I sit down with co-creator, Lenerd Louw to explore a radical idea in a world that won’t stop moving: what if the real power move is to slow the fuck down?

We unpack the cost of over-scheduling, burnout, and living on autopilot, and contrast it with what becomes possible when a man designs his life in alignment with his soul. This conversation isn’t about doing more or fixing yourself. It’s about tuning into the truth that already lives inside you and having the courage to listen.

This episode also offers a behind-the-scenes look at the inspiration behind Soul Safari — our transformational men’s retreat into the wilds of South Africa. Created for men who feel the quiet whisper of their soul calling for something more, Soul Safari is an invitation to unplug, reset, and reconnect to what really matters.

SOUL SAFARI: 17-27 MARCH 2026 | SOUTH AFRICA

You weren’t put on this earth to grind, scroll, and survive until the weekend.

Over 11 days in South Africa’s wildest landscapes, you’ll step out of your normal routine and into a sacred container of brotherhood, stillness, and soul-awakening clarity. We strip back the noise. Go off the grid. Sit in silence. Share around the fire. And listen deeply to what life is really asking of you.

This isn’t just a retreat.
It’s a reset.
And it might just change the next decade of your life.

Apply now: https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/soul-safari/?coupon_code=SOULCORE 
Soul Safari Only 10 spots available

 THE KING'S CIRCLE: A DOJO FOR INTEGRATED LEADERS

An integrated leader recognises that we all have inner work to do. So, these new-paradigm leaders seek out people, processes, and places that help them identify and integrate their blind spots.

Each month, Fathers Sons Brothers hosts the King's Circle, a free two-hour transformational leadership training experience. It’s a men-only space where visionaries gather to learn tools and frameworks that make them better communicators and more integrated leaders.

When you regularly invest in this type of training:

- You gain access to a space where men from all over the world support and encourage you to show up at your best.
- You get clear on what you came here to do.
- You reconnect with your mission.
- You recognise where you’re leaking energy, and you reclaim that power to allocate towards serving your mission.
- You develop more trust in yourself, and this improvement is reflected in all your relationships.
- You feel inspired and excited about our brave new world, as you connect deeper with the other Integrated Leaders through the King’s Circle.

All growth after puberty is optional and the men who attend our circle have a growth mindset like you.

We support each other in becoming the new paradigm of courageous leaders we've been waiting for.

Secure your free seat in The King’s Circle here: https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/kings-circle.

ABOUT OUR GUEST

Lenerd achieved success relatively early in his life, running Marketing and Advertising for a big direct insurance group in South Africa in his early thirties and becoming a CEO in his early forties. However, in his mid-forties, he had a strong inner voice telling him to change everything in his life. It did not make any sense, so he distracted himself with sex, drugs and jacuzzis for four years. What seemed glamorous on the outside was actually a deep, dark, desperate time on the inside.

Eventually, in 2013, after this deep dark night of the soul, he heeded the call, resigned, sold and gave away most of his possessions, bought a backpack and a one-way ticket to Lima in Peru, which started a five-year, 35-country journey around the world. He attended num

#70 Slow The F#ck Down

Most of us spend our lives avoiding the one thing that’s guaranteed: death.

In this raw and honest exchange, Lenerd Louw and I unpack what changes when we stop running from death and start learning from it.

We share personal stories of loss, grief, identity-death, and what it takes to transform our relationship with the unknown. This is not a morbid conversation; it’s a wake-up call.

Because the more you face death, the more you start to really live.

If you’ve been in a season of transition, heartbreak, loss, or change, this one will meet you where you are.

This episode also offers a behind-the-scenes look at the inspiration behind Soul Safari - our transformational men’s retreat into the wilds of South Africa. Created for men who feel the quiet whisper of their soul calling for something more, Soul Safari is an invitation to unplug, reset, and reconnect to what really matters.

Soul Safari: 17-27 March 2026 | South Africa

You weren’t put on this earth to grind, scroll, and survive until the weekend.

Over 11 days in South Africa’s wildest landscapes, you’ll step out of your normal routine and into a sacred container of brotherhood, stillness, and soul-awakening clarity. We strip back the noise. Go off the grid. Sit in silence. Share around the fire. And listen deeply to what life is really asking of you.

If you’ve been looking for a sign - this is it.
And it might just change the next decade of your life.

