The Friendship Recession and Its Solution with Jourdann Lubliner. Ep. 214

Welcome back to Becoming: HER - this week’s guest is Jourdann Lubliner — founder & CEO of the newly-launched app and community for couples: Doubles Social. Jourdann has built a platform aimed at intentional connection between couples, helping them build friendships and explore their cities together.

But while her app is a fascinating vehicle, today’s episode is about a deeper cultural shift: the changing nature of friendship, connection, and community.

According to recent research, the percentage of U.S. adults who report having 10 or more close friends has dropped from about 33 % in 1990 to just 13 % today which a recent piece from Harvard’s Leadership & Happiness Laboratory has called a “Friendship Recession,” meaning not just less time with friends, but a fundamental erosion of the ability to form, maintain, and prioritise friendships. Friendships have been paramount in my life so this is a topic I’m really interested in. Tune in to find out more!

In this episode…
Effort
Two-way street
Doom scrolling
Doubles social
Making friends vs. making friends as couples
Maintaining sense of individuality
New friends
Loneliness
Networking

Quotes

“Building intimacy and vulnerability within your couple is crucial.” - Nikki Spo

“Little movements to stay connected with friends will help you feel less lonely like enhancing existing modes of communication.” - Jourdann Lubliner

Timestamps:
0:00 - 3:50 | Intro
3:50 -7:15 | The app
8:10 - 11:35 | The friendship recession
11:35 - 13:40 | Our own fault
13:40 - 15:40 | Maintaining sense of individuality vs. making friends as couples
15:40 - 18:35 | New friends
18:35 - 19:25 | Double dates
19:25 - 25:30 | Loneliness
25:30 - 29:50 | Addressing loneliness to an introvert
29:50 - 32:10 | Helping people get active
32:10 - 35:50 | Couple friendships
35:50 - 38:45 | Digital friendships
38:45 - 45:10 | Real vs. online connections
45:10 - | What is next for Doubles Social

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Connect with Doubles Social
doubles.social
@doubles.social

Connect with Nikki
www.nikkispo.com [http://www.nikkispo.com]
@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her


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The Friendship Recession and Its Solution with Jourdann Lubliner. Ep. 214

In this powerful and practical episode, I am joined with fitness expert and Menopause Coach Unni Greene Feder, a former competitive figure skater, author, and mother of four who has helped thousands transform their relationship with fitness and their bodies.

Unni shares her journey of reinvention after major life changes and breaks down how strength training, nutrition, and mindset can support you through aging, menopause, divorce, overwhelm, and identity shifts.

Let’s get started!

In this episode…
Why strength training is essential during life transitions
How lifting weights impacts hormones, inflammation, metabolism, and confidence
The truth about eating “more” to lose fat and build lean mass
How to approach menopause and midlife shifts with clarity instead of fear
Daily rituals to help you feel strong, radiant, and calm
How fitness helps you regain control and redefine your identity

Quotes

“I always sought to surround myself with women who were older than me because I wanted their wisdom.” - Nikki Spo

“It shouldn’t be more stressful to handle stress.” - Unni Greene Feder

If you’re not important to yourself and you don’t hold yourself in high esteem, why do you expect others to respect you and hold you in high esteem.” - Unni Greene Feder

Timestamps:
0:00 - 3:35 | Intro
3:35 - 8:15 | Unni’s background
8:15 - 11:00 | Transitions
11:00 - 13:35 | Male vs. female trainers
13:35 - 14:50 | Women wisdom
14:40 - 19:00 | Coaching women in different phases
19:00 - 28:55 | Women having the permission to evolve over time
28:55 - 35:15 | Self-pity
35:35 - 38:55 | Feeling emotions rather than feeling nothing
38:55 - 51:45 | Body mechanics & body awareness
51:45 - 57:45 | Brain health
57:45 - 1:01:10 | Tangible everyday steps to get to the space of strong, calm, & radiant
1:01:10 - 1:04:40 | Self-care
1:04:40 - 1:07:20 | Admirable women
1:07:20 - 1:07:50 | What it means to Unni to become her
1:07:50 - 1:10:35 | Outro

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Connect with Unni Greene Feder
https://unnifit.com/ / Eat More to Lose More
@unnigreene

Connect with Nikki
www.nikkispo.com [http://www.nikkispo.com]
@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her


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Strong, Radiant, and Calm with Unni Greene Feder. Ep. 213

Welcome back to Becoming HER, the space where we celebrate women who rise, rebuild, and keep dreaming no matter the odds.
Today’s guest, Dr. Jenisbel Acevedo, is a doctor, philanthropist, content creator, and mother of two whose story is rooted in courage and hope.

