We interview Separation Counsellor Marcus Ross in Victoria Australia.
We discuss how Marcus became aware that he wanted to help others after spending his early life in the motor industry.
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My Story - Marcus Ross - Separation Counsellor

Peter discuss Ericsson's psychosocial theory, which posits that people go through different stages in life. The speaker is currently in stage seven, where he wishes to give back to the community. He plans to do this through the Med Shed, a place where people can come to build things for the community.

In this conversation, the speaker talks about how people in their 40s and 50s can become more caring by finding their life's work and contributing to the development of others. He also talks about how those who do not master this become stagnant.



0:  0:00:00   Pete George Experience: Realisation

1:  0:01:41   Screen and Media Student Withdraws from Course

2:  0:03:53   The Benefits of Giving Back Later in Life

3:  0:06:10   The Importance of Generativity in Middle Adulthood

4:  0:10:45   Mental Illness: A Conversation with Dylan

5:  0:13:06   The following is a conversation between two people discussing a book called Lost Connections by Johann Hari.

6:  0:15:45   The Power of Why: A Conversation with Simon Sinek

Erikson’s Psychosocial Theory [https://courses.lumenlearning.com/wm-lifespandevelopment/chapter/erikson-and-psychosocial-theory/]

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Realisation - That understanding that walking away isn't failure

The speaker discusses how important it is for leaders to be vulnerable, and how this can help to build trust. They recount how they were surprised to see Simon Sinek struggling during the Covid-19 pandemic, as he is someone who they had looked up to previously. The speaker emphasises that everyone can benefit from being vulnerable with those around them, even if not everyone will react positively.



TIMESTAMPS 

0:  0:00:01   The Benefits of Being Vulnerable

1:  0:01:15   COVID-19: The Reality of Trauma and Depression

2:  0:05:35   The Importance of Being Vulnerable in Leadership

3:  0:08:40   The Importance of Vulnerability and Checking In On Each Other

Vulnerability is Important for Leaders

Pete George Reviews Bathurst 1000 race, which is a car race that takes place in Australia. The speaker talks about some of the drivers that will be participating in the race, as well as some of the unique aspects of the race. For example, each driver has to drive a minimum of 54 laps, and there are seven compulsory pit stops for fuel and tires. The speaker also talks about how the race is affected by the weather, and how the wet conditions could make it difficult for the drivers.





0:  0:00:29   Bathurst 1000: A Special Preview

1:  0:02:12   Bathurst: The Great Australian Race

2:  0:04:43   Bathurst 1000: Who Will Win?

3:  0:12:35   Bathurst 1000 Race Preview

4:  0:14:32   Will Davidson Thinks We Should Go Back to the Old Days



Bathurst 2022 - 5 things to watch for this weekend

Pete George discusses how, for several years, they began to experience more and more medical problems, which eventually led to a partial breakdown and an attempt to take their own life. They explain how their family saw the decline, but they were too deep in it to realize it themselves. The speaker goes on to say that they are doing better now but still struggle from time to time. They end with a few pointers about mental health and how to help those who are struggling.

Pete describes how their life spiralled downwards after they became addicted to pain medication. They describe how they woke up one day in a rage and abused their family members. They ended up in the hospital and do not remember four days of their life. He also describes how they were close to ending their life but decided to seek help instead. They checked into a mental health unit and began to understand why they had gotten to that point. The person describes how there is a good obsession and a bad obsession and how their obsession drove people away from them.

In the conversation, Peter talks about how his mental health deteriorated to the point where he had to spend time in a mental health unit. He talks about how his friends and family were supportive, but that a lot of people were offended by his behaviour and no apology could help that. He talks about how, after spending time with an occupational therapist, he realized that he needed to try to improve his mental health and that he had let a lot of people down. He talks about how there is a lot of help available for people in his situation, and that his friend David was a great help to him.

Pete also discusses how he has been trying to improve his body function He talks about how he has been swimming and how he plans to go back to school and start being a  photographer again. He also talks about how important it is to ask someone how they are doing, instead of just asking how they are doing.

TIMESTAMPS 



0:  0:00:00   Mental Health: How I Got There, How I Got Out, and What I'm Doing Now

1:  0:03:20   The Dangers of an Unhealthy Obsession

2:  0:05:29   Mental Health Conversation with Peter George

3:  0:10:14   The Peter George Show: How to Help a Friend in a Bad Situation

4:  0:12:31   The Dangers of Over-Medicating for Mental Illness

5:  0:14:25   Mental Health Awareness: How to Approach Someone with Mental Health

6:  0:19:18   Mental Health Check-In: A Conversation with Alec

7:  0:21:10   The Importance of Checking In With Loved Ones

8:  0:23:50   Mental Health: How to Help a Friend in Need

9:  0:26:01   Pete Holmes on the Effects of Isolation on Mental Health

10:  0:28:17   The Pete George Show: A Look-Back



My Story - Pete George - Sometimes You Have To Hit Rockbottom

Pete and Colin discuss Colin's music career, with a focus on the stories that Colin tells through his music. Colin shares that he didn't begin making music until he moved to Australia and that his songs were always meant to connect with and resonate with listeners.

