What happens when the person you have shared almost your entire adult life with is suddenly gone—and you are left trying to work out who you are without them?



In this deeply honest episode of Real Unfiltered Dad Journeys, Steve sits down with Michael, a father, grandfather and widower who lost his wife, Neryl, after 44 years of marriage. Michael reflects on becoming a dad at 25, missing the birth of his first daughter because he was playing hockey, being known as the “bad cop” of the family and eventually becoming the grandfather affectionately known as Grumpy.



But the heart of this conversation is what happened after Neryl died.



Michael speaks openly about the first months of grief, the crushing silence of an empty home and why evenings remain the hardest part of his day. He shares how simple phone calls, late-night walks and ordinary conversations helped him survive—and why supporting someone through grief does not require perfect words or solutions. Sometimes, it simply means picking up the phone, listening and creating a safe place for them to talk.



Steve and Michael also explore why men often suppress their emotions, the fear of crying in front of others and the pressure to appear as though everything is under control. Together, they challenge the belief that strength means holding everything inside.



Michael also shares how losing Neryl took away his sense of purpose—and how he slowly began transforming that loss into a mission: helping other widowed men move beyond simply filling their days and begin building meaningful lives again with creation of The Grandpa Coach.



This is a raw conversation about fatherhood, marriage, grief, loneliness, identity and the small moments of joy that give us a reason to keep going.



Because sometimes healing does not begin with advice. It begins when someone stays, listens and allows you to finally lose it, if we allow oneself to.



Powerful quotes from this episode with Michael..



It’s okay to cry.”



“How do I control this so I don’t look or sound like I’m losing it, when, in fact, I am?”





“If we do let ourselves go and lose it, then we’d be better off.”





“I didn’t like you very much… I changed my mind. I got to know you.”





“I think I’m finding myself.”





“Since Narelle died, I’ve gradually moved into a world of helping widowed men live a better life.”



“Get on the phone and have a chat to them—not necessarily expressing your condolences, but just chatting.”



“I don’t want to say they’re in a better place now, because that doesn’t help.”



“Wasn’t it great that I had the opportunity to spend my life with Narelle? She gave me the gift of her.”



“Every man who has become widowed deserves to live the rest of his life as the best it can be.”



RISE Framework | The Grandpa Coach



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“You’ve Got to Feel It to Heal It” The Grandpa Coach- Grief, Loneliness and Learning to Live Again. 

Mike thought he knew exactly what kind of dad he was going to be.



Then Jack came along and blew that whole idea apart.



In this raw follow-up episode, Mike returns to talk about fatherhood, rare disease, faith, therapy, marriage, and the brutal beauty of learning that being a dad is not about control. It is not about building the perfect future. It is not about ticking off the milestones society tells us matter.



For Mike, fatherhood has become something much simpler, harder, and more honest:



Give Jack joy.



Mike opens up about watching his son live with an ultra-rare degenerative disease, the hope and uncertainty of gene therapy, the gut-punch moments of seeing Jack want to do things his body will not let him do, and the strange mix of grief and gratitude that lives inside everyday dad life.



This is not a neat inspirational story. It is messy. It is funny. It is heavy. It is full of love.



It is a conversation about showing up when you are tired, scared, angry, unsure, and still trying to be a good man for the people who need you most.

“What If Success Isn’t the Goal? Mike’s back on joy, love, and what Jack really taught him. 

Most people wear a mask.



Michael doesn’t.



In this episode of Real Unfiltered Dad Journeys, we strip away the polished version of fatherhood and talk about what life actually looks like.



From quitting alcohol and being diagnosed with ADHD and autism as an adult, to working in disability support, raising two daughters, dealing with grief, and rebuilding yourself one decision at a time—nothing is off limits.



We talk about the conversations men usually have behind closed doors: purpose, marriage, mental health, identity, and what it takes to become someone your kids can genuinely look up to.



No fake motivation. No pretending we’ve got it all figured out. Just two dads talking honestly about the wins, the failures, and everything in between.



In this episode:



* Why Michael walked away from alcohol

* Being diagnosed with ADHD & autism as an adult

* The reality of working in disability support

* Fatherhood beyond the clichés

* Marriage, purpose and becoming a better man

* Grief, mortality and making peace with life

* Mental health and why more men need to talk



If you’re a dad—or simply trying to become a better man—this conversation is for you.



