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Speaker: Do you know what it's like when you wanna go cry But you can't let out all the feelings inside So you lay in your bed under blankets and hide And you let people know that you're feeling just fine And your pillow gets stained with the tears that you cried And you're praying nobody comes in and that's why And the redness is already taking your rise And you wish you could hide it but there's no disguise in it Just cry, let it all out
Speaker: If I had to be completely honest with myself... I'm tired. I'm... I'm tired. and It's not a physical tired. it's It's a very, you know, it's in the soul. It's like I'm fucking tired. I'm tired of going through this shit. I'm tired of... tired of everything not working out. And I'm just like, I fucking tried. And it's a... I can't not lie and say, it's not a, it's not like you don't want to live kind of thing. It's more of a, if God were sitting across from me right now.
Speaker: there would be a part of me that would just want to go up to him and say, listen, I'm done. I'm done. I'm not. I can't do this anymore. I'm just, I'm fucking physically and mentally spent and I'm done. And it's a, it's a silent battle too. Um, and it's a, it's a battle kind of hide from the world and from the people we love and the people we want to love or want to love us because
Speaker: Who wants a broken person? You know, it's like, if they knew, like, if the people in your life knew how broken we were, like, would they stay? And then that raises the question of like, how do I fix this? Can you fix this? I don't know.
Speaker: I can't hide myself I don't expect you to understand I just hope I can't explain What it's like to be a man It's a lonely room And they don't care about what you know It's not about how you feel But what you provide inside that home
Speaker: You can't always live up to expectations you try to Please everybody while you struggle so you fake it And end up out of balance compromising situations as a good man
Speaker: give everything he has and do everything he could man you might find yourself feeling all alone inside a house you built that you don't recognize as home and that's what my daddy told me and I'll tell my son the same now that I'm older I relate and I actually feel his pain he never cried he might've lied but he did not complain and he said son one day you'll have to do the same I'll get emotional when I stop and think and I look around Beyond the county lines of my small town I think about all the men out there who feel like I do now Who are screaming on the inside but won't ever make a plan I don't expect you to understand I just hope I can't explain what it's like to
Speaker: Keep fighting, as a man our sun is all horizon And our fathers actions play a role and we end up like them So they can't let us see them hurt Cause we'll embody what they do and start a generational curse No wonder most men are so depressed All the things that they can't express They go to war, get thrown on the shelf and go back to war Then grab that bottle and ask for help Try to pull themselves out of hell Then fall back down and then realize That they gon' have to do it themselves It's the circle of life as a man you provide They don't know what you were till the day that you died And that's when they start crying Then move on to a man you confided
Speaker: Can we feel your heart with me inside that hole?
Speaker: You know, it usually helps if you're going to do a podcast, if you're going to do a live show, if you turn your cameras and microphones on. Well, it's been a long week of podcasts and folks bear with me. All right.
Speaker: Oh man. Not only do you have the lag, now you have no sound.
Speaker: four boys has been dealing with so many technical difficulties the last week or so. Uh, we were trying to mess with them a little bit before the show started hits the reason why we're a few minutes late, but that's become the norm for the nonsensical network. We're generally a few minutes late and I'll give us credit. We were, we were on here by about seven 15. So give us a little credit for that. Anywho, we'll go ahead and get the intros out the way. Welcome to Ben, Karen from in everybody. I am Glick. I'm Glick. I'm Glick. Oh, I was being all proper and professional and shit. Anywho, I'm Glick. You guys know who I am. And if you don't, well, welcome to the yeah show. If you're a first timer. We. Let's do it. We got Blaze now. Let's hope.
Speaker: Okay. We got site, just a slight delay, but we got audio now. So there we go. We'll deal with the delay. Now, welcome to men. Blaze was so gracious to pop in and and fill in, uh, you know, as we said last week, uh, Connors on the IR, if you're a sports fan, you know what that means. Uh, however, successful, uh, surgery, he's up. He's moving around. He's feeling good. Little pain around the incision. It happens when they cut on, cut you open. But he's feeling good and he's super optimistic. So y 'all keep sending those thoughts and vibes and love and we' be the praying types and some prayers, Connor's way. you know He's still doing the recovery thing and we can't wait to get him back on the shows. He's obviously missed by not only us, but the fans as well. You guys ah have sent a lot of love his way and
Speaker: Uh, get Wells and see, can't wait for you to come back messages and whatnot. So we appreciate that. And I'm sure he does as well. Any who won't have been canned for men. It is part of the nonsensical network. And if you're not already, go ahead and check out the rest of the shows on the network. Uh, you can find the network on Facebook, Instagram, X and tick tock. You can also join us live pretty much every night of the week. And I know this week you guys are going to get real sick and tired of seeing my face because by the time it's all said and done in a two week span, I think I'm going to have about 10 shows under my belt, seven or eight of them being in a row. So you guys are going to get real tired of seeing my stupid face. Um,
Speaker: But nonetheless, Facebook, Instagram, X, TikTok shows are live Monday through Sunday on ah YouTube, Twitch, and Facebook. We got the chatters box live and open. We encourage you guys to take part of the conversation. We love that when you do. And if you can't join us live, well, you can listen to us anytime, any place, all at the nonsensical network, or simply go to bio dot .link. Slash nonsensical nonsense and if I can find it I'll put it up and it'll be Right there on the old ticker scrolling across the screen all night long um I did mention we have shows and I'll go and run those down real quick Monday night usually hosted by myself and Connor Blaze and Jeff are gonna be popping in for the next couple weeks on Monday nights
Speaker: Fill it in for Connor, which shout out to both of you guys. Appreciate that. I've been coming from in men's mental health podcast. Tuesday nights is now officially starting tomorrow night is Glick's house of music. I've been alive at eight o 'clock. I got my first guest tomorrow night. Zay. Grassley and I'm hoping I say that right. He's gonna be dropping by and bringing us some southern charm ladies and gentlemen, who's a South Carolina boy So I'm looking forward to hanging out talking to him This Tuesday night tomorrow Wednesday nights is what the fuck news but it's in the news and it makes us say what the fuck We're gonna talk about it. Hopefully it makes you say what the fuck as well ah Thursday nights this guy right over here the one and only blaze whose argument is it anyways?
Speaker: what's your What's your tagline? I might remember that eventually. had debate not typical or nonsense sense Yeah, there we go. Not your typical debates because they're nonsensical, something like that. Friday nights. We're going to dance around with a lot of different things for right now. We're going to do like the flashback Fridays where I'm going to pull up old, old shows and we're going to rebroadcast them live. Uh, there's the potential for, uh, we had a new show that started yesterday, uh, hosted by the champ junior, if you will, baby swatch as blaze quality. Papa Squatch and Baby Squatch. we're If you're a wrestling fan, we're we're doing a wrestling talk show. Basically just WWE.
Speaker: ah That's all he really watches. That's my show. That's Speak of the Devil. That's his show. Just watch it. As he said last night, it's so it's the most important show on the network. Don't worry about it. other I don't know where he gets his ego from. but but but but but i I don't know. Apple doesn't fall far from the tree. Right? Cash's Corner is what it's called. ah Well, Wrestling Show. we had it We did our first show last night. We did our SummerSlam picks. The next show will be SummerSlam Recap. And we'll kind of address our picks and our predictions and all that stuff. So appreciate those of you guys who checked it out last night. And then Saturdays is Nonsenseical Nonsense. it's the It's the foundation of the network. It's where it all started.
Speaker: It's unhinged. It's comedy based. It's real talk. It's real conversations. And we're just having a good time hanging out. And we do it a little differently on Saturday nights. We call it the open door challenge and we throw the link in the old chatters box and we yeah see who's willing to accept the challenge and come up on stage and be a part of the show with us and and hang out for a little bit. all we have All we ask is that you please turn your camera on. And if you have a wiener, please keep it off said because nobody wants to see it. It's a shame I have to ask that question, but there's a reason why I have to ask that question.
Speaker: And then we wrap the week up Sundays with Jeff's garage. Jeff and Benji doing their thing. If it fits in the garage and it's got a motor, more likely they're going to talk about it. And that's the weekly lineup here on the Nonsense World Network. There's bound to be something you're going to find that shit that you like and that you enjoy. So go give us a follow, give us a listen, and if you get some time, give us a share. We greatly appreciate that. Anywho, it is Monday night. It is Men Can for Men. First things first, as we always do on Monday nights, we do our weekly bro check and well, you know, the numbers are dwindling around here. That's bad that's that doesn't sound good. Yeah, the numbers are dwindling around here, so I'm assuming. but if If you look at the numbers in the missing people, the weekly weekly bro checks are not going too well. Oh, if you if if you're filling me in with empty spots, you know you're desperate.
Speaker: Right. Sometimes we got to come off the bench. as so Sometimes even the water. Yeah. But now, man, how's everything going in your workplace? How was your week? How's everything been going, man? Everything's been going great. I have no ah huge complaints at the moment. Yeah, things are things are about, to of course, you know, tick up in stress and shit on my plate with college coming up. But other than that, man, I am I'm good. I have no complaints. None. How are you doing? Nice. That college is right around the corner for you too, isn't it? What next? ah August 22. First day. late Next couple weeks. Yeah, man. Yeah, for those who don't know, I'm ah already have my associates. I got my associates in 2010 before I got out of the Air Force. And it is now 2020.
