Why do so many men feel like they’re doing everything right, but still feel lonely, unseen, and resentful?

In this raw and deeply practical episode, I’m joined once again by No More Mr. Nice Guy author Dr. Robert Glover. In this no-holds-barred conversation, we unpack the real reasons men struggle to ask for what they want, receive love, and build lasting relationships.

We explore the covert contracts that keep men stuck in silent resentment. We also unpack the hidden shame around masculine needs and the painful effects of emotional isolation. But this episode isn’t just about naming the problem. It’s a masterclass for reclaiming your power, building real brotherhood, and creating the kind of life and relationship you actually want.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

 * Why you might believe (consciously or unconsciously) that having needs makes you weak or bad.
 * What a “covert contract” is and how it's silently sabotaging your relationships.
 * Why most men struggle to receive, and how that blocks intimacy, connection and wealth.
 * How to identify the “junk food” behaviours and relationships that are draining your energy.
 * A powerful 3-step life audit to help you reconnect with your purpose, community, and emotional needs.
 * The evolutionary reason men crave brotherhood and why isolation is destroying your health.
 * Why men's groups are the antidote to digital distraction, porn addiction, and emotional loneliness.

Episode Resources

Stop People-Pleasing.

Start Leading.

15 Questions to Take Back Control of Your Life - From the Boardroom to the Bedroom.
Get the free PDF here: https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/uy-playbook.

Integration Nation Men’s Community [https://integrationnation.net]

No More Mr. Nice Guy — Dr. Glover’s book [https://www.amazon.com/No-More-Mr-Nice-Guy/dp/1402580223]

This episode is all about reclaiming your needs! Please be sure to tag me @garethpickering on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this content! I love to hear about all your experiences. Also, be sure to leave a review on iTunes in order to receive a free meditation to reclaim your power. Just screenshot it before submitting it and email it to my team at studio@fatherssonsbrothers.com, and I will see you in the next episode.

If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to watch our first interview with Dr Glover, which has received over 5,880 views - Episode 39 "From People Pleaser to Unapologetically You [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gs4IlKR8G_4&list=PLf0aX4k0hbBZXlTdr1s15Sr65ZpAm1S5v&index=36]".

THE KING'S CIRCLE: A DOJO FOR INTEGRATED LEADERS

An integrated leader recognises that we all have inner work to do. So, these new-paradigm leaders seek out people, processes, and places that support them in recognising and integrating their blind spots.

Each month, Fathers Sons Brothers host the King's Circle, a two-hour transformational leadership training experience. It’s a men-only space where visionaries gather to learn tools and frameworks that make them better communicators and more integrated leaders.

When you regularly invest in this t

#67 The Hidden Cost of People-Pleasing in Your Relationship with Dr Robert Glover

"Why would I want to join a men's group?"

This is a common response we hear from men when we introduce them to men's work. A lot of men think that a men's group is either a religious gathering or a pity party.

It's neither.

It's the medicine that unlocks parts of yourself that you have been battling with on your own.

The more discomfort you feel about being authentic in a group of men, the more magic awaits you on the other side. So if you're ready to unlock more power in your life and learn about this ancient technology and how it can support your life and leadership, this episode is for you.

If you received value from this episode, please share it with your networks and spread the word.

Also, be sure to leave a review here on the app you're consuming this episode on - it takes you less than a minute, and it really supports more people to find our show.

If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to watch Episode 41 "You Can't Thrive Without a Tribe" [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1acmcc-jtaE&list=PLf0aX4k0hbBZXlTdr1s15Sr65ZpAm1S5v&index=33&t=947s].

 

JOIN OUR WHATSAPP GROUP

A free space to connect with like-minded men, share wins and challenges, and stay plugged into conversations, resources, and events that keep you moving forward between our live gatherings.

Join here: https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/whatsapp

 

BECOME A MEMBER OF THE FSB TRIBE

A committed brotherhood for men ready to go beyond conversation and into transformation. Inside the Tribe, you’ll join regular men’s circles, get practical tools to strengthen relationships and leadership, and surround yourself with brothers who challenge and support you at the highest level. 

