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Self-Care Episode
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Get to know us in our first episode including how we met. We play the lotto and then talk about corporate culture and talent shows leading us to our weekly question: "What have you done for yourself lately?"
Transcript
Life's Busy Juggle
00:00:00
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Hi. and How you? Good. How was your week? Oh, um, did do anything interesting? Gosh. Super busy, work-wise.
00:00:11
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Uh, and then did I do anything fun Oh, I got together with my friends last night. Oh, how fun. yeah haven't seen them in a while. So I just had a couple friends over. had some wine, some snacks. I put a pizza in the oven for them and I burned myself. So that was fun. I wondered why you had that bandaid. I didn't ask yet.
00:00:32
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Yeah, it was, um i don't know, I was doing too many things at once. And I was preheating the oven. I was like, oh, no, I have a foil um to protect for the cheese because you put it on the rack. Yeah.
00:00:42
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And then i was like, okay, I should have done it first. Did not. And then I was like, oh, my God. Ow. So I do have a little blister, but it's getting better. Oh, that's good. Yeah. And so we just caught up, even though I talk to them every day. I, like, haven't seen them in person. anything.
00:00:58
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quite some time. Oh wow. Yeah. Yeah. That happens. It's like you get caught into the rhythm of like work or whatever it is, your same old habits. And it's really hard to get together with friends.
00:01:10
Speaker
Yeah. and honestly, one, like they're both my best friends. One lives next door and I barely see her. Oh, but she has kids. She's like, I didn't know your best friend lived next door. Yeah. You're so lucky. i know. So you moved there.
00:01:24
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intentionally yeah because your best friend lived there.
Friendship and Socializing
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Yeah. You didn't become best friends once you started living there. Oh, okay. Yeah. So where did you meet?
00:01:35
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Um, we met in elementary school. I met her in third grade. Yeah. And like her family always like moved around a lot. Um, And we, like, didn't keep in touch that much.
00:01:48
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But whenever she would come back to Culver City, we would reconnect. And then, like, we both went to college and whatever. And then we, like, reconnected. And we're like, that's...
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So it's really cute.
Lottery Scratchers: A Fun Gamble?
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Speaker
That's great. Yeah. What did you end up doing last night? ah Well, we we got together with some friends as well. And we went out. We had some good Mexican food. Yum. And yeah, it just feels like I have to make such an effort to see friends these days.
00:02:20
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Because I'm so tired or my brain just isn't on. The nice things, like the social things. It's on all the things that need to get done. Right. And so I'm just finding that like I have to let go of some of what needs to get done.
00:02:36
Speaker
Yeah. Just so that I can hang out. who That's my life. I'm like, ooh, I'll get to it. Eventually, I'll get to it. Yeah. It is what it is. Well, um I am glad you waited to do the scratchers.
00:02:51
Speaker
Yeah. With me, because I'm excited to do this, even though these kind of always confuse me. Okay. I never know what to scratch. We'll do it together. Backstory. I was running late this morning and, um, I had to get gas anyways. And I was like, what can I bring, to make up for being late? Not that I needed it to. And I said, I know I'll pick us up scratchers.
00:03:11
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Uh, so we've got a quarter and a nickel. Which one would you prefer? I'll go with this one. The nickel. Okay. um These are $10 scratchers. Went up to $1 million. Let's see. What's the number on here? 14, 13. a low number, chances are you might win something.
00:03:27
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What? Did you know that? No. Yeah. So why aren't you a millionaire if you know all the tricks? Well, I don't do it all the time. Oh. Oh. I'm like, I'm excited when I win like seven bucks. Oh, oh, oh, so the win might be seven.
00:03:40
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It's just a win. But I'm saying like, do we scratch all these? We scratch all of it. So this top row, it looks like these are your winning numbers. If we match them in this, I think we win. So it says match match Any of your numbers to any of the six winning numbers win that prize. Uncover a five times symbol to automatically win five times that prize.
00:04:03
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Uncover a 10X symbol to automatically win 10. Same thing for 20 and 50. It says 21 chances to win. I think we might win. You ready? I like your spirit. All right, let's do it. Ooh, what's a fast spot on your boss?
Talent Show Adventures
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That's my number. and I don't know. that's my number. My number's on here. Yeah, so the top are like what you want to match below, I guess. Right, I'm saying that my number in life is here. 22? know what's funny? Mine's 11 and I got it.
00:04:33
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Oh my God, so look. Twinsies! That means it's not a winning number.