Speaker: four and I'm going to start working on getting my bachelors. I know, but it's never too late to go get educated. It's a man. It's that's that's a God's honest truth. You know, I'm not the college type. I've known that since since day one. I'm not the college type, but you know, I have been in my field 20, 30 years, whatever, but I still learn something new every day. And I and I and I jump at the opportunity. to learn something new now, there are things that I purposely avoid and stay away from but Many years in the business, you know, what is and it's not gonna be your biggest headache so I am NOT looking forward to math. I need one more math class just one And then I'm done with math completely I never have to take it again You know, I used to actually love math but I also
Speaker: Knew that I would never use some of the bullshit calculus and all that. So I just didn't have to ask, pay attention to it. um But I never really had a problem with now. I'm so, you know, again, i spoiler alert, kids, ah depending upon what you do in life. 90 % of the time you're only going to use basic math. but I have never used calculus. I've never used algebra. I've never been building a house and the blueprint said E equals X times two squared to the 15th power. Never once have I ever done anything when I've been building a house or doing some kind of building maintenance where I had to do algebra. So I've, uh, I've worked, I've worked as inventory control.
Speaker: ah supervisors and specialists and shit over over the years and there's times I need to open up the Excel and kind of do it my own inventory list or inventory calculations and knowing a little bit about algebra building up those formulas in your little formula bar does help um but that's been in the extent of it I like to tell people that are like I so math isn't my forte but I won't run away from it Um, I look at math as just another language. It just explains how shit works. That's all. Oh yeah. A hundred percent. A hundred percent. Absolutely. Unfortunately it is a necessary evil.
Speaker: Yeah, now there's nothing like I'm not afraid to learn anything new like I said I've just been a lot I've just been around long enough to where I know like like personally I don't deal with HVAC I've I've avoided that like the damn plague for most of my life because I know how much of a pain in the neck I know just enough to be dangerous like I can look at something in God's bad relay switch circuits bad whatever um I Can't fix it, you know but but more
Speaker: mean I got to say, we kind of got on the table, but you ask, you know, yes. Man, the last few weeks have been really good. I can't complain. You know, a lot of things are going on. A lot of things are happening with the network that I'm excited for. ah A lot of things are starting to happen personally. um that are, you know, I had a lot of stress and a lot of frustration about a couple of things, but now that they've kind of, they're still there. I'm still dealing with them, but the stress and frustration part is over. Now it's just taking care of it. You know, type deal. yeah Um, and I mean, it's good though. Yeah. You know, unfortunately Nikki's sick as hell right now. That is getting sick in the summertime has to be the worst thing in the room. Um,
Speaker: I got, yeah, its i got a wrong good question right now myself. Yeah. We were all going to go to the beach yesterday and she just felt like death. So me and the kids went. So that was really cool. Went and spent the day at the beach with the kids. And, uh, we were there for a good four or five hours and, uh, came home, you know, did dad duties, making, making dinner and. Cash and I did his show last night, like I mentioned, and that was really fun that that he, he was a little bummed and and I'm not poopooing on anybody. You know, I know they're doing their thing and more power to them. Hopefully they, you know, success to Mark and Brian, um, nothing against the guys. He was just a little bummed out. They didn't invite him. And, uh, I was like, you know, if you want to do your own show, we'll just do your own show.
Speaker: And that's all he talked about all weekend. That's all he talked about. Uh, so he was excited and nervous at the same time, but, uh, that was like a proud papa. How old is cash? Just turned 11 just a couple of weeks ago. Okay. All right. So that was, that was kind of a proud papa moment to, you know, do a show and look over and see my co -host be him and. be able to chitchat and you know something that we both some that we both enjoy and that we both like being wrestling. I've been a wrestling fan my entire life.
Speaker: um And he's just starting to, you know, just a couple of years ago before he was like, yeah, it's cool. You know, but now just like in the last year and a half, two years, he's really like all in on wrestling and watching all the old school stuff. And and and like, I was like, know if we have time, we could maybe talk about some of our favorite summer slam entrances or matches and. me and he was like, yeah, you know, it was really cool. Uh, the ladder match between Shawn Michaels and Razor Ramon. I was like, how do you even know about Shawn Michaels? He was like, I looked at it on YouTube and he was like, did you know that macho man married? I said, yeah, Mary miss Elizabeth. that old school goip right yeah yeah So, you know, he gets excited for it. So it was like a little proud, like a proud Papa moment, you know, it last night sitting here, you know, doing this ah with him and.
Speaker: You know, he got a little bit of an ego too, you know, that Mike and camera comes on and he turns into that little maniac character.
Speaker: But, uh, but no, man, I mean, things are, things are good. I can't, I can't complain too much. Um, and like I said, you know, I'm super excited for what's going on here with all of us. Uh, you know, everybody's eager, everybody's excited. So, you know, that, that takes a. Yeah, it's like a huge weight. Listen, lift it off my chest when we're all on the same page and working together for, for the same, same, uh, kind of same goal. So yeah, take complain too but, um, uh, I will say, however, if I ever hit the, I, you know, I could hit the lottery anytime now and that would really make my life real good. but
Speaker: Wouldn't, uh, Wouldn't that be the case for all of us? Yeah. Yeah. Money doesn't buy happiness. You ever seen a guy on a jet ski frowning? If you did win the lottery, would you still, would you still keep doing this? Oh yeah. 100%. 100%. I would, I would, you know, I would do this. Like I always joke, uh, yeah people People wouldn't know that I hit the lottery, but there would be hints. You know what I mean? Like, I would go from... yeah What's up? I would say everybody would be like, man, he's driving or he's flying ah ah to every weekend enjoying life. And, you know, like, where'd all that happen? Yeah, no, yeah this delay just throws me off.
Speaker: Oh, you're fine.
Speaker: No, I mean, like, I wouldn't be sitting here. I would absolutely have a I would have a full blown studio i would probably probably hire a couple producers to do all the behind in the scenes stuff for me and book guests and, he you know, and do all the technical in for everybody. um But now I always said, you know, if I hit the lottery, I want to buy about 500 acres, build a house that's big enough for, uh, you know, for us, I didn't, you know, you don't need nothing big extravagant. You don't need a giant mansion, just something that, that, that fits your family. And then, you know, yeah um, I would give Nikki's parents a couple acres and, uh, and build them a house that fit their needs because, you know, they're getting up there in age and you know, they don't, they can't really do stairs and stuff like that. So a little ranch that has everything they need.
Speaker: right there on one floor. And I said that each kid would get get like 10 acres somewhere on the 500 acres and they could build a house and they would have like a limit. Like you could spend, you know, 150 ,000 or whatever and you build a house and then that's yours. yeah And don and once once it's built and I pay for it, everything after that, your electric, your utilities, your bills, whatever, that's on you. yeah eat all that you know so And then, of course, I would have a big fuck off truck, but, you know, 500 acres, three houses, four houses, maybe, maybe even five. That's a lot of property tax, my dude.
Speaker: yeah um I'm a millionaire now. but
Speaker: I would have, I would have a beach house down in Charleston too, but, uh, you know, but just, just, just little things, nothing crazy. You know, 500 acres, you're definitely going to have toys. You definitely got to have the, uh, the razors and the ATVs and, uh, four wheelers and stuff like that. So, but no, I would definitely, first thing I would do is buy the property, build the house and build a state of the art studio outside of the house and just be like, we're running it. Let's go. get that um but but Um, but yeah, with the five kids, yeah, that'd be about 50 acres taken up right off the bat. So I'll just put them all. there's I mean, okay. So you're left to 450 acres. That's still quite a bit of room to freaking four wheels. Stick all five kids in the back corner of the property and give them like a cul -de -sac.
Speaker: Glickland guys, Glickland. 450 acres away from me. Now stay away. I'll see you on the holocaust. no roads, no roads going to your place if they need to get there four wheel drive or snowmobiles during the winter. Yeah, exactly. um That's that's the dream. That's the dream right there or you know, who knows? Maybe maybe somebody will hear one of our shows one day and they'll be like, we're going to give you guys $200 million dollars a year to do your shows exclusively on Spotify. I'd be like, where do I sign?
Speaker: Where the hell do I sign? yeah going But yeah, no, I would 100 % do this. I would do this full time. Actually, I would do, I would do this six days a week, five days a week. Then we all live as podcasts related stuff. Uh, that's how much I love it. That's how much I love doing it. Obviously. I will say that, you know, I'm going to be ready for a break, uh, come next week and I'm going to be ready for Connor to come back and, and be healthy and, get to the point where he's going to take over Monday nights because with moving the moving Glick's House of Music right now, I'll be doing shows Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday. What's up, Benji? What up, Benji? However, that does free me up on Thursdays and Fridays and then Sundays. But ah I'll be ready for a break after this week, nonetheless. You're always welcome.
Speaker: yeah right You always walk them up on Thursdays. Well, as I told you, you know, ah you know, anytime you need me, if I'm available, if I'm able to, be ah I'll gladly pop in with you. You know, I can argue on a whim. I don't even need any ah any prep time. Let me know the topics and open a shoot in the radio. I got I got seats. I got asses that need to fill seats for for this Thursday. But that's that's a topic for another time. Well, with the behavior show, I'm not the type of guy that's going to be like, you can't have so and so on the network. I don't care who you put on your show with anybody you want on the show. Oh, no, no. Yeah, yeah, absolutely. What did you get that? But you gave it to me a while ago. You're going to pay me now.
