Being together and “hanging out” as a family does more than you might think. Doing it regularly, while reading or cooking or playing music and games, powerfully models connection and communication. Coregulation is how kids learn to manage their emotions and reactions from adults. Positive togetherness without devices matters.



WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.

Here is our first:

For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.

Consult our Spotify profile [https://open.spotify.com/user/bqa0bme77all6vj4e3h1etcmn] for the most up-to-date selection.



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The Power of “Coregulation” and How Your Family Can Have More

In this recast of an important episode from Seasons 2, we tackle the toxicity of our current achievement culture. It’s so normalized, it’s now invisible to us. Lynn has a must hear answer for kids of any age.



WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.

Here is our first:

For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.

Consult our Spotify profile [https://open.spotify.com/user/bqa0bme77all6vj4e3h1etcmn] for the most up-to-date selection.

 

We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey [https://forms.gle/hzWcpxG9rE9BRWSP6]. We hope it is you!

 

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Best of: High Anxiety & Good Grades: Our Toxic Achievement Culture

A listener asked a common question: how do I help someone who’s having a “real” panic attack? In this episode, we talk about the different terms people use to describe anxiety symptoms (including panic) and the wonderfully consistent way to deal with them. Spoiler alert: we’re stepping in on purpose to retrain the brain.



Here are the past Flusterclux episodes discussed by Lynn & Robin:

Passing Out From Anxiety: Funny Tales From Our Family of Fainters [https://www.flusterclux.com/passing-out-from-anxiety-funny-tales-from-our-family-of-fainters/]





WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.

Here is our first:

For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.

Consult our Spotify profile [https://open.spotify.com/user/bqa0bme77all6vj4e3h1etcmn] for the most up-to-date selection.

 

We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey [https://forms.gle/hzWcpxG9rE9BRWSP6]. We hope it is you!

 

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 How To Handle Panic Attacks

A listener has a question about the diagnosis of ODD, oppositional defiant disorder. What does this diagnosis mean, what does this label offer families, and why (in Lynn’s and others' opinion) is it inadequate and even harmful in understanding children who are struggling? The bigger question to ask: how do we help kids and parents when behavior is unmanageable?

Here are the past Flusterclux episodes discussed by Lynn & Robin:

Real Talk with ADHD Expert Ryan Wexelblatt: Anxiety, ADHD and the Mess We're In [https://www.flusterclux.com/real-talk-with-adhd-expert-ryan-wexelblatt-anxiety-adhd-and-the-mess-were-in/]

Helping Your ADHD Kid with Social Struggles: A New Conversation with ADHD Expert Ryan Wexelblatt [https://www.flusterclux.com/helping-your-adhd-kid-with-social-struggles-a-new-conversation-with-adhd-expert-ryan-wexelblatt/]

How to Help Your Child with Friendships and Likability [https://www.flusterclux.com/how-to-help-your-child-with-friendships-and-likability/]

"Parents Still Matter!" Lynn Discusses Recent Research Surrounding Our Kids [https://www.flusterclux.com/parents-still-matter-lynn-discusses-recent-research-surrounding-our-kids/]



WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.

Here is our first:

For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.

Consult our Spotify profile [https://open.spotify.com/user/bqa0bme77all6vj4e3h1etcmn] for the most up-to-date selection.

 

We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey [https://forms.gle/hzWcpxG9rE9BRWSP6]. We hope it is you!

 

FOLLOW US

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Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter [https://twitter.com/LynnLyonsMSW] and Youtube [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPraoDm3VQl56hLah5DM4UA].



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Why the ODD Diagnosis Doesn't Help Parents Help Children

Anxiety causes or amplifies physical symptoms. Headaches, stomachaches, dizziness, and even muscle pain are common. But what happens when your anxiety causes your physical symptoms AND such symptoms are the source of your anxiety? It can be a tricky loop to untangle.



Discussed in today's episode: The Mindbody Prescription: Healing the Body, Healing the Pain by John E. Sarno, M.D.



WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.

Here is our first:

For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.

Consult our Spotify profile [https://open.spotify.com/user/bqa0bme77all6vj4e3h1etcmn] for the most up-to-date selection.

 

We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey [https://forms.gle/hzWcpxG9rE9BRWSP6]. We hope it is you!

 

FOLLOW US

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Health Anxiety and Catastrophizing Every Symptom: How To Stop!

Remember the outdated parenting adage: “do as I say, not as I do”? Well, when it comes to passing on anxiety, both what you say really does make a difference. Research shows that how parents talk about new experiences and social encounters matters. In this episode, we break down the very doable verbal ways to up your child’s social confidence and minimize the impact of your social anxiety.



WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.

Here is our first:

For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.

Consult our Spotify profile [https://open.spotify.com/user/bqa0bme77all6vj4e3h1etcmn] for the most up-to-date selection.

 

We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey [https://forms.gle/hzWcpxG9rE9BRWSP6]. We hope it is you!