At just nine years old, Jenisbel left Cuba on a handmade raft built by her father — a journey that taught her to face change with faith and to hold onto her dreams through uncertainty. Her new book, Un Barco de Sueños — A Raft of Dreams — captures that same spirit of resilience and reminds us that it’s never too late to chase what calls your heart.

Jenisbel, welcome to Becoming HER.

In this episode…
The power of courage and faith in the face of adversity
How to hold onto your dreams even when the odds feel impossible
What it means to start again — and chase purpose later in life
The story behind Un Barco de Sueños and its message of hope
How the Acevedo Foundation is creating impact and changing lives

Quotes

“The antidote to suffering is service.” - Nikki Spo

“Life is about taking chances because if you don’t you will never realize what's on the other side.” - Jensibel Acevedo

“It’s okay to make mistakes, it's okay to be afraid. Just don’t allow anyone to tell you who you have to be. No one can tell you, only you know.” - Jensibel Acevedo

Connect with Jensibel Acevedo
Un Barco de Sueños (A Raft of Dreams)
@jenisbelacevedo | @acevedofoundation

Connect with Nikki
www.nikkispo.com [http://www.nikkispo.com]
@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her


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Resilience, Hope, and Chasing Dreams at Any Age with Jenisbel Acevedo. Ep. 212

In this powerful and refreshingly honest episode of Becoming HER, Nikki sits down with Keesha Scott, mom of three, certified parenting coach, co-founder of Guardian Recovery, and host of the podcast Cake for Dinner.

What started as a project tied to her upcoming parenting book has evolved into a movement, one that invites women to have real conversations about motherhood, marriage, sobriety, identity, and the messy middle of becoming who we’re meant to be.

Keesha opens up about her personal journey, from early struggles and single motherhood to finding purpose through healing, faith, and self-awareness. She shares how we can release perfectionism, reconnect with who we are in this season, and raise our kids (and ourselves) with more grace and truth.

If you’ve ever felt lost in the roles you play as mom, partner, professional, friend, this episode will remind you that becoming her isn’t about having it all figured out. It’s about showing up as your truest self, one imperfect day at a time. Tune in.

In this episode…
The real reason Keesha created Cake for Dinner — and how it grew beyond a book launch.
Why women lose their sense of identity in motherhood (and how to reclaim it).
The truth about balancing marriage, motherhood, and self.
What authenticity really looks like — and how to stop chasing “perfect.”
How to strengthen connection and communication with your kids.
The mindset shifts that help us thrive in every season of life.

Quotes

“You can’t outparent genetics.” - Keesha Scott

“People don’t connect with perfection. They connect with reality.” - Keesha Scott

“Resetment is like drinking the poison but expecting someone else to die.” - Nikki Spo

Timestamps:
0:00 - 3:05 | Intro
3:05 - 6:50 | Paths shifting
6:50 - 11:00 | Addiction in young people
11:00 - 15:25 | Parenting from a pure space
15:25 - 17:55 | Coming out the other side
17:55 - 20:55 | Turning point
20:55 - 23:15 | Staying sober through the hardships
23:15 - 26:15 | Rise of the community
26:15 - 37:00 | Resentment
37:00 - 43:30 | The gift of being a mom
43:30 - 45:15 | Different experiences
45:15 - 50:15 | Giving life meaning
50:15 - 51:50 | The desire to be of service
51:50 - 53:00 | Women coming together
53:00 - 56:05 | Cake for Dinner
56:05 - 56:30 | Single mom
56:30 - 58:59 | Outro

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Connect with Keesha Scott
keeshascott.com
@keeshascottparentcoach

Connect with Nikki
www.nikkispo.com [http://www.nikkispo.com]
@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her


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Cake for Dinner: Real Talk on Motherhood, Identity & Becoming You with Keesha Scott Ep. 211

Welcome back to Becoming: HER! In this episode, I sit down with Lauren Allan, a proud Miamian, mom, and Team Leader of the Jo-Ann Forster Team, one of South Florida’s most trusted family-run real estate groups. Lauren shares her inspiring path from social work to real estate, how she carries forward her mother Jo-Ann’s powerful legacy, and what it means to lead with empathy, connection, and confidence in business and at home.