Speaker: yes Clear off a spot at the table. I was going to do it in my room. I'll try not to get pain on the carpet, please. So that's all I'll be doing. Okay. ah but but but Boys. and but put Guys, just boys. Some guy, I found me that was just scrolling the internet and was like, Hey, you want to be on a show today? Well, yeah, no, like I said, you know, yeah, I'm not, I'm not, I'm not ever that guy, man. You have anybody you want on your show. I can care less. Uh, but, uh, I'll kill that half hour real quick. And then it hurts. I see smooth operations from Glitch operator. Yeah, man. Um,
Speaker: When we come back, we're going to take a real quick break trying to try to get these times and everything locked in so we can keep shows at two hours. But we're going to take a real quick break. when we come When we come back from break, we're actually going to talk about taking breaks. uh mental breaks you know breaks away from people uh breaks away from the internet whatever the case may be and we know uh you know one of the topics that we talked with Blaze when he first started showing up on Saturday nights was the fact that he was just coming back from a little break from the internal that's a big ass break so uh we'll get into the uh as I like to say we're we'll get into the the meat and the potatoes of of that
Speaker: And really, I mean, I could have found like vacation songs and stuff. I'm just like the hell with it. I'm just going to play some music that I enjoy. That's kind of deals with mental health tonight. Um, first one I got is by an artist. His name is Aunty and it's his cover of slipknots snuff. And he does an amazing job. We'll be back here just a few minutes.
Speaker: Joy with secrets in my skin Come away with innocence Leave me with my sins But everything around me still feels like a change And love is just a camouflage But what resembles rain
Speaker: So if you let me let me go And run away before I know My heart is just too dark to turn I can't destroy what is in there Deliver me into my fate If I'm alone I can't hide I don't deserve to have you
Speaker: My smile is taking on your fire I can't change, I don't forever know I still press your love
Speaker: And cherish them in parts of me That savor every kiss I couldn't face a life without your light But all of that was ripped apart When you refused to fight To save your breath I will not hear I think I made it very clear
Speaker: Is that supposed to be enough? I only wish you were my friend Then I'd get hurt you would be in I never claimed to be a saint My home has vanished long ago It's often times I've long to let you go
Speaker: Take your time against my stones And spit your pain in my soul You never needed any help You told me how to save yourself And I will listen to your shame You ran away all the same Angels like you
Speaker: My illness but it's fun to go
Speaker: Hey, welcome back to men came from in everybody. I'm glad we got Blaze filling in tonight. Appreciate you as always. What's up everyone?
Speaker: Go ahead and check out the socials. If you're not already, Facebook, Instagram, X and tick tock. Don't forget live shows on YouTube, Twitch, and Facebook throughout the week, Monday through Sunday. Basically there's something going on here. So you guys can get in there and watch us live, get in the chatters box, engage in the conversation. And if you can't join us live and you can't watch the shows live while you're in luck, cause you can listen anytime, any place, wherever you listen to podcasts at all, the nonsensical network or simply go to bio dot .link slash nonsensical network. You can give us follow, give us a blue listen and a share. We greatly, excuse me, greatly appreciate that. Anyways, let's get into a topic of discussion tonight. We're like you said, we're going to talk a little bit about taking a break. Sometimes we just got to take a break from quote unquote reality. Um,
Speaker: you know, whether it be, and I'm not talking about like, don't go file a divorce or break up with your girlfriend or, or anything like that, because, because, you know, they're wearing you down on your, your mental health. But, you know, sometimes you might be the answer. Sometimes yeah i that be, the yeah, that might be, I mean, and again, I, you know, not I'm not speaking ill, my ex -wife or anything like that, but mentally speaking, our divorce was the best thing that ever happened to me. So, you know, um, and probably her as well. Um, but, uh, yeah, sometimes you just gotta, to you just gotta to unplug reset, whether it be from family, friends, uh, work, take a vacation. Yes, people take fucking vacations, take a couple of days here and there you gotta, otherwise you're going to burn out at the end of the day. Um,
Speaker: Or or it should be something as simple as taking a break from the internet and getting away from the people on the interwebs You know blaze has done it I did it not for you know, not for Super extended long period of time, but I've done it a couple few times And now it's a weekly thing Sundays. I I unplug and I don't do anything on social media on Sundays. I very rarely, and the guys can attest to that. I won't even talk to them on Sundays unless it's important. Facts, facts. Yeah. He just ignores us.
Speaker: but yeah
Speaker: I've been trying to divorce Jeff for 30 years. I'll send him a message. Dude, I said, i all right. So I sent you that video clip yesterday and early, early in the day you and they didn't finish uploading until like, Last night, when you had responded all day, I thought it had went up. I was like, well, it is Sunday. I guess everybody should see an ignore me. It's no disrespect. No, none taken. None taken. When I looked at South Carolina, when I was living down in Charleston,
Speaker: Um, no, I was there for, I was there for about 10 years and, and I never thoroughly got to enjoy living down there and experience everything I wanted to experience down there because I was, I spent most of my time work. I was working 70 plus hours a week. And then if I wasn't at work, I was too tired to do anything. Um, and when I i did take time off work, it was because we were going on vacations and I dreaded taking time off work. Uh, not that the company that I worked for was bad or anything. It's just the the way that I worked for work and no big secret. Um, it's just the way it's structured there is as a, as a, as a pest control route manager, you have your route that you have to do every month. And there's really not anybody to fill in when somebody takes time off. So you either work yourself to death the week prior to vacation. So then you're just asked the first couple of few days of vacation because you've done double the work.
Speaker: or you come back from vacation and you have to do double the work because you have to make up for that, that lost, that lost week ah on your route. No wonder we get burnt out so easy. Yeah. So, I mean, I dreaded taking vacations. Now it's like, yeah I'm gonna take a long weekend, you know, I put I put in a Friday and Monday off or something like that You know, I'll do that sporadically and every once while I'll take a full week off but usually it's just it's just extended weekends ah long weekends, you know um But what anyways when I came back home to Ohio You know plus I didn't get to do a lot of things with my kids that I wanted to do when I was down there because I was always at work So when I came back home, I you know, I made the decision
Speaker: I'm not going to do that again. And I'm going to take a day just for myself. And, you know, I say just for myself, but you know, like yesterday, we spent the day at the beach. I was with the kids hanging out at the beach all day, but my phone was up on the, uh, up on the blanket. I was in the water most of the day and I didn't really check my phone until yesterday evening when we got home and hell I came him home, cooked dinner and then cash and I did his show. And then when we got done doing that, cause Nikki's been sick, she came to bed and then cash. And I said, I don't watch Deadpool last night. We watched the new Deadpool movie. So I just wasn't on my phone and I, you know, part of me felt bad because I do have a guest tomorrow night. I haven't done a lot of promoting for it because again, I've been doing shows since
Speaker: Friday of last week so far I've done a show every night and uh you know so I was like all right tomorrow I have to make it a point to <unk>ll start promoting Tuesday night show on the day before but um but that's my day that's my day to unplug to to reset my recharge my batteries and prepare for the week ahead of me and I think it's I think it's ah incredibly vital to my mental health, and my mental well being to be able to take that day and not worry about work or podcasting or just be able to enjoy the day with with the kids or Nikki or or or the family or whatever. So yeah, thank I am. I'm not going to go into the whole I was off the internet for a while and why but I i did take that that long hiatus for my own mental
Speaker: Mental health, because sometimes, man, the internet can get pretty overbearing at times. So it's always good to set set boundaries for yourself and your own mental health. i I have this routine at least three to five times a week, sometimes seven days a week, where I shut off like around me and I go out to go out to the woods for a nature walk. Yes, I have my phone on me. I can listen to music or take notes because a lot of times I'm out there and I have like sparks of creativity. I want to jot shit down and whatnot, but I don't really get much of a signal out there. So nobody can just call me or, you know, I get, I'm getting these endless amounts of notifications. it's It's quiet. It's peaceful. It's like, it gives my brain some shutoff time from the world around me to kind of recharge myself, get my thoughts back in.
Speaker: where they need to be in focus by in there's there's moments where I can sit there and prioritize my time coming up about okay I got this coming up this week I got this coming up with this weekend I just jot them down get a list go on and then leave it at that like I focused on that I got my list now I can just move on in to something else I need a you know of the prioritize your list or whatnot I just it's my time to to think about what I want and what i what I want to instead of what I need to. I guess it's a good way to put it. So. but i think I think it also gives us that time to deal with aggravations and frustrations. You know, kind of hash that.
Speaker: you know and that's i yeah Fortunately, I host enough shows throughout the week that I can just be like, ah, this guy's an asshole and he's been driving me crazy. uh, to wear on Sundays. I don't, I don't, I don't let, you know, the job or people or financial shit. I i just completely turn off to that shit for one day. Um, which, you know, I think it's important that that people or as men that we find that
Speaker: that happy medium, that balance. I know a lot of people say, you know, you gotta have a good work -life balance. I think the complete opposite. I think you have to and you have to have a life -work balance and prioritize what prioritize life over work. Easier said than done, I know, because we all still have to work. That's not what I'm saying. What I'm saying is don't make work a priority. ah And that's unfortunately what I used to do. And now it's like, yeah I don't want to work on Friday. I'm taking the day off. It's just going to be here Monday when I come back. you know It's not going anywhere at the end of the day. ah But you know kind of touch on what you said. The internet yeah man the internet can be it could be something else, man. and and and And the people on the internet, bad nature they can really wear you down.