This is where you sharpen your edge, stop carrying challenges alone, and live with more clarity, confidence, and purpose.

Join here: https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/gettribe

 

THE KING'S CIRCLE: A DOJO FOR INTEGRATED LEADERS

An integrated leader recognises that we all have inner work to do. So, these new-paradigm leaders seek out people, processes, and places that support them in recognising and integrating their blind spots.

Each month, Fathers Sons Brothers hosts the King's Circle, a two-hour transformational leadership training experience. It’s a men-only space where visionaries gather to learn tools and frameworks that make them better communicators and more integrated leaders.

When you regularly invest in this type of training: 

 * You gain access to a space where men from all over the world support and encourage you to show up at your best.</

#66 What the F*ck is Men's Work?

What if your sexual energy could fuel your confidence, deepen intimacy, and transform your entire life?

In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Tyson Adams, a men's coach and sex educator specialising in helping men outgrow porn and master semen retention. We explore how unconscious patterns around sex and pornography drain your energy, dull your purpose, and keep you disconnected from your body and your relationships. Together, we offer a roadmap to reclaim your desire as a force for creation rather than compulsion. Listen now and start your journey toward a more powerful relationship with your sexuality.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

✔️ How to tell the difference between healthy self-pleasure and addiction

✔️ Why porn companies are commercialising your life force, and how to step off the hamster wheel

✔️ Simple practices to reconnect with your body and activate real intimacy

✔️ The truth about semen retention and how it can transform your focus, energy, and relationships

✔️ How your relationship with your own body shapes every other area of your life

✔️ Ways to bring intention and depth to your erotic experiences, whether alone or with a partner

This episode is all about reclaiming your sexual power! Please be sure to tag me @garethpickering on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this content! I love to hear about all your experiences. Also, be sure to leave a review on iTunes in order to receive a free meditation to reclaim your power. Just screenshot it before submitting it and email it to my team at studio@fatherssonsbrothers.com, and I will see you in the next episode.

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure you also check out Episode 53 "Expanding Consciousness in the Bedroom and the Boardroom with Tantric expert Raffaello Manacorda [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uMcibssE_L4&list=PLf0aX4k0hbBZXlTdr1s15Sr65ZpAm1S5v&index=15&t=1837s]".

RESOURCE LINKS

Recommended Reading: Your Brain on Porn by Gary Wilson [https://www.amazon.com/Your-Brain-Porn-Pornography-Addiction-ebook/dp/B00N2AH8NW]

Kings and Queens - Free Relationship Training for Men + Women [https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/kings-and-queens]

THE KING'S CIRCLE: A DOJO FOR INTEGRATED LEADERS

“We’re magnificent, and we’re broken” - Tom Hirons.

An integrated leader recognises that we all have inner work to do. So, these new-paradigm leaders seek out people, processes, and places that support them in recognising and integrating their blindspots.

Each month, Fathers Sons Brothers host the King's Circle, a two-hour transformational leadership training experience. It’s a men-only space where visionaries gather to learn tools and frameworks that make them better communicators and more integrated leaders.

When you regularly invest in this type of training:

- You gain access to a space where men from all over the world support and encourage you to show up at your best.

- You get clear on what you came here to do.

- You reconnect with your mission.

 You recognise where you’re leaking energy, and you reclaim that power to allocate towards serving your mission.

- You develop more trust in yourself, and this improvement is reflected in all your relationships.

- You feel inspired and excited about our brave new world, as you connect deeper with the other Integrated Leaders through the King’s Circle.

All growth after puberty is optional and the men who attend our circle have a growth mindset like you.

We support each other

#65 Porn: The Billion Dollar Business That Commercialises Your Life Force with Tyson Adams

#64 There's No Such things as personal growth - A conversation with Gareth Pickering and Willow Green

This podcast is a space for having courageous conversations. We aim to open the places most are too scared to tread. 

This episode will touch on some of your most deep-seated beliefs and make you question everything. 

Do you really have to pay taxes and listen to people in uniform? Are you brave enough to dig deep to the bottom of your money beliefs? 

What if everything you believe about yourself… isn’t even yours?

