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Mothers (feat. Ms. RaNeisha)
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In this series, we are digging deeper into current and potential motherhood. We are peaking through the eyes of several different women, all in different life stages. In this episode, we are interviewing Ms. RaNeisha!
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Introduction to Motherhood Series
00:00:40
Speaker
Welcome, welcome, welcome beautiful people. Welcome pioneers. We are in our second season and we're doing Through the Eyes of Women Motherhood. And I am so excited for this one because I don't want to be a mom. So maybe this will convince me, maybe you won't. We'll see how life goes. But we are here today with my future stepmother, Ms. Ronisha. Hello. Hello, hello, everyone.
00:01:09
Speaker
Go ahead and tell us a little bit about yourselves. Well, as she told you guys at Charlotte, that was my future daughter-in-law. My name is Renisha Pouncey. I am a 35 and a half year old mother of three. Yep. I have a career right now in surgical technology. I work in neurosurgery and I love the Lord. Amen.
00:01:38
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Hey, man. All right, so let's jump into the question.
The Dual Nature of Motherhood
00:01:42
Speaker
So first question, what is motherhood? OK, yeah. What is motherhood? Motherhood, it's exhausting. It's inspiring, soul sucking, and purpose giving. It makes you question everything while also feeling like you know it all.
00:02:10
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What are some generalizations about motherhood that need to be shut down? I would say that mothers are super women, super women. We prioritize our children and partners' needs over our own.
00:02:34
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juggling several responsibilities and doesn't appear to be addressed. Yeah, that definitely needs to be shut down because we may seem like super wanted, but if we can't take care of ourselves, then how can we take care of others? Yeah, very true. Very, very true. Is motherhood challenging and why? Absolutely.
00:03:02
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It's absolutely challenging. Why? Because like I said earlier, it's exhausting. You have to deal with your children and take them as they are. So it's exhausting, but like I said, it's very inspiring at the same time. So you go through different emotions
00:03:29
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every day, all day. It is a challenge, but it's rewarding as well. Is your mother in your life, and how has that affected your motherhood?
Reflections on Maternal Influences
00:03:40
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She is in my life, but we did not have the best relationship coming as I was coming up. She wasn't very nurturing. So in turn, I never wanted
00:03:56
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my children to feel like I feel. So I'm a total 360 of mom, a total 360 of my mom. What she wasn't, I am for my children. Yeah. Was being a mom your plan or was it God's plan? Oh, it was definitely God's plan. Yep. It was most definitely God's plan. I thought I wanted a kid.
00:04:23
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And then I was like, yeah, nope. I don't want it to be me. And then I guess I said, you thought wrong. Because now I'm on the three. Definitely not. Was pregnancy hard for you?
Challenges of Pregnancy and Motherhood
00:04:40
Speaker
The pregnancy itself was not, what was hard for me was I didn't have any emotional support during the pregnancy. So the pregnancy itself was okay. You know, I expected the morning sickness and all that came with it, but it was the emotional side that was very hard for me. How did it change your body?
00:05:11
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Go chat. Of course, it's permanent now, but you got the stretch marks. Everybody knows me. It was the stretch marks. But I have never been a heavy chest girl. But after pregnancy, I became very heavy chest.
00:05:35
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It's not fun, you know, it's not fun, but that's what happened. As far as everything else go, I had caesareans. So for both of my, I did. I had caesareans for both of my pregnancies. So underneath, where the cut is, it's still numb.
00:05:59
Speaker
And it itches sometimes now. It's weird because it's known by the itches. So I can't feel anything right there, but that's really, I guess it's permanent, but temporary, I guess. Yeah. Have you ever miscarried or had a stillborn and how did you get through that?
Personal Experiences and Support Systems
00:06:21
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I have never miscarried nor have I had a stillborn. However, I do know people very close to me who has had both and most of them. So I was just a support system for them because I don't know what it's like to lose a child. So I was just being a support system for them now. However, I know this is not what you asked me, but I have aborted before.