Apply now: Soul Safari [https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/soul-safari/?coupon_code=SOULCORE]Only 10 spots available

THE KING'S CIRCLE: A DOJO FOR INTEGRATED LEADERS

An integrated leader recognises that we all have inner work to do. So, these new-paradigm leaders seek out people, processes, and places that help them identify and integrate their blind spots.

Each month, Fathers Sons Brothers hosts the King's Circle, a free two-hour transformational leadership training experience. It’s a men-only space where visionaries gather to learn tools and frameworks that make them better communicators and more integrated leaders.

When you regularly invest in this type of training: 

 * You gain access to a space where men from all over the world support and encourage you to show up at your best.
 * You get clear on what you came here to do. You reconnect with your mission.
 * You recognise where you’re leaking energy, and you reclaim that power to allocate towards serving your mission.
 * You develop more trust in yourself, and this improvement is reflected in all your relationships. 
 * You feel inspired and excited about our brave new world, as you connect deeper with the other Integrated Leaders through the King’s Circle.

All growth after puberty is optional and the men who attend our circle have a growth mindset like you. 

#69 Death as a Doorway to Life

 What if the peace you’re chasing isn’t something to find, but something to remember?

This conversation unfolded through a series of voice notes exchanged inside our private men’s WhatsApp group. 

What emerged was too powerful not to share.

Gareth and Brian Tremblay had a conversation on meditation, the monkey mind, ego, impermanence, and the pursuit of a more present, peaceful life. From psychedelic sound baths to 10-day silent Vipassana retreats, we share personal stories that bring these ideas to life. If you’ve ever struggled to “just be,” this one’s for you.

Expect practical tools, personal transmissions, and reflections on how meditation can rewire your inner world and reshape your reality.

What you’ll learn:

 * Why the mind resists stillness and how to work with it
 * The real reason silence feels so loud at first 
 * How ego throws everything it can to stay in control - and how to remain in the driver’s seat
 * The beauty of dissolving old identities and how the disorientation creates your new reality
 * A powerful 3-step framework for real transformation: Awareness, System, Support
 * Why meditation isn’t about getting somewhere, but about becoming a new you.

Note: Since this wasn’t recorded in a studio, there’s some minor mic feedback in parts, but the message is well worth it.

If you’re looking to go deeper with lifestyle design tools like these, join us inside the FSB Tribe, our private men's community where transformation happens every day: https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/gettribe.

If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to check out episode 60 of the show “From stuck to unstoppable - with Todd Jason [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rALekVIfCtQ&list=PLf0aX4k0hbBZXlTdr1s15Sr65ZpAm1S5v&index=10&t=75s]". In that episode, he and Gareth dive more deeply into the 10-day silent meditation retreat called Vipasana. 

 

THE KING'S CIRCLE: A DOJO FOR INTEGRATED LEADERS

An integrated leader recognises that we all have inner work to do. So, these new-paradigm leaders seek out people, processes, and places that help them identify and integrate their blind spots.

Each month, Fathers Sons Brothers hosts the King's Circle, a free two-hour transformational leadership training experience. It’s a men-only space where visionaries gather to learn tools and frameworks that make them better communicators and more integrated leaders.

When you regularly invest in this type of training: 

 * You gain access to a space where men from all over the world support and encourage you to show up at your best.
 * You

#68 - Beyond the Mind: How meditation can level up your life with Brian Tremblay

Why do so many men feel like they’re doing everything right, but still feel lonely, unseen, and resentful?

In this raw and deeply practical episode, I’m joined once again by No More Mr. Nice Guy author Dr. Robert Glover. In this no-holds-barred conversation, we unpack the real reasons men struggle to ask for what they want, receive love, and build lasting relationships.

We explore the covert contracts that keep men stuck in silent resentment. We also unpack the hidden shame around masculine needs and the painful effects of emotional isolation. But this episode isn’t just about naming the problem. It’s a masterclass for reclaiming your power, building real brotherhood, and creating the kind of life and relationship you actually want.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

 * Why you might believe (consciously or unconsciously) that having needs makes you weak or bad.
 * What a “covert contract” is and how it's silently sabotaging your relationships.
 * Why most men struggle to receive, and how that blocks intimacy, connection and wealth.
 * How to identify the “junk food” behaviours and relationships that are draining your energy.
 * A powerful 3-step life audit to help you reconnect with your purpose, community, and emotional needs.
 * The evolutionary reason men crave brotherhood and why isolation is destroying your health.
 * Why men's groups are the antidote to digital distraction, porn addiction, and emotional loneliness.