Speaker: and it exhausts you. and I've taken a couple different breaks from from streaming or broadcasting a couple different times just because I... Not for very long, but long enough because people on here, yeah I don't know, man. Sometimes they're just, they're like on a whole nother level of craziness. if It's just like, why i why am I projecting myself to this, to these shenanigans in Tom Poolery? Unless they're Saturday night shenanigans, then they're just fun.
Speaker: But no, yeah yeah, man, there's just so much there's there's a lot of toxicity on online. But I mean, there's there's a lot there's a lot of toxicity in life in general. Just the other day, I got in a shouting match in a fast food restaurant parking lot with some crazy woman. um But it's not like I can pause that and and walk away with it or walk away from it like you can on the Internet. So I mean, there's I mean, When you're dealing with people like that on the internet, you can simply hit the off button and detach. But you know sometimes you can't do that in reality, which I think is unfortunate, but fortunate, I guess, because we still do need to learn those coping skills. I mean, taking a break is amazing, but it shouldn't be the catch -all solution, unfortunately. what I wanted to ask you a question. I currently i currently
Speaker: I'm on a break from a friend of mine from Mississippi, an old Air Force buddy of mine. He took me off a couple weeks. Well, he didn't really take me off. He kind of just made himself mad, but i I was annoyed by it. And this guy will, before I get into it, my question was, have you had to cut people like have had to take a break from people in your life? Not like permanently, but just like, dude, You know, you're just too much for me right now. I'll call you in a few weeks or something. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. baby I've done that a lot. I mean, shit, way it happened not too long ago ah with a former co -host. And it wasn't so much that we got into an argument or anything. He just, you know, and I wanted to be a good friend, you know, ah but
Speaker: Uh, you know, he just had so much caught up. yeah Who fuck is this guy? I don't think I ever met Cameron. How you doing, Cameron? That's, that's my little brother. That's why a little adopted brother. Well, I used to keep him in a cage, but <unk>s fair enough. But no, I mean, you just he just had so much going on in his life ah personally. And and it was it was creating negativity. He was lashing out at people he didn't mean to lash out at. And and and we and I told him, I was like, look, dude.
Speaker: I'm a phone call away, but I gotta, I gotta, ah I gotta back away from the situation. You know what I mean? I said, you know, I'm always going to be here and and we still talk sporadically. And I mean, even just as recently, you he might be popping up here on Monday nights here before long. ah um nice he needs to show he needs to even if it's like a guest style like a like a guest spot he needs to show he needs to be able to share his story and and talk about things and he wants to so you know i totally get it sometimes you do gotta ah you you know i mean i i've walked away from family you know what i mean nothing against my family leave but
Speaker: I'm a detach. That was a lesson that i that I've learned in the last few years. It's okay to walk away from people. you know It's okay to you know call a timeout on our friendship or or a relationship. So 100%, I've done it and I will continue to do it as needed. just Cameron, I don't think we're really talking about anybody specifically. I mean, we've made specific references, but it's mostly just a generalized conversation. i found ah But i was talking about I was talking about the big dog. I was talking about Mike. I can say that. He's not gonna upset you know we but he's not going to get upset. we We talk about things. He knows. and you know
Speaker: Even when we had our fallen out on the show live that same night, we were talking to each other and everything was, was fine. It was just, and now that was where that break came in. I was like, look, dude, you need to handle your personal stuff. Take a break from the show. Take as long as you need when you're right. Let me know. And, and, and, you know, we love to have you. but but I called time out a long time ago, Cameron, much like Jeff, you won't go away. ah Cameron I have times like that when I'm texting a buddy or a friend or something else The initial sentence I send it and I look down like well that sounds like I'm a kindergarten trying to write a speech And I'll fix it and then I'll send it again of like oh now autocorrect is now totally messed me up yeah And then like five five five text down i'm like you know what just screw it. I'm dumb But but yeah i
Speaker: yeah funny I was gonna say, yeah, no, i absolutely taking breaks with french friends, family, and whatever the relationship is. i think I think that's healthy because if you don't, you create more issues, more problems, and then you might lose a friendship. I have lost friendships. um I've actually been that person that people have needed to take a break from. Especially there after my my my divorce and stuff. I was all over the place So I mean I think back and I'm like man that person stopped talking to me. Oh That's probably why I don't fault him for it I got no hard feelings like I get it Like we I mean we can just do that to each other sometimes. so I'm currently now though I had a friend Yes, I mentioned earlier Air Force, buddy He we chit chat every once in a while
Speaker: ah We'll sit there and talk about you know the goings -on in the world family friends and etc and um But sometimes he'll call me late at night and I just happened to be up that night I was doing some editing and so I was focused on that but he was in me very he was in me breed he was drunk and You know sometimes when he calls we'll have a conversation like politics or something which I love doing and Yeah, but when he's that but when he's drunk and he's just a blah blah blah blah blah blah And I can't get a word in edgewise I get frustrated and I've I've made that attempt in the past numerous times to explain it to him like dude if you're drunk and you're calling me just to like you know complain about superfluous stuff that I don't want to hear at that moment or I'm not actually part of the conversation and
Speaker: and you're drunk just don't get mad if I hang up on you don't just don't call or whatnot and last week when he when he called me doing that shit no two weekends ago he called me doing that shit I just kind of told I was like man I'm gonna sit here and listen but you're not gonna give me a word in edgewise it's kind of like I'm um a bored I'm frustrated right now I guess he set the phone he set the phone down and and I didn't know he was still talking me, but he was ranting and ranting So I kind of just phase out because I thought he was talking to someone else Then next I know he gets back on the phone. He's like well do never call me again and click I'm like, okay, but since then he's come since then he's he's tried calling me back twice I'm like, you know, he told me not to call him. I know he's probably calling to apologize But you know, I'm kind of frustrated with him at the moment. So I'm just not answering so
Speaker: ah i think I think sometimes those those breaks are needed too because if you're if you're angry or you're frustrated at a situation or an issue or whatever caused by a person, sometimes if you don't have that break, again, that leads to more problems and more issues because you you don't step away to but um know
Speaker: Excuse me. You don't step away to clear your mind. And then that's when the arguments come about. And then you say things that, that you don't mean to say sometimes, or that frustration is just there. And then you just word vomit, uh, you know, on a podcast and it's like, Hey, you know what is it needed to be said at the end of the day? You don't like it. That's because right yeah. Yeah. yeah
Speaker: Will I call this guy back eventually? Maybe. Maybe. I'm just letting letting it all just settle down at the moment. like I've been friends with him since 2007. I mean, it's been a long time. and we And there's been times where this has happened before, usually on my end, where I'm just like, Justin, I got to ignore you for a little bit, buddy. so
Speaker: I've got a buddy of mine that's like that. You know, it's like we can we will have a run of You know six seven months chit -chat and talk and hanging out whatever the case may be and and Then he starts to just get Or maybe I start, I don't know. It just starts to become too much. And it's like, all right, I'm going to, I'm going to start to fade out. You know, I'm going to, I'm going to fade away. I'm going to, I'm not going to ghost the guy. I'm not going to be a dick, but I'm just going to start to pull back a little bit. I've got a buddy of mine that it's like, if I talk to him once every six months, I'm happy because yeah we're in our forties and he still thinks he's 18. And it's just like, dude, like we've got kids, our kids are all, some of our kids are grown.