00:04:43
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you just keep going and basically we want to uncover our numbers that are at the top. And if we don't, we didn't win. So you don't have to worry about the amount.
00:04:54
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So you're just matching one of the numbers to the numbers below? Yeah, however many. So like, obviously, you'd want to get all five. You'd want to get some of them. right um
00:05:07
Speaker
You want to get all five to be the same number? no Like your numbers at the top are like what you want to match below. Okay. So it could be any of them. So they don't have to be directly below.
00:05:17
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but This is where I get confused very easily with scratchers. Really? I've only done like maybe five scratchers in my whole life. They're very fun. I got them like in a stocking one year and I was like, this is amazing. Did I win anything? No. No. But it's the thrill. Yeah.
00:05:33
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And I feel like, what is that one of them? Okay. Let's see. Did we win anything guys? Okay. So I feel like nothing's a winner.
00:05:45
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I feel like I didn't win anything either. Let's see. 43. 38, 41. 14, 35, 44, 11, forty one eleven forty four fourteen thirty five thirty
00:05:55
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25, 27, I 19, 32, think 25, I 6, won anything. 34. 1, 39, 31, 17, 45, 21, 30. didn't either. And so what's this corner one? Fast spot, 105. Did I win 105? What does that mean? You guys scratch that? don't know what that means, but think we win something. Uncover, uncover 100 in the fast spot and win 100. got 105.
00:06:09
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one oh five is did i win a hundred and five what does that mean guys scratch that i don't know that it's plan i think we win something uncover oh uncover a hundred in the fast and when got one off You don't want to four. Okay, so we didn't win anything. Okay.
00:06:28
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Well, um that was fun. Yeah. Thanks for joining us on our journey of winning nothing. But wouldn't it have been if we actually won on the California Scratcher?
00:06:39
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and We could have won 50 times the cash if we won anything. um But I didn't have any exes on mine. i didn't have... Yeah.
00:06:50
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Big old loser right here. But, um, like, do you win if you lose completely? Cause that would be good too. I think the little barcode on here is a second chance. So like when you flip it over, you can like scan it and then like,
00:07:06
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You might get like another free ticket or something. Oh, okay. That's good. Scan front bar code validation and second chance entry. So if you're a degenerate and you have the Lotto app on your phone, you can do that. and But you know, we're supporting children, I think.
00:07:22
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I think this all goes to education. Oh. Doesn't it? I heard that's the story of a lotto. Of lottery? Yeah. I had no idea. money's supposed to go to... that's a thing. It could be going to a slush fund. I don't know.
00:07:35
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um But that's what I tell myself. When i do it periodically, I'm like, I'm supporting the children. Yeah, that's always good. Right. um All right. Well, thank you for that. That was fun.
00:07:48
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Little ah activity for everyone. And I feel like because it's our first time,
00:07:58
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time at this, we should talk about how we like got close, like how we met. Oh, yeah. And we can't talk too much about work because we have decided not to include work or or at least specific things about work yeah on this podcast to protect the company we work at and our jobs.
00:08:16
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Yes. So we're going to be very careful about what we say, but I think it's really cool the way we connected. I do too. Like, you might have more memories or different memories about, like, how we started to get to know each other. And that would be cool to explore, but I think we should just kind of share, like, the thing we did last summer together.
00:08:37
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okay. Yes. um So we Where we work does like a summer picnic every summer with a talent show.
00:08:50
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Yeah. And I was new and they were trying to recruit, uh, talent, talent for the talent show. Cause I guess the year prior when I was not there, people were just signing up day of, and it was sort of haphazard and not, um, cohesive and entertaining maybe.
00:09:10
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Um, so They had this like big push to have more people come. They incentivized it with like prize money. You got money if you participated, which was great. So even if you showed up and didn't win, they still gave you money for at least going out there and showing a talent or making a fool out of yourself, whatever you decided to do.
00:09:29
Speaker
So you approached me, you, you actually came up to me at one point, not approaching me to have me participate, but you were like, Oh, I have this idea because I had been in the talent show the year before and it took a lot of rehearsal. I mean, we were probably rehearsing two months prior.
00:09:47
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think that's what they wanted, right? And everybody be like, yeah, um but I was forced to be in it and I wasn't the one deciding anything. so it was like all decided for me.
00:09:58
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I had to be in it. um It was combined with IT. t I can say, i see yeah, yeah kind combined with our IT department. And um so it was like a couple of departments. We were just sort of big and rambly. And the person who was in charge of it didn't want to.