Colin talks about how he was brought up to believe that being a man meant being an excellent drinker and how this led to him having a very violent and abusive life. He talks about how his early childhood experiences shaped his beliefs about manhood. How this has led to struggles throughout his life.

Colin describes how as a result of his addiction, he became involved in criminal activity to feed his hunger. He talks about how this created tension with his parents, which eventually led to an escalation in the conflict between them.

Colin describes their journey from addiction to sobriety, discussing how their mental health problems led them to become reclusive and how they eventually found help. They talk about how their experience has led them to want to help others, and how they believe that there is light at the end of the tunnel for those struggling with addiction.

My Story - Colin Lillie - Finding Light Through Darkness

I came across Colin Lillie's music like most people when he appeared on The Voice Australia in 2018 with a moving rendition of Yusuf/Cat Stephens's Father and Son. I revisited his music in 2021 when I was in a mental health unit, his songs run so true to me that I connected with the lyrics and how Colin can tell a story.




In this episode of My Story, Colin and I discuss his journey from Edinburgh, Scotland, to Alice Springs in Australia.




Colin is open and frank about his addiction to alcohol and drugs and the road to recovery where he is now travelling the world playing his music.




Wish to Book Colin for a gig https://www.colinlillie.com.au/ (click here)




Listen to collins Music - on https://open.spotify.com/artist/5a1yu0NIiNh52zaCjD4rEb (Spotify) https://music.apple.com/us/artist/colin-lillie/529747237 (Apple Music) https://www.youtube.com/colinlillie (Youtube)





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My Story - Colin Lillie - Musician

Pete talks about RUOK day, a day when people check in on each other to make sure everyone is doing alright. They mention that they will be doing an interview with Colin about the topic. The speaker urges everyone to be aware of others who may not be okay tomorrow or any other day.

In this conversation, Peter George discusses the importance of communication and mental health. He stresses that it is important to check in with one another and make sure that everyone is okay. He also talks about how there is a stigma surrounding mental illness and how it is important to break that stigma.

In the introduction, the host discusses the importance of supporting those who are struggling, particularly in light of recent statistics which show an increase in the number of people contacting support lines for help with mental health and suicidal thoughts. He talks about how social media can be both a help and a hindrance in this regard, and how personal interaction is still the most important thing.

The next part of the show features an interview with musician Colin Lilly. Colin discusses his journey from Scotland to Australia, and how his music has helped him through some tough times. He talks about his song Broken, and how it resonates with him, particularly at this time. He encourages people to reach out to those who may be struggling and to show them support.

In this conversation, Colin describes his new website and some of the content that will be featured on it. He talks about his plans for Out of the Cave, an event series focused on men's health and well-being. He shares his vision for the site and how he hopes it will help people who are struggling or looking to improve their lives.




TIMESTAMPS




0: 0:03:05 Au okay day: The shocking numbers and an interview with Colin

1: 0:04:18 Mental Health Check-In with Peter George

2: 0:07:08 Mental Health Awareness with Colin Lilly

3: 0:17:36 The website for Peter George, Out of the Cave, and Tune on Tuesday.

4: 0:20:13 Pete George: The Importance of Tuning







https://petergeorge.com.au/ (Our Site)




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Tune In Tuesday - RUOK Day - Colin Lillie Broken

A few people have seen me on The Pete George Experience and Out Of The Cave channels. In this video, I share the direction of both channels.

I hope you enjoy them both.

It's all about Sharing - Out Of The Cave and The Pete George Experience

Pete George and his guest, Don, discuss grief and loss and how to deal with it. They talk about how grief can affect mental health and how to get around it. The conversation discusses the importance of mental health and how sometimes people need to hit rock bottom in order to realise they need help. It also discusses how mental health is often seen as a destination after someone has reached out for help, rather than an illness. The speakers discuss the challenge of inherited conditioning from parents, and how it can be difficult to break free from negative patterns. They talk about the importance of emotional openness and courage in order to create space for others to do the same. The speakers discuss the idea that people tend to show their true selves more authentically at home, surrounded by people who they believe love them unconditionally. They also talk about the balance that is necessary for relationships, and how this can be seen in the relationship graph which refers to the terms bedevilment and enshrinement

Don and I meet online over a decade ago I thought it was by chance I now know it was for a reason and that reason is to help others by sharing our pain and helping you understand that it is ok to have pain.  We have had many discussions and none more so than when Don and his Wife Lauren came to stay with us over Christmas and a lifelong bond was made.  We discuss the 6 myths that keep us anchored to pian, in a frank conversion.  

 * These myths are :  
 * Don't feel Bad 
 * Replace the Loss 
 * Grieve Alone 
 * Just give it time 
 * Be strong for others 
 * Keep busy   



As Don mentions in the conversation, we have all heard these by the age of 15.    





You can read Don's story Here [https://bit.ly/39mUqWe]

A Chat With - Don Lachance - Grief and Loss Specialist

Out Of The Cave is for men to learn, feel supported as well as a bit of fun along the way. We will interview people from all works of life, and talk about topics that matter, sports and what is happening in the world around us.