In this mind-expanding conversation, Christopher Armstrong joins me to dismantle the invisible programming that runs your life - beliefs inherited through culture, conditioning, and even your DNA. We explore how to reclaim sovereignty, reprogram your mind, and create your life from a place of deep inner truth.

In this episode, we explore:

 * What it really means to “reclaim your power” in a world built on illusion
   
 * The hidden gift of being neurodivergent (and how society labels it all wrong)
   
 * How emotions, embodiment, and nervous system awareness help you find your truth
   
 * How your parents and your birth certificate contracted you into a contractual business deal with your government - and how to get out of it!
   
 * Why the “quantum leap” isn't instant but compounded through daily action
   
 * How to build community as a key to breaking free from conditioning
   
 * A behind-the-scenes look at Christopher’s Rise & Reset program

This episode is all about personal sovereignty. Please be sure to tag me @garethpickering on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this content! I love to hear about all your experiences. Also, be sure to leave a review on iTunes in order to receive a free meditation to reclaim your power. Just screenshot it before submitting it and email it to my team at studio@fatherssonsbrothers.com, and I will see you in the next episode.


If you enjoyed this episode, make sure you also check out Episode 56 "Love, Life & Leadership - Lessons for Success with Toni Versic" [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wq8Dz0QYzd8&list=PLf0aX4k0hbBZXlTdr1s15Sr65ZpAm1S5v&index=10].

🔗 Resources & Links:

 * Learn more about Christopher’s Rise & Reset course [https://portal.risewithchristopher.com/reset-your-mind]
 * Explore the

#63 The Quantum Path to Freedom With Christopher Armstrong

Episode Summary: If you feel like you're giving everything to your relationship but still ending up stressed, resentful, or unappreciated, this episode is for you.

 

Gareth and Matt unpack the real reason why things might feel off and explore how one simple shift—setting clear boundaries—can radically improve how you show up in love, parenting, and partnership. This powerful conversation emerges from the lessons and breakthroughs inside the Legendary Lover Method, their signature relationship and intimacy program for men.

💡 What You’ll Learn:

 1. Why knowing and communicating your needs isn’t enough—and what’s missing. The 3-step framework for setting boundaries that create clarity and connection.
 2. How to avoid hidden resentment and miscommunication by speaking your "why." Why setting boundaries is actually an act of love and leadership.
 3. The difference between expressing a need and protecting it.
 4. How masculine clarity creates safety in your relationship.

🧠 Quote of the Episode:
“You can’t be the husband or father you want to be unless you first prioritise the relationship you have with yourself.” — Gareth Pickering

🎁 Free Training: Join our upcoming Relationship Reflections part of the Kings and Queens series – A guided process to mine gold from past relationships, close old energetic loops, and prepare to love with clarity. Get the details on this page: https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/kings-and-queens 

#62 How Boundaries Build Better Relationships

What if the chaos you're avoiding is the key to your next breakthrough?

In this episode, I sit down with Lewis Huckstep for a raw and insightful conversation about the deep inner work required to lead powerfully and love deeply. We explore the intersection of leadership and relationships, revealing how emotional triggers, unresolved trauma, and life’s inevitable chaos are actually opportunities to build greater capacity and resilience.

Lewis shares hard-won insights on the masculine and feminine dynamic, how to navigate emotional storms without losing your center, and why true transformation only happens when you’re willing to go all in.

If you’ve ever struggled to let go of control, feared emotional challenges, or hesitated to claim your true value, this is a masterclass in building emotional strength and stepping into transformative leadership. Lewis and I explore the deeper layers of personal growth, showing that true change isn’t just about mindset - it’s about learning to trust yourself in the face of uncertainty and becoming the kind of leader who transforms not just your own life, but the lives of those you love.

In this episode, you'll Learn:

 * Why transformation doesn’t happen until you commit financially and how investing in yourself shifts your results.
 * The real reason you’re struggling with sales or asking for what you’re worth.
 * How the feminine tests the masculine, and why your ability to hold space determines the strength of your leadership.
 * How to sit with emotional chaos without losing your center.
 * The balance between inner work and outward action, and why you need both to create success.
 * What to expect when stepping into fatherhood and why it challenges your emotional strength like nothing else. 