00:06:51
Speaker
But this was when I was young. I didn't know what I was doing. I was a teenager. Yes. I'm an open book. So I'm going to tell you, I was a teenager. Mom was like, no, we can't do this. And it happened. I will tell you this. It was something that I never, ever, ever, ever, never want to do again. And I wouldn't encourage anybody. It was a horrible experience.
00:07:21
Speaker
That was good. I needed that. What do you wish you were told about pregnancy beforehand? That you will go through different stages of mental instability because your hormones are all out of control. Yeah.
00:07:51
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you will go through different stages of, your mental will go through different stages. And people neglect to say things like that. I guess, I don't know, people are scared to talk about it or afraid to talk about it, but you will. You will go from hot to cold, literally. You will go from zero to a hundred in two seconds. It's just, you're all out of right. You just all out of whack.
00:08:17
Speaker
No, thank you. I don't want to discourage you. I was already discouraged going in today. What do you wish you were told about motherhood beforehand?
Motherhood Preparedness and Teenage Challenges
00:08:34
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That is exhausting. Honestly, I wish I'd just been told anything about motherhood beforehand. Because like I said, I wasn't trying to hear anything about motherhood because it wasn't in my plan to have kids. So if I was just told, just real deal told anything about it, it would have helped me out a lot. But I had a blind ear. So I wasn't listening even if they did tell me probably.
00:09:05
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Do you have a close slash good relationship with your kids? I do now. I do. My children are teenagers now. So. Good luck. They're teenagers now. So they are talking to me a whole lot more, coming to me, asking me questions. Now they know their mom is literally an open book.
00:09:35
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And I'm a firm believer, and don't ask questions you don't want to know the answer to. Period. So they know if they come to me and ask me a question, I'm going to give them the real answer. Regardless as to how it may sound or seem, I'm going to give it to them real. And I feel like that opens a door for them to come to me whenever they need to. So yes, we are forming a whole lot better relationship than we were when they were younger.
00:10:03
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What do your kids do that soften your heart? Well, they all do something different. My oldest son, he's my sweetest baby. So he writes me.
00:10:19
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notes or letters or text me. I know. Text me these little long texts about how, mom, you're doing a great job. I love you. You know, I'm like, oh my goodness. This is three panda. What do you want? What do you want? Because I know you want something. My daughter, I have one girl, one daughter. She texts me every morning and she says, good morning, mom. I love you. Have a good day at work every morning.
00:10:49
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My other son, he's, I guess he's the flatter. Mom, you look so good. I love him. You know, that makes me feel wonderful. I'm like, what's that? Thank you. How do you deal with disobedience physically and emotionally? Disobedience. Okay. Well, like I said, since they're teenagers,
00:11:19
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I don't have to do any physical, which I thank the Lord that I don't have to do any physical these children right now. I think I did all the physical when they was drunk, so they know I'm crazy, so let's not get into that. But mentally,
00:11:38
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Um, emotionally, I just really just, you know what? I just put them on punishment. You know, this is what we do. You know, we don't do that here. Give me your phone. Give me that Xbox five. I said, I'm not Xbox, uh, PlayStation five. Hand it over. Give me your phone. I need all of the devices and you can't go anywhere. You're stuck in your room. You stuck in the house with me, looking at me. Merry Christmas.
00:12:04
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looking at me, looking at you, looking at me, I'm looking at you. You know, I mean, and that kind of just gets them like, dang, I can't do nothing. It kind of wears them down mentally. They're like, I don't like it. So I don't have to do anything physically with the kids right now. What are you trying to, or what do you want to instill in your sons?
Gender-Specific Parenting Values
00:12:33
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in my sons to be men. You can go ahead and preach, I always. I mean, you know, to be men, and I'm not talking about, and I thank God that
00:12:54
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I do have respectable young men. I do. And they're in this group right now called Young Kings. And they teach them how to go for interviews, how to dress, how to talk. And they're like a mentoring program. So that's helping them out a lot. And I have respectable young men, and I am so appreciative of that.