Speaker: he's a fucking grandfather. I mean, it's just like, we can't, you we can't act like this anymore. We can't go to the bars and pick fights with people just because you know, you, you, you can't have all this drama in your life. You got that small town mentality. That's the other thing, you know, I couldn't wait to get away from my hometown. You know, uh, what up Chris? Uh, because I don't like that small -town mentality that some people have like we're grown adults and you also want to act like you're in high school and Yes Like I mean there's No, there's very few people I talked to from high school um And that's on purpose it's not because I have a problem with any of them I just they never left and Some of them there's there's some guys that
Speaker: still go out on a Friday night and wear their letterman jacket and talk about the one time that they, they scored a touchdown on Friday night and they were going to go pro had it not been for the shoulder injury. And it's just like, dude, you weren't even going to go to a community college. who The old stereotypical Al Bundy story. Yeah, yeah exactly. Like small town, small minded mentality, like, Everybody's been in a relationship with everybody and everybody wants to pick a fight with somebody at the local bar because his wife Five years ago was banging this other guy and it's Get fucked get over it like grow the hell I get that all too. Well, I get that all too. Well, I live in an area kind of like that It's a small little town. Everybody goes to goes to the bar. That's where everybody is
Speaker: Things out with gossips over each other, you know pass around the same same f buddies um And then talk about it behind there. It's it's a weird situation It's not a situation I like getting into anymore and these people are like my age a little bit younger even older and I just I I can't do that anymore and it sucks because Like I don't like I don't have much of a social life where I live. I'm not saying that's good or bad I just don't it's because where everybody likes to socialize is not places I like to go anymore. so yeah i my social My social life is online. I don't have a i don't have a yeah real life social life. you know um or I blame COVID for that. yeah that well i mean um you know When I was younger, you know when I was in my early twenties, I liked to go to the clubs. I liked to go to the bars. or you know i'd go out I enjoyed drinking and dancing. and
Speaker: going to see, you know, local, yeah and I still enjoy going to see when the opportunity arises and the opportunities there. I love going to concerts and I love going to like the local bars or local concert venues and seeing an up and coming artists and stuff like that. Like it's still one of my favorite things to do. I just don't get to do it as much as I used to, but I want bar guy, you know, like, I'm not gonna turn down go into a bar and you know, like when we go to PA and stuff like that ah You know Nikki has a big social circle in the act and I come friends with a good chunk of her friends and it's nice to go out You know, but we're not in PA all the time. We're up there once a month at once every couple months It's nice to go out and everybody and hang out but then again, it's just like halfway through the night. It's like
Speaker: that small-minded Small minded small talent that I'm talking about y 'all grew up here and y 'all got it's like it's like internet shit in real life, you know but ah ah why is it sodoxic why can't we just hang out have hu um It's like that even like, you know where I'm at but not and they' Not necessarily mean Again, I'm not in that social environment. So I don't recognize if we go and You know if we go to one of the bars local here to go see one of her friends or something like that I don't really notice that Mentality, it's there. I mean I know it's there, but I'm not involved in so it's not my about my circus not my monkey type deal like Yeah, I mean I'm not I'm not like anti Going out like I still like going out occasionally. It's just when and where is my biggest thing and not every weekend and hitting the bars and shit every weekend like
Speaker: It was this place I worked and people would come in like they were regulars and I got to know them and they'd all drink beer in the back and I'd shoot the shit with them and all that. And sometimes on my day off, I go in and have a couple of beers with them. Yeah. But once, but once I left that place in employment, like I haven't really seen any of those guys because I don't go to the bar and they go to and I don't go drink with them anymore because drinking every day, standing around like can't kill and his buddies, not my forte. And there's nothing wrong with it occasionally. Like sometimes is okay for me. I'm like, okay with it, but not something I can do all the time. Yeah. No, I mean, there's, there's been, there's sometimes where we go out and just don't feel like drink and oh yeah like i mean we'll go i I just don't feel like drinking. like drinking. I don't want it or, you know, whatever the case may be. Um,
Speaker: ah Hell even now, I mean I've cut out I've cut down drinking so damn much that ah she you on ah perfectly content You know if you want to go see one of your friends having a couple pep scenes or whatever You know at the end of the day but um Yeah, and and and that was that you know, I guess that's probably the biggest break I've ever taken was walking away from my hometown because I Man, I don't even know where I'd be at today if I was stuck around. I really don't.
Speaker: I can't say that. I have no idea who ja Josh Turner is. country yeah No, I didn't even know he had a new album. I'll be 100 % honest with you. My music playlist evolving. People on me, there I've either had on the show people who are going to be on the show or People I'm trying to get on my show. That's all that's been in my, my current rotation right now. So, um, but yeah, no, I said, you know, you know, not only taking a break, but sometimes you just got to take yourself out of an environment. Um, no, yeah. And as well, I mean, I, hell I've done that even as recent with, uh, with this show, I've, I moved this show and.
Speaker: Took it from one environment to our own environment. our ah you know its This is our world here on StreamYard. Other people have like Restream and StreamYard and other platforms. ah I think, you know, this StreamYard being its own entity and allowing us to multicast it out onto different platforms, allows us to kind of be on an island all our own. We can we can pick and choose a little bit better where we go, who we watch, who who who we're surrounded by, as opposed to some other platforms like Periscope or TikTok.
Speaker: you know the the long dead haps, the happening. Yeah, you know, where it's a social network. So you can't really get away from the drama as easily is as as as you would like to be able to outside. And I'm not the type of guy who blocks people. ah that's just not my, that's just not what I am or what I'm about. It's just easier just to, there's a long way from it house somewhere else to be to where I can get away from it. And it's, you know, and that's the unfortunate downside with social media too. It doesn't really matter where you're at. Uh, if you're in a platform like, like those, you're going to have those people, you're going to drop them. You're going to have the shenanigans in the bullshit. Even if you try to, unfortunately,
Speaker: Oh, absolutely. I think that's intrinsic with any social gathering or interactions you have, especially on a group level, you're going to have the drama and the gossip and the bullshit. Yeah, that's that's why that's why we don't. So I don't want all power around 24 hours a day because we couldn't we wouldn't be able to do it. Yeah. but You know, you know, that's kind of the nice thing about our dynamic here is, yeah, we do the shows that, you know, everybody has their own show. We're not all, uh, you know, yeah, we, we jump into each other's shows, obviously as we, or if we ain't got, you know, they're like, Hey, if you're not doing anything, pop up, you know, type deal, but we don't make it a habit and and we we have our chat, but we don't spend all day every day.
Speaker: on that chat. toy and you you're like no Fucking so sick of Connor and I'm talking to you or I'm talking to Jeff. I don't like got this fucking Connor guy yeah driving me crazy. ah Whereas, you know, when do you have those and to talk was a big one for me. You know, I there was people that I that I adored on there and I still do. I really enjoy those people. I'm glad that I made those friendships. by
Speaker: but they're alive. I'm live. We're alive together. You know, it's like, give me a break. Like, you know, yeah sometimes I just needed that break because it's just too much. Uh, that's what I said, you know, like with the restream and the stream yards, you're almost on an Island, you know, for the most part, um, you know, people I understand. Yeah.
Speaker: Can people have to almost search you out and then if we get tired of somebody it's like yeah stop coming around I'm always I always welcome the views at least even even if they're hate -watching. Oh, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. No, I mean that's why I'm not ah that's why I'm not a blocking type like love us and hate us. If you're watching, you're watching and I appreciate you. You can you can enjoy watching us or you can hate watching us as long as you're watching us. I don't I or listening to us. Hey, thank you. I appreciate it. You know, I I use the word lurker as a term of endearment and I don't say it to be mean and it's a it's a term of endearment. Shout out to our lurkers. see
Speaker: So on the on the topic of taking breaks, man, and this is ah I don't even know how to bounce this off since I'm divorced now because I look back. Well, actually, no, I look back and I think there was times where I think somebody even needs a break from their own spouse. You know, I mean, what's your, what's your take on that? Have have you and Nikki ever been like, you know, let's just go to our own corners for a day or so. Um, yeah, we'll get to that when we come back from break.
Speaker: it's how It's that time. It's what we call a teaser in the business, ladies and gentlemen. as strap in It's about to get off the hinges.
Speaker: Strava looks about to get murdered. Now, we'll be back here. I'll address that that question when we come back. We're going to take a real quick break. ah got new music Well, not newbies, but I got music from my friends over at the Tennessee Hole or Tennessee Holy Water. You guys haven't checked them out already. Feel free to go check them out. Show the guys some love. Let them know Glick sent you there on all social media and everything at Tennessee. Holy Water. They do have a brand new song come that just came out. It is the cover of Warren Zeter's Pretty Little Poison. However, this song is called. What is this song called?
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Speaker: recuperating, recovering, not able to take a shit, Connor. but but
Speaker: Some things just are meant to be shared with your friends. I just got a thought. Oh, and it's about your about the music, but it's not something I'm going to ask and go into right now, because it is so apropos of nothing. So we can move on. Yeah, yeah. um So before we left for the break, I had asked you if you and Nikki have ever had to take any spousal breaks, spousal breaks. I know you guys aren't technically married yet, but I think you know what I mean. Yeah, no. And I think I think every relationship does. I think that's one thing that we do not
Speaker: Unintentionally, you know what I mean? Like, it's not it's not because we're getting on each other's nerves so much, you know, as we've joked around on other shows and and and what, I think I even talked about it on here. You know, Nikki's an avid book reader. She loves reading. She's always got her Kindle, so much that i I've named it Wendell the Kindle, her boyfriend, because sometimes I think she enjoys spending time with but the Kindle more than she does me. But um ah's there's times where we're sitting in this we're sitting on the couch and she's got her Kindle and you know I'm playing Call of Duty or something like that. So you know absolutely, i don't think it's I don't think it's something we've ever done intentionally. I think it just happens. But that's needed too, because sometimes you just spend so much time with with one person that little things like start to start to annoy you.
Speaker: and I mean so well there's been times where she's like I'm gonna look I'm gonna go lay down um and she goes back here and she gets on our Kindle and then I watch TV or I play Call of Duty or or whatever but that's also the nice thing with our schedules too because she works evenings and and I work
Speaker: I'm uh, I'm uh, you know, I work first shift. I'm a morning person. She's an evening person. So, um, we get when the kids aren't here, that's another thing. Uh, when the kids aren't here, we do get that time, uh, kind of, we get that alone time, you know, where we don't, where the other one's not here. So we have reach that point where it was like, you're fucking driving me crazy. be Go to the bedroom or something. I'm going to stay out here or I'm going to go for a walk. I, you know, we've never, been at that point, but I think we get enough time where where we are. you know And and you know the same thing can be said about the kids. you know I love my kids to death. think I mean, you i mean i well um I will do anything for them. I've sacrificed everything for them and given up everything just to make make sure that they can would have and not want or make sure I was a part of their lives. But it is nice to go to their moms.
