In this episode, I sit down with midlife transformation coach Debra Donenfeld of Photosynthesis Coaching, who brings 14 years of coaching experience and a deeply soulful yet no-nonsense approach to helping people thrive through major life transitions. Together, we explore how to communicate effectively during high conflict divorce, even when emotions are running high and your ex seems to know exactly how to push your buttons.
If every text, email, or conversation feels like walking through a minefield, this episode is for you. You’ll learn the real reason to keep your cool—not to “be the bigger person,” but to stay grounded in your power.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
The #1 reason to keep your cool—even when your ex is throwing verbal grenades
Why focusing on behavior instead of content is the key to de-escalating conflict
The power of the pause: a simple technique to create space between reaction and response
How to shift out of victim mode and into self-empowerment
Practical communication strategies you can use with your ex, your children, and even yourself
We also talk about the critical role of self-awareness, how to stop taking the bait, and how to avoid emotional hijacking in moments of tension.
Check the show notes - Debra is offering a free 45-minute consultation for listeners ready to step into calm, confident communication during this challenging chapter.
This episode is full of wisdom, tools, and compassionate guidance to help you reclaim your voice—and your peace—during high conflict divorce.
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