00:13:17
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But I'm teaching them to be men out here. Don't be out here just because you see or you listen to it. That is not the life that you need to live. Our Black men are dying daily, every single day. They're being stereotyped. You're stereotyped right now as you stand here, as you lay here. So I need you to be careful. I need you to be, men, I need you to be respectable, you know what I mean?
00:13:45
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So that's what I'm trying to instill in them, and to, you know, be clean. In the name of Jesus. Be clean, you know? Don't no man want, don't no woman want no dirty man. Be clean. They're like, well, groomed men, respectable men. I don't care what you see on TV or what you, what you, you know, what society tells you that you need to be.
00:14:12
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You know that you are the son of a king. Therefore, I need you to act like it. Yeah. What are you trying to, or what do you want to instill in your daughter? Just the same for my daughter, to be a lady.
00:14:33
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to be a lady. Keep yourself clean. Make sure you clean up. I need you to know how to act in public. I did not mind you going out having to get time even when you get grown, get older. But I need you to act like a lady in public regardless as to what you see. And society right now is
00:14:59
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Oh my gosh, it's telling our children. Yeah. To do whatever, be whatever. This and to begin. You gotta be there to get attention. To act this way, talk that way. It's horrible. So I'm teaching my kids and stealing my children. That is not the way you have to act to get attention. Yeah. That is not the way you have to act to get ahead in life. You do not. You do not have to do that.
00:15:27
Speaker
I just want y'all to respect me young man. I respect me young lady out here in the streets and don't embarrass your mom. Period. Please don't embarrass me. Don't embarrass me out here in the streets now. What are some unspoken promises, principles, characteristics, et cetera, that you want them to grasp just by watching you?
00:15:57
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Just by watching me laugh and love. Take care of yourselves, but also take care of others. You can't expect it in return because everybody is not going to love like you. Everybody's not going to treat you like you treat them. But you do it because the word says you do it.
00:16:27
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and to be godly, know, know who your father is and know that he's always there. You can always go to him. You can turn to him at any time that you need to. We go to church together, we pray together, talk together. We do all these things and I want them to get that from me. I'm very active in my church.
00:16:57
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So I want them to be able to know for themselves, because they're not, they're no longer under the cover, under my cover. They're under their own. They have to have their own, let's share with God. So I want them to get that from me, see that in me so that they can do it themselves and go out and help others.
Incorporating Faith in Parenting
00:17:23
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How do you incorporate your walk with Christ into your parenting? You kind of touched on that. Like I said, we talk. We talk about God. We incorporate scripture. Like I said, we go to church.
00:17:48
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I don't wanna be the one to pressure or to make my children be active in church because that's what our parents used to do to us. Hey, you're gonna do this. But I do. You're gonna sing, you're gonna dance, you're gonna do this, you're gonna do that. Because I didn't want to and I didn't understand why I was being made too, but I do now. They might not understand it, they might not even like it.
00:18:18
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but when you get older and you get out and you see, you're like, wow. I get it now. This makes so much sense, yeah. How do you balance work, your spouse, ministry, kids, and your own personal walk with God?
Balancing a Busy Schedule
00:18:38
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Honestly, I don't know. I just do it. I just do it. I make time for everything.
00:18:49
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This is, okay, personally for me, this is how a day goes for me. Just a random day. I get up at 5.30. I have to be to work for 6.30. I work from 6.30 to 3. From 3 to 5, I have a little free time. So either I'll go to the store and get something for dinner or come home and cook or whatever I need to do. At 5 o'clock, I go to workouts.
00:19:18
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Sometimes after workout, I got practice. About 7.30, I'm back at the house. And at that time, that's one of the times I go,
00:19:31
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Talk to the keys, talk to the husband, fiance husband. He's gonna be husband, so I'm confident. Talk to the husband, spend a little time. We kick it about 10 o'clock, ready for bed. So that's a typical day for me. It's not including some of the days that I have extra stuff to do, like today I had a head to do. She said, wake up at 5.30, no, Lord.