Episode Resources

Stop People-Pleasing.

Start Leading.

15 Questions to Take Back Control of Your Life - From the Boardroom to the Bedroom.
Get the free PDF here: https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/uy-playbook.

Integration Nation Men’s Community [https://integrationnation.net]

No More Mr. Nice Guy — Dr. Glover’s book [https://www.amazon.com/No-More-Mr-Nice-Guy/dp/1402580223]

This episode is all about reclaiming your needs! Please be sure to tag me @garethpickering on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this content! I love to hear about all your experiences. Also, be sure to leave a review on iTunes in order to receive a free meditation to reclaim your power. Just screenshot it before submitting it and email it to my team at studio@fatherssonsbrothers.com, and I will see you in the next episode.

If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to watch our first interview with Dr Glover, which has received over 5,880 views - Episode 39 "From People Pleaser to Unapologetically You [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gs4IlKR8G_4&list=PLf0aX4k0hbBZXlTdr1s15Sr65ZpAm1S5v&index=36]".

THE KING'S CIRCLE: A DOJO FOR INTEGRATED LEADERS

An integrated leader recognises that we all have inner work to do. So, these new-paradigm leaders seek out people, processes, and places that support them in recognising and integrating their blind spots.

Each month, Fathers Sons Brothers host the King's Circle, a two-hour transformational leadership training experience. It’s a men-only space where visionaries gather to learn tools and frameworks that make them better communicators and more integrated leaders.

When you regularly invest in this t

#67 The Hidden Cost of People-Pleasing in Your Relationship with Dr Robert Glover

"Why would I want to join a men's group?"

This is a common response we hear from men when we introduce them to men's work. A lot of men think that a men's group is either a religious gathering or a pity party.

It's neither.

It's the medicine that unlocks parts of yourself that you have been battling with on your own.

The more discomfort you feel about being authentic in a group of men, the more magic awaits you on the other side. So if you're ready to unlock more power in your life and learn about this ancient technology and how it can support your life and leadership, this episode is for you.

If you received value from this episode, please share it with your networks and spread the word.

Also, be sure to leave a review here on the app you're consuming this episode on - it takes you less than a minute, and it really supports more people to find our show.

If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to watch Episode 41 "You Can't Thrive Without a Tribe" [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1acmcc-jtaE&list=PLf0aX4k0hbBZXlTdr1s15Sr65ZpAm1S5v&index=33&t=947s].

 

JOIN OUR WHATSAPP GROUP

A free space to connect with like-minded men, share wins and challenges, and stay plugged into conversations, resources, and events that keep you moving forward between our live gatherings.

Join here: https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/whatsapp

 

BECOME A MEMBER OF THE FSB TRIBE

A committed brotherhood for men ready to go beyond conversation and into transformation. Inside the Tribe, you’ll join regular men’s circles, get practical tools to strengthen relationships and leadership, and surround yourself with brothers who challenge and support you at the highest level. 

This is where you sharpen your edge, stop carrying challenges alone, and live with more clarity, confidence, and purpose.

Join here: https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/gettribe

 

THE KING'S CIRCLE: A DOJO FOR INTEGRATED LEADERS

An integrated leader recognises that we all have inner work to do. So, these new-paradigm leaders seek out people, processes, and places that support them in recognising and integrating their blind spots.

Each month, Fathers Sons Brothers hosts the King's Circle, a two-hour transformational leadership training experience. It’s a men-only space where visionaries gather to learn tools and frameworks that make them better communicators and more integrated leaders.

When you regularly invest in this type of training: 

 * You gain access to a space where men from all over the world support and encourage you to show up at your best.</

#66 What the F*ck is Men's Work?

What if your sexual energy could fuel your confidence, deepen intimacy, and transform your entire life?

In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Tyson Adams, a men's coach and sex educator specialising in helping men outgrow porn and master semen retention. We explore how unconscious patterns around sex and pornography drain your energy, dull your purpose, and keep you disconnected from your body and your relationships. Together, we offer a roadmap to reclaim your desire as a force for creation rather than compulsion. Listen now and start your journey toward a more powerful relationship with your sexuality.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

✔️ How to tell the difference between healthy self-pleasure and addiction

✔️ Why porn companies are commercialising your life force, and how to step off the hamster wheel

✔️ Simple practices to reconnect with your body and activate real intimacy

✔️ The truth about semen retention and how it can transform your focus, energy, and relationships

✔️ How your relationship with your own body shapes every other area of your life

✔️ Ways to bring intention and depth to your erotic experiences, whether alone or with a partner

This episode is all about reclaiming your sexual power! Please be sure to tag me @garethpickering on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this content! I love to hear about all your experiences. Also, be sure to leave a review on iTunes in order to receive a free meditation to reclaim your power. Just screenshot it before submitting it and email it to my team at studio@fatherssonsbrothers.com, and I will see you in the next episode.