00:10:15
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Didn't want to be in the act at all? Didn't want to be part of it at all. Like didn't want to be deciding what to do. Didn't want to be directing it. Did not want to be, it just didn't want to be there. And a none of us really cared to be part of it. Sure.
00:10:27
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Like the spirit of talent shows. Great. We didn't want to be, you know, jerks about it, but none of us like felt really compelled to do it. Yeah.
00:10:39
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And it's already a difficult thing. I mean, the company has over 200 employees. you know We're in a space where everybody's drinking and having fun, and then we're like, okay, hey, everybody, pay attention to the stage. Now we're going to perform for you. and like It's just intimidating, yeah and it's a big thing. so like If you're not into it, it's kind of hard to perform.
00:11:00
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right um so I wasn't thinking of being part of it at all. and Then you mentioned something about doing... um SNL. I did. The skit, the Maharel Sisters. Yes. And I was sold. I was like, oh my God, you should definitely do that.
00:11:15
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But we weren't really that close then. Right. Yeah. Yeah. And so i wasn't going to be like, I'll do it with you. tried to be kind of casual about it. I like, oh, yeah, that sounds fun. But yeah, I pitched my idea.
00:11:29
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Initially, i didn't really want to do it, but they were like, we need it. I was like, OK, well, I have and an idea. Can you see if like other people might be interested? If not, no big deal. I'll just sit on my good idea.
00:11:41
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Um, and then, so ah had told her about it and she was like, yeah, I'll do it if you can get a group together. And then the person that was sort of like, a what would you call it?
00:11:52
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MC, I guess, sort of master ceremonies or whatever. They were kind of reaching out telling people like, Hey, this person's looking for a few others. Would you be interested? and so that's kind of how our group formed. People were like, yeah, I'll do it if I can join a group because not everybody has ideas and that's okay.
00:12:09
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No, you know, and the other thing that I find in no matter where we, where I work, so this has nothing to do specifically with where we work. Right. But like everybody is all for concept.
00:12:21
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Yes. But execution is something totally different. So what I was feeling with you is that you were getting a lot of people who were like, what a good idea, but they weren't actually committing to it. Right.
00:12:31
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So I was like, what a good idea. And I just kind of slipped in there and I will... commit to it if you need someone. And I think you didn't know what kind of traction you were going to get. Right. So I feel like as you realized the full weight of how things really run there, which is everyone's full of great ideas and not much execution. Yes.
00:12:53
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That I was the rare one. Yeah. To actually step up and say, let's do this and let's get other people, recruit them um or force them. And so I started forcing.
00:13:04
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Yeah. But I also realized I hadn't realized what I got myself into. No. um its It's quite a job. Like she was saying, it was people like, yeah, I'll do it because A, they get money.
00:13:17
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Um, but B, I had to pull a lot of weight. Um, and I'm so glad that you and the other person on our team joined because they were so good with audio and they helped us a lot with that.
00:13:30
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Um, and the script writing, cause I had done the initial script very loosely right for us to work on. I don't know how it happened, but it was like, The initial idea was to do the Maharel sisters. And so I'm like, that's great. And then all of a sudden the script turned into everything, but we can't talk about tiny hands. We can't talk about tiny head. We can't do the singing. We can't do it. I'm like, then we're not doing the show at all. So I think I finally just, I, I went to the one who was kind of overseeing the whole thing. And I'm like, I don't know who's changing the whole thing, but I can't participate in this. Like, I can't be part of something where like, we're rewriting something.
00:14:07
Speaker
I joined to be part of like that. this idea yeah and um and so i think at that point we just radically had to accept the term like yeah and we get to do it that way right and i think that person was like absolutely i think we were worried about people getting offended or something so it was like then maybe we just don't do it all together right and because you can't it's like either you're doing the maharal sisters and it's tiny hands or it's not the maharal sisters with tiny hands yes So um i think we finally just said there might be people who have tiny hands or whatever it might be, but we're just doing this yeah for the sake of, because you can overthink it and you can think yourself like out of things too.
00:14:50
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Right. um And so we just went back to ah actual reality. like one of the storylines, I think one of the more popular ones. Yes. Episodes. Yeah. And um we did that. We did our recording. That's the thing.
00:15:08
Speaker
We were smart. We didn't perform live. We did all of our audio beforehand, gave that to the DJ. And then we just had to do our movements, which was great. And we practiced a lot. Right. And had the one person who joined that we're talking about who did the audio hadn't joined, we probably would have gotten nowhere.
00:15:29
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Yeah. um We needed a script. We needed talent. And that talent had to come in the form of not only performance, but also all that techie stuff. Yes. He was so clutch. I'm so glad Well, when you have a bachelor's degree in musical theater, you do everything you can to get that person on board.