00:19:57
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I mean, hey, I mean, that's what time I got to get up. And, you know, I'm I like to help people. So tomorrow we actually have revival. So my day is going to start like normal. And I'm going to go home and then I have revival list seven and I actually have a head to do after revival.
00:20:16
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And I told the girl the hair that I'm doing, she doesn't know anything about hair or makeup. And I'm kind of like a one-stop shop. So I told her that I would risk my sleep for the next morning, Thursday morning. I will be at her house at 5.30 to do her makeup.
00:20:35
Speaker
You're a good one because I'm not sacrificing. I want to help her out. She asked me before, hey, I need your help. I want to make over. I want to do this. I want to do that. So when she said something about stay halves like this,
00:20:54
Speaker
they're doing like online something something something and video something and she they told them they need to dress up be cute and put on makeup she's like i don't know anything about makeup so yes that's my um that's my day and i just i really honestly don't know how i do it i just do it and i just kind of put on my you know my breastplate righteousness and my oh that's my full armor and i just go for it
00:21:25
Speaker
Just getting out there. What challenges do you have as the woman of the house, and how do you overcome them? Challenges as the woman of the house. I don't really have any challenges. I have an awesome husband. He kind of just lets me do my thing. He's just like, this is your house. I'm just here to help you, whatever.
00:21:53
Speaker
Good job. Good idea. Right idea. I don't really have challenges. I don't like washing dishes. That's my thing. I hate washing dishes. I'll clean the kitchen. I'll make the kitchen spotless, but I am not touching the dish.
00:22:13
Speaker
They know that. So somebody watch the dishes. It's not me though. So I mean, I guess if you want to say that's a challenge, but I really honestly, I really don't have a challenge at this moment. We'll check back in two years. What thoughts did the cracks because of everything that happens on a daily basis? What area are you slacking in?
00:22:46
Speaker
Honestly, it's the time with the kids. Because I'm going majority of the day. And when I get home, it's late. And it's time for them to eat, take a bath, and go to bed. So it's the catching up with the children on a daily that falls through the cracks because I'm going all day.
00:23:14
Speaker
So that's something to be worked on. Yeah. And so on the weekends, we try to do more as a family to make up for the week. Yeah. Yeah. Do you find yourself overcompensating in any way for any reason?
00:23:34
Speaker
Yes, I do. It's the physical with the children, like the nurturing aspect of it because my mom didn't give it to me. So in turn, you know, I've always vowed not to be like my mom because I actually needed a hug sometimes. I needed a kiss or, you know, a touch. Yeah.
00:23:59
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She's, to this day, my mom is still like that. No, don't hug on her, don't kiss on her. So I find myself doing that a lot for my children because I don't ever want my kids to feel as if they're lacking that in any way. Like they didn't get any of that from me. So yeah. What do you do on the days you want to quit?
Coping with Overwhelming Motherhood
00:24:19
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Pray. Yeah. I pray.
00:24:26
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And I talk to a guy, and I talk to my spouse. He's pretty good at giving encouraging word. And I listen to gospel and Christian music. And I just kind of get myself together. And I'm not going to lie, I talk to myself and get myself a little pep talk. Like, girl, no, ma'am, we're not going to do this today. Period. You got this.
00:24:50
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keep going, you know, it's motivation. They can, other people can talk to you and they can tell you what they think you want to hear and they can motivate you all day long, but you have to have that self motivation for yourself to keep on moving and keep on pushing forward. So for me, it's the girl get your life.
00:25:10
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Yeah, period. Get your life together. You got it. It's okay. You know, you got to cry, cry a little bit, but it's okay. Pick yourself up and get back together and let's go. And let's get it. Yeah. Who has helped support you through your journey as a mother? Honestly,
00:25:29
Speaker
Nobody at the beginning. I had to learn it for myself at first because my mom was not very happy when I did get pregnant for the first or the second pregnancy. She wasn't very happy for me. And she was not there, like I said, emotionally for me at that time. So I kind of had to learn it.