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure you also check out Episode 53 "Expanding Consciousness in the Bedroom and the Boardroom with Tantric expert Raffaello Manacorda [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uMcibssE_L4&list=PLf0aX4k0hbBZXlTdr1s15Sr65ZpAm1S5v&index=15&t=1837s]".

RESOURCE LINKS

Recommended Reading: Your Brain on Porn by Gary Wilson [https://www.amazon.com/Your-Brain-Porn-Pornography-Addiction-ebook/dp/B00N2AH8NW]

Kings and Queens - Free Relationship Training for Men + Women [https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/kings-and-queens]

THE KING'S CIRCLE: A DOJO FOR INTEGRATED LEADERS

“We’re magnificent, and we’re broken” - Tom Hirons.

An integrated leader recognises that we all have inner work to do. So, these new-paradigm leaders seek out people, processes, and places that support them in recognising and integrating their blindspots.

Each month, Fathers Sons Brothers host the King's Circle, a two-hour transformational leadership training experience. It’s a men-only space where visionaries gather to learn tools and frameworks that make them better communicators and more integrated leaders.

When you regularly invest in this type of training:

- You gain access to a space where men from all over the world support and encourage you to show up at your best.

- You get clear on what you came here to do.

- You reconnect with your mission.

 You recognise where you’re leaking energy, and you reclaim that power to allocate towards serving your mission.

- You develop more trust in yourself, and this improvement is reflected in all your relationships.

- You feel inspired and excited about our brave new world, as you connect deeper with the other Integrated Leaders through the King’s Circle.

All growth after puberty is optional and the men who attend our circle have a growth mindset like you.

We support each other

#65 Porn: The Billion Dollar Business That Commercialises Your Life Force with Tyson Adams

#64 There's No Such things as personal growth - A conversation with Gareth Pickering and Willow Green

This podcast is a space for having courageous conversations. We aim to open the places most are too scared to tread. 

This episode will touch on some of your most deep-seated beliefs and make you question everything. 

Do you really have to pay taxes and listen to people in uniform? Are you brave enough to dig deep to the bottom of your money beliefs? 

What if everything you believe about yourself… isn’t even yours?

In this mind-expanding conversation, Christopher Armstrong joins me to dismantle the invisible programming that runs your life - beliefs inherited through culture, conditioning, and even your DNA. We explore how to reclaim sovereignty, reprogram your mind, and create your life from a place of deep inner truth.

In this episode, we explore:

 * What it really means to “reclaim your power” in a world built on illusion
   
 * The hidden gift of being neurodivergent (and how society labels it all wrong)
   
 * How emotions, embodiment, and nervous system awareness help you find your truth
   
 * How your parents and your birth certificate contracted you into a contractual business deal with your government - and how to get out of it!
   
 * Why the “quantum leap” isn't instant but compounded through daily action
   
 * How to build community as a key to breaking free from conditioning
   
 * A behind-the-scenes look at Christopher’s Rise & Reset program

This episode is all about personal sovereignty. Please be sure to tag me @garethpickering on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this content! I love to hear about all your experiences. Also, be sure to leave a review on iTunes in order to receive a free meditation to reclaim your power. Just screenshot it before submitting it and email it to my team at studio@fatherssonsbrothers.com, and I will see you in the next episode.


If you enjoyed this episode, make sure you also check out Episode 56 "Love, Life & Leadership - Lessons for Success with Toni Versic" [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wq8Dz0QYzd8&list=PLf0aX4k0hbBZXlTdr1s15Sr65ZpAm1S5v&index=10].

🔗 Resources & Links:

 * Learn more about Christopher’s Rise & Reset course [https://portal.risewithchristopher.com/reset-your-mind]
 * Explore the

#63 The Quantum Path to Freedom With Christopher Armstrong

Episode Summary: If you feel like you're giving everything to your relationship but still ending up stressed, resentful, or unappreciated, this episode is for you.