00:15:49
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Yeah. But also I think they gave us, gosh, I think a winning edge, even though we didn't win, in my heart we won, we got second place.
00:15:59
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So i consider that a great success for my first talent show. on the fence about this year. ah But we'll see. I heard there's going to be some changes. And I heard there's no talent show.
00:16:16
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who Yeah. I heard there's no talent show at the barbecue. Oh, no, but I heard that. Yeah, i heard it was going separate. Right. Yeah. Which is great because if I'm at a barbecue, I want to enjoy the barbecue. Right. That's what that was my problem. I don't want to stress about performing.
00:16:29
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That's how I felt. It was like I couldn't even enjoy myself. No, it was hot. Oh, my God. I was spitzing. Yeah. Like I had to stay in costume. Like the facilities were not.
00:16:41
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you know, for the theater. So it was, it was a bunch of things. I don't even think we got like a proper recording. We didn't. And the stage had musical equipment on on it because of one of the scenes, one of the acts. Yeah.
00:16:55
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And we had to dance all around it and perform all around. So like we didn't even have a full stage. Yeah. And we're outside. Yeah. It was like yeah just a lot of things. We had a lot of things to contend with, including the weather and the wind. Yes.
00:17:09
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So had it not been recorded prior, like if we didn't do the pre-recording of the singing and nobody would have heard they wouldn't have heard it. We wouldn't have been able to perform yeah it the way we had. Yeah.
00:17:20
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As it was like so much of it was just impromptu improv because we weren't ready for the space. But I will say that what was recorded, even though I don't think there was a formal recording, though they record everything and why they wouldn't record the talent show, I'll never understand. Yeah.
00:17:37
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um I played it back and I'm like, oh my God, you were so funny. Thank you. I took notes, everybody. I don't think that I'm the best, but I did take notes. I adjusted and it was really fun, but I was i was terrified because I didn't know a lot of people and everybody comes to the picnic or whatever you want to call it. Barbecue. Barbecue, whatever. We didn't even have barbecue.
00:17:59
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No, it's just called a barbecue. Yeah, yeah. Summer barbecue. And it was... um I was say Olympic themed, but that doesn't really matter. Summer Olympics. Yeah. it was because the Olympics were last year.
00:18:11
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Yeah. So I'm sure a lot of people use that theme, but, um, yeah. they had other, they had other ways for us to get competitive because, um, we work somewhere where they want us to compete and have healthy competition with each other.
00:18:24
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um it probably makes us all better at our jobs. And, um, And brings in some interesting team dynamics. Yes, I would say. um So that Summer Olympics theme was like...
00:18:37
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It was in keeping with the volleyball tournament and the hula hoop tournament. And so the kind of competition that we did on stage as talent was different from the athletic talent. Though I felt like what we did was a huge athletic feat.
00:18:50
Speaker
Absolutely. In its way. Yeah. So many bruises had. Yeah. The master of musical theater turned out some amazing tricks. He did. Yeah. Shining star.
00:19:02
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Yes. 10 stars. i would give him 10 stars. 10 out of 10. I was like, wow, I can't even do that. I know. Which is great. Yeah. It's his whole background. It's his entire background.
00:19:15
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and That's what he did in New York and then just shifted gears and decided to go into a different area. So when I heard that, I'm like, we need him, especially considering the people that were already there.
00:19:26
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Yeah. There were only couple of us who had been on stage ever. Right. Right. So, um, yeah, that was great. He choreographed it too, for the most part. So there was a lot of heavy lifting at the end by a few people.
00:19:40
Speaker
Yes. I was not expecting that. I was like, okay, we all agreed to do this just because it's my idea. It doesn't mean i need to do all the heavy lifting. And so I was so thankful for our late addition.
00:19:54
Speaker
And um i yes, it was just a whole lot of new, but yeah, that's essentially how we became friends. It is. Yeah. And then like, i don't know about you, but now everyone identifies me in that.
00:20:09
Speaker
I know. At work. So it's like even, you know, people People who don't know me at all like will laugh and giggle and call me Denise. I think I was so new. Only people who already knew me knew that that was me. i guess that means had a good costume. I only had a mustache. It wasn't anything crazy.
00:20:34
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um But people do still tell me that they really enjoyed it. So yes that's really nice. Yeah. So that's how we met.
Exploring Self-Care
00:20:41
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I mean, like met, met. And you don't really get to meet many people at work, like on stage, so to speak.