This episode is all about inner strength! Please be sure to tag me @garethpickering on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this content! I love to hear about all your experiences. Also, be sure to leave a review on iTunes in order to receive a free meditation to reclaim your power. Just screenshot it before submitting it and email it to my team at studio@fatherssonsbrothers.com, and I will see you in the next episode.

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure you also check out Episode 60 "From Stuck to Unstoppable with Todd Jason" [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rALekVIfCtQ&t=129s]

RESOURCE LINKS

"The Inspired Life Method" by Lewis Huckstep [https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1763651045]

Join "Conscious Community" with Lewis Huckstep [https://www.skool.com/inspired-life-method-9441/]

YOUR MESSAGE IS YOUR MAGIC

Struggling to connect with your audience and convert leads? Message Magic will help you craft a clear, powerful brand message that attracts your ideal clients and drives sales. This proven system guides you step-by-step to define your core message, sharpen your positioning, and create a brand that stands out.

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#61 The Power of Embracing Chaos with Lewis Huckstep

What if the thing you think is helping you… is actually holding you back?

169 days ago, I made the decision to stop using cannabis -and it’s turned out to be one of the most powerful choices of my life.

In this episode, I break down the unexpected shifts: a 5x boost in productivity, massive business growth, razor-sharp thinking, and a deeper, more honest connection in my relationship.

But breaking the habit wasn’t easy. I share the hard truths, the game-changing breakthroughs, and the key lessons I’ve learned about personal integrity, self-leadership, and making choices that actually serve your highest potential.

If you’ve ever questioned your relationship with a habit - whether it’s cannabis, alcohol, social media, or any other escape - this episode is for you!

In This Episode, You'll Learn:

 * How taking a break from cannabis can increase your focus and productivity, helping you stop procrastinating and take action.
 * The surprising ways cannabis might be affecting your business success and financial flow—and how clearing it out can create massive shifts.
 * How to recognize and break free from the mental fog that may be holding you back from clear thinking and decision-making.
 * Why cannabis could be impacting your relationships more than you realize—and how honesty and presence can rebuild deep connections.
 * The power of accountability in making big life changes and how a men's group can support your growth.

This episode is all about breaking habits! Please be sure to tag me @garethpickering on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this content! I love to hear about all your experiences. Also, be sure to leave a review on iTunes in order to receive a free meditation to reclaim your power. Just screenshot it before submitting it and email it to my team at studio@fatherssonsbrothers.com, and I will see you in the next episode.

Resource Links

 * Episode 51 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FDYdErcrzcE&t=235s] – The original deep dive into why I took a break from cannabis.

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure you also check out Postgame: Integrity Inside Out [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KhVmaE9_KVQ]

The King’s Circle: A Dojo for Integrated Leaders.

“We’re magnificent, and we’re broken” - Tom Hirons.

An integrated leader recognises that we all have inner work to do. So, these new-paradigm leaders seek out people, processes, and places that support them in recognising and integrating their blind spots.

Each month, Fathers Sons Brothers host the King's Circle, a two-hour transformational leadership training experience. It’s a men-only space where visionaries gather to

#61 Postgame: 169 Days without Cannabis

Most men wake up every day without a clear vision for their future. They’re grinding, they’re hustling, but deep down, they don’t know if they’re actually building the life they want.

If you feel stuck, like you're coasting through life without real direction, this conversation will change the way you think about your future.

I sit down with Todd Jason to break down why clarity is the foundation of success, fulfillment, and freedom - and how you can develop it. Todd’s distilled decades of wisdom into a simple but powerful framework for getting crystal clear on your purpose and creating the life you truly want.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

 * Why you may lack clarity—and how it's keeping you stuck
 * The #1 mindset shift that will unlock your next level
 * A powerful "eulogy exercise" to create a vision for your life
 * How to align your actions with your ultimate purpose
 * The surprising connection between clarity and your relationships
 * The Golden Path Framework—and how it can shift your entire trajectory
 * Why community is the secret accelerator for success
 * How you can use Todd’s Clarity Course to break free from indecision and start moving forward

Exclusive offer for our listeners:

Todd is giving our listeners 50% off his Clarity Course—a two-day deep dive into the life-changing framework we talk about in this episode.