Real stories. Real conversations. Real Unfiltered Dad Journeys.

Michael-  No Alcohol, No BS. just truth of borrowed time we all have. 

Six months into fatherhood, Ben is already asking the big questions:



What kind of man do I want my son to remember?



From screaming babies and relationship pressure to business stress, burnout, cold showers, routines, and rebuilding yourself — this episode is raw, honest, and deeply reflective.



We talk about:



* Why fatherhood exposes who you really are

* Using kids as fuel instead of excuses

* Entrepreneurship and family balance

* Health, habits, discipline, and identity

* Becoming the “rock” for your family

* Why dads need to work on themselves too



No fake “perfect dad” nonsense.

Just two dads talking honestly about life, pressure, growth, and trying to become better humans.

  Ben- Six months in-“Intensely Amazing & Amazingly Intense”

Steve reconnects with Gary after more than 20 years—and the conversation gets real fast. Gary doesn’t sugarcoat anything: he became a dad in his mid-20s while serving in the Navy, spent long stretches away at sea, and later disappeared from his kids’ lives for years after a messy divorce. His words, not anyone else’s—“I was a crap dad.” No excuses.



They dig into what that actually feels like: guilt that never fully leaves, missed years you can’t get back, and the strange mix of pride and pain when you see your kids turn out well without you there. There’s a powerful moment where Gary talks about being pulled into the front row at his son’s wedding—feeling seen, but also carrying the weight of everything that came before.



The episode also hits hard on work and burnout. Gary shares how stress broke him to the point he’d get dressed for work… then spend the day hiding in the cinema. That moment forced a complete reset—he walked away from employment, built his own business, and started living on his terms.



Now? He’s softer. Kinder. More intentional. He talks about small things—making a proper cup of tea, watching birds, saying hello to strangers—and why they matter more than chasing status or money. His rule is simple: just be the nicest person in the room.



This is a raw conversation about masculinity, regret, and growth. About owning your mistakes without hiding. About aging without pretending you’ve got it all figured out. And about one honest hope:



That even if you got it wrong…

people might still say—you tried.

Pride and Guilt in the Same Room- Gary reflects. 

Injuries, aging, and the shift from intensity to longevity, it’s all here



This episode it sit down with two repeat guests—Steve and Franky—for an honest, wide-ranging conversation about how movement, training, and routine shape identity, mental health, and fatherhood.



From childhood sports to street-level gyms and midlife adjustments, this episode explores why people start, stop, and return to fitness—and what keeps them going long-term.



Frankie, originally from the Bronx, shares how weight training from age 15 became a powerful coping mechanism, offering structure, belonging, and focus during difficult times. He opens up about cycles of intense training, long breaks, injuries and a COVID-era health wake-up that forced him to rethink everything.



Steve reflects on a lifetime of sport—from football and karate to swimming and calisthenics—and how his approach has shifted toward longevity, injury prevention, and sustainable performance as he gets older.



Together, they break down practical training philosophies, including:



* Setting micro and macro goals

* Balancing progressive overload with recovery

* Building functional strength through calisthenics

* Avoiding injury while maintaining consistency



Beyond training, the conversation dives into identity, masculinity, family expectations, and how routine supports mental clarity—especially in the context of fatherhood.



Takeaway: Find your “why,” build sustainable habits, and use movement not just for performance—but for mental and emotional grounding.

The Long Game: Training for Life, Not Just Performance and finding the every changing WHY

What happens to a man when fatherhood doesn’t look anything like he imagined?



In this powerful episode, I sit down with Bo, a 33-year-old dad from Kansas City who has spent the last seven years living on high alert.

His son Elgin suffered a severe brain injury at birth and requires 24-hour care. Every day, Bo watches oxygen levels. Every night, he sleeps beside a monitor that could change everything in a second, keeping in mind this is after tragically losing his daughter 1 year before Elgin was born.



But this isn’t just a story about special needs parenting, it’s more than that.



It’s a story about identity. About losing a child and still choosing to love again. About radical acceptance when life doesn’t bend. About loneliness, exhaustion, fear — and the quiet, relentless decision to stay in the ring and fight



Bo speaks with brutal honesty about what it costs to keep showing up… and why he refuses to walk away from the ring.