Speaker: Um, yeah, it's, it's, it's, it's nice. And you know, the last two years I've had them full -time, which has been great. Don't get me wrong. Um, uh, they're with, they're with me Monday through Friday, but this year we're, we're going to go back to 50 50 when, when, uh, when that school starts. So they'll be here a week and, and then they'll be with their mom for a week. And, and as much as I love my kids and I enjoy being around them and I, and and everything like that, I, with a break too. I like that. me time or me and Nikki time, you know, the kids aren't here, you know. So I think, yeah, I mean, long, you know, kind of a long -winded rant, but, but yeah, I mean, I don't think it's anything that we do intentionally. It's always just, just natural, you know.
Speaker: just okay but we don't even have to be Like I said, we generally don't even leave the same room. Most of the time, there's been times where she's cuddled up beside me, uh, and laid on my, uh, put her head in my lap while I'm playing Call of Duty and she's reading her Kindle. She's often Kindle world and I'm in Xbox world, you know, but we're both doing our own thing. So, but yeah, I mean, I think you absolutely need those moments. when it comes down to significant other and for both of you, not just, I'm not, you know, uh, each of you need to have that, that you time. Oh, absolutely. We do. I mean, that's, um, Oh yeah. I mean,
Speaker: like I said, I'm divorced. And so, I mean, I remember when my ex and I needed those times and then I guess, God, I have nothing to say, nothing. Yeah, I guess I've taken such a long break, a permanent break. It's it's it's it's thoughts looking back. It's like, yeah, it doesn't even matter anymore, really, those breaks that I had. But I'm sure i'm sure in those moments, they were they were important.
Speaker: Oh no, my ex wife and I, there was, it and especially in the last few years of our marriage. I mean, there was, you hear those stories and and it's a hundred percent true of, of parents or husbands that'll get off work and take the long way home because that's like, they're, that's the only time that they have a piece. Yeah. Peace. Uh, not that they're, they have a bad home life or whatever, but they never have any me time. and they take the long way home or they sit in the driveway for an extra five, 10 minutes before they come inside. I was that guy. I was that guy. I was 100 % that guy. I would purposely schedule services that were the farthest out to be my last service of the day. I was like, i I don't, and again, you know' I didn't really have a social life, but yeah there was a lot of issues with our marriage. and
Speaker: uh and it was like I can't I can't make friends go out with my friends because if I do then you accuse me of cheating and uh you know so I just go to work and I come home I go to work I come home and then if I try to do anything at home yeah like a bitch that because I you know I have to go to dinner the kids need this the kids need that you want to take a break you've been home with the kids all day you want to go hang out with your friends blah blah blah blah holy shit to it's ah yet it can get over i know i got this job Yeah, I know I got this job that I could put at the end of my day and it's like 45 minutes away. So that 45 minute drive home, it's just me. thank you ah but I remember one day my ex wife asked me, she's like, you come home from work and then you go take a ship for like 30 minutes. You really need 30 minutes to take a shit.
Speaker: I'm like, no, I'm not, I'm not in there taking a shift for the entire 30 minutes. Usually like 25 of those minutes I'm sitting in there just in peace and fucking quiet because I leave work dealing with people. And I told her, I looked at her and I mean, no offense to this. Like I, I, I come home. I've dealt with a numerous amount of people. People tell me what to do, but not to do mining my own responsibilities of stuff that I know I need to do. Then I get home and it's like, I got my wife, I got my kids. You know, I just, I just need like a window of quiet time before those are like in between those things or sometime, you know, I break it up. And she looked at me, she shook her head and thought that was the weirdest dumbest thing I had ever fucking said. I think i lot guys do that too. Yeah. Yeah. And it's not like we're trying to hide. It's just, we're, I mean, we need that moment to get away in.
Speaker: I respect and I admire and I give you know Full you know, congratulations to anybody who is that's a stay -home parent. That's a lot of work Don't get me wrong. I don't want to sit there, you know Downplay that but you know as as The previous breadwinner in that relationship Before I got out of there for us and she you know started working too it was um It's like I was constantly, I get up in the morning, you know, I get ready, I go to work and then I get off work and then I have to go to some meeting or PT and I get down with that and then I have to go home. And it's like, I just, I, you always just need that quiet time. And she's like, you know, and some people are like, well, you know, you have that quiet time when you're asleep at night. It's just not the same thing. Yeah. So you need that time and I, and I'm guilty of it most days, you know,
Speaker: I'll come home. I'll do the same thing. I've been there forever. I fall into a goddamn YouTube rabbit hole. Oh, and I'm watching YouTube and I might be playing one or two of my games on my phone, but it gives us that time to, uh, you know, unwind from work, unplug from work and prepare for, you know, home. You know what I mean? Like you deal with everything you gotta deal with at home. I'm not saying deal with in a bad, in a negative, like, you know, like I come home from work and I do what I need to do. I, you know, some nights I'm making dinner, then I gotta get ready for a show or whatever, or, you know, maybe you playing around with the kids for a little bit. Maybe we'll watch a little TV, but but I just want to that few minutes when I get home, just let me, uh,
Speaker: kind of deflate from work. I mean, you know, if I had a stressful my day, but I've been at work and it was stressful. My shoulders are up here. You know, I need to, I need to bring them down here so that I'm ready to properly deal with them. I think that way I'm not a dick too. Yeah. And you know what? I think that has something to do with it. Um, I needed that break in between work and home life because work was, shit, you know, working with explosives, working on a, in a, in a male man dominated career field, wherever it was just, we're all high strong. We're all freaking aggravated with whatever works going on and the heat, the elements. Cause a lot of it was outside and it's like, I don't want to go home and just be all, all this pent up aggression and yeah and all that. So I need it. So I needed to have like a half hour or so just to shake all that before
Speaker: I did engage with the wife and kids and i'm in it because I didn't want to be that tic. And i don't i don't I don't know if that says good or bad about me or or or the situation. But I knew in those moments I needed that. So I could transition from work to home. you know I mean, you watch people watch TV. and It's like, an old dad, the doting father he gets off work, goes home, and he's like, super dad. I don't think it's that bad. that fairy tandelists, fairy tale bland sort of scenario in real life, at least it wasn't for me. So like that break that break from everything, from work, from home, from spouse, from work or coworkers, from telemarketers, reading the bills, just answering felt like a break from it all. yeah Sometimes it's just what you need. yeah
Speaker: And sometimes it's not like, you know, just that half hour, because as we know, as men, as as men know, 100%. If we say we're going to go take a shit, nobody's going to bother us while we're taking a shit. For the most part, you know, and especially now that my kids are older, when they were little, it was a different story. ah You know, when they were growing up, I'd i'd sit down, take a shit, and here come a little head popping in the, Hey, dad, um but you know how little kids are. And then they'd run off. And then two minutes later, you know, or we're going to, we're going to sit under the door and put our hands underneath the door and, you know, and push cars or toys or, you know, whatever. But that stuff didn't really, that stuff didn't bother me, but it was like, but now as my kids have gotten older, it's like, I know if I tell them I'm going to take shit, they're not going to bother, you know, cash might come back and knock on the door. Can I go outside? Yeah, go ahead.
Speaker: Uh, my daughter might knock on the door. I'm leaving. I gotta go to work. Okay. Bye. Love you. I'll let nobody's hounding me. You know what I mean? ah Unless it's not one friend that has no shame. We'll sit there and try to have a conversation while you're cranking out a wicked cable, talking through the door. It's like, dude, shut up. yeah his names ah His name is Jeff. but I know you're taking shit man, but I just made a bucket of spaghetti you want some yeah dude gave me 15 minutes jeff and I've had those conversations. I'm like, hey man, I gotta take a shit. I'll call you back when I'm done or I'll message you back when I'm done He's like, oh, it's okay. I'm taking a shit to take a shit together. I'm like ah You know, you know wipe each other as well like you know to We have a very
Speaker: We have a very unique relationship. The two of us, but know i mean there are those times where I, you know, I have had a stressful day at work and I don't want to come home and carry that stress into my home, you know, into the home where, where, you know, I'm snapping at Mickey for no reason, or I'm snapping at the kids. And it's not nothing that they did. It's just, I'm stressed out from work and it's like, We're going to take this 30 minutes. I'm going to watch some bar rescue on YouTube or whatever, you know, you know, there's a couple of podcasters or broadcasters that I enjoy on YouTube. And, you know, the great thing was smartphones. Uh, you know, they do the picture in picture so I can put the YouTube down on the small screen and then I can open up one of my games and while I'm listening, I can play one of my games or something. Uh, chili dogs and I made chili dogs and fries here at the house.
Speaker: Um, I have not eaten dinner yet. I, um, so somebody had mentioned those Grippo potato chips the other night, and I found a bag yet that today of their barbecue. And I kind of went ham on this. I'm kind of full. So I guess I had a, like a small bag of chips. yeah and i proud it was Not proud of it, but oh my God, those Grippo's barbecues are probably, it's my new favorite chip. I had, I, I came home and made dinner. And I wasn't really hungry because don the other day, Nikki and I were at the store and she got me this big ass bag of steak bites, basically like beef jerky, but it was, it was steak bites. And I took that to work with me today and I had a quote unquote late lunch, but I ate the whole bag again. Not a proud moment.