Go to Todd Jason [https://toddjason.com/clarity-catalyst/] and use code GARETH-2025 for 50% off!

If you're ready to stop drifting and start leading your life with purpose, take advantage of this now.

This episode is all about achieving clarity! Please be sure to tag me @garethpickering on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this content! I love to hear about all your experiences. Also, be sure to leave a review on iTunes in order to receive a free meditation to reclaim your power. Just screenshot it before submitting it and email it to my team at studio@fatherssonsbrothers.com, and I will see you in the next episode.

Resource Links

 * Todd’s upcoming book: Clarity: Master This One Quality And Create A Life Beyond Your Dreams [http://www.toddjason.com]
 * Todd’s Clarity Course [https://toddjason.com/clarity-catalyst/] (50% off for listeners)   [http://www.toddjason.com]

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure you also check out Episode

#60 From Stuck to Unstoppable with Todd Jason

On their deathbeds, 10,000 men were asked, "What made your life meaningful?" It wasn’t the size of their house, the money in their bank account, or the career milestones they hit. It was the quality of their relationships.

So, here’s the real question: If relationships are what make life meaningful, how much time have you spent mastering relationship skills?

In this episode, Gareth shares his powerful talk, "Stop Stepping on Relationship Landmines," to help you stop blowing up your love life and start leading with clarity and connection.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

 * How to spot hidden emotional triggers before they explode.
 * Practical tools to defuse emotional landmines in your relationships.
 * How to break free from repeating toxic patterns.
 * Why mastering relationships is essential to becoming a purpose-driven leader and legendary lover.

This isn’t just relationship advice - it’s bomb squad training for your love life. Time to take off the blindfold and navigate with purpose.

This episode is all about relationship mastery! Please be sure to tag me @garethpickering on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this content! I love to hear about all your experiences. Also, be sure to leave a review on iTunes in order to receive a free meditation to reclaim your power. Just screenshot it before submitting it and email it to my team at studio@fatherssonsbrothers.com, and I will see you in the next episode.

Resource Links:

The Soulmate Safari [https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/safari]

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure you also check out Episode #26 The Art of F#cking up Your Relationship with Brian Jenkins [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i_1f2buLwus&list=PLf0aX4k0hbBZXlTdr1s15Sr65ZpAm1S5v&index=48&t=58s].

The King’s Circle: A Dojo for Integrated Leaders.

“We’re magnificent, and we’re broken” - Tom Hirons.
 

An integrated leader recognises that we all have inner work to do. So, these new-paradigm leaders seek out people, processes, and places that support them in recognising and integrating their blindspots.

Each month, Fathers Sons Brothers host the King's Circle, a two-hour transformational leadership training experience. It’s a men-only space where visionaries gather to learn tools and frameworks that make them better communicators and more integrated leaders.

When you regularly invest in this type of training: 

 * You gain access to a space where men from all over the world support and encourage you to show up at your best.
 * You get clear on what you came here to do. You reconnect with your mission.
 * You recognise where you’re leaking energy, and you reclaim that powe

#59 Stop Stepping on Relationship Landmines

We believe that your story could contain the key that unlocks someone else's healing. So we connect with humans from all walks of life as they share their journeys from chaos to courage. In a chaotic, non-stop world, we invite you to take a breath, sit back and take some time for yourself. Join Gareth Pickering and Matt Dahse on this adventure, where they question old paradigms and architect new ways to live, laugh and love. No topic is off-limits as we deep dive into intimacy and relating, business and money, shadow work and addiction, and authentic communication and leadership. Welcome to the Call To Courage Podcast - More magic per minute than any other podcast in your library. A Fathers Sons Brothers production. Gareth Pickering is an artist and thought leader, creating spaces where men can come together to heal, grow and thrive. Matt Dahse is a father and conscious creator, designing pathways for men to follow to unlock their potential and step into their power. Go to www.calltocourage.live for exclusive behind-the-scenes content and connect directly with the Fathers Sons Brothers community.

Gareth Pickering

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