You’ll hear a candid conversation about legacy, blended families, and finding grace through change, plus, Lauren offers a peek behind the curtain of the Miami real estate world with practical insights for buyers, sellers, and dreamers alike. Tune in!

In this episode…
Being a facilitator
Relationships
Sales industry
Thrill
Fulfilling a legacy
Energy exchange
Self- awareness/ finding yourself
Grove vs. Gables
Blending families
Accountability & humility

Quotes

“My mom taught me that real estate isn’t about houses, it’s about people, relationships, and trust.” - Lauren Allen

“My parents were very good at letting me be me, and that was a gift and an honor.” - Lauren Allen

“The level of your peace comes down to your ability to face change with grace.” - Nikki Spo

“Every birthday I ask myself, do I like myself more now than I did last year?” - Lauren Allen

Timestamps:
0:00 - 2:30 | Intro
2:30 - 6:50 | Lauren’s journey
6:50 - 11:15 | Facilitator
11:15 - 14:55 | Relationship-centric
14:55 - 19:50 | Legacy
19:50 - 24:00 | Energetic exchange
24:30 - 33:15 | Lauren’s favorite neighborhood
33:15 - 35:35 | South Miami
35:35 - 40:40 | Staying grounded
40:40 - 43:55 | Cash offer
43:55 - 46:45 | Condo market
46:45 - 53:10 | Lauren’s personal life
53:10 - 57:55 | Dating after divorce
57:55 - 58:55 | Accountability & humility
58:55 - 1:01:00 | What does becoming her mean to Lauren
1:01:00 - 1:03:30 | Outro

Connect with Lauren Allen
https://www.joannforsterteam.com/
@laurengallan / @joannforsterteam

Connect with Nikki
www.nikkispo.com [http://www.nikkispo.com]
@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her


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Legacy, Leadership & Life in Real Estate with Lauren Allan. Ep. 210

Welcome back to Becoming: HER, the podcast where we explore the real, raw, and remarkable journey of stepping into who we’re meant to be.

Today, I’m joined by Lisa Candera, a single mom, attorney, ADHD-er, and autism mom coach whose work is changing the narrative around resilience, motherhood, and self-regulation.

Lisa is the host of The Autism Mom Podcast, which ranks in the top 2%, and her upcoming book dives deep into what it means to be a “solid object” for your child, not fixing, not co-escalating, but standing steady in the storm.

In a world that tells moms to “tough it out,” Lisa is helping women rewrite that story, to find peace not through pushing harder, but through accepting change and regulating ourselves first.

We’re going to talk about the myths that keep autism moms stuck in guilt and shame, the “tough it out” mentality that’s quietly burning women out, and what real strength and peace can look like when we lead from self-awareness and compassion. Tune in! 

 

 

In this episode…

 * Hope to parents 
 * Toughing it out vs. not toughing it out 
 * Being a GOOD human being 
 * Labels 
 * The evolvement of autism 
 * Support groups 
 * The autism umbrella 
 * Toolbox 

 

 

Quotes 

“It really takes self-aware adults to raise self-aware children.” - Nikki Spo 

 

“The first step is to understand what your triggers are as a parent. It's never the behavior, it's always so much underneath that.” - Lisa Candera 

 

 

 

Timestamps: 

0:00 - 4:00 | Intro 

4:00 - 4:50 | Bottle lessons up & deliver them 

4:50 - 8:40 | Lisa’s perspective on resilience 

8:40 - 10:45 | The labels…

10:45 - 12:10 | Self-regulation as an adult 

12:10 - 20:25 | How autism has evolved 

20:25 - 23:35 | Community 

23:35 - 28:10 | Thinking its a “phase” 

28:10 - 33:20 | Mothers instinct 

33:20 - 38:05 | Being held captive by your self 

38:05 - 40:20 | A crisis point 

40:20 - 42:35 | Pausing before reacting 

42:35 - 48:05 | Toolbox for parents 

48:05 - 52:40 | Assigning meaning 

52:40 - 53:50 | Difference between our closet & our brain 

53:50 - 57:35 | Qualities that make autism special 

57:35 - 1:00:46 | Outro 

 

 

 

To every mom listening: You are doing your best in circumstances that don’t always make space for softness, and that’s exactly why conversations like this matter.