Speaker: but I was still kind of full when I got home. So, right before we started the show, I I did have one of the chili dogs. When we get done, I'm going to have a couple more but but man, I was pulling out chunks of state bikes that were like this and I mean, they were they were there. I was just like, nice. Yeah, not bad for definitely got your money's worth for how much you paid for it but but definitely a nice little little midday lunch. I mean, that was definitely a lunch. That wasn't a snack. I mean, because I can't, I can't, um I know, I know me. I'm not going to be able to sit down and only take a couple of pieces here and there and be like, Oh, a little snack. I'm going to eat the whole bag. But so sometimes those are, sometimes those are the worst breaks but in between breakfast and lunch from food, taking a break from food guys. so Yeah. And that's the other thing.
Speaker: Uh, you talk about taking breaks and trying to alleviate stress, take your breaks at work are a must. Uh, you know, you just gotta, you just gotta take a time out throughout the day. Whether you take a lunch break or, you know, I might pop into my office for 10, 15 minutes or whatever and just kind of sit down and fuck around on my phone for a few minutes. But it allows me to kind of reset from one, from one project to the other. The way my brain works is I'm usually working on four different projects at the same exact time. Well, like I had, I got new vent covers that I got to put on my buildings. Well, my building's brown and I can only find white. Okay. Well, set them out. I got brown spray paint. I'll spray them all. Go start something else. Come back.
Speaker: touch them up if I need to go back to whatever other project I'm on and then bounce to another project. And they'll be like, Oh shit, I gotta do this. And then go do that. And it was like, I've got four different things going at the same time. Usually wind up knocking all four of them out by the end of the day. But, and I still want to sit down and be like, all right, let me, let me take a break. Let me kind of let my, my brain settle down for a second. yeah And it makes for a better day at work too. Not, not, not, Not that my job is super stressful by no means, but it's also not super stressful because I'm not afraid to take a little break during the, during the day and be like, all right, let me catch my breath and kind of reset real quick. Midday reset, so to say. I've always, uh, I've always enjoyed that adage. Um, my boss makes a dollar. I make a dime. That's why I poop on company time. Oh yeah.
Speaker: oh yeah Nothing better than a good old -fashioned work shit. Oh, yeah. Getting paid. to That's that's one hell. yeah That's that's a good break right there. Oh, hell yeah. Like, damn, my legs are asleep. I know what Connor feels like. I'm not saying that long, but sure. Some days, some days are, you know, they they're needed.
Speaker: oh I won't lie, there's been times at home where I'm playing one of those phone games and I'm on the shitter and it's like, Oh shit, my toes are starting to tingle. It's like, Oh man, I'm on like level 300 right now. I don't want to leave. Yeah. Yeah. You said there you're late. They go numb and they fall asleep and wake up all in one sitting. ye Yep. Yep. Damn it. I beat the levels. There's nothing worse than that. but after everybody like taking the, you know, when you're, when your legs are asleep and you stepped out, Hey, you can't really feel if you step, but then it sends all those electric little tinglies up your legs and you're walking out all full -legged and looking like a baby giraffe. I've been there a time or two. It's all funny games as you fall down the stairs. Yeah. go stairs But no, I mean, um,
Speaker: I had something here, the kind of sort of went along in in ah in a roundabout way. It's a little bit of a stretch, but in a roundabout way, it kind of goes with with the with the taking a break thing that we're talking about. And it's ah train your body, mind and spirit. As far as the like body, you know lift weights for muscle cardio for heart and stretch for mobility ah Mind ah Read for knowledge Journal for reflection, you know if you
Speaker: Some people voice notes, whatever, they jot down notes. yeah We live in a land of technology where we have notes on our phone. We don't have to, now I'm still old school. i like ah I'm a big fan of an old pen and paper, but ah create for expression. I think that's one thing that we all do here on the network very well as far as you know taking care of our minds and training our minds. We're all, for the most part, pretty creative on this show or on this network. And you know, we're all the time bouncing ideas off of each other. Blaze is always doing some skits or something. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. I got a lot of stick skits coming, you guys, as well. Stick skits. I can almost guarantee you that. Say that high five times fast. Yeah, right. Say that sober five times fast. You know,
Speaker: I can almost guarantee, you know, multiple times throughout the week, Blaze is going to be like, Hey, I got an idea. I got a suggestion or, you know, or I'm dropping into the chat. Hey guys, I have an idea. You know, so, you know, we're always looking for new ways to be creative, to express ourselves and and have fun. And as far as, ah you know, spirit goes, you know, gratitude for appreciation show, you know, uh, nature time for relaxation. That's another one. I know you're big on that one. know I am I am um and i'm I'm saying this from my per point of view because there are people that have this same perspective as I do there's probably not very many but I know they're out there because I Have conversations with them. Some of us don't really Understand or know what the whole swell the whole spiritual thing. It's more of a just a
Speaker: of Mental well -being and physical well -being kind of balance. Yeah, and that's so much spiritual but more of like Just mindfulness a piece of mind um I don't really I don't personally like attaching the spiritual moniker to that idea, but I under I understand why people do and I get it I do 100 % Fucking I'm all for it I like that reaction. I do like to be outside. I can be in the woods or you know like like yesterday being at the beach. I love being by the water. e you know I don't care shouldn and if it's the river, if it's a creek, if it's a lake, I love being on the water. it really I don't know what it does to me or or why it affects me the way it does, but it really
Speaker: brings me back. It kind of grounds me. And I guess ah and ah and ah in a way, I love being by the water or just being outside. Some days I just want to be outside and I'll do that at work. I'll be like, what can I do outside today? Because I don't want to be in the building. I just want to be outdoor.
Speaker: It gives you. I understand that. sense of peace and clarity or something. I'm no expert on this shit. But one thing that I, and the last thing here is meditation for inner peace. I know when you say, I know a lot of times when people say meditation, you think of, you know, sitting crisscross applesauce. mamo numberma nonna up drop du but It's not all that because I have, I, was something I discovered many years ago. I'm also there. I'm not the greatest practicer of it. Like I used to be. I used to take time out to kinda do. You could just sit back and close your eyes just for a few minutes. Just let your clear your thoughts, clear your mind. Um, and I, I've found myself doing that a little bit more as of late. My problem is nine times out of 10. If I sit in my chair like this for more than 10 minutes, I'm asleep.
Speaker: but there's nothing wrong with that. That just means the the meditation was very good. Oh yeah. Uh, but yeah, i appreciate I'll just be sitting outside and I just want to close my eyes and, and, and listen to my surroundings kind of smell, you know, take one of those senses away or two of those senses away and and really open up the others and just, just relax. Yeah. Your spiritual or not. I'm not a very big spiritual guy I'm not you know, I just know what kind of clears my thoughts clears my brain a little bit. Yeah. Oh I meditate um Not like you know, like like you're saying not in the sense that sit down with their legs crossed and we're looking like fucking Gandhi trying to lift up off the ground or some shit, but i but I'll go out in the woods and I'll contemplate and I'll just
Speaker: Or I'll sit there on on a bench or something and just kind of like take in what's around me, sights and sounds and smells and just just be in that one moment of everything around me. And and there's a calmness to it. That's why it's like like I understand the whole spiritual thing, but to me it's like ah it's like a calming effect. It's like a um you're just re -energizing You're letting go of all your problems, ah good or bad. and All your situations good or bad. And you're just you're in that one moment focused on what is around you. And you're just doing it in a and a peaceful kind of ah a sense. Oh, I know. Oh, I've fallen asleep plenty of times underneath the tree out there doing something like that. Nothing wrong with it. I woke up peaceful, content.
Speaker: calm and just ready to take on the rest of the day. Yeah. Every time every time we go to the beach, ah you know, I I try not to get into the inner tube and I'm not I'm not sit on the inner tube guy or whatever. I like to just like get in the inner tube and either lean forward on it or kind of lean back so that's a pillow or you know, the only thing out of the water is like my arms and my head. Um, but almost every time we go, I just set out there, close my eyes, float, and I'll fall asleep for a few minutes. It's the most common and relaxing thing in the world. And, uh, but I'm also mild, and up ah ah and not, not like it's just, so it's like a slight concern that I'm going to fall asleep and then wake up in the middle of the lake somewhere and be like,
Speaker: middle Because I can see my kids and Nick just like oh look dad's floating off we should let him Don't meditate while you drive guys yeah yeah yeah do not yeah Don't meditate while you drive either He said Dilla's nice In the case fat tuble arms but but
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Speaker: they are Oh, man. Where are you getting them from? or Are you making them at home is the question.
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Speaker: When it kind of, to kind of sum everything up, you know, when it comes to like our mental health as men and, and, and taking these breaks, some of the things that we do when we do decide to take one of these breaks, there's a few things that we need to, that we need to, nice, Chris. Uh, we have to understand our, our mental health and our wellbeing is more important than like our ego, our pride. Uh, what other people are going to think, um, or looking like a tough guy, you know, just because I walk away from something or somebody doesn't make me, it doesn't make me any less of a tough guy or more than a tough guy. And also, uh, society's expectations. Sometimes at the end of the day, we have to do what's best for us, us ourselves. That's okay. We're allowed to think about ourselves, believe it or not, man. So you got to put some of those things to the side and and and not worry about it.