 

FOLLOW US

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Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter [https://twitter.com/LynnLyonsMSW] and Youtube [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPraoDm3VQl56hLah5DM4UA].



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How To Not Pass On Your Social Anxiety To Your Kids

In this episode, Robin and Lynn tackle the topic of siblings. How can parents best balance the significant needs of one child with the needs of other siblings? Be it anxiety, OCD, or medical issues, how are siblings impacted? And how can families interrupt patterns, have direct conversations and, as always, stay out of the powerful cult of anxiety?



WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.

Here is our first:

For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.

Consult our Spotify profile [https://open.spotify.com/user/bqa0bme77all6vj4e3h1etcmn] for the most up-to-date selection.

 

We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey [https://forms.gle/hzWcpxG9rE9BRWSP6]. We hope it is you!

 

FOLLOW US

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When One Child’s Needs Dictate A Family’s Routines, How Can We Support the Siblings?

Have you heard of ARFID (Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder)? It describes extreme “picky eating” and can hijack families. But as with most disorders that seem to move quickly into parenting awareness, information, treatment, and internet discussions are all over the place. In this episode, Lynn brings back her colleague Mindy Szelap for a dose of solid information, myth-busting, and practical steps to take. What’s normal developmentally? What are the do’s and don’ts of mealtime? And does a parent’s anxiety make it worse? Yup.

Find Mindy at: https://www.bayareaspacetreatment.com/



WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.

Here is our first:

For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.

Consult our Spotify profile [https://open.spotify.com/user/bqa0bme77all6vj4e3h1etcmn] for the most up-to-date selection.

 

We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey [https://forms.gle/hzWcpxG9rE9BRWSP6]. We hope it is you!

 

FOLLOW US

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Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter [https://twitter.com/LynnLyonsMSW] and Youtube [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPraoDm3VQl56hLah5DM4UA].



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ARFID Is More Than Picky Eating: Lynn & Mindy Szelap Offer Help

A listener asks a very relatable question: how do I help my perfectionist daughter manage the overwhelming demands of junior year without being stressed, tired and miserable? What’s the skill we need to teach our high schoolers…and what do messages do we parents need to stop sending?



Here's the Season 2 episode referenced in today' s podacst:

High Anxiety & Good Grades: Our Toxic Achievement Culture [https://www.flusterclux.com/high-anxiety-good-grades-our-toxic-achievement-culture/]



WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.

Here is our first:

For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.

Consult our Spotify profile [https://open.spotify.com/user/bqa0bme77all6vj4e3h1etcmn] for the most up-to-date selection.

 

We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey [https://forms.gle/hzWcpxG9rE9BRWSP6]. We hope it is you!

 

FOLLOW US

Join the Facebook group [https://www.facebook.com/groups/242655400228768] to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.

Follow Flusterclux on Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/flusterclux] and Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/flusterclux/].

Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter [https://twitter.com/LynnLyonsMSW] and Youtube [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPraoDm3VQl56hLah5DM4UA].





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Highschoolers, Homework, and Meltdowns: Guiding Our Kids Through Junior & Senior Year

Parents are eager if not desperate to find help for their families, and the explosion of coaching options might be appealing. But parent beware: while coaching as a model to support has great legitimacy in some areas (health coaching, for example) many programs that claim to address trauma, OCD, anxiety or parenting struggles offer “certificates” and a business model that are superficial at best. How do parents sort through the options for coaches, advocates, and even therapists to make sure they are getting qualified help?



WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.

Here is our first:

For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.

Consult our Spotify profile [https://open.spotify.com/user/bqa0bme77all6vj4e3h1etcmn] for the most up-to-date selection.

 

We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey [https://forms.gle/hzWcpxG9rE9BRWSP6]. We hope it is you!

 

FOLLOW US

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The Importance of “Quality Control” When Selecting Coaches & Advocates

Parenting isn't easy, and it's normal to worry. Lynn Lyons, therapist, author, and speaker is one of the world's experts on helping parents, kids, and teens manage anxiety. She talks with co-host and sister-in-law Robin Hutson in a weekly podcast full of laughs, and practical advice without the psychobabble. At the beginning of the pandemic, Lynn and Robin started the Flusterclux podcast when their parenting retreats went on hiatus, and they're now 2 years in, talking about anxiety and worry, their love for Mr. Rogers, and the crazy things the mental health field gets WRONG about anxiety.

Anxiety Expert Lynn Lyons has been a therapist for over 30 years. She's an author of 3 books with a new one coming out in October and has traveled around the US and Canada training hundreds of audiences teachers, school nurses, counselors and parents about managing anxiety.

Flusterclux represents that feeling of overwhelm. Each episode is filled with practical advice for parents how to better manage their worry and big feelings like anger and sadness so that they are modeling healthy emotional awareness.

Lynn answers listener questions and gives parents concrete strategies for developing the traits that are their kids' best defenses against anxiety and depression later in life: flexibility, resilience, autonomy, and problem solving. New episodes every Friday at 5AM EST.

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Robin Hutson

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