00:20:46
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Right. Poetically speak. Right. yeah not keep knocking this thing. I'm probably going to have all these like... No, you've got the cute little... ah So it like doesn't do that. Okay. Yeah.
00:20:56
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At least that's my perception. Right. Well, next. So that hopefully warmed us up a little bit. So we're not so stiff and present-y sounding. We're just like talking to each other. Yeah.
00:21:08
Speaker
um So what's our, we, we had a question we posed, right? You had, you came up with a good one and I don't know if I prepared enough, but. Okay.
00:21:19
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I wanted to ask you first. Okay. Except I don't remember it. What is something um you've done for yourself lately? um Either like poured into yourself.
00:21:33
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Yeah. Or maybe it's something you got yourself that kind of supports like a new hobby you want to get into or self-care or anything of that. it could be like, I decided to take a nap.
00:21:46
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Like I really needed a nap. Um, So I think it's interesting. Well, I want to encourage people to make sure they're taking time for themselves just because you can, between everything you've got going on in your life, whether you have kids or don't have kids, life is a lot.
00:22:03
Speaker
Between if you're working full time and everything else you have to do, taking care of where you live and everything, I think a lot of people forget about themselves. So it's important to pour into yourself, whatever means you do.
00:22:20
Speaker
So should talk about what did? Yeah. So then what have you done? Like, what have you done lately? What pearls of wisdom can I get from you? Well, don't know. I feel like mine are a little silly, but the two that I came up with our purchases.
00:22:34
Speaker
So ah last week I got a new shower head for the bathroom. That um has a filter because um water is so hard where we live.
00:22:49
Speaker
I've heard so many good benefits about it being good for your hair and good for your skin. And I have really sensitive skin. I feel like no matter how much I moisturize, it's just like crazy. So, um, Yeah, I had my husband install that.
00:23:01
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It's been great. I love it. It's like, you know, you can take it off the thing. It's got like three settings. You can pause it if you have to. So we can also wash the dog. Right. Which is very important. um And I've only had it for a week. So I can't tell you. Yeah, it's like, i mean, it's a nice shower. I can't tell you the benefits of having a filtered showerhead. Yeah. And then they just send you a new filter every three months, which I feel like is manageable. So you don't have to do it every month.
00:23:27
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Yeah. um And then the other thing I got myself was like a really nice hairbrush. I've never had a nice hairbrush. And so i got this one made in Germany and it has like, what is it like boar hair bristles or whatever. Yeah.
00:23:44
Speaker
That's supposed to be really good for like your scalp health and everything. And it like helps distribute like your hair oils through your hair. So it keeps everything like nice. And I've only had like crappy plastic ones.
00:23:56
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And I'm like, I should invest in myself and get a nice hairbrush. Now, is it like super expensive? Like the $200 one I was looking at? No. But it was pretty close to 50 bucks.
00:24:06
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And I was like, but I feel like, call it an investment purchase. I feel like it's going be a really good hairbrush. And it's not going to break on me. And I think it's... go to be really good overall for my my hair and scalp and stuff. I think that's great like I think that people do a lot for their hair but usually it's to color it or it's to perm it or if' they're putting product in it and so the two things that I hear you doing for yourself is to like actually just kind of take care of your hair the quality of your hair which in some cultures is actually considered sacred.
00:24:39
Speaker
In indigenous cultures hair is your it's your ancestry it's your it's it's something sacred. And it says something about family. So it's interesting that the two things that you cared to pour into kind of have to do with with what can be considered sort of a... Interesting. I don't know.
00:24:58
Speaker
Spiritual. I love that because a it's certainly something that I don't usually... almost I take care of, like, obviously I wash it and I brush it, but I do it minimally because I hate when my hair snags and breaks because my hair is really fine.
00:25:15
Speaker
And I, so it's more of like a, like a sensory thing for me. I'm like, Oh, don't want to brush my hair. And so then whenever I brush my hair before I wash it, I feel like, you know, I have all my shedding. Everybody sheds like every day, like you're supposed Um, so I'm like, it's kind of a goal for myself this year, I think is to like,
00:25:32
Speaker
do a little more than what I've been doing and hopefully it'll like help cultivate, uh, overall like better health. Right. Yeah. Right. And natural things, things like you're not trying to add product. You're not trying to, you're just trying to enhance what you've got or work with what, what you have.
00:25:50
Speaker
Yes. And that's another thing I find in our culture. Um, we kind of get away from really easily and that's preventing, things from happening. We tend to react to stuff like, oh, my hair is broken now. How do I repair it? As opposed to what can I do to help build my, the strengthening of my hair so that it doesn't break.