If today’s episode resonated with you, go follow Lisa and listen to The Autism Mom Podcast, her work is a lifeline for any parent walking this journey.

And as always, thank you for tuning in to Becoming: HER. I’m Nikki Spoelstra, and I’ll see you next week as we continue learning, growing, and becoming, together.

 

 

 

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Painless Pregnancy is a group of physical therapists located in South Florida who specialize in helping pregnant and postpartum women prevent dysfunction and heal… in the comfort of their own homes. This concierge service has been a game changer for me after my third childbirth, and I am excited to partner with them and offer our Listeners 10% off their first visit with my code NikkiSpo10. Check out www.painless-pregnancy.com to book your appointment!

 

 

 

Connect with Lisa Candera 

theautismmomcoach.com [https://theautismmomcoach.com/]

@theautismmomcoach [https://www.instagram.com/theautismmomcoach/?hl=en]  


 


 


Connect with Nikki 

www.nikkispo.com [https://www.nikkispo.com/]  

@nikkisappspo [https://instagram.com/nikkisappspo?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==] /

Peace Over Power: Redefining Strength for Autism Moms with Lisa Candera Ep. 209

Welcome back to Becoming: HER, the podcast where we peel back the layers of what it really means to live, lead, and love as the most confident version of ourselves. I’m your host, Nikki Spoelstra—and today’s guest embodies that journey in the most powerful way.

Simone Knego is the award-winning author of The Extraordinary UnOrdinary You and co-host of Her Unshakeable Confidence, the hit intergenerational podcast she hosts with her daughter. She’s climbed Mount Kilimanjaro, raised six children in a beautifully blended, multicultural family, and built a global platform around one truth—that confidence isn’t about perfection, it’s about showing up real, raw, and unapologetically you.

In this episode, we’re talking about what it means to lead from the inside out, stop waiting for permission, and find your voice—even when the world tells you to shrink. Let’s dive in with the extraordinary, unordinary Simone Knego.

 

 

In this episode…

 * Learning from your children 
 * Adoption 
 * Crohn's 
 * If its mentionable, its manageable 
 * Book of life 
 * Family unit 
 * Business of being married
 * The kitchen table leadership  

 

 

Quotes

“When you have some sort of struggle it doesn’t define you, it’s just a piece of who you are.” - Simone Knego

“Self-care is NEVER selfish.” - Simone Knego 

“I often call it the business of being married because it is more than just love, it is a lot of work that goes into keeping and sustaining a relationship.” - Nikki Spo 

 

 

Timestamps: 

0:00 - 2:40 | Intro

2:40 - 4:00 | Simone’s story 

4:00 - 4:50 | Six children 

4:50 - 6:25 | Crohn's disease 

6:25 - 11:00 | How your children shape your identity 

11:00 - 13:15 | Equal attention for your children 

13:15 - 16:50 | Subconscious assigned role in a family unit 

16:50 - 19:40 | Mom’s taking time for themselves 

19:40 - 21:50 | Husband involvement 

21:50 - 26:35 | The kitchen table leadership 

26:35 - 29:55 | Extraordinary 

29:55 - 36:20 | Mindset shift  

36:20 - 38:35 | Moving forward 

38:35 - 41:45 | Living up to others expectations

41:45 - 49:45 | You don’t need permission to be yourself   

49:45 - 1:04:36 | REAL  

 

 

If this conversation spoke to you in the audience, take a moment today to reflect on where you might still be waiting for a green light or for your own permission slip to get moving. 