00:25:55
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I had to wing it at the beginning. So it was kind of just me until I met my church family. And I realized that I had a lot in common with some of the people there. And they had children around the same age. And they were the latest from my age. So they actually helped and encouraged me a lot on my motherhood journey. I have calmed down a whole lot.
00:26:23
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Because I'm not going to lie, I was borderline child abuse. The future is getting to my nerves. That's why I said I did a lot of defensible when I was younger. So now and then, oh, I don't have to do that because they know their mama kind of is these. But my church family has definitely, definitely, definitely helped me.
00:26:48
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through this motherhood journey and they are still continuing because we need to lean on each other. So lean on me. Yes. What is one thing you were told by your mother that you use often?
Learning from Generational Advice
00:27:08
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Don't no man want a nasty woman on period. Say it again for the people in the back. I don't think they heard you.
00:27:16
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So no man, well-known nasty woman, my mom, oh my goodness, told me that a lot. And you know, coming up, I was like, okay. And I didn't want to hear that, but, cause you know, as young kids or, you know, y'all want to clean up all the time and do that. So I wasn't trying to hear that, but you know,
00:27:44
Speaker
Like I said, coming up and when I went to college and had a roommate and all that, and then, you know, guys and all. So yes, that's one thing my mama did tell me that I hear in my head and I tell my daughter, don't I mean one on this one. What is one thing you wish you would have told you? Anything.
00:28:08
Speaker
I wish she would have told me anything about motherhood. Cause like I explained earlier, she wasn't, like I said, very nurturing. Yeah. And she wasn't happy when I got pregnant. So, um, I wish you just told me anything about motherhood. What is one thing you want to tell other mothers? To, um, learn with your children, grow with them. Remember they are humans. Yeah.
00:28:36
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they're not you. They have their own personality. They're their own person. We get it so confused. And maybe it's just me, but everybody has their own certain thing. And you try to make your kids eat.
00:29:03
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what you want them to eat. And I get it. I get it. You got to force vegetables and all that stuff down there. I would think about you. Think about.
00:29:12
Speaker
Do you like to eat this? Do you like to eat that your kid might not like to eat sandwiches? So remember, just because they are children, they are still human beings and they have their own personalities and own taste buds and their own thing. So just learn your children and grow with them as they grow. And sometimes you have to relearn them because who they were when they were
00:29:40
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they're not gonna be there as teenagers. So learn them and grow with them. What do you tell your kids often?
Expressing Love and Pride to Children
00:29:50
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That I love them. I tell them I love them because they need to hear it. Yeah.
00:30:00
Speaker
They need to hear it. I don't care how old. I don't care who. I don't care what gender. They need to hear that somebody loves them and they need to not just, you know, not just know, and they mind, I want them to love me. I want you to hear it. I want you to hear that I love you and I'm proud of you. I love you and I'm proud of you. Those are the two things that they hear. I love you and I'm proud of you.
00:30:31
Speaker
What do you think needs to be talked about more as it pertains to motherhood? Um, the different stages of motherhood. And what I mean by that is you have the, Oh my goodness. I'm going to have a baby. I'm going to be a mother. This is so wonderful. Oh my gosh. You cannot wait to meet you bundle of joy. I'm going to love you forever.
00:31:01
Speaker
You got that. And then you get the baby here. And he was like, oh my God, I love my baby. I love my baby. But then it goes, I love my baby. But I'm so darn tired. I'm so tired. I'm so tired. I just want to sleep. But they don't want to sleep. And then you get to the stage where somebody come get this kid. Because I'm about to go crazy. Somebody come get them. And then you get to the stage where you're like, oh, the kid is OK.