00:26:08
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And so I like both ideas. I mean, just in terms of the shop going back to your shower thing. I really love that because there's nothing like a good shower.
00:26:21
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Right. Like it can be the best experience if you just go in there with intention. Yeah. I think that like it can be the best part of your day. Oh yeah. I get super meditative in there.
00:26:33
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And a lot of times my body's like, it's such a mental task to like get in there and get wet. But then once I'm in there, I'm like, I could stand in here for a whole hour. know. like thinking about things, the water running on my hair. It's just like so relaxing. my God. That's but like I have that same block about getting in the shower. yeah Because I think you feel like, especially as a girl, once you get in that shower, you know that there are so many things you have to do before you can leave. Like minimally dry your hair, which sounds like such a simple thing, but it's not.
00:27:05
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Like even for the those of us who don't spend that much time, it's still... Yeah. A commitment. Oh yeah. You've got to put some effort into it. yeah So, but like, I agree, i get into that shower and as long as I can surrender to it. Right.
00:27:20
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for even if it's 10 minutes, it's worth it. Oh yeah. So what about you? What have you done lately for yourself? You know, i went a totally different approach than you.
00:27:31
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Um, but I kind of like where you went with it. Um, only because it makes me think of what I can do in, in that respect for myself. So I'm going to think about that. Okay.
00:27:42
Speaker
Um, especially the showerhead, right? Yeah. I like that idea. Yeah. um But I went a different way. i actually was thinking a little bit more about what phil what fills my cup. Okay. um So like something I did for myself or that I do for myself that really like um makes me feel...
00:28:06
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um complete or like I'm walking more in my, um, my intentions. Okay. and that is, ah connecting with people I care about. Yeah.
00:28:20
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So thoughtfully. And so like I make, I have been making concerted efforts and especially this year, to really foster relationships with my friends or the people that I care about. right And you're one of them. like I care to take time to ask you how you are, but like to really... Yeah. Not at like surface level. like Right. like And sometimes we were even talking about it today where I'm like, I don't know if I can...
00:28:51
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get together every Saturday because it's so exhausting. But at the same time, it's so important that we do this. Right. You have to invest the time. Right. To have any kind of result. Yeah. Whether it's just like a tangible, you know, discussion podcast. Yeah.
00:29:05
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Or it's a relationship, right? A friendship. Yeah. And so I feel like if we are going to do things together, if we are going to connect together, then we should be asking each other, like, how, how are you really? How are you? And what did you think about this? Or what's your opinion? Because I'll then walk away and really think about what you say, you know, and make that part of kind of the way I look at things.
00:29:32
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and And so those people who are in my world that I care to expose myself to kind of become part of who I am. Right. Yeah. And so that means I have to be very strategic about the people who I care to listen to. Agreed. and bring into my world.
00:29:52
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um But I also think that when I find those really special people um who are beneficial, much more wonderful my life is that I get to look at the world through their eyes too. Yeah. That I get to share some of that spirit and way of like approaching this crazy world. Yeah. Exactly. Yeah.
00:30:15
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What's going on? I don't know. And then I just feel, i don't know. I feel more connected. Yeah. It's not just about me waking up in my experience in this world.
00:30:25
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Right. It's that I'm not here alone. Right. I'm here, you know, with all these people around me and how does that help shape me? Right. And, and, you know, where is my place in it? Where is my voice in it?
00:30:41
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yeah What is it I'm contributing and what is it that I'm hearing from others that's helping me grow? i like that point of view because the people you choose to spend time with, they, they do kind of shape you like especially if you hang out with someone negative and you're all around them all the time right i feel like that energy like rubs off on you and then next thing you know you're like Debbie Downer right like just kind of like oh man nothing's going right like I hate my life or I don't like how this is going and so yeah I think it is important to choose selectively you want to spend time with who you want to connect with and um you know foster those relationships
00:31:24
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Yeah. And fostering doesn't just mean spending time. It's sometimes having hard questions yeah that you're answering like and being uncomfortable. Right. I know a friend of mine who you know um I had to have a hard conversation with because we had a bit of a, like, we had some tension between the two of us.
00:31:45
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And it is hard to bring it up without actually making it into something yeah right bigger than it is, which could make it even worse. right But you also want to work through it.
00:31:59
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You don't want to ignore it. right um And I come from a world where a lot of a lot of my life was about... um the image on the outside.