 

 

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Connect with Simone Knego 

https://simoneknego.com/

@simoneknego [https://www.instagram.com/simoneknego/?hl=en]

 




 

Connect with Nikki 

www.nikkispo.com [https://www.nikkispo.com/]  

@nikkisappspo [https://instagram.com/nikkisappspo?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==] / @wearebecoming_her [https://www.instagram.com/wearebecoming_her/]


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Stop Waiting for the Green Light: Be Your Own Permission Slip with Simone Knego. Ep. 208

 

If you’ve been doing everything right, eating clean, moving your body, getting your sleep, but still feeling tired, anxious, bloated, or just not like yourself, this episode is going to speak straight to your soul. 

This week on Becoming: HER, I sat down with Lauren Papanos, MS, RD, CSSD, a board-certified sports dietitian and hormone expert who helps high-performing women uncover the hidden thyroid and hormone imbalances quietly draining their energy.

Lauren and I dive deep into why so many ambitious women are running on empty, what your labs might be missing, and how to finally restore your energy and confidence from the inside out. She shares real, practical tools you can start using today. No restrictive diets, no guilt, just aligned, sustainable healing.

Tune in and learn how to reconnect with your body, honor your hormones, and step into the vibrant energy that’s been waiting for you all along. 

 

 

In this episode…

 * PCOS 
 * Feminine frustration 
 * Healthy isn’t enough 
 * Fatigue 
 * Many layers of PCOS 
 * leveling up
 * Changing perspective 
 * Mental & physical health

 

 

Quotes

“Healthy looks different for everybody.” - Lauren Papanos 

“When you have the financial stability, you have the freedom to make certain choices.” - Nikki Spo

“We put pressure on ourselves to do the most all of the time when in reality the solution lies with doing less.” - Nikki Spo

 

 

Timestamps: 

0:00 - 2:50 | Intro 

2:50 - 5:20 | PCOS

5:20 - 8:45 | Medical history 

8:45 - 13:10 | Healthy isn’t enough 

13:10 - 15:45 | Mental health & physical health working together

15:45 - 18:15 | Financial freedom 

18:15 - 25:15 | Energy crisis

25:15 - 26:50 | Self-assessments 

26:50 - 30:35 | Signs 

30:35 - 34:10 | Thyroid & gut 

34:10 - 41:15 | Being an advocate for your own health 

41:15 - 47:45 | Obstacles & solutions 

47:45 - 53:45 | Being TOO busy 

53:45 - 55:25 | A small shift  

55:25 - 57:52 | Outro

 

 

If this episode spoke to you, I’d love for you to take a moment to share it with another woman who needs to hear it. These conversations are meant to remind us that we’re not alone, and that healing and alignment are possible for every one of us.

Make sure you’re subscribed to Becoming: HER wherever you listen to podcasts and if you haven’t yet, come connect with me on Instagram @nikkisappspo [https://instagram.com/nikkisappspo].

 

Until next time, remember: you are powerful, you are capable, and you are becoming her. 💛

 

 

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Painless Pregnancy is a group of physical therapists located in South Florida who specialize in helping pregnant and postpartum women prevent dysfunction and heal… in the comfort of their own homes. This concierge service has been a game changer for me after my third childbirth, and I am excited to partner with them and offer our Listeners 10% off their first visit with my code NikkiSpo10. Check out www.painless-pregnancy.com to book your appointment! 

 

 

 

Connect with Lauren Papanos 

https://functionalfueling.com/

@functional.fueling [https://www.instagram.com/functional.fueling/]

 




 

Connect with Nikki 

www.nikkispo.com [https://www.nikkispo.com/]  

@nikkisappspo [https://instagram.com/nikkisappspo?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==] / @wearebecoming_her [https://www.instagram.com/wearebecoming_her/]


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The Hidden Energy Crisis in Ambitious Women with Lauren Papanos. Ep. 207

Welcome listeners! I am thrilled to introduce today's guest, Ashley Arguello co-ceo and co-founder of the innovative new social navigation app canwe [https://canwe.app/]. She is a former division one basketball player who shifted to a double major at NYU who combines strategic insight with genuine heart. This week Ashley and I are talking about everything from what it’s like to work with your mans, sustaining friendships through life changes, and what it means to Ashley to be a modern matriarch. Tune in!