Speaker: and and and think and and think about yourself and that's okay. It's not it's not being they work selfish. There it is. It's not being selfish. Words are hard. Actually, you know, it is being selfish, but it's okay to be selfish sometimes. w the that's And i think I think a lot of people look at that word or that concept of selfishness is a completely negative thing. It's okay to be selfish sometimes. if you say yeah and a negative Yeah, I mean, yeah. Yeah. But I mean, I know personally, I'm a selfish person. Um, I'll probably take more breaks from people than I probably should, but that's a neat thing. yeah Um, but like, uh, like, like my therapist said, I'm just not a, um, a typical
Speaker: person I guess but more atypical. Yeah, but But yeah, there's nothing selfish with taking breaks if you need your downtime people, you know You need to get away with it. It's okay to play tell people around you play. Hey, I love y 'all I just need a moment. I'm gonna step away for however long it and and In the time and the time isn't dependent on each person. It's not dependent on you It's just it actually it is dependent on you as the person but it's not It's not some set in stone how much time, every situation, every person is different. That dog here on my keyboard, sorry. No, and it it it and as individuals, will we we will know when that time when the time is right, or how long of a break we need to take from a situation, an environment, or or a person. I think you know our our our body, our brain,
Speaker: Whatever you want to say will tell us, you know, okay, that's long enough Or like I said, you know for me personally that's Sunday for me. That's and it's nothing against anybody. It's just That's Sundays for me. I don't want to be Bob. Oh That's I'm planning that diet that planning that downtime on a weekly basis like like you just said Sunday's your downtime i think I think actually helps the rest of the week. Then you don't have to take those little micro breaks or those um impromptu breaks from situations because you know took that break. You're already charged up. you know I'm not saying there isn't a time where you need to take those little small breaks in between your scheduled break. But it's definitely a good thing. I do it. It used to be Sundays. It still kind of is Sundays.
Speaker: and then other days, like Mondays kind of became my don't do shit day, my relax and ah stay disconnected from people. Yeah. But it always doesn't happen sometimes. You're here for the team and you have to sit beside your selfishness and be selfless. But next Monday, I'm going to be selfish motherfuckers. that I think next Monday. Well, I mean maybe I don't know nobody's heard from the guy but next one day Jeff's on deck It's like it's like it's like I have visitations with you guys This Monday was my um visitation with blaze next Monday is my visitation with Jeff I'm the nicer parent. I'll let him play video games. Yeah Jeff makes me tossed out of a bucket
Speaker: Jeff. borarddi He is a hot mess. That guy is, he's something else. I love him to death though, but, uh, but we, uh, we do appreciate y 'all listening. We appreciate y 'all hanging out. Hopefully you guys, uh, enjoyed the show. Maybe learn something. Maybe, uh, maybe you think we're a bunch of Jackasses either way. Uh, you know, we do appreciate y 'all listening. Appreciate y 'all hanging out. We're going to wrap up the show like we always do with a little song. We'll come back. And, ah you know, Monday nights, I always like to ask the guys, I'm sure you've seen it, please. You know, if there's a quote or a thought or something like that that you want to wrap the show up with when we get back from playing music and then.
Speaker: We're going to get the flock out of here. So, uh, she's become, she's become a staple on Monday nights. She, uh, Jules in the howl. Uh, we, we've collectively decided that we're going to keep this one in rotation for our closer on Monday night. And it's one of her newer songs. It's called, I just want to feel better. And you can check out Jules on all social media and wherever we stream music at Jules in the howl. Go show her some love and, uh, tell her Glick sent you. Tell her old Glick sent you. the And we'll be back here just a few minutes to close out.
Speaker: When my best ain't enough, I wanna rest but I'm too tough My body's aching for sleep without disturbing dreams My mask is showing in cracks, a broken smile intact I'm good at playing pretend around both strangers and friends I'm stuck on an endless merry -go -round
Speaker: A cyclone of racing thoughts that never stop And I, I just wanna feel better But I can't get out of my head I don't know what I'm doin' today I just wanna feel better Will it always be this way? Am I doin' this, this, my thing? My depression, it sucks
Speaker: A ravenous black hole Consuming all that I know I could scream my lungs dry But you walk till I cry Bloody knuckles, red eyes, oh my I'm stuck on an endless bed
Speaker: A cyclone of racing thoughts that never stop and die I just wanna feel better But I can't get out of my head I don't know what I do say I just wanna feel better Will it always be this way? Am I doing this just my thing?
Speaker: I just wanna feel better I just wanna feel better I just wanna feel better But I can't get out of my head I don't know what I'll do instead I just wanna feel better
Speaker: Am I told this is my fate?
Speaker: Yeah, buddy, a little jewels in the how to end the show up again. Appreciate y 'all listening. Appreciate y 'all hanging out. If you're not already, go ahead and give us a follow over at the nonsensical network on Facebook, Instagram X, tick tock. Don't forget we have live shows Monday through Sunday on YouTube, Twitch, and Facebook. You can get the chatters box um as well as you can listen to us anytime, anyplace, wherever you listen to podcasts at. all the nonsensical network or simply go to bio dot .link slash nonsensical network. And real quick, you're probably wondering what is on the nonsensical network. If you don't know already Monday nights, we kicked the week off with men caring for men. It's a men's mental health podcast, which is what we did today. Just a couple guys together talking about shit, talking about shit to bother us, talking about things that
Speaker: that we've lived through, experiences, whatever, we're not experts, but we're hoping to make a little difference and let people know that it's okay to not be okay as the old saying goes. We're not really old saying, more of a new saying, but Tuesday nights, newly moved to Tuesday nights, Glick's house of music. Tune in every Tuesday night. I'm hanging out with musicians, up and coming artists, talking about their careers, talking about their life, getting to know them a little bit better, just hanging out, having fun and and enjoying each other's company as well as introducing you. to their music as well. Tomorrow night, I got Zay. Oh, man.
Speaker: Grassley on the show. I know I'm going to fuck up his name. I'm going to try to ask him how to say it so I don't fuck it up on the show. Wednesday nights is what the fuck news? if It's in the news and it makes us say what the fuck. We're going to talk about it and hopefully you say what the fuck as well. Thursday nights, this guy right over there to my Right or left if they're on higher you're looking at the screen. Blaze with whose argument is it anyway? Where the debates aren't typical, they're nonsensical.
Speaker: Exactly. Friday nights. Honestly, they're not even, they're what I'm sorry, they're not even always based discussions, but you know, just busting each other's chops, you know, just having some fun on some topics. Yeah, on some random ass topics. Friday nights is going to be a little bit of a smorgasbord, if you will. Could be a flashback Friday. Could be Cash's Corner, the newest show. It's Wrestling and Talk, ah where
Speaker: The Champ Jr. and myself, my little guy, and me, we we sit down for an hour and and we talk WWE. Yeah, we talk SmackDown, Raw, storylines, pay -per -views, we make picks, we make predictions, all that stuff. Brand new show just started this Sunday, but that'll be on Fridays or Saturday afternoons. We don't know yet, but it'll be on the network. We could have some other stuff that we may or may not start working on for Fridays as well. It's just gonna be kind of a i am Spin the wheel
Speaker: Type type of type of day yeah on Fridays, but there will be some kind of content on Friday Saturday nights is the foundation of this network. It is nonsensical nonsense unhinged unapologetic tomfoolery fuckery and shenanigans if you will and we do a little thing a little bit different we call it the open door challenge and we drop a link in the chatters box and See who takes us up on that challenge it comes up on screen and and hangs out with us for a little bit on Saturday nights and uh And, uh, you know, hopefully they don't show us their wiener. Cause we always ask is it to turn your camera on and please keep your wiener off the camera because we don't want to see it. And if you show it to us, we're probably just going to make fun of you. And there's nothing worse than a bunch of dudes making fun of your below average penis. And nobody has magnets in their head. Okay. Sorry.
Speaker: Wow. So yeah, we never know what we're going to get. And then we wrap the week up with Jeff and Benji, Jeff's garage. If it's got a motor and it fits in the garage, well, they're going to fucking talk about it extensively. And if you're like me, you're probably going to want to go shove your, slam your Peter in a car door. But if you're a car boy, a car boy, a car guy or car girl or a car person, you're going to enjoy the show. They do a good job over there. And that's the non -sensible network in a nutshell. So with that being said, where has you got anything you'd like to leave the people with tonight before we take off? Yeah. Sometimes you just have to unplug and replug yourself back in. Exactly. I was going to say that I had something similar to that. Like everything will work just fine or work again. If you just unplug it,
Speaker: and plug it back in, um including yourself. I'm kind of, we're on the same page there, but I also, you know me, I've always, I always have more things, but I do have, I do have one thing here. It's probably one of my favorite authors slash poets, very inspirational. She's somebody that I've looked up to for many years um and and enjoy reading her works, but Miss Maya Angelou, Uh, each person deserves a day away in which no problems are confronted. No solutions are searched for each one of us or each of us need to withdraw from cares, which will not withdraw withdraw from us. and She's always, she always saying the right thing. the She is a wise woman. She is. She was a wise woman. Why is very, very wise woman. Um,
Speaker: mean And then sometimes the most productive thing that that we can do as human beings, take a break. yeah oh And as always, ladies and gentlemen, a successful man is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks that are thrown at him by others. Keep throwing the bricks and we will keep building. but If you can dodge a brick, you can dodge a ball too. is now I don't want to watch that movie. I love that god damn movie. It's so dumb. But anyway, thank you guys for listening. to Thank you guys for listening. We'll be back next Monday for a brand new episode of Men Can for Men. Make sure you tune in tomorrow night, 8 p .m. for Clicks House of Music. And go out here, some kick -ass music, and have ourselves a new guest in the building. Say we'll be hanging out with you. Until then, hit the button. Have awkward silence.