00:32:12
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So it didn't really matter what we were feeling on the inside. It was all about presentation. It was all about like, but how will that look to others? How will it look on this camera? yeah How will my voice carry? Like, it's all about like the performance of it as opposed to what is authentically going on here. Oh yeah.
00:32:31
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Right. That we're capturing. Right. And, um and so I had that conversation. Like I had, that conversation with her and it was hard. It was uncomfortable. i felt really nervous, but she was too.
00:32:48
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And um we got closer. Yeah, because you, like, trouble shot together, right? And we both got vulnerable together. Right. That's where the growth happens.
00:32:59
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And a lot of people don't realize that. like, let's just sweep it under rug. Right. Like, let's just keep it light. And let's just keep it all light. But then... And that's... Light's good, too, in certain moments. Right.
00:33:10
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It's like, you can't just be Debbie Downer, you say. Yeah, yeah. You're like, I'd rather not get into it. Let's just keep it moving. Right. But if you never... have the difficult conversations, then you're not growing, I think.
00:33:21
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No. Yeah. And it is hard to be vulnerable. Definitely. And that really, changed things. It was fuzz. Little animals. Yeah. Little animal fuzz floating around. Things where no one can see it.
00:33:38
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We're having a visitor. It's Rosie. Rosie. Um, Yeah. So we had that conversation and at the end of it, i think I had said something along the lines of like,
00:33:55
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I thought you had to make your eye statements I Because you can't be like, this is what you did. That I felt like, i ah um, a little scared.
00:34:11
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Right. And, and she said, I'm sorry. And so softly, like so authentically. And, um, and then, you know, you just make eye contact and you're like, well, obviously we don't want to hurt each other. Yeah.
00:34:28
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You know? And it was like, it was, it was so, um
00:34:35
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It was the most alive i have felt like this year. love that. It's so genuine. yeah Because you guys were both vulnerable.
00:34:46
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You acknowledged each other. Whatever the thing was that you guys were upset about. It didn't matter. and you if You were able to I knew were going be okay. knew we would be fine because... i knew we would be fine because you start to trust someone, you know them, like, you know, their intentions are good. yeah And so like, whether we talked about it or not, didn't really matter. Right.
00:35:10
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But by doing it, we actually got closer. love that. And I care about her that much more. Yeah. You know, cause want to let it fester, whatever it is. No.
00:35:22
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And if it really, truly upset you, I feel like you should say something. Yeah. Yeah. And, um and then I could let it go. Right. But then I also felt like it was a gift, like that we got to have that moment.
00:35:35
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Yeah, absolutely. So yeah, that's nice. Oh, I love that. Oh my gosh. But all of it's good. Yeah. So if you could find a person that you need to like connect with in the shower with your new shower head,
00:35:50
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it's my
00:35:53
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but You're like, I've got to forgive myself a little bit. Right. Let's have that hard conversation. Exactly. No, I think all of it is good. i think that i think that you really gave us a good question to think about this week because i don't know how you feel about this, but even asking the question forced me to think about what I'm doing for
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00:36:17
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myself.
00:36:17
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Oh, good. Yeah, well, we kind of had that question this week where they asked us the same thing. I didn't want to like parrot something because there are certain things that I do for myself pretty regularly that I often forget would be considered self-care to a lot of people.
00:36:34
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Um, so we, we talked about that earlier and I was like, well, what is something else I did specifically for myself? Well, my husband gets to benefit from the shower head. Yes. but I get to benefit from my new hairbrush. Right.
00:36:46
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Yeah. So, um, that's what I did like in the last week. That's great. Yeah. Well, I'm really into that. Any other updates I need to know? How long? Oh, you know, it's 35 minutes, so we could probably wrap up.
00:36:59
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Ooh. Okay. Let's, um, leave the listeners with this. um oh We're looking forward to our next episode. Yes, but do we want to talk about like what it might be about? Like we had other questions. Can you think of anything off the top of your head that like...
00:37:17
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we could think about for next time? Oh, ah yeah. What's something that's like thought-provoking? And, you know, we'll give it some pause to sort of... you want to do something like a, like what?
00:37:30
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Because I kind of like your open-ended questions. Like, what's something scary you did? like that. That you don't, like that, that you could have regretted, but ended up being pause...
00:37:45
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Positive. um I like that one. Should we stick to that for next week? We could. i mean, it's just something to consider. We don't have to. It doesn't have to be as big as that. It could be a little lighter than that. I mean, I don't mind being vulnerable with you guys. That's fine.