 

 

In this episode…

 * Marriage is a team 
 * True forgiveness 
 * Deifying 
 * Us against the problem  
 * Honor & humility 
 * Success 
 * Having a mission together 
 * Being seen, heard, & understood 
 *  Being feminine is beautiful 

 

 

Quotes

“Without God in your marriage, it is impossible.” - Ashley Arguello

“True forgiveness is SO important in marriage.” - Ashley Arguello

“I think that there is room for all of us at the top and that there is more that can happen when we collaborate rather than compete.” - Nikki Spo

“The most successful men are the ones who lift their female partner up with them.” - Nikki Spo

 

 

Timestamps: 

0:00 - 2:10 | Intro 

2:10 - 7:10 | What it means to be married 

7:10 - 11:15 | Forgiveness 

11:15 - 15:55 | Canwe app 

15:55 - 18:40 | Sustaining the faith to follow your passion 

18:40 - 19:55 | Collaboration over competition 

19:55 - 22:00 | Working with your mans 

22:00 - 25:55 | Honoring each other in a marriage   

25:55 - 29:05 | Recognition & appreciation 

29:05 - 31:45 | Projection 

31:45 - 37:25 | Faith based marriage 

37:24 - 42:35 | Motherhood & working 

42:35 - 46:40 | Wanting stability 

46:40 - 47:35 | Jealousy 

47:35 - 49:40 | Being feminine is beautiful 

49:40 - 51:46 | How Ashely and Ernesto have influenced others 

51:46 - 54:55 | Integrity  

54:55 - 1:01:15 | Friendships 

1:01:15 - 1:04:50 | Growth, connection, or transformation 

1:04:50 - 1:07:05 | Outro 

 

 

–

SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code NIKKISPOGLOW. 

 

 

 

Connect with Ashley Arguello 

canwe.app [https://canwe.app/]

@ashleytaylorarguello [https://www.instagram.com/ashleytaylorarguello/?hl=en]

@canwe_app [https://www.instagram.com/canwe_app/?hl=en]

 




 

Connect with Nikki 

www.nikkispo.com [https://www.nikkispo.com/]  

@nikkisappspo [https://instagram.com/nikkisappspo?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==] / @wearebecoming_her [https://www.instagram.com/wearebecoming_her/]


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Can We Connect? Building Love, Leadership, and Friendship with Ashley Arguello. Ep. 206

Welcome back my people! This week we have my lifey, Jamie Lee Ruiz back on the show. Jamie is a regular here. You’ve laughed and cried with us, and this week, we are diving into the often messy, sometimes uncomfortable, deeply transformative in between seasons of life…  The transitions in career, in romance, or just the unexpected changes that leave us wondering WTF is next.



Jamie and I go DEEP, we laugh a lot, and we don’t shy away from the tough stuff, so get ready! 





In this episode…

 * Stuck in a rut  
 * In between time 
 * Welcoming the change 
 * Manifesting dream life 
 * Desires change 
 * Alignment 
 * Ego 
 * Values changing 







Quotes



“I am starting to ease up and trust the process of change and just be welcoming to it rather than living in anxiety.” - Nikki Spo 



“It’s a balance between ambition, staying humble and grateful while also allowing yourself to have desires that are real.” - Nikki Spo



“What I teach I am also experiencing myself in real time.” - Jamie Ruiz 



“Find what brings you joy, not just money.” - Jamie Ruiz 







Timestamps: 

0:00 - 2:05 | Intro 

2:05 - 3:30 | Making hard things feel digestible 

3:30 - 4:45 | No pressure with friends 

4:45 - 5:30 | In between time 

5:30 - 7:40 | Everything is packaged differently 

7:40 - 11:25 | Certain desires covered in ego 

11:25 - 15:30 | Turning 40 

15:30 - 26:30 | Sitting with yourself 

26:30 - 28:15 | Present 

28:15 - 30:50 | Trusting the path 

30:50 - 35:35 | Funeral from your old self 

35:35 - 40:50 | Act how you want to feel

40:50 - 43:50 | Keep trying 

43:50 - 48:30 | Regulating emotions  

48:30 - 50:35 | Manifestation 

50:35 - 54:25 | Courage is an experiment 

54:25 - 56:45 | Life is supposed to be enjoyable 

56:45 - 1:00:45 | Rapid fire questions 

1:00:45 - 1:02:42 | Outro













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