 

Gareth and Matt unpack the real reason why things might feel off and explore how one simple shift—setting clear boundaries—can radically improve how you show up in love, parenting, and partnership. This powerful conversation emerges from the lessons and breakthroughs inside the Legendary Lover Method, their signature relationship and intimacy program for men.

💡 What You’ll Learn:

 1. Why knowing and communicating your needs isn’t enough—and what’s missing. The 3-step framework for setting boundaries that create clarity and connection.
 2. How to avoid hidden resentment and miscommunication by speaking your "why." Why setting boundaries is actually an act of love and leadership.
 3. The difference between expressing a need and protecting it.
 4. How masculine clarity creates safety in your relationship.

🧠 Quote of the Episode:
“You can’t be the husband or father you want to be unless you first prioritise the relationship you have with yourself.” — Gareth Pickering

🎁 Free Training: Join our upcoming Relationship Reflections part of the Kings and Queens series – A guided process to mine gold from past relationships, close old energetic loops, and prepare to love with clarity. Get the details on this page: https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/kings-and-queens 

#62 How Boundaries Build Better Relationships

What if the chaos you're avoiding is the key to your next breakthrough?

In this episode, I sit down with Lewis Huckstep for a raw and insightful conversation about the deep inner work required to lead powerfully and love deeply. We explore the intersection of leadership and relationships, revealing how emotional triggers, unresolved trauma, and life’s inevitable chaos are actually opportunities to build greater capacity and resilience.

Lewis shares hard-won insights on the masculine and feminine dynamic, how to navigate emotional storms without losing your center, and why true transformation only happens when you’re willing to go all in.

If you’ve ever struggled to let go of control, feared emotional challenges, or hesitated to claim your true value, this is a masterclass in building emotional strength and stepping into transformative leadership. Lewis and I explore the deeper layers of personal growth, showing that true change isn’t just about mindset - it’s about learning to trust yourself in the face of uncertainty and becoming the kind of leader who transforms not just your own life, but the lives of those you love.

In this episode, you'll Learn:

 * Why transformation doesn’t happen until you commit financially and how investing in yourself shifts your results.
 * The real reason you’re struggling with sales or asking for what you’re worth.
 * How the feminine tests the masculine, and why your ability to hold space determines the strength of your leadership.
 * How to sit with emotional chaos without losing your center.
 * The balance between inner work and outward action, and why you need both to create success.
 * What to expect when stepping into fatherhood and why it challenges your emotional strength like nothing else. 

This episode is all about inner strength! Please be sure to tag me @garethpickering on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this content! I love to hear about all your experiences. Also, be sure to leave a review on iTunes in order to receive a free meditation to reclaim your power. Just screenshot it before submitting it and email it to my team at studio@fatherssonsbrothers.com, and I will see you in the next episode.

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure you also check out Episode 60 "From Stuck to Unstoppable with Todd Jason" [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rALekVIfCtQ&t=129s]

RESOURCE LINKS

"The Inspired Life Method" by Lewis Huckstep [https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1763651045]

Join "Conscious Community" with Lewis Huckstep [https://www.skool.com/inspired-life-method-9441/]

YOUR MESSAGE IS YOUR MAGIC

Struggling to connect with your audience and convert leads? Message Magic will help you craft a clear, powerful brand message that attracts your ideal clients and drives sales. This proven system guides you step-by-step to define your core message, sharpen your positioning, and create a brand that stands out.

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#61 The Power of Embracing Chaos with Lewis Huckstep

We believe that your story could contain the key that unlocks someone else's healing. So we connect with humans from all walks of life as they share their journeys from chaos to courage. In a chaotic, non-stop world, we invite you to take a breath, sit back and take some time for yourself. Join Gareth Pickering and Matt Dahse on this adventure, where they question old paradigms and architect new ways to live, laugh and love. No topic is off-limits as we deep dive into intimacy and relating, business and money, shadow work and addiction, and authentic communication and leadership. Welcome to the Call To Courage Podcast - More magic per minute than any other podcast in your library. A Fathers Sons Brothers production. Gareth Pickering is an artist and thought leader, creating spaces where men can come together to heal, grow and thrive. Matt Dahse is a father and conscious creator, designing pathways for men to follow to unlock their potential and step into their power. Go to www.calltocourage.live for exclusive behind-the-scenes content and connect directly with the Fathers Sons Brothers community.

Gareth Pickering

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