00:37:58
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um It could also be a book report we could read or we could watch a podcast and then like each of us report back on it or like learn something. Like what's something you learned this week and we have to like dip into that because I'm reading I have these books that are coming in tomorrow and one of them I'm using for something I'm teaching at work okay so I thought I could like talk about it here okay my my question for myself might have to be a little different I don't often read a lot but it could be like a podcast you listen to that you really liked or something okay I do listen to quite a few podcasts yeah I'm not gonna shout out just yet
00:38:40
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Why not? Wait, wait, why aren't you going to shout out? Well, because... Oh, okay. I will share. it um I listen to the Handsome Pod every week with Mae Martin, Tig Notaro, and Fijin Formster.
00:38:54
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um I love their group dynamic, how they have fun, and they get a question from a friend or a friend of a friend every week that they ask them.
00:39:07
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Each one of them answers the question, and then the person who asks the question answers. like answers their own question and then the podcast is over. It's great. Um, and then i also listened to giggly squad shout out.
00:39:20
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Um, it's more like pop culture based to women. They met, uh, doing reality TV, um and they just became like really good friends it's like they started it in the pandemic in 2020 and then it's just kind of grown they like did tour this year um yeah they sold out like a big arena in new york like twice i want not madison square garden but like radio city musical uh-huh like two nights like they're just like blowing up and i love that for them they're so fun
00:39:54
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um And then I started listening to Good Hang with Amy Poehler. She has guests and she talks to someone who knows her guests really well beforehand. So she gets like intel about her guests and then it kind of gives them like a little connection. So she's like, well, I was talking to your mother and she said...
00:40:18
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So that's kind of cute. That's fine. um And yeah, I guess it just depends on what I'm doing. But those first two are like every week. That's great. I love the first one you mentioned, the Tig Notaro one, who I met in person. Like, I actually, i didn't really know her as a comedian um until after I saw her stand-up comedy show.
00:40:40
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Oh, cool. 15 years ago, maybe. Yeah. And, well, it was after she had had breast cancer. Okay. So it was, like, after that really, really powerful one where she, like, did she take the top off? I think so.
00:40:52
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Yeah, that show. But a girl I was dating at the time loved everything about her. Like she was like her top comedian and she had taken me to some event and she's like, Tig Notaro is going to be there. And I had to pretend like I knew who she was because I felt like as a gay woman, I had to just know. Cool.
00:41:09
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Cool. Um, and then she got up to speak and ay laughed so hard. I was crying. Like people were laughing at me laughing at her.
00:41:21
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I love that. When your laugh is like so contagious. I was crying. I was laughing so hard. Like I didn't, I, so yeah. And fortune find, like the first time, is it Feimster or Feimster? It's Feimster. Feimster.
00:41:33
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The first time i was introduced to her was on Chelsea Handler's show. Uh-huh. And I'm like, she's fantastic. Yeah, she's great. um And then I don't really know the other one.
00:41:45
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Yeah. yeah ah The rooster. i so there is a rooster. I don't know if it's like being picked up. Yes, we're in a very big city.
00:41:57
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um And there's a rooster in our neighbor's yard. It's kind of fun. ah I don't know. i've seen May on on some things. Like they were on... How are they famous?
00:42:10
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Like how do Fortune and Tig know? I bet you if I go back them. Are they then say them? I feel like they are. I don't know. I've never watched yeah the show. Yeah. Yeah, i think they're transitioning.
00:42:22
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Oh, transitioning. Okay. they said you know They said on the show they're taking testosterone and they've had top surgery. Oh, okay. so But they recently did a like ah little tour and they had an album and they played music, and but they've done TV and I'm trying to think.
00:42:40
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They were on like, not the airline, it was an HBO show where they were like a flight attendant. That's the name of the show.
00:42:49
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Haley Cuoco and stuff. But I can't name anything else, but they're delightful. Yeah. So I can report back on a podcast next week if you want to report back on a book or something.
00:43:03
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We could. We could also um talk about something a little easier. It could be just cultural, something we ate, food we like, places we like to visit. It could be related to travel. It could be upcoming plans. It could be something.
00:43:21
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How about a trip we want to, like the perfect trip you'd like to plan? Perfect. Why don't we talk about that? I'm ready. I love that. Okay. Okay. Because, you know, summer's coming up and we can start thinking about, like, people are already taking their time oh yeah off and they're going places. And I'm thinking...
00:43:39
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What are we doing? Where do I go? Yeah. If could. Right. All right. So let's do that. All right. Talk a little about travel. I love that. Okay. Well, thanks everybody. See you next time.
00:43:50
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Bye.