yeah, that's, that's just solely. Okay. So what else y'all got? What's happening? I saw y'all drop some pictures on IG. What's happening next? So well, we're in our B scene campaign right now where it is all about encouraging women to let it out. This is a free space up in here. This is the open and welcoming space. So something's happening.
00:41:40
Speaker
But what we are encouraging women to really be seen in all the spaces that they live in and to really own who they are and show up as themselves and not feel like they have to shrink who they are and shrink a part of their identity and their personality to kind of make others comfortable or to conform or to move ahead, like really elevating that their voice, their presence, their representation, like all of that matters in the world.
00:42:09
Speaker
Um, whether it's the big world or very smaller, uh, nuclear world, like it matters. And so I'm encouraging women to show up and be seen as who they are. So that's what we've been focused on, uh, these, this last week, uh, for the next, for the next week or so. And so we have a few other things that are going to drop with it. We have some new merch dropping with it that just dropped that's on the shop. Yeah.
00:42:35
Speaker
Yeah. Yeah. So tell, I mean, tell them all that. So y'all got merge. Y'all got, there's a journal up there. Um, there's a new campaign for BC and that's up there. Where can they find all of this information?
Content Planning and Flexibility
00:42:46
Speaker
They can find it all at shop dot the strength of she.com for the merge. Um, and then we'll have some other, some other cool things that'll come along with some visions, uh, that'll come along with, uh, the BC B same campaign. But it's like the first series of,
00:43:04
Speaker
three first series that we're rolling out for the rest of the year. For the rest of the year? Okay, man. I like how y'all playing content for the year and I'm just making it up. I'm like, hey, come on my show. I'll just ask you questions. You know, whatever works for you. No plan. I can't be planning this out, y'all. This is the most I have. Sending y'all that link was as much planning as I had. Look, it's the first round. That does not work for us. Uh-uh. Yeah.
00:43:34
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broadly plan and then have small planning sessions. Because it will not happen. It won't happen. We don't talk about it. I think there's just some people like that, though. But me and India, how we live, we really don't plan for anything. We know the general direction in which we're going. But we're just up in the air about all the details. We'd be like, eh, all right, let's do this. We just don't like being locked into having to do things. Yeah, and we have gotten.
00:44:03
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you know, in front of the business, you find out what works and what does not work. And it takes a long time, years for trial and error. And I think we're finally like really in our bag and are realizing that like, it's great to plan, but also let it happen. Like,
00:44:20
Speaker
We all have been putting out our content differently because we have so many images and so many different messages. And we've all just been putting it out. It hasn't been super real structure. And we've been getting reposted from major blogs. So it's nice to just let it happen. Because you are right. If you plan too hard, you will overthink it. Because we used to be there where we would overthink it.
00:44:47
Speaker
we would not do things or we would get in our own way. And so we were like, okay, we just have to do it. Trust that we know what we're doing and it's going to work out right. Yeah, because Tyra called us, she put out an SOS message right before we dropped the first images. She was like, are we dropping this campaign tomorrow? Like we talked about all these things, but are we doing this? And I was like, look, it's going out. I got
00:45:13
Speaker
from you, like, you know, we're just going to roll with the punches this week and we're just going to let it flow. And so I think, you know, that comes, that comes with it too. Yeah. Yeah. And I think I've learned that because I've been a, I was a kid entrepreneur, so I went to entrepreneurship camp when I was 12, if you can believe that. So I've started like 11 businesses my whole life. I've been an entrepreneur my whole life. I always had a side business. When I was in high school, I had a side business. So for me, I've learned that over the years because I would be stressed and anxiety and just
00:45:41
Speaker
anxiety written the whole time. And then it's like, dude, if I just had not worried, it all worked out. And it's constant. And especially with DJing, I don't even know what song I'm gonna play names. People be like, did you play? Did you practice? I practiced so I can get my hands right. But the actual song.
00:45:56
Speaker
I might be feeling Beyonce. I might be feeling, you know, so my life is that. Yeah. Yes. And I'm so glad y'all, if y'all ever need some vibe, my friends call me for that. They be like, girl, I'm overthinking. Isn't it? Call me. I'll be like, listen, it ain't gonna, if it ain't gonna matter five years from now, you shouldn't spend five minutes thinking on a girl.
00:46:16
Speaker
Yeah. Yeah. Move on. Move on. Yeah. But I'm excited to see y'all new series. If y'all don't follow them on IG, look at the caption and follow them on IG. The pictures are fire, fire. Any last things from the shenanigans crew before we end out? Y'all want to say something, pitch something?
00:46:34
Speaker
Just follow us on all of our social media handles. So we are at Strength of Sheet, like that's the LLC, but the podcast is at shenanigans underscore pod, P-O-D. So we're on Twitter and on Instagram. So just follow us. You'll see us dropping little like audio clips, memes related to whatever we're talking about, just different stuff. So
00:46:58
Speaker
Yes. You can participate in our crazy icebreaker question. That was off the chain. I'm like, what? Who would even ask a question like this? But yeah, I got you. That's it. That's it. And I don't even practice ahead of time. It's never going to be live. That's what's up.
00:47:21
Speaker
That is what's up. All right, y'all, so thank you, thank you, thank you, y'all. These are my homies, and thank y'all so much for spending some of y'all time here with me today. Yes, thank you for having me. Thank you. No problem. All right, y'all, this has been episode two of What The Pie. Please like, share, subscribe. Whatever platform you're looking at this on, hit that little share button and tell all your friends about it. Next episode, I got some dope people coming along as well. So I'll see y'all soon. Thank y'all for listening to What The Pie.