There are times when I feel we forget the mic is on and Bo says ‘I need him more than he needs me’. It felt like something went off for me, he was right and I think so many parents would think the same, but not say out loud… such a brave dad on all levels.



This episode is for any dad who has ever felt overwhelmed, unseen, or stretched to his limits. It’s about resilience, perspective, and the kind of strength that doesn’t shout — it just stays.



Check out Bo’s social media and get into how he does life… it’s real unfiltered dad journeys.



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Bo-When the Dream Changes, But the Love Doesn’t.

In this episode of Real Unfiltered Dad Journeys, I sit down with my longtime friend Phil for one of the most open and honest conversations we’ve ever had. We explore how his understanding of fatherhood has shifted from “protector and provider” to “guide and guardrails,” and how walking, silence, and self-reflection have become essential tools for staying grounded. Phil speaks candidly about triggers, patience, the pressure to financially “ring-fence” his family, and the fear of not being around long enough for his kids. At the heart of our conversation is a powerful reminder: even the toughest moments of parenting are still a privilege.

Walking It Off: How Phil Stays Sane Enough to Be a Good Dad.

In this episode, I talk with Aaron — a devoted dad to his seven-year-old son, Noah, who is neurodiverse. Arran opens up about a social-media post he made after a school rejected a child with autism, sparking a powerful discussion on inclusion and the importance of understanding neurodiversity rather than labeling it.



He shares how fatherhood has transformed his outlook — teaching him patience, empathy, and the value of seeing the world through his son’s eyes. We discuss the pressures men face to meet expectations, and how true success as a dad isn’t about achievements but being emotionally present and consistent.



Arran also talks about the role of physical and mental health in showing up for family, challenging the stigma around therapy, and encouraging fathers to seek support. We close by reflecting on legacy, resilience, and the quiet strength it takes to keep growing — for ourselves and for our kids.



Arran’s Podcast - Breaking the mask



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Arran— Embracing Neurodiversity and Redefining Fatherhood

In this heartfelt conversation, Bryan opens up about his journey as a father of four—Virginia, Dexter, and twins Celia and Ben. From the earliest days of medical challenges, including cancer diagnoses, surgeries, and a liver transplant, to the sudden heartbreak of losing his wife and partner of 25 years, Bryan shares his story with honesty and vulnerability.



We talk about what it really means to be present for your kids, how grief reshapes the way you see life, and why expressing love—out loud and often—matters so much. Bryan also reflects on the weight of tough conversations about mortality, the importance of mental health support, and the need to give ourselves permission to heal at our own pace.



This episode is a powerful reminder that behind every family is a story of resilience, love, and struggle. Bryan’s words will leave you thinking about how we show up for the people we care about—and why empathy and connection matter more than ever.





This conversation with Bryan was had earlier this year and he has been battling like anything to keep going. Recently he has shared that he is really struggling, not only with finances but also his own demons - alcohol.





The following is a direct copy of his post on his social media



“I feel like a piece of crap for doing this and I wouldn't be doing it unless I was out of options.

Over the past 8 months we've gone through a lot of change, unwanted growth, trying to fit in, in our new world attempting to see a future without Leslie Paige. During this time normal day to day operations have for the most part halted.

Finding myself in a mountain of debt, medical bills, depression, anxiety, kids who need stronger support than their weak father and me buried under empty bottles of Gin. 95% of this is my fault. Leslie was always the money and insurance manager. I know I'm losing the prior because of my lack of knowledge of the latter.

Im taking the first step towards my recovery from alcohol, but it is costly. I also found out that we may be charged the full amount for Ben's tablet($18,000)

I know everyone is tired of hearing my sob stories (and i can't say that | blame you ), "woe is me" ( paraphrasing a relative ) but my family and I can use the help. Even if it's just good company and a meal together. I appreciate everything you all have already done and I feel like a schmuck asking for more. Share if you want. Thanks again.

Truly undeserved of you all's support and love .

Love, Bryan”

https://www.gofundme.com/f/support-the-hughan-familys-journey-to-healing





Bryan’s Story: A Father’s Love Through Loss

Dads who are the caregiver of their kids which have special needs or disabilities have a unique perspective of how we face the challenges. This is a safe space to hear those journeys. Send me a message! https://anchor.fm/lifewithjamieandmoreinjapan/message All podcast are on YouTube https://youtube.com/channel/UCgsUEiVd5iK78plbu0kQs9g

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