00:31:27
Speaker
But hey, you're talking to me. Just leave me alone. Stop. You're OK. We're good. Stop. Then you get to the stage where, oh, I'm going to box you. I'm going to put you in the ring. There's no more belts. Me and you, so we're going to go toe to toe right now, 101. Let's go. Then you get to the stage where,
00:31:51
Speaker
All you ask for is money? All you want is money. So you don't call me to say, hey, mom, how you doing? It's the, hey, mom, can I borrow $10? It's the different stages of motherhood that nobody's talking about. Everybody's talking about the initial state of motherhood, or in general,
00:32:16
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state of motherhood, but there are so many different stages that we need to be speaking about and we need to have the help. Yeah. Do you think that there is a lack of mothers in life?
Generational Differences in Motherhood
00:32:30
Speaker
I do. And it's the generation. Preach. Preach. It's the generation. It's one thing to get pregnant and have a kid. Yeah.
00:32:44
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But to be a mother to each other is totally different. It's totally different. And like I said, it's the generation. I'm a millennial, but not this kind of millennial. This is different. This is a different type of trifling. This is a different type of trifling mother right here. I don't really know. I don't understand it. I don't get it.
00:33:13
Speaker
But yes, we are lacking in mothers because some of the mothers, and I don't knock anybody because things happen because I was one who got pregnant early, but some of the mothers coming out at 15, 16 years old and the grandmother is 30 or 35 and the great grandmother is 48 or 50. You know what I mean? It's repeating generational cycles, yeah. Yes, it's the generation and nobody is
00:33:44
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is giving them sound advice and sounds. We're lacking in that department when it comes to it. So most definitely we are lacking in mothers. And I would say not even just mothers, I would say women in general, like just women who are going to
00:34:10
Speaker
be women, so to speak. And know the difference, because I think I struggle with that sometimes myself, know the difference between you being a woman and letting a man be a man, and knowing the difference and walking and working in that difference, because we're so used to, especially like us, like, dad, he's in our lives, but he wasn't physically in the house.
00:34:31
Speaker
So because of that, mom raised us. So now all three of us are independent as crap. So it's like, I think to myself often, I'm like, I say I want to be in a relationship, but do I really have the capacity to let him be the man? Because I'm just so used to being independent. And it's like, I see that a lot in my peers, but I also see the ones who don't even know or even are trying to learn about what it means to be a wife.
00:34:57
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or what it means to be a mother, but yet you're asking to be a wife and you're asking to be a mother, but you're not taking the time to genuinely learn. Like you're not a good person. So, you know, that's why I want to get your life together just a little bit, but I mean, cause you say you want to be a wife, but are you actually working to be one? Let's be with B or a mother. You actually put into the work. You need to look at taking your life first.
00:35:26
Speaker
And what are you willing to sacrifice? Yeah. And I think that's what I see a lot in my peers. They don't, they're not willing to sacrifice anything. And it's like, you can't have anything good in life without sacrifice, especially being a parent. And that's like one of my biggest things. The reason why I don't want to be a parent, like I'm a little selfish. I don't want to be sacrificing that. I'm just being honest. I don't want to share my food with you. Why am I wiping your butt? I know you're a baby, but you, you should be able to wipe your own butt. Like I just like,
00:35:56
Speaker
I know myself, so I'm just like, no. But I was having a conversation with my mom the other day, and I can't even remember what we were talking about or how we got to this, but I told her, I was like, to where he opens his mouth, and before anything comes out, I anticipate and or I already know what he's gonna ask for, because I've taken the time to learn him and to learn his preferences. And it's like, how many people
00:36:26
Speaker
my age aren't thinking about that. They're just having babies or they're just getting married, but they're not like, what kind of mom do I want to be? What kind of dad do I want to be? What kind of wife? What kind of husband? Who, who, what do I want to be? What do I want to be known for when they hear my name? And I, a lot of, I feel like at least for my peers, they don't think like that a lot of times. And I'm like, it's fine. It's cool. Just raising jerks and buttholes.
00:36:50
Speaker
Absolutely. That's exactly what I'm saying. I want my kids to be men and women out here. Young ladies and young men, because nobody's thinking like that. No, they're not. They're not thinking about things like that. Nope. And then you want to write to the generation. Yes.
00:37:12
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Yes. And it's like you wonder why the generations keep getting lost and lost, like more lost than the one before. But it's literally the blind leading the blind. Literally. Literally. Literally. Everybody got a walking cane. It's like, what's up? Literally. He and I dogs and crab, like no. That part. So annoying. What is your hope for your future as a mother?
Inspiring Future Generations
00:37:43
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that I inspire my children, that I am an inspiration to them, that they can go on with their life and look at me or think about me and say, my mom taught me this. Wow. And they can think about their mom. Yeah.
00:38:04
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when things happen or like, you know what? My mama told me this was going to happen. Yeah. But my mama taught me this. She told me that she did this. I saw my mama work through this and she made it and she did. I want inspiration to my children. That's my that's my future hope as a mother that I inspired them enough. Yeah. Indeed, well enough by them. So when they do get out into the world that they don't become of the world. Yeah.
00:38:34
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What is your hope for your kids? Hope for my children. Let they be successful. And my hope for my children is that they be the best them that they can possibly be. When they go off and have children, that they be the best mother, the best father, that they can possibly be to their children.
00:38:58
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Okay, so we're wrapping up. So the last two questions I always ask in every episode, um, what do you have to say to this generation of women and mothers? Do better. Yeah. Um, I mean, honestly, I hate to be a jerk about it, but do better. Yeah. Find you someone who inspires you a woman.
00:39:27
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a man who you can look up to and cling to them. Someone who's going into the right direction with their life, the right path, hold on to them, cling to them, ask questions, get advice, anything. But this generation of mothers and women and men, we have to do better. Yeah.
00:39:56
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Because we are better. We were made for greatness. You just have to do it. We just have to be great. And I know it sounds a lot. It sounds good. It sounds good. But actually putting it to work is the problem. So I would say find you someone.
00:40:24
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cling to them, learn from them and grow. And just do better. It is never too late to start over. Never too late to start fresh. We just have to do better. And what is something that you have to say to this generation of men and fathers?
Encouragement for Men and Role Models
00:40:47
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Be men and fathers. Yeah.
00:40:52
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And that's just it. Be men and fathers. Like I said about the women, men. I know it's hard to find good mentors. It's hard to find a man to look up to, because everywhere you see, every corner you turn around, you got somebody.
00:41:09
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throwing money at you or doing this and doing that, just being jerks out here. Wanna be thugs and wanna do this and wanna do that. And you got guys not taking care of their families, not taking care of their children. On child support, back child support. Still out doing what they wanna do, but the kids suffering for it.
00:41:31
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So I just encourage the men, the boys, the young men, to be men. Be an example for those coming up behind you because they're watching what you do and they mimic what you do.
00:41:51
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So if you are a good man, if you are a mentor, if you are trying, you are putting your best foot forward, then those coming up behind you will see that and they'll mimic it. This generation is sucked into social media.
00:42:15
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and YouTube and everything like that. So if they see good men, they will mimic it. They will try to do what they are doing. So for the men that's here, I just say, be better men. Do better, just like the women. Let's do better.
00:42:40
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And to add to that, I would also say men realize, understand, and step into the authority that you have. The way God structured it, you were supposed to be the leader. And I feel like a lot of women, like we unintentionally and sometimes intentionally take away their power and their authority. So men step up and be men. You make the decisions. Don't be indecisive. No, like you be the leader that you were called to be, that you were literally born to be.
00:43:09
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it's not queen and king king comes first for a reason you were supposed to be the head so step into your authority walk in it and i'm not telling you to be cocky or to be arrogant about it but just know who you are when you make a decision let your yes be yes and your no be no and don't let anyone tell you otherwise as long as you have good sound advice don't let anyone tell you otherwise i agree
00:43:36
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Well, with that, beautiful people, thank you so much. This was so good. And for everyone listening, go follow, go share, do all the things. And I cannot wait to see you in the next one. Bye, pioneers. Bye, beautiful people. Bye.